I personally don't as long as it doesn't go too far because at the end of the day if the focus is only on myself then I won't be bothered because I am a gambler as long as they don't go too far and just say things then it's not a problem for me. But sometimes when we live in an area that still upholds manners and culture sometimes when there is someone who gambles it is not only the person who is judged but spreads to other family members which makes me sometimes unable to remain silent about this kind of behavior .
Even though gambling activities are actually quite free for anyone to do without the need for other people's intervention as long as gambling does not harm them or use other people's money which is considered potentially harmful but in the end the stigma and views still cannot be separated from this so this is sometimes a burden for those who do gamble .
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It's not anyone's business whether you gamble or not, unless you have a family and you have to feed your kids and care about them in many other ways, like buying books for them, smartphones and stuff. First provide them with everything they need and only then you can gamble because it is likely that you will lose money and losing to gambling is not a good excuse for not buying for your kids what they need.
Of course, when you are able to take care of your family responsibilities from month to month, that would not be a problem when you are gambling and it is not anyone's business. It shows that you are matured enough to control yourself and manage the little resources in your possession to live a responsible life. It is when you make gambling your priority and shy away from your family responsibilities, that it will bring insults and disgrace to you, because you have given room to every Dick and Harry to advice you and say nonsense to you. You are the ones who do earn it and you do have the full rights on what you should do from it.
It's not anyone's business whether you gamble or not, unless you have a family and you have to feed your kids and care about them in many other ways, like buying books for them, smartphones and stuff. First provide them with everything they need and only then you can gamble because it is likely that you will lose money and losing to gambling is not a good excuse for not buying for your kids what they need.
So you are implying people who is single, does not have kids or anyone underage to take care of should not worry about what other people think?
Because one also needs to remember the context matters a lot.
In the forum we have a particularly high percentage of people who post from muslin majority countries and even though they do not have children to feed or rents to pay, it is likely they could still find opposition or trouble when comes to gambling they money they have worked to get in the first place.
There could even be some people living in more liberal countries in the West of the planet who still find some obstacle which do not allow them to gamble as they want.
Once I knew someone who felt guilty about gambling, even though they did not have anyone to take care of and worked to get his gambling budget. Any comments on those situations?
It's not anyone's business whether you gamble or not, unless you have a family and you have to feed your kids and care about them in many other ways, like buying books for them, smartphones and stuff. First provide them with everything they need and only then you can gamble because it is likely that you will lose money and losing to gambling is not a good excuse for not buying for your kids what they need.
Of course, when you are able to take care of your family responsibilities from month to month, that would not be a problem when you are gambling and it is not anyone's business. It shows that you are matured enough to control yourself and manage the little resources in your possession to live a responsible life. It is when you make gambling your priority and shy away from your family responsibilities, that it will bring insults and disgrace to you, because you have given room to every Dick and Harry to advice you and say nonsense to you. 
It's a strange topic to discuss. I am not at all interested in the opinions of outsiders, not only about gambling, but about any aspect of my own life that outsiders undertake to make judgments about. The tendency to gossip and condemn is very common. This is probably the subconscious desire of some people to find flaws in other people in order to justify their own vices. So I don't think you should worry about the opinions of outsiders. But the opinion of your loved ones is a completely different matter. That's what's important.
You're right on that. Adults who seek validation from others on how to lead their lives may want to reevaluate themselves because it shows lack of independence. If they say it as an advice from a place of experience, that will be a different thing from merely sharing an opinion on what they think is right out of ignorance. To such people, I won't give a hoot. What I've come to realize is that no one can please everyone. So, I try to stick to what my conscience tells me is right for me; regardless of what others say about same issue. Moderation is the key word in everything we do. 
It's not anyone's business whether you gamble or not, unless you have a family and you have to feed your kids and care about them in many other ways, like buying books for them, smartphones and stuff. First provide them with everything they need and only then you can gamble because it is likely that you will lose money and losing to gambling is not a good excuse for not buying for your kids what they need.
This reminded me that a few years ago here in my country, when someone got involved in gambling, they were immediately seen as a person addicted to gambling. The saddest thing is that even if the person only played occasionally, they were accused of being addicted and were treated very badly in society. But as the years went by, many physical casinos began to appear in my country and nowadays, anyone who goes to play in physical casinos in my country is well regarded, and is looked at as someone who has money and people no longer treat everyone who gets involved with gambling badly, which is why I don't need to hide the fact that I place sports bets.
This is very similar to what happened in my country. The society wanted to be an expert in something they absolutely do not understand. Later, bookmakers and other gambling sites began to work very closely with sports and act as sponsors of events and people got used to this phenomenon. Sometimes there are outbreaks of the fight against advertising and stricter control of gambling from society, but most often this does not lead to anything and everything works as before. 
