Topic: Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ? - page 15. (Read 1932 times)

Depending on the reason why she ask me to leave it, if there is no good reason and if my gambling habit is not affecting the whole family's life, why I should stop while I'm entertained with it.
But if there is a good reason, lets say I'm no longer responsible to my gambling habit and it is affecting my familiy, yes I'll stop and leave it.
Luckily my wife is not complaining to my gambling habit, because I know how to gamble and manage my gambling funds.

Hehe don't ever gamble if you are a bum so you won't be asked to leave or quit. All the naggings you get from your wife are mostly because of money problems so don't ever think of betting when you cannot do your obligations as the husband or the father in the family. It's just common sense to me but I guess it's not so common to some people.

If I'm able to provide and have some extra for gambling then I'll do it. Nobody else could stop me.

100% yes.
There are a million things way more important than gambling and it's connected entertainment.

I'm fortunate enough though, my wife is ok with an occasional sports bet or poker session, as long as I don't get angry with myself when I lose or getting sucked out on at poker, haha.

Mostly your partner knows best, if she or he has something against you gambling there must be a reason for that.

Yes, the people around us who do have an important role in our lives do have a significant push, such as family members or our own wives, when they advise us to quit useless activities then we will be able to consider it more than the advice of other people who are not related to anything. But I don't think that should be taken at face value, I'm not saying you have to quit when the people closest to you suggest it, anyway doing it early would be better for ourselves than putting it off because we're waiting for advice and encouragement from others, but that's also if you can.

True, I also understand that quitting gambling is not as easy as turning your palm and there are even some who fail to do so, but I don't think that means it's impossible. Every problem no matter how big it is, there will definitely be a solution, and in my opinion, stopping gambling depends on themselves, if they are really tired of always experiencing financial problems due to defeat then surely they will do everything possible to get out of the zone like that. I think a pretty good alternative is that you reduce all your gambling activities, in terms of time and budget. I'm sure they can stop slowly.

As a married person, I think what the future wife said was a good thing. Because, he wants the head of the family to set a good example. There is nothing wrong with your future wife's request, because after marriage you have a big responsibility to provide for her, so if you have money and want to play at the casino you have to rethink the responsibilities you agreed to when making your wedding vows.

This is why many people say that having a life partner means perfecting each other and advising each other in goodness. that's true, but if on the contrary you still prioritize your ego and still don't want to accept advice from the future mother of your children, it means you are not fully ready to take on the responsibility of having a family.

If it is affecting our relationship then I would do it on my own she don't need to tell me about it.
A person would change for the one that they love to keep them.

Unless there are compelling reasons or she notices something is wrong with how I gamble then I will agree but if I believe that I am a responsible gambler and gamble only occasionally, then we have to talk and let him know my position since I'm the head of the family I will need her to trust me.

It's important for the couple that is engaged to understand one another, maybe lessening my gambling time will be acceptable for both of us, it's important to make a deal and promise this will strengthen the bond of the couple, we can't just take away gambling to our system if we try to thwart it, we will learn to keep a secret to our partner and this is not good.
Honesty is important for the couple and they have to respect their boundaries.

Sometimes, what you see in what you are doing is different from what other people see in you. But yes, it would be better to have a deep conversation on why your wife thinks that you should stop gambling. Your wife better give a valid statement to make you understand and see the reality of what you are doing.

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As for me, the same thing I said above. I will ask to talk about it and try to understand each other. If the reason given by my wife is valid and it affects her because of it, I will consider it.

If there ever comes a day where my significant other tells me that I should watch my gambling activity or I need to quit it then I know that I have been over gambling and it is affecting my relationship and other aspect of my life. This is a very good sign that the individual is addicted to gambling and needs to stop it immediately. But you must know that quitting gambling is not as drinking water and dropping the cup. It is harder than just saying you have to quit. If such a partner would be kind enough to assist me on the journey to quitting gambling, that is the fastest way out.

If I know that I'm a responsible gambler and I play based on what I can afford to lose why would she ask me to leave gambling, I will talk to her and explain to her about my gambling session and we can reach a compromise or a deal but I will not want her to decide for me on something that she does not understand what's my behavior on this.

If you're a gambler and you are about to get married it is better to tell your future wife about your gambling habit and make a compromise or deal, gambling addiction is one of the causes of divorce or separation, so both partners should discuss this between themselves so they will understand each other.

This is a nice question which you have asked. Most times marriages crash as a result of some things of this nature possibly as an addiction or otherwise. This are the things one needs puts into consideration to discuss with your spouse when it comes to marriage. Some spouse do not like it but however if two of you can discuss it out that would be better because it is now clear to both parties that your spouse is a gambler.If as an addict, you find it difficult I believe telling your wife or husband before saying I do could help because ways of possible resolution could be discussed and sorted out between both parties so as not toe taken unawares after wedding.

Before we got married, she would have already known that I gamble because I would inform her. But if she wants me to stop, I deserve to know why she is suddenly changing her stance. If her reasons are genuine, I will have to throw in the towel. but it is not, I will try to convince her that I am a responsible gambler. If she insists that quitting gambling is her final decision, I will have to stop because my marriage is my important than entertainment especially when we have children.   

