Topic: Do you care about what people say about you gambling? - page 10. (Read 4188 times)

We may say what people say about us won't be a big problem, and it's up to me to do whatever I wish. In reality, we get worried when someone names us as gamblers. I personally felt it, and I'm not sure how others feel it. Days ago, I went to a relative's house and was just having a conversation. The aunt from the home asked what you were doing when the whole family was there. All of a sudden, I said I work online, and instantly she asked gambling right? I wasn't expecting it, and I managed the situation. If we're successful gamblers, then this might not be an issue. Being a failed gambler and people knowing it sounds bad.

We may say what people say about us won't be a big problem, and it's up to me to do whatever I wish. In reality, we get worried when someone names us as gamblers. I personally felt it, and I'm not sure how others feel it. Days ago, I went to a relative's house and was just having a conversation. The aunt from the home asked what you were doing when the whole family was there. All of a sudden, I said I work online, and instantly she asked gambling right? I wasn't expecting it, and I managed the situation. If we're successful gamblers, then this might not be an issue. Being a failed gambler and people knowing it sounds bad.

Greetings everyone and happy new year all!

Okay, today I was actually out for a little business and it happens that I almost spent all my time wasted without me even having a smooth deal, but along the line I have few games that I have placed a bet and was wanting to view my games from my phone since gambling is now mobile, what I meant by mobile is that you can access your account at any place provided that you have an internet connectivity you will login to monitor your matches.

So when I logged in, someone close to me easily peep from my left hand side and noticed that I just opened my account monitoring my games, at this point what he said is "ahh you don join dem"? Meaning you have also belong to the groups of people that gambles?

On a lighter note, I just smile and asked him if there is anything wrong while gambling or while monitoring my games and he said nothing but just that few people he knew that are gambling almost turned useless.

This now triggered me to come ask here whether you cares about what people says or sees you as when gambling, I know there are people who don't know you from time or who doesn't believe that you are a gambler and if it happens that you came across such people and their reaction towards you goes other way round would you care about it or you just totally ignore them?

Let's discuss amicably

Are you 18+? Is gambling allowed in your country? Do you work? Do you have debts? If there are 3 yes and the last one is no, then I see no reason why would you bother about what other think about you gambling. What would change if everyone finds out about you gambling? Will family stop loving you? Will something change in the world? If the overall impression and your reputation is good, then there is nothing to worry about what people say about you gambling.

Since we live in a society, we cannot really fully discard what other people think about us as they can have a huge effect on our lives, so if your neighbors thought that you were a suspicious person, one day you may find yourself having to deal with the police, even if you did not really did anything wrong, so some level of engagement must be maintained with society at large, which is why I do not reveal that I am gambler to others in real life, and if necessary I may lie about it.

Greetings everyone and happy new year all!

Okay, today I was actually out for a little business and it happens that I almost spent all my time wasted without me even having a smooth deal, but along the line I have few games that I have placed a bet and was wanting to view my games from my phone since gambling is now mobile, what I meant by mobile is that you can access your account at any place provided that you have an internet connectivity you will login to monitor your matches.

So when I logged in, someone close to me easily peep from my left hand side and noticed that I just opened my account monitoring my games, at this point what he said is "ahh you don join dem"? Meaning you have also belong to the groups of people that gambles?

On a lighter note, I just smile and asked him if there is anything wrong while gambling or while monitoring my games and he said nothing but just that few people he knew that are gambling almost turned useless.

This now triggered me to come ask here whether you cares about what people says or sees you as when gambling, I know there are people who don't know you from time or who doesn't believe that you are a gambler and if it happens that you came across such people and their reaction towards you goes other way round would you care about it or you just totally ignore them?

Let's discuss amicably

Since we live in a society, we cannot really fully discard what other people think about us as they can have a huge effect on our lives, so if your neighbors thought that you were a suspicious person, one day you may find yourself having to deal with the police, even if you did not really did anything wrong, so some level of engagement must be maintained with society at large, which is why I do not reveal that I am gambler to others in real life, and if necessary I may lie about it.

hell yeah  

Our life our responsibility and our decision so it is our rules that must be in place , because if we
will always give damn to what will others may say then what can we achieve in life?
caring must come from the heart and not because of what they can achieve from the situation
and from what they can gather from doing such so yes lets play and gamble based on our wanting.

