Who should quit, and why? - page 22.

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Quote from: Lida93 on December 10, 2023, 06:55:58 AM

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

A straight answer will be Yes one should quit for the other to carry on if the other so wish, so the other who has quitted will help in managing funds for the family and keeping the other partner in check so not to go beyond normal spending such that it will become detrimental to the family and cost then the ability to be able to get certain family projects done.

The wife quitting will be the most ideal as it will help the family better, the wife can help the man manage the fund more especially if it turns out he is the breadwinner, she could help him out up a gambling budget and family budget such that if his wage comes, they take of the ones needed by the family immediately from the money and leaving the rest at the husband's mercy but if it's the reverse the it will turn out chaotic. It's always better if the wife isn't gambling and it's just the husband alone but if it turns out the wife is then there will be some issues which will take so much time to resolve.

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Man, in my opinion, this is the worst scenario that I can imagine.
I don't want to see my wife gamble like me so she doesn't and it's working better for us. There must be one who can control the other one especially if he/she knows you are gambling and the person who gambles reports how much he is betting. i.e. in Sports betting.
That's how it works for us. I always tell my wife how much money I put on the line because she is also watching the games with me in our free time. And there are times that she is the one asking that question whenever I am hooked on the game. I mean, she will obviously know it because I am shouting my throat out to the team I am rooting for. Grin

Back to the topic, I think one should quit. Having someone to stop another when he/she is crossing the line is a healthy move. One should know how to control the other so that the money won't be spent on abnormal bets. (emotional ones)
That's my take for that and also someone to be strict on the gambler so that the kids won't hear about it.

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If I answer the woman, I would be criticized since I'm sounds like supporting patriarchy, but I answer the man, it doesn't make sense for me lol,

This is hard especially if the woman and man have a different opinions, it's better to seek a professional or someone who can being neutral for both sides. So whatever the decision comes from the professional/third party, hopefully both of them can understand with that.

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Quote from: Lida93 on December 10, 2023, 06:55:58 AM

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

Only an irresponsible man will want to put the finances of the house into his wife. Gambling is not a source of income, so I don't understand why you want to place the house obligation on a woman, even when she earns her money, as long they are husband and wife, the husband has duties and one of them is to provide for the house but if she has the means of source of income, she can help but it is not a most that she has to do it, not written anywhere even in the modern marriage doesn't say the husband and wife must split bills but where there is love, she can do anything for her man if there is a means.

Gambling is not a regular stream of income but if for instance, the wife made something huge from gambling, if you are lucky and loved by your woman, trust me she will spend half of her money on you but if there is nothing like love, she will squeeze that money on her hand and wouldn't give you a cent but regardless of they win or not, it is not her duty to help you as a man of the house.

And they have children which is going to make anyone believe this woman is not responsible enough so she needs to quit and focus more on her children. Children need a mother at least one parent has to be hands-on to take care of and guide the kids. Regardless of how rich they've become through gambling, the family has to be their prime concern.

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Quote from: Lida93 on December 10, 2023, 06:55:58 AM

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

The best thing is for the couples to work it out within themselves on how to run the family affairs, because the idea of quiting gambling by one party isn't advisable for me, whatever finance that is coming to the family from gambling, is a welcome development, so if the finance is coming from both parties, is even better, but they shouldn't allow gambling argument or misunderstanding come in between, hence the the couples are mutually mature, they can easily walk along. Just looking at the scenario or imagining the scenario alone for me is a turn ON, because I will just predict some games, and pass it to to my wife to cross examine and edit, before I will go ahead to stake the game.

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Quote from: Westinhome on December 10, 2023, 09:04:15 AM

Quote from: Lida93 on December 10, 2023, 06:55:58 AM

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

The gambler who had more experience in gambling,whether wife or husband should play the game and the less experience can quit the game to make the results.Because if the both family members involved to the gambling,then they will face the financial problem.If one had do the gambling loss and other make profit, this leads neither loss and nor profit.The experience gambler made the profit and the other quit the game means,they take some money into their pocket.If both husband and wife can make money in gambling,they can do gambling on their own knowledge.Winning only the reason in the gambling,the family also need of money in gambling.

