Topic: Who should quit, and why? - page 19. (Read 2670 times)

If your answer doesn't make sense then why continue? Lol. But, if you choose man, you will also look biased because you are also a man . So indeed that it was hard to decide. But, why can we just choose both? It will also help the couple because the other will be jealous if one will only quit and the other stays the same. They can have different opinions or alibi's on why they deserved to continue but gambling is not the best solution for those.

It will be better if they find much better, or they will just face those problems they currently experiencing, (if ever they have). I already answered it and others too, so there is no need for a professional here.

Its critical to acknowledge the seriousness of the situation while discussing gambling in a married setting, particularly when children are involved. Can both partners bet sensibly without endangering their cash and family time? Very unlikely. How come? Due to its intrinsic unpredictability and addictive nature, gambling frequently progresses beyond light amusement.

Think about this for a moment: in order to balance the equation, should one spouse leave? The need of family welfare should take precedence over who quits for whom. One may experience less financial burden if they cease, but what about the psychological and emotional costs? Gambling by its very nature has the potential to upset trust, responsibility, and family dynamics.

We must consider if gambling is still a hobby or if it has turned into a crutch. If the latter, expert assistance may be required. It's not enough to simply give up; you also need to identify the underlying problems and take decisive action against them. The family cannot regain a healthy equilibrium till that point.

On those conditions, it's not advised for any side of the party to continue gambling. There are always two sides to every story. While others may think that it's wrong, another family may grow happier through gambling together. However, if they're just newbie gamblers who are not experienced in gambling, then it isn't worth the argument, that they should stop gambling. I'm always on the side of experienced gamblers, who as a family enjoy the fun of gambling. And have all the required strategies needed to be responsible in gambling. The risk is always high if one side gets addicted, and the other spouse doesn't notice it. The finances of the family will be detrimental. Thereby affecting the success of the family. But, if a responsible gambler figures out that his wife also gambles, he shouldn't fidget or push his wife to jump out of her gambling addiction.

It'll only affect her and could lead her to gambling secretly, and expose her to problem gambling. Which won't be a careful move by or from the husband.

The right thing to do is to watch her play and also limit how much she should spend on gambling. The experienced gambler also has to control his wife not to get addicted. Saving the family from a financial problem. Telling one party to stop, will cause lots of trouble. Like, who would stop? gambling isn't bad. Excessive of it is. However, there's a misconception about the notion of gambling and people need to change how to perceive gambling. I'm surprised not to have seen a comment that says gambling can help in uniting the family. When two spouses are in a similar niche, they'll have a better rapport of themselves. Therefore, gluing them together, and making them love each other the more.

It depends to a situation, if there's a worst case scenario that will ruins the whole family, I think it's better to both of them to quit gambling. quitting may be hard especially if there's a symptoms of addiction but both of them should know that they have a child who needs guidance. If they are having difficulties in quitting because both of them are stuck in the house, I think it's better husband will look for a stable job to divert gambling  activity to working activity, same goes to the wife, she needs to divert her attention to taking care of her child and doing house chores and such other things instead of gambling.

If both of them are involved in gambling in a family, it will be a big problem for their family. The family must take responsibility for proper management. Either the husband or wife. Moreover, if there are children in the family for gambling, they will not grow naturally. If a gambler loses in gambling, he cannot be normal in many cases. So of course one of them has to take a break from gambling or they can give time to their family shiftily. After a specified time, the family must either take responsibility for the family. However, it can usually be difficult. It may even be where the gambler cannot leave the gambling at that time. I am sure that if the family is addicted to the gamble in the family, it will be difficult for them to create a suitable environment if their family has children.

There is no answer to this question.

Scenario 1: Husband will stop, considering he earns more money than the wife but decides to quit to give way to the wife's gambling activities. His daily life activity will only focus on house - work - house cycle. Which is different from his old habits including having gambling activity. In the long run, the husband will complain and have a possibility to be the root of the problem with the wife.

Scenario 2: The wife will stop, letting his husband to independently gamble using the family finances and enjoy while the wife focuses on work to earn money for the family. Again, the same with the above scenario, the wife will complain about this set-up as she continues to work and meet the needs of the family at home while the husband still has the time to gamble and at least has the time for himself to enjoy gambling.

The only thing they can do is to be a responsible gambler, bet the amount they can afford to lose or spend only the extra money they have. This case can be discussed between the husband and wife and they can set their limitation/boundaries so they can continue to manage their finances.

Depending on the situation, if the gambling activity doesn't interfere with their relationship I think it's not a problem. But if they both gamble and the situation is that they are in trouble and often fight because of this, both of them must stop gambling and find a solution to their problems. Because there have been many incidents where families have fallen apart because either one or both partners became a gambling addict and it destroyed their finances.

That's a tough journey. So what are you doing now? are you still gambling, and what game?

Honestly, if gambling is already affecting us, we have to quti early before it will make a damage. And with regards to OP's matter being raised, it's a wife and a husband are both gambler, it's too negative although I would say there's nothing wrong with that, but most people I know where both parents are gamblers, they end up struggling financially.

I remember very well the moment when I decided to quit poker. My condition could be described as complete exhaustion. It all started very well, and I believed that I would be able to earn it on a regular basis, but then something went wrong and the earnings became very small, a streak of failures began. I borrowed money from friends, but inside I always had the feeling that I was doing the wrong thing. After four months, I had to finish poker. I have made my conclusions and now I stay away from poker rooms.

If they do it this way, there is no problem. But it is a rare situation, statistically rare, I would say. I think that if it happens in couples who gamble it is because they do it infrequently, like going to play bingo once a month. But in casinos you very rarely see two that look like a couple.