I arrive a bit late to this topic, but I would like to share my own experience about it.
hahah we both are too late on this topic because this topic started in January and I am wondering how can i miss out a such a good topic as there are more good points to grab and utilize in our daily lives regarding gambling.Quote
I would love being able to say that I don't give a f*** what others say about me, but it wouldn't be true. It is not that they change my perspective about what is good and what is bad, because I consider myself quite freethinker. But I prefer to be discreet and give no reasons to others to talk about me badly.
When it comes to gambling, when I was younger I used to play in a local casino, not very frequently to be honest, and usually along with friends, but when they stopped going to that place I did it also, in part because of what image could I project in my neighborhood. It wasn't that there was anything wrong with me gambling from time to time, but knowing that some people like to magnify things and distort reality, I wasn't willing to give them reasons to criticize me.
More recently, the rise of online casinos has prevented many gossips stick their noses into the lives of others; although such comfort also comes with dangers, because others can criticize, but also help you if you're in trouble.
In response to this part of your post, I will say that people's behavior sometimes makes it harder to chase our goals, as I follow the way to strictly stand on the things you are doing because people will always degrade you to not chase what you want. I saw little people who supported others in their lives and goals and the more I saw gossip and other things and believed that all their actions do not do anything harm to you until and unless you start paying attention to them. long story short, if you choose to gamble then give your full attention to it and don't listen to the others, this is my advice to those who are suffering from this kind of things. When it comes to gambling, when I was younger I used to play in a local casino, not very frequently to be honest, and usually along with friends, but when they stopped going to that place I did it also, in part because of what image could I project in my neighborhood. It wasn't that there was anything wrong with me gambling from time to time, but knowing that some people like to magnify things and distort reality, I wasn't willing to give them reasons to criticize me.
More recently, the rise of online casinos has prevented many gossips stick their noses into the lives of others; although such comfort also comes with dangers, because others can criticize, but also help you if you're in trouble.
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It's a strange topic to discuss. I am not at all interested in the opinions of outsiders, not only about gambling, but about any aspect of my own life that outsiders undertake to make judgments about. The tendency to gossip and condemn is very common. This is probably the subconscious desire of some people to find flaws in other people in order to justify their own vices. So I don't think you should worry about the opinions of outsiders. But the opinion of your loved ones is a completely different matter. That's what's important.
You are right mate, I am also of the same opinion as you. For a bit, I don't allow the gossip of people to have any impact on my decision or choice of lifestyle as far as I know that what am doing makes me happy and doesn't cause harm to anyone, I go on with it. Sometimes, people gossip and condemn other but still end up doing that same thing that them earlier condemn.
For let's bring the Bible here for a bit, proverbs said that there are at times, ways that seems to us, but the end thereof is destruction.
There are things we sometimes do that makes sense to us somehow, without we knowing that we are actually harming ourself, as well as those around us because, when we harm ourselves, we do not harm ourselves alone, but also our loved ones who look up to us.
A friend of mine gambled until he can no longer afford a good meal for this family without borrowing money, he was advised to stop gambling at least for a while and try to sort out bills, he refused saying that he wasn't doing any wrong, that he will eventually win big money from gambling and settle everyone he was owing, he was later arrested, the wife took the son and moved back to her family, this was a few years back, last year, I learnt she is already married to another man, while the dude who was ones my friend is still going around gambling.
This reminded me that a few years ago here in my country, when someone got involved in gambling, they were immediately seen as a person addicted to gambling. The saddest thing is that even if the person only played occasionally, they were accused of being addicted and were treated very badly in society. But as the years went by, many physical casinos began to appear in my country and nowadays, anyone who goes to play in physical casinos in my country is well regarded, and is looked at as someone who has money and people no longer treat everyone who gets involved with gambling badly, which is why I don't need to hide the fact that I place sports bets.
Gambling is still illegal in our country and no one can directly participate in gambling. People who participate in gambling in our country are looked down upon, especially in our country gambling is one of the most evil acts. Gambling is considered as haram earning so no one wants to socialize with a gambling family member. Moreover, a gambler is compared to the lowest class of people in the society and no one wants to socialize with him as gambling earnings are forbidden according to religious principles. Moreover, the important thing now is that if people participate in physical casino or gambling, of course people can know, but those who participate in gambling online, no one can know, so currently, whether people are gamblers or not, there is no change in the social behavior program. 