Quite interest you are the first person that have given an idea different from what all other members have raised I don't know for sure if both spouse will agree to quit, however when the cue is raised about the best and experienced should continue while the one with lesser experience and with much losses should be the one to drop, rationally that will make sense to both spouse to amicably agree.

Gambling can be so enticing and addictive so there has to be a strong defensive reasons why you have to tell a person to quit it, otherwise there might be a matter of contention for both parties involved. Also, it shouldn't be based on gender too because at this current era gambling is no gender based activity.

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it would be good for a couple to understand their responsibilities. there are children to be financed, education costs, health, household costs, investments, savings, etc., all these things must be met. if they gamble, it might be disturbing these plans which will be a problem in the future. but if they understand how to become a gambler responsible and good at managing their financial, gambling might not be a problem for them and it is not necessary for them to get out of gambling.

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Quote from: Lida93 on December 10, 2023, 06:55:58 AM

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

Only an irresponsible man will want to put the finances of the house into his wife. Gambling is not a source of income, so I don't understand why you want to place the house obligation on a woman, even when she earns her money, as long they are husband and wife, the husband has duties and one of them is to provide for the house but if she has the means of source of income, she can help but it is not a most that she has to do it, not written anywhere even in the modern marriage doesn't say the husband and wife must split bills but where there is love, she can do anything for her man if there is a means.

Gambling is not a regular stream of income but if for instance, the wife made something huge from gambling, if you are lucky and loved by your woman, trust me she will spend half of her money on you but if there is nothing like love, she will squeeze that money on her hand and wouldn't give you a cent but regardless of they win or not, it is not her duty to help you as a man of the house.

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Quote from: Lida93 on December 10, 2023, 06:55:58 AM

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

Nope it doesn't help if one of them quit since the other one will still get convince to gamble if he/she see his spouse enjoy to much on his gambling activities. Much better if both of them will quit since they can surely avoid any conflict towards this issues.

But if this activity is not damaging to much especially on financial aspect maybe both of them should continue since its somehow a stress reliever for both of them and this is also a good bonding moment for the couple since they can talk about something thrilling experience and also on how they enjoy playing casino games together.

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Quote from: Lida93 on December 10, 2023, 06:55:58 AM

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

Even if they can handle how they gamble, like all the rest I will advise both of them to stop gambling and just focus on their family, there are other recreational that will not involve money and the risk of getting addicted, they can gamble in their retirement or if they cannot help it they can both gamble on a weekend or just once or twice a month.
It's not good if both of the parents gamble what if both of them lose, it will have a big impact on the finances of the family and this is good, they hsould agree between themselves who will play and the one who chooses to continue should have good control so he will not lose a lot of money that could harm the family.

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Quote from: Lida93 on December 10, 2023, 06:55:58 AM

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

If both of them are following the rules of gambling, they have no problem. But if both of them are not following the rules and gambling is taking much from them, both itf the should quit gambling. This might be hard to do, but no option than to either quit or they should follow the rules. If they want to follow the rules, like spending just little amount on gambling but they have been unable to, they should just quit. Gambling should be done to have fun, not what that is worth spending much on. And they should know that they can not make money from gambling.

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Discipline and self-control is what will help both the wife and her husband to be balanced and continue with their gambling activities without any problem. When both of them are discipline then they will only use the little amount that they have set aside to gamble that wouldn't affect the family monthly expenses. They need to gamble maybe twice a week so that they don't become an addict.

If the man gambles today, the woman can gamble tomorrow or skip a day before she gambles. As long as they are doing it for fun and not for making profit, they will be happy. The problem is when one loses control and gets addicted or both of them gets addicted, they will hardly meet up with their responsibilities.

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Quote from: Lida93 on December 10, 2023, 06:55:58 AM

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

The gambler who had more experience in gambling,whether wife or husband should play the game and the less experience can quit the game to make the results.Because if the both family members involved to the gambling,then they will face the financial problem.If one had do the gambling loss and other make profit, this leads neither loss and nor profit.The experience gambler made the profit and the other quit the game means,they take some money into their pocket.If both husband and wife can make money in gambling,they can do gambling on their own knowledge.Winning only the reason in the gambling,the family also need of money in gambling.

