Topic: Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ? - page 15. (Read 1637 times)

Op your thread is skeleton so you ought to put the flesh and blood to make it more fatter and look nice. Your question must be answered. Op let me tell you one thing, it is only those who love and like you will tell you about that thing you are doing is not good. So if you wife to be and husband to be ask you you to quit gambling then it means they love and like you. Those who did not tell you to stop only there for you apple. Therefore I will gladly quit gambling if they she askede to leave. Because it will even help me to plan well.

Its no brainer that we will do that especially if this is really bothering our relationship. We are not a gambler forever so for sure we can decide that in future since there will be a changes of priority and gambling will be away from that. That's why right now while there is no other more bigger responsibilities that can make us think about that leaving we should enjoy each games we play and the person we meet thru the gaming session we had. Since once we quit for sure we cannot go back easily since we would provably think that responsibilities has more bigger weights than spending or wasting our money on gambling. For now I don't have a wife but my GF understood about what I am doing since I always tell her that I'm only playing when I'm bored and just want to have fun in a short while.

If it's the best, I'll stop. Remember, that our wife's prayers greatly influence our fortune and if she prays for bad things when we gamble, it will affect our fate in gambling.
And maybe for another reason because according to religion money from gambling is haram and maybe he doesn't want himself and his children to make a living from gambling. And for this I never give money from gambling and if I win then I will enjoy it myself and my wife only enjoys the money I earn from work and is halal.
And all this time I gambled very carefully and hid without my wife knowing, and I was also not an active gambler and I only played on weekends and even then when I had the urge to play.
And if my wife finds out I like gambling and she asks her to stop, I will stop, because I really love my wife and children.

If my wife told me to quit gambling because of reasonable reasons, then I would probably quit. There can only be one reason why your wife/husband tells you to do so, maybe it’s because he/she sees that gambling is no longer good for you or it can be unhealthy for you and your family. And if by any chance my wife told me to quit gambling, I wouldn't take it negatively. Certainly, she is just concerned about my well-being, especially if I am manifesting negative behaviors caused by my gambling habits. But if ever, she told me to stop gambling without any reasonable reasons, I will probably talk to her first because gambling is mere fun and entertainment for me, and I don't think it's right to deprive me of it. But again, it still depends on her reasons, but most probably I would quit if she told me to do so.

Depending on the reason why she ask me to leave it, if there is no good reason and if my gambling habit is not affecting the whole family's life, why I should stop while I'm entertained with it.
But if there is a good reason, lets say I'm no longer responsible to my gambling habit and it is affecting my familiy, yes I'll stop and leave it.
Luckily my wife is not complaining to my gambling habit, because I know how to gamble and manage my gambling funds.

Hehe don't ever gamble if you are a bum so you won't be asked to leave or quit. All the naggings you get from your wife are mostly because of money problems so don't ever think of betting when you cannot do your obligations as the husband or the father in the family. It's just common sense to me but I guess it's not so common to some people.

If I'm able to provide and have some extra for gambling then I'll do it. Nobody else could stop me.

100% yes.
There are a million things way more important than gambling and it's connected entertainment.

I'm fortunate enough though, my wife is ok with an occasional sports bet or poker session, as long as I don't get angry with myself when I lose or getting sucked out on at poker, haha.

Mostly your partner knows best, if she or he has something against you gambling there must be a reason for that.

Yes, the people around us who do have an important role in our lives do have a significant push, such as family members or our own wives, when they advise us to quit useless activities then we will be able to consider it more than the advice of other people who are not related to anything. But I don't think that should be taken at face value, I'm not saying you have to quit when the people closest to you suggest it, anyway doing it early would be better for ourselves than putting it off because we're waiting for advice and encouragement from others, but that's also if you can.

True, I also understand that quitting gambling is not as easy as turning your palm and there are even some who fail to do so, but I don't think that means it's impossible. Every problem no matter how big it is, there will definitely be a solution, and in my opinion, stopping gambling depends on themselves, if they are really tired of always experiencing financial problems due to defeat then surely they will do everything possible to get out of the zone like that. I think a pretty good alternative is that you reduce all your gambling activities, in terms of time and budget. I'm sure they can stop slowly.

As a married person, I think what the future wife said was a good thing. Because, he wants the head of the family to set a good example. There is nothing wrong with your future wife's request, because after marriage you have a big responsibility to provide for her, so if you have money and want to play at the casino you have to rethink the responsibilities you agreed to when making your wedding vows.

This is why many people say that having a life partner means perfecting each other and advising each other in goodness. that's true, but if on the contrary you still prioritize your ego and still don't want to accept advice from the future mother of your children, it means you are not fully ready to take on the responsibility of having a family.

If it is affecting our relationship then I would do it on my own she don't need to tell me about it.
A person would change for the one that they love to keep them.

Unless there are compelling reasons or she notices something is wrong with how I gamble then I will agree but if I believe that I am a responsible gambler and gamble only occasionally, then we have to talk and let him know my position since I'm the head of the family I will need her to trust me.

It's important for the couple that is engaged to understand one another, maybe lessening my gambling time will be acceptable for both of us, it's important to make a deal and promise this will strengthen the bond of the couple, we can't just take away gambling to our system if we try to thwart it, we will learn to keep a secret to our partner and this is not good.
Honesty is important for the couple and they have to respect their boundaries.

