Personally, I would not want my gambling to be a subject of discussion for anyone. You know that there is an ambiguous attitude towards gambling in society. This is due to the fact that the industry has such unpleasant phenomena as gambling addiction and the loss of money that is important for survival. Many people do not even know the expression "responsible gambling". For some, the entire gambling industry is dirty and immoral. Partly, the participants in this industry themselves have unwittingly formed such an attitude towards themselves. But one way or another, a person who wants to have fun and devote his free time to gambling hardly needs to tell everyone about this.
the assumption that gambling is a bad thing to do in my opinion this view occurs because gambling may be prohibited in their country or by their religion, besides that they may have seen many cases that have occurred about the destruction of someone's life because they are addicted to gambling, but if you look further, the destruction of someone who gambles is because of their own actions which are indeed unreasonable, while with the casino itself I do not see any coercion that they do to their visitors. Unlike those who gamble to fill their free time or for fun, of course people like this can control their behavior by being careful not to gamble excessively, and this is what is right and must be done because those who experience the destruction of their lives are people who think that they can get victory in gambling or even think they can achieve wealth by gambling, this is what makes many people addicted. 
Topic: Do you care about what people say about you gambling? - page 7. (Read 4689 times)
Personally, I would not want my gambling to be a subject of discussion for anyone. You know that there is an ambiguous attitude towards gambling in society. This is due to the fact that the industry has such unpleasant phenomena as gambling addiction and the loss of money that is important for survival. Many people do not even know the expression "responsible gambling". For some, the entire gambling industry is dirty and immoral. Partly, the participants in this industry themselves have unwittingly formed such an attitude towards themselves. But one way or another, a person who wants to have fun and devote his free time to gambling hardly needs to tell everyone about this.
I try to keep my gambling secret. None of my friends or relatives know that I gamble. My close friends only know about my gambling. Especially those who are involved in gambling. Also, I don't tell any of my colleagues about gambling because I think that if something like this is known at work, it can have a big negative impact on my career. Maybe some people are supporting me now but when a bad moment comes everyone will scold me.
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Hahaha, it's better you just keep it a secret from anyone because more people think negatively about gambling, especially if you are an active gambling player. -snip-
You work in an office and of course the quality of your work will be judged by gambling if everyone in your office knows, including your boss.
You will be blamed when your target is not reached and less than optimal because the exact cause is gambling.
I myself did not even tell anyone, even close friends or even my wife.
Hiding it is certainly better if the environment and the people around you look unsupportive.
After all, the tone certainly doesn't require the acknowledgment that you're a gambling player
on what you should gonna do with your money or whatever the activity or things that you are dealing into.There are those individuals who are really that highly reactive into someones
words but there are ones who are really that just dont care on what others been saying as long they would really be that happy on what they are doing on which i could say that this is a must thing
rather than on making yourself that being too reactive on what others been saying about you. Just like on what i have said that its none others business on whatever you gonna do as long
you arent that affecting other people and doesnt really affect any other priorities that you do have in life.
I myself did not even tell anyone, even close friends or even my wife.
I am curious what if your wife finds out?Hiding it is certainly better if the environment and the people around you look unsupportive.
After all, the tone certainly doesn't require the acknowledgment that you're a gambling player
That's much better. Gambling still has a taboo with so many culture and families and that's why it's best to hide it.After all, the tone certainly doesn't require the acknowledgment that you're a gambling player
I think many still hides their gambling activities but even with that, we don't care what they tell to us.
I try to keep my gambling secret. None of my friends or relatives know that I gamble. My close friends only know about my gambling. Especially those who are involved in gambling. Also, I don't tell any of my colleagues about gambling because I think that if something like this is known at work, it can have a big negative impact on my career. Maybe some people are supporting me now but when a bad moment comes everyone will scold me.
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Hahaha, it's better you just keep it a secret from anyone because more people think negatively about gambling, especially if you are an active gambling player. -snip-
You work in an office and of course the quality of your work will be judged by gambling if everyone in your office knows, including your boss.
You will be blamed when your target is not reached and less than optimal because the exact cause is gambling.
I myself did not even tell anyone, even close friends or even my wife.