Lol...well, it's your life, it's your money and your right as well. Those are my rules in this life even as I live my private life that is not even warranting anyone to poke their nose in my affairs. But at the same time, it is good that we listen to and care about some of them, especially if what they are telling you is the right thing, to say the least. This could be in many cases/forms, especially when the gambling activity is not positive for the life of the gambler and makes him irresponsible. The earlier you care about what people say for your own good, the better for you. But those gamblers who could be proud are those who are not gambling badly and are responsible in doing it.

Even if they do not win often, they are not such that gambling has turned their lives miserably. They have a lot to be proud of, but not the dirty gamblers who are only addicts. Such has caused the attention and interference of people to themselves, so what do you expect? This is why the "cared and uncared attitudes" of a thing are subjective and we should treat them based on the personality of the persons in question.

It's not always about being headstrong, it can't always vindicate us.

The reason for leaving gambling shouldn't be that people don't like it but the reason should be whether this field gives you something beneficial or not. We should not think about people but we should think about ourselves because no one will give us money or something else if we leave all the better ways for them.

There must be ups and downs in your life but if you get involved in something and your achieved the outcomes which totally consists of loss then you should leave That field. No one can force you to do good things and leave a bad one but if you think deeply then you can differentiate between the true platforms that are suited well for your successful future.

I feel like people around me or my family wouldn't take it well if people around me knew about my gambling and that's why I try to gamble as much as I can. Some people can take gambling negatively and some people can take gambling normally, we must understand that and we have to gamble according to position. If people accept gambling naturally then there is nothing wrong with people knowing about my gambling, but where people perceive gambling as a negative, if I discuss gambling with them, they will take it in a very bad way and this is something I have never done. I think everyone should keep this secret so that others have their respect or others can't make any bad comments about me.

If you can deal with everything then people don't need to listen. No one will have the courage to speak if their control power is high. When you start trying to change a gambling habit you may feel midway through what's the point of giving up then immediately remember why you started and what the outcome might be. The results of any good practice are usually good.

We have always a choice, to either gamble wherever we are, in public transportation or in a coffee shop or whenever we would love when we're outside our homes. Or, to do it secretly in our rooms or wherever we are comfortable with and no one is going to know that. That's the way it goes for most of the gamblers that want their spaces not to get invaded by any stranger and they don't want others to see them gamble in real life because it's either, they're protecting their reputation and profession and don't want to be known as a gambler.

That's fine and we're all for that. As long as you are gambling with your money and you're not affecting anyone with what you have. That's the way to go because if you're always going to get affected with those people that are telling bad things about you when you gamble, you have to deal with it or deal with them or do something about it so that you will not hear them anymore.

You're right there; that's why other gamblers become immune to the thoughts of other people who know nothing and don't know them personally. There are really judgmental people. When you send them what they have to say, it will only annoy you and ruin your gambling strategy.

That's why what other gamblers do is keep it a secret and don't tell others; even if someone else finds out, it's okay because they don't know you either, as long as the important thing is that they enjoy gambling.

Haha, don't be so harsh. I know that when people are very much meddling with what we do, we should just tell them to go away from us. But I understand that when you become frustrated and didn't take those warnings you have given that person to stop what he's been doing because it is very uncomfortable to you. If it's too annoying and it took me 2-3 warnings to stop then I'd probably raise my voice as well but I'd be mild not to shout.

But that's the problem in our society. If you're a normal gambler, they'd classify you still as an addicted gambler. So, whether you explain it to them or not, you've been judged already and that's why we shouldn't care to what they say because they are careless to what they say to the gamblers that they don't even know in real life. We're already immune to these bad impressions that we're getting from the society just because we're gamblers. And if we're the one to judge these people, we'll still be judged for being judgmental to them.

I feel like people around me or my family wouldn't take it well if people around me knew about my gambling and that's why I try to gamble as much as I can. Some people can take gambling negatively and some people can take gambling normally, we must understand that and we have to gamble according to position. If people accept gambling naturally then there is nothing wrong with people knowing about my gambling, but where people perceive gambling as a negative, if I discuss gambling with them, they will take it in a very bad way and this is something I have never done. I think everyone should keep this secret so that others have their respect or others can't make any bad comments about me.

I feel like people around me or my family wouldn't take it well if people around me knew about my gambling