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Quote from: Lida93 on December 10, 2023, 06:55:58 AM

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

I see two problems here in this situation that you addressed:

Financial: If each of the spouses has their own income, then each one should decide what is the minimum they will contribute to support the house and family and the rest of the amount they can use however they want. But if only one of them has an income, then they should discuss together how much money they are willing to bet on the games without compromising the family's income.

Time: Addiction is the main villain of those who bet on gambling and if both are addicted, the chances of their children having a terrible education are very high. Parents should decide together how much and for how long they will play, preferably at times when their children are not physically around so that their habits do not influence them at an unnecessarily young age.

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Quote from: Lida93 on December 10, 2023, 06:55:58 AM

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

If it about finances, it possible that they both work and have their own income that can meet the family needs in daily life and for their children.
It could also be that the money used for gambling is leftover money from these needs, including savings.
Every family has different economic aspect because many women are still pursuing their careers and still working to be able to have their own income, so it not problem if it just about finances if they can manage it well.
And their own time depends on how clever they are at managing it because in the fullness of their daily activities there will definitely be free time that can be used to rest and they use little of their rest time for gambling.

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Would it help if one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

If both of them really like gambling and only one party decides to stop for the sake of their partner then this is good decision and can be said to be someone who is responsible for their partner.
But it would be better for both of them to make an agreement in deciding to stop simultaneously, this will be more influential and look more harmonious.

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Have you ever heard and seen several cases where husband and wife sold drugs, both ended tragically in prison and their children were abandoned, not much different from what you said about husband and wife being involved in the world of gambling.

I remember a case that just happened five months ago in my country, both husband/wife worked in the same company, both cases were revealed in court, after they were arrested for embezzling company money that they spent, in short both of them have now been fired and sentenced to 5 years in prison and a fine of $50k each for both of them, that is the case if a husband/wife is involved in gambling.

Quote from: Lida93 on December 10, 2023, 06:55:58 AM

Would it help if one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

My understanding is that if a husband/wife is involved in gambling activities, their household is not taken care of, both of them are busy with gambling and other things, it is easy for them to commit all criminal acts, in order to satisfy their gambling lust.

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Quote from: Lida93 on December 10, 2023, 06:55:58 AM

Would it help if one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

the best action here is for both of them to quit gambling and prioritize their child and their financial security. having a child is not a joke, it is expensive and exhausting. also, if only one of them quits, there is a high chance that the other spouse might start having resentment towards the other who is still gambling, this is why the only way to do this is for both of them to quit.

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I don't recommend that both of them engage in gambling what will happen to their family if they both become addicted, if both can manage their gambling activities I recommend that the wife give way to his husband, the husband needs recreation after a hard days' work in the office or they can alternately play like the husband plays on weekdays and the wife plays on the weekends.

The most important thing is their finances and the time they are spending with their family will suffer, gambling is for entertainment and it should not have a bad effect on the finances and relationships with each other.

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Quote from: Lida93 on December 10, 2023, 06:55:58 AM

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

I would rather say that both the people should quit gambling when the family is involved.
It would be a big problem if one of them has to quit and the best thing to do would be that both of them just quit.
This way both the parents would be able to give time to their family.

If at all they don't want to quit gambling, then my suggestion would be that they should take turns in months.
So that one would gamble this month and then the other would gamble the next month.
May be this way, one of them or may be both of them decide to quit gambling since they would be taking a month's break inbetween.

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Quote from: Lida93 on December 10, 2023, 06:55:58 AM

Hey house someone need a few clips here, don't know if a post of this exact nature has been discussed though.

In a situation where the both spouse are gamblers. Husband gambles, wife gambles, how can both of them manage the situation in terms of finance and the family affairs especially when children are now involve so that the time both spends on gambling doesn't affect family moments and affairs in general.

Would it help if one of the couple quit for the other and if that's the case who should quit for who.

Both should quit.I remember when I used to go to offline casinos in 2007-2008 and it was an affiliate or at least it claimed it was an affiliate of Caesar Palace.I used to go there because I loved the slots there and I found there a couple used to come there,they were "rom people" no offense to any gender or race as I respect everybody in a equal way.I mentioned that to show you that they were not rich persons and as soon as they got their salary they stayed in the casino 2-3 days often times losing it all and living with help from the state then so based on this story it is a great thing if both spouse would quit gambling and to continue to run their family in a normal way,not asking for help here and there as this is what gambling brings you into.

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