Topic: Who should quit, and why? - page 20. (Read 2670 times)

If possible both should quit gambling because children are now involved otherwise it would ruined your family. At first place why would husband and wife engages themselves into gambling how does it sound like a joke or what? I would rather asked wife to go for something much better that can be bringing a stable income than gambling because it's a major distraction to the family, it's better you hid it from your children that you both gambles otherwise they don't seeing it as a routine for living with a gambling life styles.

Why not both? Is gambling that important to both of them that they aren’t able to even give their kids proper parenting? If that’s so then what the fuck, are you really going to put aside your kid’s welfare just so you can indulge in your gambling tendencies?

I keep saying this all the time, and I’ll keep saying it again. Gambling is not supposed to be a part of your life. It’s supposed to be this one-off or once in a while rendezvous that you do to let off some steam. The moment that ganbling becomes a major topic in your life, shit’s already out of proportion and you need to rethink your decisions as they go. You’re definitely not doing it properly and responsibly and in the first place you shouldn’t even be gambling.

If they're good enough with their activities and doesn't affect the family life then there is nothing to worry about it. If the scenario is turning bad, then it is time to find the solution. When they're moving to find a solution, it is always good to take a chance to stay away from gambling and understand the good they've experienced. When quitting both have to follow it commonly, because one have quit and other continuing to gamble doesn't make sense and leads to problem.

They have a lot of options, if they are worried for the future of their children then they need to both quit. That's simple. Why? It's because that this is going to have a long term impact for them and that's not going to do any good for their family. Both being a gambler will have each other's back and will also tolerate their crave to gamble. But as a parent, this is a matter of being responsible, no one stops them to gamble and these are just suggestions but will they manage to become responsible while they gamble?

First of all, I think the it'll be good to know the level of gambling by both sides because as young people, they might be gambling for fun wherever they feel like having good times and enjoying their life while we are here discussing their a life they've chosen for themselves.
That been said, if the reason behind their gambling engagements is caused by their respective quests to make money through gambling, then the marriage should be dissolved so that that it doesn't affect the kids in the future because to me, I personally think that it's absolutely a disaster for spouses to be active gamblers.

It would not be necessary for neither of them to quit, besides one of them quiting for the sake of the whole family, while the other does not, may sound very unfair from the perspective of the one who did.
I think it would be enough for both to lower their wager and the time they have used to gamble and instead invest that money and time to build their family, to give attention to their child and do family activities together, in my opinion.

In the case a complete halt of their gambling activities is necessary for the well being of the family, then both of them should quit as a gesture of commitment to each other and their child.
These kinds of situation are better handled by a professional of couple therapy.

Just dont mind on whatever things that they would be experiencing considering that both husband and wife do gamble then expect that their finances would really be that ruined.
You would be basically be that completely stopping if both of you do realize that you dont already have the money to spend and this is something that you would really be that
the moment you would really be making out regrets and its already too late. Both of you wont really be just destroying your family interms of finances but also in terms of
family relationship on which this is something that it is really important into a family. This is why you should really be that mindful on whatever things
that you do encounter because if you dont then expect for some messed up life.

If there is a case in which a family, the wife and husband, are people who play in casinos, then this family may be doomed to suffering and will break up in a short time. It is unlikely that two people from the same household who play in casinos will understand each other or none of them had become addicted. Although the game is recommended to be seen as fun, it is not recommended for stressful situations, playing to forget about problems, playing under the influence of alcohol and drugs. different from other things that serve as fun and don't create problems, things like going to the beach, drinking juice while someone watches a football game, playing video games on the computer, horse riding

spending hours talking to friends, these things don't create stress in people, these things don't make people spend hours thinking about them, these things hardly consume a person's entire salary. but gambling is something that in theory allows people to win a lot of money if they are very lucky, so it makes people start playing with the aim of becoming rich, it's funny and that many people who are in the gaming world, They are fooling themselves when they tell other people that they are just playing for fun, when in fact they are playing to make a profit.

So imagine what a couple who lives in the same house and is playing at the casino will be like, what the finances will be like, the wife is not playing for fun, the husband is not playing for fun, they are both playing to make money, they are both playing with goals of becoming become rich, and this illusory goal will lead both or one of them to become addicted to gambling and destroy the entire family. I think that there shouldn't be many people from the same house playing, this will prevent other people from being able to correct the person who is playing when they deviate from the right path

I don't think there is a couple or family that has a situation like that, but even if there is, I don't know if that family or couple is bound to be broke or if their life as a couple will be miserable; they either break up soon or the family will result in a broken family. I don't think there is something good in a couple or family that gambles at the same time, because it will only affect their financial state, and even if there is one person in that couple, I don't think that the couple will last if the gambler doesn't stop. And to answer your question, should only one person quit? They should not quit gambling immediately before it's too late or before the family or relationship can still be saved, or else there will be no future for them. I think there are many situations just like that, and it didn't go well.