The way the gamblers OP talks about it, I think it looks more likely to end badly than to gamble responsibly, and, in the case of quitting, it is better for both to do it. If both of them have this hobby, if only one of them quits, it will lead to resentment and bad feelings.

If both of them can be responsible when playing gambling and can manage their finances well while managing family affairs, they don't need to stop gambling. As long as they can still manage everything well, that means gambling is not an obstacle for them.
But what you have to pay attention to is the children because if the children are still in the development stage, they will need more attention from their parents. The husband or wife should pay more attention to their children than gambling.
But if they think that one of them would be better off quitting gambling, they should have a discussion to determine who should quit. It would be better if both of them stopped gambling so they could focus on raising their children.

Is there a need to WHY in this one? family of gamblers needed Why to ask who would quit?

giving to consider that they are all gamblers meaning less work or both addicted , I think the best contender to quit is the one who are less lucky , because this is the mean of living and money matters here.

but must also consider the one that has self control and not just winning to gamble more.

There's no problem even if the whole family is gambling as long as they are gambling responsibly.

You'll only quit when you aren't responsible anymore, and please bear in mind always that gamble produce entertainment, so it should not be the main thing in your life, you still have to do your job or business, or anything that would earn money for the family, then you can gambler a certain amount but should not affect the good relationship within the family.

Gambling is FUN, don't QUIT!

What a coincidence this topic has been brought here lol.
I knew a family like this in my birth place, but I didn't get a chance to have conversations with any of them not even once when I was still residing there (now I live in another province with my wife). Honestly they are still together up until to this very moment. I just literally saw them in the grocery when I visited my place a couple of weeks ago. I just had a thought after seeing them how they were able to make things work when both of them were regularly visiting a local casino before. Not sure if they still do today as they are already late in their 60's.
I guess there's no huge secretly to make this thing work, but just being responsible with finances is they key IMO.

If both husband and wife have much salary payment from their working its huge problem with gambling habit, they can get house assistance for helping their needed to control all thing but if less salary its not good way have habit gambling between husband and wife. Children need more qualities time with their parent despite father or mother and not make your gambling loss qualities time with your children not matter with your position as husband or wife.
Money can help more but time with family and children as once moment in our life, better controlling family time between husband or wife with their children and not make them loss qualities time with his parent. If gambling habit can leaves yet for husband or wife need to manage well your gambling time.

We will need more data to answer the question, as if both parents work and they are earning a salary which is way above what the average person earns and they have their gambling under their control, then I do not see the need for any of the partners to give up on gambling.

However if money was tight and they did not had any savings then I think it would be for the best for both of them to quit gambling immediately, as they cannot really afford to gamble with so many responsibilities to attend to.

Very interesting question @OP
In this case, of course, the one who has financial control is definitely the wife and the one who can manage the needs is also the wife. If the husband and wife are gamblers, the wife should be good at managing her expenses and prioritize daily needs and the needs of the children first before thinking about gambling and if by chance the husband and wife do it. I think gambling would be better if it was done together rather than stopping at one point which would cause injustice.
for example, if there is sports betting and if husband and wife have an interest in the world of sports betting, wouldn't it be a better step to make decisions together so they can use their analytical skills together and the profits can be enjoyed together to supplement their daily needs, but this is It can also cause misunderstandings if husband and wife have different predictions.

Incidentally, my wife is not very interested in gambling, but my wife always reminds me not to bet beyond my limits, so my wife is my self-control.

This is quite a complicated situation and a family case. Maybe there isn't just one case like this, but many, maybe...
In this case, there are several considerations:

1. What kind of gamblers are they and what is their real financial situation?
If they are not addicted gamblers and they get more income from gambling, and their finances are good enough, then it would be better for the wife to quit. Why wife? because the wife will be more focused on the children. In this case, don't let children get involved in gambling too, especially if they become addicted because they are still small and cannot control themselves. Maybe their parents can manage and control themselves so that they still get the positive side, while for children, we won't know what will happen to them in the future. So, it would be better if one of them quit, in my opinion the wife. Note here that the husband is obliged to work even harder so that his income remains sufficient for the family. And the wife also remains on duty while monitoring her husband, because she is afraid that the atmosphere will change and become negative addiction.

2. If their gambling activities are bad enough and are affecting their family life and finances, then, why don't they just quit both and take a short break to really prepare themselves first who will continue to gamble but with a commitment to effort who are tough and earn income.

*Note: Actually, gambling is not a good means of earning income, because gambling is still high risk and there are concerns about bad addiction. So actually it is not recommended to get too involved or dependent on gambling continuously. The husband is still obliged to support the family, so remain focused on doing the work to provide for this well and wisely. Life is not just about hobbies, but also responsibilities, especially if you have a family.

Just as we all know that regrets do always come at the end and people wont really be making any steps or actions before anything becomes severe. If you wont really be that mindful about
into your actions then you are really that putting yourself at great trouble and this is something that we dont really like to happen. Gambling isnt bad as long both of you
are really that responsible on the money spending and not really compromising in terms of financial because if you do then you would be that basically putting yourself on a huge problem.
People do only usually quit when its too late or the damage had already been done. So this is why it would be always best that you should be sensible and wary about on the
actions you are making.

No, not all unless their parents teach their child to gamble but most parents don't want to show their gambling activity to their child and a woman gambler I'm sure she still cares about her children except her husband.
Both of them should learn to control themself and only think gambling is just a waste of time because if not their family will be destroyed.