Topic: Do you care about what people say about you gambling? - page 8. (Read 4700 times)

Could definitely say that im a type of person who doesnt really like on sharing up on whatever things that i do deal on with. Doesnt matter whether its a hobby or activity or any secrets or information on which i dont really like to share up or simply a kind of person whose really that an introvert and i do really want to solo things and will really be that keep it on my own. In regarding about gambling thing then there's no one neither my wife or close friends or even my family do really knows that im doing gambling. Why? i dont really like for them to say something on what im really that dealing on with. There would really be those times or moments that you might really be having that kind of conflicts because of possible argumentation or gossips about you on which you might be able to hear from other people. Its not really that shocking that people will really be always has something to say when it comes on dealing up with gambling. Actually i dont really care on whatever they would really be telling because its my money after all and its not theirs. I dont really care much on whatever the things i do get involved with as long i dont really bother or making affect into other people and also my priorities then i would really be just that fine. Make yourself that responsible on whatever you do t hen you will really be just that fine
and better not to make yourself having that kind too sensitive on whatever says or things you might hear outside in regarding on what you are really that doing.

People tend to judge, this applies not only to gambling, you shouldn't pay too much attention to it. And of course the best way to avoid this is not to tell anyone about it. You can't hide it from family members, but I don't see the point in this and I think that in the family we should share everything, there should be no secrets, and as for friends or relatives, this can be shared in case of common interests, if someone is also into this and has shared it with you before.

In general, why do people care so much about other opinion? I mean, should I be shy or ashamed that I gamble? As a grown up person, why would «what others think about me» should have any value? As it is legal, I fit in age category to be able to gamble, I dont make any harm, why I should bother what others say? Even if they say bad things about me, this doubtfully going to affect me. I only hear parents saying to their kids «behave, or people will think that you are unmannered». That is probably one of rarest moments when a person should pay attention and make conclusion to what people say. But we are not kids anymore.

I have exactly the same situation, only close friends and colleagues know. I don’t talk about it with my relatives and have never discussed it with them because they are quite conservative and rarely accept anything new, especially something that they don’t want to understand and delve into the essence of gambling and its principles. They are convinced that it is bad in any form and I respect their position and do not impose mine and do not plan to convince them otherwise.

This brings about me talking about the differences in the environment where you live. Some environments see gambling as a normal game to play and have completely normalize almost all forms of gambling within the streets while other environments might have a partial level of accepting it or not. For example, some environments tend to accept one form of gambling than the other while some environments have banned public practice of gambling and in such case, gambling is considered a sin, even if it's minor, as they see it as a potential factor that can cause  conflict between two individuals who are involved in the practice. So, to a large extent, when you talk generally, you may say, it all depends on the way in which your environment perceives gambling.

Never had much thought about it. Gambling to some degree is accepted as a normal male behaviour here but my friends and family have not much idea to what extent I gamble. I am willing to keep it a secret as it might hurt them or it might make me answer questions and bring in uncomfortable circumstances. It's not that they'll make me leave gambling or even I'd obey what they say as I'm a financially independent person myself but I don't want to be known as a gambler. So, I do care even though my gambling wins or loss don't have any significant effect on others. I'd still like to keep this side of my life secret.

That is very true, a person who is a head of a family cannot afford to try to gamble and make money at the expense of money that is practically already committed to the family, above all there must be that responsibility, sometimes the money for the family goes and there is nothing left for you as the head of the family, and that is something that is worth it , now I think that the only option to get something like that to play is with little money, at least with 10usd you can play well and have fun for a while, so as not to lose the habit.

The gambling was played with the own desire,we don’t know when we get money from the gambling.But the gamblers should not get addicted because of the gambling loss.The gamblers who play the gambling to get back their loss will loss their funds all the time.So don’t play the game on reverse psychology,just play for the entertainment in the gambling.Gambling had both good and bad effects,but use the gambling to gain entertainment.Most of the gamblers try to get money from the gambling play,but if you try to play for the money.You will take many risk in gambling site.So don’t play gambling with random betting,play the gambling with some tactics.

As long you arent harming someone
As long you do able to do your responsibility
As long you do still have that control towards finances or simply having that gambling budget

Then you are really that still that fine for you to gamble. It is really just that there would really be those individuals who do excessively trying out to gamble because of those wrong
hopes and belief that they could be able to make money with it or wont really be facing up any issues. You are the ones who would really be that making your own fate on which if you do
find yourself that engaging too much on which on the sense that you are spending up like a mad man and messed up your life because of gambling then there's no one that you would
be able to get blamed but rather only yourself.