I'm not sure there is a man who wants to marry a woman who gambles, even if the man is a gambler too because if both of them gamble and have children of course the children will be neglected by the behavior of both of them, therefore one of them has to give in to the family, whoever it is from the husband or wife's side, of course You have to be able to give in for the family, but it's a good idea if the children are still too young, it's better for both of them to stop, why not for the good of the children

Both of them should quit and focus on their family, kids need both of their parents attention.
And as soon as their is a child involve their life should already be changed they should already have a bigger picture for their family.
How they would manage their funds and their time to bond with their child, instead of gambling they should play or pay attention with their family.

That's really serious, and it's bad. You should have at least added if the both of them are addicted to gambling, but it's just better they both stop gambling or it's going to affect them or their children. They might not be addicted to gambling, but their children might end up being addicted, which is really bad.

If the two of them are not addicted to gambling and they are gambling for fun, then it's better they just stop gambling and get something else done, because I'm sure they both won't want to give up. I can't just imagine seeing my partner gambling, and I won't be able to gamble. So it's better that we both stop gambling so that we can get something else to do just to have fun. Seriously two-spouse gambling might have a negative impact on children because the two spouses might be able to control their gambling activities, but children might not be able to do that.

Both of them should quit and get another hobby or past time that is inclusive of the kids and the whole family. In the case even though we may say that gambling in itself is not bad but here it is. The kids would pick it up easily from the parents. The parents may lose control of the habit and become addicted and instead of time spent with the family and bonding it will be spent on gambling. I do not advice this at all.

If the kids are little, and they do not want to quit, they should put a pause on the it or hold and wait until the kids are all grown up and can take care of themselves. After that, they can return to gambling.

taking care of children is the responsibility of both parents, it is not only the wife's responsibility and not only the husband's responsibility, but in a social society that has existed for thousands of years, women are the ones who have to put a lot of effort into the household, so that is based on your question, my answer is that the wife must stop gambling ^{(the wife is obliged to yield to her husband)} to become a truly responsible wife, my words may seem old school, but fate between men and women cannot be equal.

If the situation is where both partners are responsible gamblers, I don't think there will be any need for any of them to stop gambling unless it's a case where their gambling habit is affecting their family financially. Then not just one of them needs to stop, but both of them should call an end to it.
 
If, for example, you are gambling with just 0.1% of what someone is making in a month or year and it doesn't even have any effect on what they are spending on or their financial budget is not being affected, I don't think there will be a need for them to raise the alarm of one party to stop gambling.
 
But in a situation where both parties are chronic gamblers and think of gambling first before what they will eat, then it's not a matter of who to shop for, but both of them should just stop it as it might render them homeless some day if care is not taken.

that is very true. for sure, financial troubles is on the way if they are really hooked into gambling. even if they have a lot of money at the beginning, they will catch debts after debts if they won't stop and evaluate their situation.
i can agree if it is only occasional basis like for fun or entertainment when the family wants to have some recreational activity. but if they are regulars, this can easily go to worse scenario.

if they don't understand their situation, the more the adult in the room is needed for both to see where their ship is going. although it's hard to stop a habit abruptly, this will be needed at least for one of them.

this is just a situation given by OP though. but if there is a real couple with kids and still are gambling together. i would be amazed mixed with awe by how far their relationship had come.

Lol I asked a gambler if it's possible to quit gambling, do you know what he asked me? He asked if it was possible for a man to survive after draining out every single blood from his body, that's to tell how deep gambling has eaten deep into his life. Not just him but in the life of every gambler, when gambling becomes habitual in a man's life, quiting is almost impossible, it'd take the grace of God to quit completely. Maybe you can quit for a few days, weeks, months or even years but on the long run, you'll still see yourself gambling. I've never seen any gambler that's successfully quit gambling. If there's any, I'd be happy to know.

Both should but it is not practical to choose a side saying he should quit or she should quit. As parents both of them have the equal responsibilities towards their children. As a matter of fact quitting gambling was never a simple thing. Without strong will power it's not possible. If a person doesn't understand what's good or bad for them then there is no telling him or advising him. It would mean a waste of time. So rather than arguing who should quit, we should try to make some sense in their mind.

(Rhetorical question): I thought gambling was for fun. Or has the couple turned gambling into a career thing where their income flow is relied upon? Gambling is nothing they do every day, every minute, and every hour, and if they are not handling it like that, then there is nothing to worry about here. If I am a dad, I can gamble with any small space I have and still have the time to take care of my home.

As a wife or a mother to some kids, even if you are a gambler, you will still have time for your kids and family affairs, unless gambling is your profession and occupation, on which you or your husband rely solely for survival.

But to answer your question in a straight-up way, I think both parties should stop gambling if gambling has become a thing of distraction in their home. If they both are addicted gamblers, what will their children then become?

But if these two couples are responsible gamblers who only gamble for fun and only gamble when they have free time, then it's fine.