Hiding it is certainly better if the environment and the people around you look unsupportive.
After all, the tone certainly doesn't require the acknowledgment that you're a gambling player
I almost agreed with everything you said but then something also made sense when we think about what others would say. Our kids. It will reflect on them when others do see and witness what a father is doing, gambling, or other bad habits. It's not just about us as a single person anymore because we made a family and that means as much as possible you keep it all clean so that they won't be haunted by your past in the future.
But I will have to agree with everything you said back when I was single. I don't really care much about what other people will say about me because I am old enough to make a decision by myself. It makes a difference when one becomes married and a father.
But I will have to agree with everything you said back when I was single. I don't really care much about what other people will say about me because I am old enough to make a decision by myself. It makes a difference when one becomes married and a father.
Yup, people who say they don't care what others think probably don't have kids. It's not about them judging me, it's about me acting as example, and as their father, probably as someone they want to be someday. I have also have quitted smoking and drinking too much, just like i won't gamble in front of them.
Only way to gamble in front of smaller kids would be if i lost, and then i would explain the probability to them so that they understood. No one really explained to me how low the probability to win constantly is, and how addiction starts, so it took me ages to understand and recognize what gambling addiction is, and why i am vulnerable to it. I don't want others find out how that happens hard way.
As far as I have experienced, when I check my bets and there are friends who know my gambling activities ,in fact they will only be curious about the results of the bets. Or maybe, another case they just compare with the results of the bets they have. But, if there are people who don't bet and then see me checking my bets, then they just keep quiet and don't make any comments. So yes, I personally have never been in the same position as you but yes, if I were in your position like that, then maybe I would also just smile or maybe just ignore it. Because anyway, as long as I bet also that I never harm others or never involve others. Therefore, I prefer betting that is done from my own efforts, and not buying other people's predictions or strategies to bet.
Never had much thought about it. Gambling to some degree is accepted as a normal male behaviour here but my friends and family have not much idea to what extent I gamble. I am willing to keep it a secret as it might hurt them or it might make me answer questions and bring in uncomfortable circumstances. It's not that they'll make me leave gambling or even I'd obey what they say as I'm a financially independent person myself but I don't want to be known as a gambler. So, I do care even though my gambling wins or loss don't have any significant effect on others. I'd still like to keep this side of my life secret.
I have exactly the same situation, only close friends and colleagues know. I don’t talk about it with my relatives and have never discussed it with them because they are quite conservative and rarely accept anything new, especially something that they don’t want to understand and delve into the essence of gambling and its principles. They are convinced that it is bad in any form and I respect their position and do not impose mine and do not plan to convince them otherwise.I will respect my decision though. I don't like hearing anything negative about what I like or where I like. I will never share gambling with my family or relatives because I know if any of them know they will feel the need to give me some kind of knowledge that I don't like. I try to keep myself under control and gambling so that I don't get into any major problems in the long run.
There is no need for me to worry over other people talking about my gambling habit because if I win they will still talk good about me so there talking have nothing to do with me. It is better for me to focus on my games and leave them. In life, people must talk about you whether good or bad. In some families they don't like gambling and those families are always from the core Christian Families. But some families have no problem with their sons gambling. If the son does not bring problem to the family then they don't have problem.
When I was growing up, gambling in my community was an unethical behavior but recently gambling is becoming a normal thing everywhere in the country.
When I was growing up, gambling in my community was an unethical behavior but recently gambling is becoming a normal thing everywhere in the country.
There are some gamblers who are indifferent to family and they borrow money and sell their land to gamble only but they are harmful to any family. And when people talk about them, we must understand that people are saying the right thing. I only know that I gamble because I don't want people to say anything negative about me. Why should I be bad in the eyes of others where the money is mine and the risk of money is my own?.
Well, one needs to be able to tell the difference between stigma and people who just worries about us and want to keep us safe from addiction. If you are a gambler and you have a very small wager compared to your salary, those who warn about gambling are being led solely by stigma against you and what you choose to do with your money. On the other hand, when there is damage being done by yourself, against yourself it is not a matter of stigma anymore, but rather people who cares about what they see and do not want you to keep going down such a path.