On one hand I dont give much attention or other peoples opinion about me gambling would make an effect on my. On the other hand I have realized, that I have never given others opportunity to say something bad about the fact that I gamble or how I spend my money. I dont recall that someone has said that I am doing something wrong with my money, nor I dont recall someone complained or said something about gambling. Even though people have vision that gambling is something bad, I dont recall anyone who surrounds me saying anything negative about my or someone else we are familiar with gambling activity. Long story short, people complain, but complain in general and rarely go personal.
I arrive a bit late to this topic, but I would like to share my own experience about it.
I would love being able to say that I don't give a f*** what others say about me, but it wouldn't be true. It is not that they change my perspective about what is good and what is bad, because I consider myself quite freethinker. But I prefer to be discreet and give no reasons to others to talk about me badly.
When it comes to gambling, when I was younger I used to play in a local casino, not very frequently to be honest, and usually along with friends, but when they stopped going to that place I did it also, in part because of what image could I project in my neighborhood. It wasn't that there was anything wrong with me gambling from time to time, but knowing that some people like to magnify things and distort reality, I wasn't willing to give them reasons to criticize me.
More recently, the rise of online casinos has prevented many gossips stick their noses into the lives of others; although such comfort also comes with dangers, because others can criticize, but also help you if you're in trouble.
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Do you care about what people say about you gambling?
I would love being able to say that I don't give a f*** what others say about me, but it wouldn't be true. It is not that they change my perspective about what is good and what is bad, because I consider myself quite freethinker. But I prefer to be discreet and give no reasons to others to talk about me badly.
When it comes to gambling, when I was younger I used to play in a local casino, not very frequently to be honest, and usually along with friends, but when they stopped going to that place I did it also, in part because of what image could I project in my neighborhood. It wasn't that there was anything wrong with me gambling from time to time, but knowing that some people like to magnify things and distort reality, I wasn't willing to give them reasons to criticize me.
More recently, the rise of online casinos has prevented many gossips stick their noses into the lives of others; although such comfort also comes with dangers, because others can criticize, but also help you if you're in trouble.
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It's a strange topic to discuss. I am not at all interested in the opinions of outsiders, not only about gambling, but about any aspect of my own life that outsiders undertake to make judgments about. The tendency to gossip and condemn is very common. This is probably the subconscious desire of some people to find flaws in other people in order to justify their own vices. So I don't think you should worry about the opinions of outsiders. But the opinion of your loved ones is a completely different matter. That's what's important.
You are right mate, I am also of the same opinion as you. For a bit, I don't allow the gossip of people to have any impact on my decision or choice of lifestyle as far as I know that what am doing makes me happy and doesn't cause harm to anyone, I go on with it. Sometimes, people gossip and condemn other but still end up doing that same thing that them earlier condemn.
This reminded me that a few years ago here in my country, when someone got involved in gambling, they were immediately seen as a person addicted to gambling. The saddest thing is that even if the person only played occasionally, they were accused of being addicted and were treated very badly in society. But as the years went by, many physical casinos began to appear in my country and nowadays, anyone who goes to play in physical casinos in my country is well regarded, and is looked at as someone who has money and people no longer treat everyone who gets involved with gambling badly, which is why I don't need to hide the fact that I place sports bets.
In as much every man to himself thus I don't care what people would say after knowing that I am into gambling, I remembered my financial trying times when nobody came to help me, thereafter having some relief through gambling then someone would now come and discourage me from gambling thus I don't feel sad afterall most of my colleagues are into soccer gambling so even if an outsider tried to discourage me I knew gambling colleagues would definitely rebuke him, however I only gamble with the amount of money I can afford to lose, so I wouldn't get offended by whosoever peeps through my gambling activities.
Why should anyone care about the activities we do? Every day we wake up people go on different activities, some go to work, some for sports and so many other things. At the end of the day, it is our responsibility to spend and provide for ourselves. No one cares about our financial level, they only see you and know if you are rich, middle class, or poor. But they cant care about the source of the money or how we strive to make it. So why should anyone care?If I become so rich today no one wants to care how I got the money they just want to benefit from it. My advice is that we should do what we do to make a living, life is a personal race. People will only act nice or speak good about someone when they are making progress and benefiting from the person. Let us be focused on our gambling and any other activities. It's no one's business.
I don't give a damn about what they say..really.
That's funny right! You don't give a damn but what about giving a damn about what your family or wife(that's if you have one) says about your gambling activities when they actually know about your gambling activities. There are gamblers that have faced multiple issues with their families because they frown against gambling activities which could have been a good means of making money while doing our regular jobs. Gambling is meant to hidden from people around us that might have a wrong ideology about it. We ought to keep some certain activities away from people that might react to it and see us as being in the wrong place or indulge in unethical activities. 
