Topic: Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ? - page 16. (Read 1932 times)

My future wife is way more important than my gambling habit so I will surely leave gambling if she requested me to do so.  Removing one of the activities that require funds can give us more funds to spend on our plans or goals.  So the funds I allocate for gambling can be saved and maybe used to fund businesses that we want to establish.  Come to think of it, it is not a bad thing to give way to our partner's request as long as it can give us a good result.

If that will save my marriage then I will do just that, if one truly love their partner and they want to go into marital life with the person and the last request from the person was for me to leave gambling, if that what it will cost me to save the marriage then i will do just that.

Looking at it as someone who is about to enter a new life which means my expenses and things I need to spend money on will increase removing gambling from the budget will really help me stand out from not entering any debt in the future, and another thing is that I also need to do some savings for the family and prepare for some unforeseen circumstances that might arise anytime in the future,  my wife to be definitely saw something which make her suggest I leave gambling and I will do that without hesitation.

Perhaps not if we weren't married. I can still freely gamble because I am not yet responsible for my family, meaning my nuclear family, where there is a husband, wife, and children. But if we were married, I would stop gambling if my partner told me to do this. There is no reason for me to stop because, after marriage, I will have responsibilities towards my family. I also don't want my finances disturbed because I gamble even though I'm still learning to control myself. But I'm just worried that if I don't stop gambling, I could lose self-control, which could cause me to spend money that should be on my family.

Someone will only tell a person to stop if he is either abusing it or he is doing it the wrong way. So, yes.
It's not like our partners in life are crazy to just tell us to stop a thing that we habitually do just because they like to. It's because they spotted something wrong and if it can be saved as early as possible then they must talk.
I'd do the same if my partner's gambling habits were uncontrollable anymore, the same goes with other things like if she is getting stressed with the new work or other stuff that makes her uncomfortable and I will be the one obliged to listen to all the cries.
That's just basic instinct and reaction to the people that you love, you don't want them being harmed so you suggest to stop whatever he is doing wrong.

Oh my days!!!!!! What's really happening that y'all in bitvest keep making this crappy one-liner post?? After a long period of inactivity??.. I mean, if there's actually a way to avoid this thread and the gambling board in general, I will.

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I won't leave gambling ( that's if I were a gambler already) except my partners gives valid reasons why I should do so... But If it's actually gone to an extent of terminating the relationship, then I'd put a stop to it.

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Hmm depends? I mean I'd try to meet halfway if possible, especially if my gambling habits don't really do anything to damage our finances or whatnot. I'd still spend money for my entertainment on something no matter what after all, so stopping gambling is not going to add what I spend there to our savings. I mean ofc I'd prioritize her opinions, but only if they make sense. I mean before marriage I'd probably tell my partner that I gamble for her to judge after all. It's harder to tell after the marriage, who knows, that may just be her ultimatum of sorts for a relationship.

Everything can be discussed, friend.. But it seems that when it comes to women it feels very difficult to talk about it and it seems like OP knows very well that a man's weakness is in women. Where a woman is one of God's creatures who is quite stubborn and when she wants something or forbids something, like it or not, we as men who love her so much have to obey it, and if not, maybe something we don't want will happen.

And if later the prospective bride demands that I give up gambling before continuing with a wedding, then as much as possible I will try to leave gambling and I do this not because I am afraid of being abandoned by the woman, but I am just showing my seriousness. that I really intended to marry him. However, if in reality, after I try to leave gambling but in reality I can't, then for all decisions I will return it to the prospective bride and how grateful I will be if she is willing to accept it all, but if she is unable to accept it So I thought that he was not a suitable partner for me because he couldn't accept all the shortcomings that I had. And indeed there is a saying "when a woman gives many conditions to accept you, then in fact the woman really doesn't want you to be her life partner."

That's a question that can't be answered without context at all... Let's assume that the spouse knows it is the only way to save the relationship, what then? What if the husband is going crazy, gambling away family savings and being a bad father maybe? Wouldn't the only right way to go about it be to set an ultimatum as a wife? She could be reckless and just let the husband flush his life down the toilet or she would be going all out and try to save him. It really depends on how bad the situation is and what is at risk, but a brutally honest wife would sometimes do the right thing if she is brave enough to say "either gambling or me". When compromise doesn't help, what other options would she be left with?

This is quite a troublesome question, especially for me as a single man who likes to gamble...

Talking about gambling is my hoby and talking about marriage is something that I really and really dream of. However, if in reality it is like that where the woman asks me to stop gambling as one of the conditions before marriage, then I will fulfill these requirements and immediately give up gambling without having to think twice. because in my opinion gambling is not something that is important to consider and think about.

However, on the other hand, I also really understand that the temptation to gamble is very strong and whether it is a temptation from outside or from myself, but I hope I can be consistent and still respect the decision not to return to gambling.