In countries where Islam is the state religion or where people who are muslin are a majority, it is fairly difficult to know when someone is stigma-driven or they are opening their heart to one.
Never had much thought about it. Gambling to some degree is accepted as a normal male behaviour here but my friends and family have not much idea to what extent I gamble. I am willing to keep it a secret as it might hurt them or it might make me answer questions and bring in uncomfortable circumstances. It's not that they'll make me leave gambling or even I'd obey what they say as I'm a financially independent person myself but I don't want to be known as a gambler. So, I do care even though my gambling wins or loss don't have any significant effect on others. I'd still like to keep this side of my life secret.
Even though we choose not to care about what people are saying about our gambling activities, it is very important for you to work on yourself and make sure that you don't do it too frequently so that people will not see you as an irresponsible gambler. Gambling is meant to be minimized not everyday activities. We can make money from gambling if we keep working on any strategy we are using to make sure that we don't do it too frequently. We need to care about the way we are gambling so people around and even our family members will not noticed that we are gamblers. It is better we protect our gambling activities than to keep betting without caring about our personalities in the society.
However the person needs to know you to a point because you just can't see someone gambling with their phone and assume that they are a gambling addict or they do it every day.
And then, if this is somebody I know cares about me and I care about too, then I will listen to what they have to say. It will not bother me when I know I'm not gambling responsibly. All I will do is I will check myself, be more uptight with myself, strict with my betting funds, the hours I use to play, days I play, and stuff like that. Just regulate myself for responsible gambling.
Never had much thought about it. Gambling to some degree is accepted as a normal male behaviour here but my friends and family have not much idea to what extent I gamble. I am willing to keep it a secret as it might hurt them or it might make me answer questions and bring in uncomfortable circumstances. It's not that they'll make me leave gambling or even I'd obey what they say as I'm a financially independent person myself but I don't want to be known as a gambler. So, I do care even though my gambling wins or loss don't have any significant effect on others. I'd still like to keep this side of my life secret.
Even though we choose not to care about what people are saying about our gambling activities, it is very important for you to work on yourself and make sure that you don't do it too frequently so that people will not see you as an irresponsible gambler. Gambling is meant to be minimized not everyday activities. We can make money from gambling if we keep working on any strategy we are using to make sure that we don't do it too frequently. We need to care about the way we are gambling so people around and even our family members will not noticed that we are gamblers. It is better we protect our gambling activities than to keep betting without caring about our personalities in the society.
There is some truth in what you said, where we ourselves are responsible for our families, not other people, but at least if there is constructive criticism, it is not wrong for us to listen to it, for matters of implementing it, that is a secondary matter in my opinion, at least we respect the person we are talking to as long as he does not corner us at the lowest point in a situation
But if we have been able to apply good approach and are able to gamble wisely but there are still other people who talk or think badly about the gambling activities we do, can it be called constructive criticism, we have been able to get past all that and criticism is not needed here.In reality, everything that will be talked about is about bad things and we cannot just consider all of that as something easy to accept, it is better not to care and not to listen.
So the conclusion is that it is a fairly reasonable criticism considering how society views gambling, and I think as long as we gamble with our own money without harming others then it should not be a problem, so it is better as you said that which is just let it be or do not care too much about such criticism, but if the criticism does contain good and good advice for your own interests then consider it.
Respecting each other is something we must do, that's why I say to accept other people's words if they are indeed directed at advice, because advice, even though it doesn't have a big influence, at least there is good intention from other people that is shown to us, so it is not natural for us to deny the advice.
Totally agree with you, yes, our fellow friends must respect each other or from the opinions of people around us about the gambling that we do at least by listening to advice from others it prevents the emergence of problems, namely disputes between kinship relationships. It is also true that advice will not necessarily have a good impact on our lives, but with this advice we can conclude that there are still people who care by giving attention in the form of advice and suggestions to us in gambling so as not to bring problems in the future and consider advice from others something good so that we can control ourselves in playing gambling that we are doing.
