Topic: Do you care about what people say about you gambling? - page 9. (Read 4700 times)

I arrive a bit late to this topic, but I would like to share my own experience about it.

I would love being able to say that I don't give a f*** what others say about me, but it wouldn't be true. It is not that they change my perspective about what is good and what is bad, because I consider myself quite freethinker. But I prefer to be discreet and give no reasons to others to talk about me badly.
When it comes to gambling, when I was younger I used to play in a local casino, not very frequently to be honest, and usually along with friends, but when they stopped going to that place I did it also, in part because of what image could I project in my neighborhood. It wasn't that there was anything wrong with me gambling from time to time, but knowing that some people like to magnify things and distort reality, I wasn't willing to give them reasons to criticize me.
More recently, the rise of online casinos has prevented many gossips stick their noses into the lives of others; although such comfort also comes with dangers, because others can criticize, but also help you if you're in trouble.

You are right mate, I am also of the same opinion as you. For a bit, I don't allow the  gossip of people to have any impact on my decision or choice of lifestyle as far as I know that what am doing makes me happy and doesn't cause harm to anyone, I go on with it. Sometimes, people gossip and condemn other but still end up doing that same thing that them earlier condemn.

This reminded me that a few years ago here in my country, when someone got involved in gambling, they were immediately seen as a person addicted to gambling. The saddest thing is that even if the person only played occasionally, they were accused of being addicted and were treated very badly in society. But as the years went by, many physical casinos began to appear in my country and nowadays, anyone who goes to play in physical casinos in my country is well regarded, and is looked at as someone who has money and people no longer treat everyone who gets involved with gambling badly, which is why I don't need to hide the fact that I place sports bets.

Do you care about what people say about you gambling?

It's a strange topic to discuss. I am not at all interested in the opinions of outsiders, not only about gambling, but about any aspect of my own life that outsiders undertake to make judgments about. The tendency to gossip and condemn is very common. This is probably the subconscious desire of some people to find flaws in other people in order to justify their own vices. So I don't think you should worry about the opinions of outsiders. But the opinion of your loved ones is a completely different matter. That's what's important.

In as much every man to himself thus I don't care what people would say after knowing that I am into gambling, I remembered my financial trying times when nobody came to help me, thereafter having some relief through gambling then someone would now come and discourage me from gambling thus I don't feel sad afterall most of my colleagues are into soccer gambling so even if an outsider tried to discourage me I knew gambling colleagues would definitely rebuke him, however I only gamble with the amount of money I can afford to lose, so I wouldn't get  offended by whosoever peeps through my gambling activities.

I don't give a damn about what they say..really.

Apart from my parents, family and close people, I don't care what others say about my gambling activities so far, I am not an active gambler and live in an environment that is indeed very anti-gambling, so indeed I must to keep it a secret that should not be known by many other people except a few close friends, but so far my friends don't really care about my gambling activities, remembering that they are actually more active gamblers than for me , so far I only made gambling as an entertainment during work holidays and also bet just to add to the sensation when watching football and never make that a requirement.

Apart from my parents, family and close people, I don't care what others say about my gambling activities so far, I am not an active gambler and live in an environment that is indeed very anti-gambling, so indeed I must to keep it a secret that should not be known by many other people except a few close friends, but so far my friends don't really care about my gambling activities, remembering that they are actually more active gamblers than for me , so far I only made gambling as an entertainment during work holidays and also bet just to add to the sensation when watching football and never make that a requirement.

Greetings everyone and happy new year all!

Okay, today I was actually out for a little business and it happens that I almost spent all my time wasted without me even having a smooth deal, but along the line I have few games that I have placed a bet and was wanting to view my games from my phone since gambling is now mobile, what I meant by mobile is that you can access your account at any place provided that you have an internet connectivity you will login to monitor your matches.

So when I logged in, someone close to me easily peep from my left hand side and noticed that I just opened my account monitoring my games, at this point what he said is "ahh you don join dem"? Meaning you have also belong to the groups of people that gambles?

On a lighter note, I just smile and asked him if there is anything wrong while gambling or while monitoring my games and he said nothing but just that few people he knew that are gambling almost turned useless.

This now triggered me to come ask here whether you cares about what people says or sees you as when gambling, I know there are people who don't know you from time or who doesn't believe that you are a gambler and if it happens that you came across such people and their reaction towards you goes other way round would you care about it or you just totally ignore them?

Let's discuss amicably

Gambling is not bad I wonder where most people get this impression probably due to abusive gamblers, what’s more important about humans we should always be honest to ourself first. If anyone finds out the fact remains gambling is voluntary so I actually don’t care what people think or say, gamble right with the available amount is more important. People who talk bad against gambling it’s obvious they had bad experience with close friend or relative for example, I read a topic about an addictive gambler who used the money set aside for something important to gamble so in this situation I believe everyone around him will be disappointed.

Yep, especially in corporate jobs, never show your real character because they're very strict with attitude. In corporate jobs you must act like someone a good person, because if they know you're a gamble or doing something illegal, you're high likely get kicked out despite you're the best employee.

If we're in a group that hate against gambling, we also need to act like the same in front of them, but after we leave from that group, we can back to our real personality.

It is better to have less interactions with people. Some people say some stuff just to manipulate other people and that’s a very common thing nowadays. Advertisers do that all the time and now other people also do that because they noticed it is damn easy to manipulate people. So when I listen to a person, sometimes I can’t really guess his real intentions. When that’s the case, it is better to ignore whatever that person is saying. If you don’t listen, you can’t get manipulated. Sometimes not being social pays.

I have seen people getting manipulated by their family members too btw. They are not always the angels :/

Well, this will come back to each of us. I am the same, I gamble but I don't gamble openly and let everyone know about my gambling activities, especially my parents. Why? Because I'm afraid they will be overly worried that I can't control myself from gambling activities. I also have several different environments, so I will adapt to that environment. I mean when the environment is people who also like to gamble, I will be open about my gambling, but when my other environment is people who don't gamble, then I won't be open about gambling. My two cents, adaptation like this is also important, because we have to be able to adapt to the existing environment.

I grew up in an environment where most of the disciplined older people are against the idea of gambling and because of my respect to these older, I do hide my gambling activities from their sight or knowledge not because they'll beat me if the learn about it but because I don't want them to know about it. I know young people of my age who also don't care what these older people will say about their decisions to gamble publicly but to me, I feel otherwise. However, apart from these disciplined older people, I don't care what every other person says about my gambling engagements. 

Gambling is not bad I wonder where most people get this impression probably due to abusive gamblers, what’s more important about humans we should always be honest to ourself first. If anyone finds out the fact remains gambling is voluntary so I actually don’t care what people think or say, gamble right with the available amount is more important. People who talk bad against gambling it’s obvious they had bad experience with close friend or relative for example, I read a topic about an addictive gambler who used the money set aside for something important to gamble so in this situation I believe everyone around him will be disappointed.

This is why if you are into gambling and you don't want your family to worry about you, better keep it to yourself but contain your gambling habits. If you are just using your spare money and not resorting to borrowing from anyone else, you won't have any problem. And that means, if you can control yourself, other people won't know your gambling activities.