I am not gambling like an addict, so I will not expect my fiancee to determine what I will do or not. But I noticed women correct when they know their boyfriend is affected by gambling, but I am not that type of person.

For people that are addicted, if their wife or fiancee or girlfriend tell them to quit gambling, I will dice them to do so.

If my wife found it to be an issue, sure, i wouldnt even think twice about it. I take gambling as entertainment that i indulge in once in a while, im sure i would find something else to do

Of course, I love my wife more than gambling. Gambling really destroys relationships, especially if your partner doesn't want to, because if you insist, you'll always fight and it will affect your family, that's for sure.
I also know someone like this, his wife told him about his gambling that he should stop because it is not really good for them and they already have 4 children, but the man didn't listen and continued gambling until he ran out of money money he holds and their car was staked because he wanted to make up for the loss. They never broke up or separated, but there was a big wound in their relationship and his children resented him.
If your partner doesn't want you to gamble, just avoid it, there are other hobbies to do or other things to focus on.

Oh boy, that's quite the loaded question! If the person I end up marrying ever asks me to give up gambling completely, they better have some truly amazing ideas lined up to fill that void.
A strong marriage is built on compromise, am I right?

If not it might just be easier to go find a new spouse! 

The context of this thread is not yet far from this one https://bitcointalksearch.org/topic/have-you-been-threaten-to-stop-gambling-5453882

The result is vary depending how anyone was responding it. I think that thread above could be used as a good reference to get an answer regarding it. It should be acknowledged that even in different threads, people can have differing opinions.

"Future" wife/husband? What a strange way to phrase it. The answer should be yes, but then if they are asking you such things then it might symbolize that you have a bigger problem and are already in a stage of denial about it. I would first ask them why they are asking such a question, is it a matter of overbearing control in your life style or is it because they are concerned you might be wasting your future funds together? If that is the case you might need to take it a step further and possibly address some wider trust issues in the relationship, before committing to marriage. However it is good to have a relationship where you feel free to discuss such things openly.

Every individual has own preference. The one who will be my life partner she must be well wisher. But if I ask her why she is asking me to leave from gambling? If I'm addicted, if I don't give time to the family or if I don't give the financial support the family needs then she can tell me to give up gambling but if she asks me to leave from gambling without any reason then I must tell her. I am not obliged to listen. I know she wants happy life for me but should also understand how to value my love. But excess of anything is bad for those who indulge in excess should be avoided.

What does she want to achieve?
This can only happen when the couple is just around 1 year old. Give it a time after 2 years of them being married, the girl will get over it. But the wife may still request something like this if the couple doesn't have a kid.  Don't give too much favor to your wife, they will control you for good, and most likely even their siblings will decide for you.  

To do so? Probably not. But will rather end it by initiative if ever I become problematic with this activity. So far I am earning even if it is not as big as the others, I still consider it as one of my resources when it comes to bills. I also enjoy sportsbetting which for me adds excitement and thrill rather than just watching the game. Unless she has a valid reason to do so in particular with things which are actually occuring; they might associate it with cases concerning addiction but if I’m not falling into such situation then I guess that would be the time wherein it won’t be valid. And if they won’t be rational with such claim then I’d be defending this activity.

Op if you were expecting to see a "YES or NO" answer then I am afraid you have failed.

This type of question does not have an answer for those who have not been told to do it and those who are yet to marry. Only those that have gotten married and have stopped their gambling habit because their spouse asked them to, are the only ones that should be entitled to answer this type of question.

I am yet to marry and it will be very easy for me to come to the front of my screen and start typing all sorts of nonsense just because I haven't experienced it yet. I could say NO I won't allow a woman to control me or my answer could be YES because I love my wife but all that is just because the real deal hasn't been done yet. The same goes for others that are replying to this thread, they might claim YES but when faced with a similar situation in real life they will choose an entirely different option.

I'm not married yet, but I think that in a relationship there needs to be consensus on all the things the couple wants to do, to avoid fights, to prevent one of the parties from making a decision and that this decision could harm both parties and then the other party. who did not agree with the decision will start every day to criticize the side that did the thing that went wrong, so it is always very good that people make decisions by consensus to avoid fights and in the case of gambling if or when the woman Does not like gambling and asks her husband not to gamble or to stop gambling

so in my opinion the husband should stop gambling for the good of the marriage, in many cases women are correct when they make that decision to forbid their husbands from gambling because they know that their husbands have problems with gambling and that they can easily become addicted to gambling, that's why before they become addicted, they take very harsh measures that include banning them from gambling, in my opinion this is a good decision and men should listen to what their wives are saying.

There are many cases in which men, even though they know they have wives and children, start taking money that was meant to pay bills and start depositing it in casinos, gambling and losing everything, but this doesn't just happen with gambling, many families exist very strong fights because one of the parties takes money that was supposed to pay bills and goes to drink beer and becomes addicted to alcohol causing the marriage to end and the children are always the ones who suffer the most