In general, why do people care so much about other opinion? I mean, should I be shy or ashamed that I gamble? As a grown up person, why would «what others think about me» should have any value? As it is legal, I fit in age category to be able to gamble, I dont make any harm, why I should bother what others say? Even if they say bad things about me, this doubtfully going to affect me. I only hear parents saying to their kids «behave, or people will think that you are unmannered». That is probably one of rarest moments when a person should pay attention and make conclusion to what people say. But we are not kids anymore.
I almost agreed with everything you said but then something also made sense when we think about what others would say. Our kids. It will reflect on them when others do see and witness what a father is doing, gambling, or other bad habits. It's not just about us as a single person anymore because we made a family and that means as much as possible you keep it all clean so that they won't be haunted by your past in the future. But I will have to agree with everything you said back when I was single. I don't really care much about what other people will say about me because I am old enough to make a decision by myself. It makes a difference when one becomes married and a father.
If people ask me to quit gambling for good then I certainly respect their gambling comments. People think of gambling differently depending on the place. In those countries where gambling is not allowed but gamblers cannot gamble openly or if someone gambles and the people of that area know about it then the gambler is looked down upon. There are some gamblers who are indifferent to family and they borrow money and sell their land to gamble only but they are harmful to any family. And when people talk about them, we must understand that people are saying the right thing. I only know that I gamble because I don't want people to say anything negative about me. Why should I be bad in the eyes of others where the money is mine and the risk of money is my own? But those who are excessively addicted to gambling and those who have lost everything due to gambling must return to the right path.
There is some truth in what you said, where we ourselves are responsible for our families, not other people, but at least if there is constructive criticism, it is not wrong for us to listen to it, for matters of implementing it, that is a secondary matter in my opinion, at least we respect the person we are talking to as long as he does not corner us at the lowest point in a situation
But if we have been able to apply good approach and are able to gamble wisely but there are still other people who talk or think badly about the gambling activities we do, can it be called constructive criticism, we have been able to get past all that and criticism is not needed here.In reality, everything that will be talked about is about bad things and we cannot just consider all of that as something easy to accept, it is better not to care and not to listen.
Never had much thought about it. Gambling to some degree is accepted as a normal male behaviour here but my friends and family have not much idea to what extent I gamble. I am willing to keep it a secret as it might hurt them or it might make me answer questions and bring in uncomfortable circumstances. It's not that they'll make me leave gambling or even I'd obey what they say as I'm a financially independent person myself but I don't want to be known as a gambler. So, I do care even though my gambling wins or loss don't have any significant effect on others. I'd still like to keep this side of my life secret.
It usually depends on the area you live in and how people think about gambling. If the majority of the people gamble and gambling is a popular activity and it is legal too, then you won't see people discouraging you from gambling. But if you are in a place where gambling is not considered good, and if more people know that you are gambling they may think you are wrong or they may try to stop you or think that you are involved in bad habits.
Once there was a person who i know used to say bad words to the people who gamble but later I came to know he is a gambler himself. How strange
It's not anyone's business whether you gamble or not, unless you have a family and you have to feed your kids and care about them in many other ways, like buying books for them, smartphones and stuff. First provide them with everything they need and only then you can gamble because it is likely that you will lose money and losing to gambling is not a good excuse for not buying for your kids what they need.
There is some truth in what you said, where we ourselves are responsible for our families, not other people, but at least if there is constructive criticism, it is not wrong for us to listen to it, for matters of implementing it, that is a secondary matter in my opinion, at least we respect the person we are talking to as long as he does not corner us at the lowest point in a situation
Basically I gamble using my own money and also with the disciplinary limits that have been set, it makes me fine even though I like to gamble. Occasionally I often get advice, of course if what other people say about the gambling we do leads to advice, then it is better for us to accept it well and thank them for reminding us to stay in good self-control. However, if someone criticizes my gambling activities, I don't listen because I think the gambling I do does not cause other people to suffer losses.
Respecting each other is something we must do, that's why I say to accept other people's words if they are indeed directed at advice, because advice, even though it doesn't have a big influence, at least there is good intention from other people that is shown to us, so it is not natural for us to deny the advice.
Respecting each other is something we must do, that's why I say to accept other people's words if they are indeed directed at advice, because advice, even though it doesn't have a big influence, at least there is good intention from other people that is shown to us, so it is not natural for us to deny the advice.
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