Apart from my parents, family and close people, I don't care what others say about my gambling activities so far, I am not an active gambler and live in an environment that is indeed very anti-gambling, so indeed I must to keep it a secret that should not be known by many other people except a few close friends, but so far my friends don't really care about my gambling activities, remembering that they are actually more active gamblers than for me 
, so far I only made gambling as an entertainment during work holidays and also bet just to add to the sensation when watching football and never make that a requirement.
I also don't want to tell my close relatives and friends that I play. And although I make small bets and control myself from the furious excitement, unnecessary talk from my relatives about me can worsen the situation. Someone who has never played will never understand that he plays regularly, that's why I don't want meaningless conversations with my relatives about this, and this will be accompanied by stress for me and them., so far I only made gambling as an entertainment during work holidays and also bet just to add to the sensation when watching football and never make that a requirement.Still, it is better for those who do not know how to control themselves to know about the player, because if he is not at least minimally restrained from playing, this will bring big problems with debts to the whole family.
Apart from my parents, family and close people, I don't care what others say about my gambling activities so far, I am not an active gambler and live in an environment that is indeed very anti-gambling, so indeed I must to keep it a secret that should not be known by many other people except a few close friends, but so far my friends don't really care about my gambling activities, remembering that they are actually more active gamblers than for me , so far I only made gambling as an entertainment during work holidays and also bet just to add to the sensation when watching football and never make that a requirement.
It would be better to talk to a few people around us about the gambling we do. It's not a problem if we don't gamble very actively or only a few times a week. But when people around us don't like gambling and have a negative view of gambling, of course, it can ruin the atmosphere when we are with them. But if there are indeed some people around us who comment on our gambling activities, then we don't need to take it seriously. Respond casually and without emotion. Sometimes their intentions are also good for us. , so far I only made gambling as an entertainment during work holidays and also bet just to add to the sensation when watching football and never make that a requirement.
Greetings everyone and happy new year all!
Okay, today I was actually out for a little business and it happens that I almost spent all my time wasted without me even having a smooth deal, but along the line I have few games that I have placed a bet and was wanting to view my games from my phone since gambling is now mobile, what I meant by mobile is that you can access your account at any place provided that you have an internet connectivity you will login to monitor your matches.
So when I logged in, someone close to me easily peep from my left hand side and noticed that I just opened my account monitoring my games, at this point what he said is "ahh you don join dem"? Meaning you have also belong to the groups of people that gambles?
On a lighter note, I just smile and asked him if there is anything wrong while gambling or while monitoring my games and he said nothing but just that few people he knew that are gambling almost turned useless.
This now triggered me to come ask here whether you cares about what people says or sees you as when gambling, I know there are people who don't know you from time or who doesn't believe that you are a gambler and if it happens that you came across such people and their reaction towards you goes other way round would you care about it or you just totally ignore them?
Let's discuss amicably
Apart from my parents, family and close people, I don't care what others say about my gambling activities so far, I am not an active gambler and live in an environment that is indeed very anti-gambling, so indeed I must to keep it a secret that should not be known by many other people except a few close friends, but so far my friends don't really care about my gambling activities, remembering that they are actually more active gamblers than for me Okay, today I was actually out for a little business and it happens that I almost spent all my time wasted without me even having a smooth deal, but along the line I have few games that I have placed a bet and was wanting to view my games from my phone since gambling is now mobile, what I meant by mobile is that you can access your account at any place provided that you have an internet connectivity you will login to monitor your matches.
So when I logged in, someone close to me easily peep from my left hand side and noticed that I just opened my account monitoring my games, at this point what he said is "ahh you don join dem"? Meaning you have also belong to the groups of people that gambles?
On a lighter note, I just smile and asked him if there is anything wrong while gambling or while monitoring my games and he said nothing but just that few people he knew that are gambling almost turned useless.
This now triggered me to come ask here whether you cares about what people says or sees you as when gambling, I know there are people who don't know you from time or who doesn't believe that you are a gambler and if it happens that you came across such people and their reaction towards you goes other way round would you care about it or you just totally ignore them?
Let's discuss amicably
, so far I only made gambling as an entertainment during work holidays and also bet just to add to the sensation when watching football and never make that a requirement.
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This is why if you are into gambling and you don't want your family to worry about you, better keep it to yourself but contain your gambling habits. If you are just using your spare money and not resorting to borrowing from anyone else, you won't have any problem. And that means, if you can control yourself, other people won't know your gambling activities.But we also have to admit that everyone mindset is different, you and we here may be able to accept the fact that gambling is fun place and activity but for people out there who cannot really know and judge gambling well will always assume that gambling is bad activity and only brings negative impacts to someone who does it.
This is social life where there must be those who think badly of certain form of activity but there are also those who consider it normal like various activities in general.
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