When it comes into this situation then it will really be that understandable that effects will really be basing up on the things that you have done.
If you have done something stupid then you do know on what are the things that will be mainly be affected.

In the Real sense, the responsibility of any responsible man is to ensure the proper taking care of the family before anything else, the wife, the kids and any other family matters has to be considered first before gambling or the money to sort those bills out shouldn't be used for gambling but after doing that, the man can gamble for all he likes since the family will not be in need of anything he can't provide.
A gambler is prepared for the best and the worst so I think before going to gamble once is prepared to face whatever outcome he gets.

As long as you are not harming anyone else, then you can ignore other peoples opinions about you most of the time. There are a lot of people who come up with a lot of crazy views in the world and if you were to try to appease every single one of them you would never get anywhere in life. I understand if some people have firm views on gambling because they have been personally impacted by the effects, but have no time for people who blindly follow things like religious text that wish to ban it, because I've often found them to be the biggest hypocrites in all sorts of areas of life. If you live in a country where it is legal then you should have no shame in choosing to gamble.

Nope dont care in the slightest - its easy for me to say that because I know I dont
have an addiction so whatever people say I know more than they do about my
gambling habits.

I can imagine if someone has a problem and someone else points to that It could
touch a nerve so to speak. As a saying goes "the truth can hurt sometimes"

Its also important to realise those who comment on your gambling habits will
most likely be concerned for you and probably assume you have a problem when
in fact you may not.

indirectly he advised us not to gamble, if I were in your position I would ignore that person at that time, because we personally know how to gamble, I would not be offended I would throw him a smile

I personally don't as long as it doesn't go too far because at the end of the day if the focus is only on myself then I won't be bothered because I am a gambler as long as they don't go too far and just say things then it's not a problem for me. But sometimes when we live in an area that still upholds manners and culture sometimes when there is someone who gambles it is not only the person who is judged but spreads to other family members which makes me sometimes unable to remain silent about this kind of behavior .

Even though gambling activities are actually quite free for anyone to do without the need for other people's intervention as long as gambling does not harm them or use other people's money which is considered potentially harmful but in the end the stigma and views still cannot be separated from this so this is sometimes a burden for those who do gamble .

There are really just those people who are really that introverts on which they dont really like for someone to have to say against them or would be assuming that they are really that being talked by other people around them and this is why they would really be trying out their best on suppressing on whatever the activities that they are dealing on with specially with gambling on which this one is really that having that negative views and impressions in the community. Just like on what you have said that as long you are able to do the responsibilities on which you must do then this what matter the most or something which is really that important. Dont mind if you are really that having those people around saying about you but its true that its none others business on how the hell you would be making use of your money on any means.
You are the ones who do earn it and you do have the full rights on what you should do from it.

So you are implying people who is single, does not have kids or anyone underage to take care of should not worry about what other people think?
Because one also needs to remember the context matters a lot.
In the forum we have a particularly high percentage of people who post from muslin majority countries and even though they do not have children to feed or rents to pay, it is likely they could still find opposition or trouble when comes to gambling they money they have worked to get in the first place.
There could even be some people living in more liberal countries in the West of the planet who still find some obstacle which do not allow them to gamble as they want.
Once I knew someone who felt guilty about gambling, even though they did not have anyone to take care of and worked to get his gambling budget. Any comments on those situations?

Of course, when you are able to take care of your family responsibilities from month to month, that would not be a problem when you are gambling and it is not anyone's business. It shows that you are matured enough to control yourself and manage the little resources in your possession to live a responsible life. It is when you make gambling your priority and shy away from your family responsibilities, that it will bring insults and disgrace to you, because you have given room to every Dick and Harry to advice you and say nonsense to you.

You're right on that. Adults who seek validation from others on how to lead their lives may want to reevaluate themselves because it shows lack of independence. If they say it as an advice from a place of experience, that will be a different thing from merely sharing an opinion on what they think is right out of ignorance. To such people, I won't give a hoot. What I've come to realize is that no one can please everyone. So, I try to stick to what my conscience tells me is right for me; regardless of what others say about same issue. Moderation is the key word in everything we do.

It's not anyone's business whether you gamble or not, unless you have a family and you have to feed your kids and care about them in many other ways, like buying books for them, smartphones and stuff. First provide them with everything they need and only then you can gamble because it is likely that you will lose money and losing to gambling is not a good excuse for not buying for your kids what they need.

This is very similar to what happened in my country. The society wanted to be an expert in something they absolutely do not understand. Later, bookmakers and other gambling sites began to work very closely with sports and act as sponsors of events and people got used to this phenomenon. Sometimes there are outbreaks of the fight against advertising and stricter control of gambling from society, but most often this does not lead to anything and everything works as before.