Sometimes, what you see in what you are doing is different from what other people see in you. But yes, it would be better to have a deep conversation on why your wife thinks that you should stop gambling. Your wife better give a valid statement to make you understand and see the reality of what you are doing.

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As for me, the same thing I said above. I will ask to talk about it and try to understand each other. If the reason given by my wife is valid and it affects her because of it, I will consider it.

If there ever comes a day where my significant other tells me that I should watch my gambling activity or I need to quit it then I know that I have been over gambling and it is affecting my relationship and other aspect of my life. This is a very good sign that the individual is addicted to gambling and needs to stop it immediately. But you must know that quitting gambling is not as drinking water and dropping the cup. It is harder than just saying you have to quit. If such a partner would be kind enough to assist me on the journey to quitting gambling, that is the fastest way out.

If I know that I'm a responsible gambler and I play based on what I can afford to lose why would she ask me to leave gambling, I will talk to her and explain to her about my gambling session and we can reach a compromise or a deal but I will not want her to decide for me on something that she does not understand what's my behavior on this.

If you're a gambler and you are about to get married it is better to tell your future wife about your gambling habit and make a compromise or deal, gambling addiction is one of the causes of divorce or separation, so both partners should discuss this between themselves so they will understand each other.

This is a nice question which you have asked. Most times marriages crash as a result of some things of this nature possibly as an addiction or otherwise. This are the things one needs puts into consideration to discuss with your spouse when it comes to marriage. Some spouse do not like it but however if two of you can discuss it out that would be better because it is now clear to both parties that your spouse is a gambler.If as an addict, you find it difficult I believe telling your wife or husband before saying I do could help because ways of possible resolution could be discussed and sorted out between both parties so as not toe taken unawares after wedding.

Before we got married, she would have already known that I gamble because I would inform her. But if she wants me to stop, I deserve to know why she is suddenly changing her stance. If her reasons are genuine, I will have to throw in the towel. but it is not, I will try to convince her that I am a responsible gambler. If she insists that quitting gambling is her final decision, I will have to stop because my marriage is my important than entertainment especially when we have children.   

If you are close to your wife it will be very difficult to keep your gambling life secret. And I also think that your wife should know almost everything about you because she would be the one who will be the first contact in terms of emergency. In some cases, the wife and the husband might be running a joint account, which means she will be aware of almost all the deposits and withdrawals. There might be a big disagreement or misunderstanding if she finds out that you are a secret gambler and intentionally hiding it from her. But I agree that there are some family members that shouldn't know about our gaming life especially if it is not morally accepted in our location due to some misconceptions. 

If you think keeping gambling a secret from the family is a good thing to maintain family harmony, I wouldn't blame you, because everyone has different opinions. However, if you keep it a secret and one day your family finds out, won't that cause big problems in your family? Even though we gamble by betting small or large amounts of money but play without control, you must be prepared to bear the risks such as your family will be disappointed because you are not honest in gambling and you will also lose money, that's for sure.

It is very important for us to try and keep our gambling lifestyle oru habit to ourselves. It is unprofessional for us to allow our family or wife to find out that we have this gambling lifestyle which can be very discouraging to them especially if we are spending too much money and always complaining that we don't have money with us. Women always see through things and the way they interpret things can be very different from the males entirely. Gambling need to be secretive and we need to make sure that people we value a lot do not have knowledge about our gambling lifestyle.

Yes, because our wives can be an alarm to help us get out of bad habits, it should be like that but sometimes there are also those who don't want to listen to suggestions and advice from their wives because they have become heavy addicts, it's definitely difficult to hear the people around them, the danger of gambling is when you fall because you went bankrupt in gambling but there are no people around you to encourage you and give you encouragement from your closest family like a wife, it will be difficult to get out.

Always respect our partner, but if we want to gamble, it's best to be open with him and talk about the bad gambling behavior that we've had so far or at least convince our partner that the gambling we do is just for entertainment and that it can be controlled well, for example I'm allowed My wife only gambles on weekends and even then her budget is limited because I entrust her with my finances so everything is well controlled. stop when the money runs out of gambling. Being honest and open with your partner is very good for building trust.

For the better good then definitely YES! if my wife would really be telling about quitting then i would really be doing such thing.Better to make yourself that obedient as his husband.
Nothing beats out on having a life with a happy wife. If your wife is really just that fine on the things that you are getting involved into then thats good but if she forbids out and telling you to quit then fine
and dont tend to argue knowing that gambling could really mess up someones life when it comes to finance which it is really just that normal that your wife would really be minding about your finances
or even if you arent that still married but if she had plans on marrying you then earlier the better on telling you on what are the things that she does like and not.If you do love someone then you would really be
that prepared on sacrificing on the things that you have get used to it.

On the time that you do have a happy wife then you would definitely be having a happy life and this is what we do prefer most. We do know that not all would really be that
too open even they had just got married. They would really be secretly be still doing gambling and on the time and once you do get caught then you do
know on whats next. Whether its a divorce or a severe discussion and quarrels on which this is something that i dont really like.