If you are close to your wife it will be very difficult to keep your gambling life secret. And I also think that your wife should know almost everything about you because she would be the one who will be the first contact in terms of emergency. In some cases, the wife and the husband might be running a joint account, which means she will be aware of almost all the deposits and withdrawals. There might be a big disagreement or misunderstanding if she finds out that you are a secret gambler and intentionally hiding it from her. But I agree that there are some family members that shouldn't know about our gaming life especially if it is not morally accepted in our location due to some misconceptions. 

If you think keeping gambling a secret from the family is a good thing to maintain family harmony, I wouldn't blame you, because everyone has different opinions. However, if you keep it a secret and one day your family finds out, won't that cause big problems in your family? Even though we gamble by betting small or large amounts of money but play without control, you must be prepared to bear the risks such as your family will be disappointed because you are not honest in gambling and you will also lose money, that's for sure.

It is very important for us to try and keep our gambling lifestyle oru habit to ourselves. It is unprofessional for us to allow our family or wife to find out that we have this gambling lifestyle which can be very discouraging to them especially if we are spending too much money and always complaining that we don't have money with us. Women always see through things and the way they interpret things can be very different from the males entirely. Gambling need to be secretive and we need to make sure that people we value a lot do not have knowledge about our gambling lifestyle.

Yes, because our wives can be an alarm to help us get out of bad habits, it should be like that but sometimes there are also those who don't want to listen to suggestions and advice from their wives because they have become heavy addicts, it's definitely difficult to hear the people around them, the danger of gambling is when you fall because you went bankrupt in gambling but there are no people around you to encourage you and give you encouragement from your closest family like a wife, it will be difficult to get out.

Always respect our partner, but if we want to gamble, it's best to be open with him and talk about the bad gambling behavior that we've had so far or at least convince our partner that the gambling we do is just for entertainment and that it can be controlled well, for example I'm allowed My wife only gambles on weekends and even then her budget is limited because I entrust her with my finances so everything is well controlled. stop when the money runs out of gambling. Being honest and open with your partner is very good for building trust.

For the better good then definitely YES! if my wife would really be telling about quitting then i would really be doing such thing.Better to make yourself that obedient as his husband.
Nothing beats out on having a life with a happy wife. If your wife is really just that fine on the things that you are getting involved into then thats good but if she forbids out and telling you to quit then fine
and dont tend to argue knowing that gambling could really mess up someones life when it comes to finance which it is really just that normal that your wife would really be minding about your finances
or even if you arent that still married but if she had plans on marrying you then earlier the better on telling you on what are the things that she does like and not.If you do love someone then you would really be
that prepared on sacrificing on the things that you have get used to it.

On the time that you do have a happy wife then you would definitely be having a happy life and this is what we do prefer most. We do know that not all would really be that
too open even they had just got married. They would really be secretly be still doing gambling and on the time and once you do get caught then you do
know on whats next. Whether its a divorce or a severe discussion and quarrels on which this is something that i dont really like.

Of course it will stop, because in a marriage relationship there must be a commitment that must be mutually agreed upon, there are no lies to cover up, so if one partner can accept his partner gambling then he will be lucky but don't gamble carelessly. This means, don't gamble too much so that your partner doesn't experience disappointment. Take advantage of the opportunity to get permission from your partner by gambling well and correctly, by placing small bets and just for entertainment in your free time, because the most important thing is your partner's happiness.

Same mentality in all developing countries mostly. The people is developed countries have different thinking, they take gambling as fun activity mainly.

He may be reffering to those who are yet to get married. As the married men here rarely share their experiences with the spouse they married, regarding gambling. So, if in future such thing happens. Speculating. I'd look for a means to save the marriage. She could be right at a point. And if any problem arises through gambling she won't take sides with me. Which would be a huge family problem. But, my best move is not letting her find out about my gambling activities. Maybe play games when she's not around. Because she could be scared, her husband can gamble away all the money meant for the family. Women can't trust men when it's about sports betting or other gambling activities. In my response, it's not a bad idea to keep it at a minimal. Then give it a break. Or if the woman reasons alike, she can drop her listening ear on what I'll have to tell her about my gambling habit. If she does listen, she'll find herself getting interested in gambling. It's mainly about mutual understanding between the couple. And when we both are on a similar page, the relationship bond gets stronger day to day. Husband and wife can become gambling duos, watching their performances not to make big financial mistakes. It's also right if we try our luck on her, as gamblers, by trying to defend ourselves. If she insists, then I'll think of stopping. At least to stay in peace and harmony with the woman in my life. Because if gambling is not providing me fun and happiness in my home, then no point of engaging into gambling.

It depends on the reason on why my future spouse tells me to quit and leave gambling behind.

Obviously, if my future spouse tells me to quit gambling, she must substantiate it with enough reason for her to justify it. Personally, I view gambling as a form of entertainment and not a money-making venture. With this perspective on mind, I know my limits and I always make sure not to go beyond the initial money that I have allocated for this venture.

Though this may be the case, I WILL personally quit gambling if I have family commitments that I must exercise. Instead of using the allocated expenses for gambling, I would definitely focus it more on to the family rather to this dangerous habit that can explode any time.