Does it looks responsible as woman telling husband you gamble? - page 13.

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Quote from: SmartGold01 on January 10, 2024, 03:41:14 AM

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Don't hide things from your hundred or loves ones, something as serious as gambling need to be told to your husband so he doesn't get angry when he finds out that you have been gambling with money that could have used for other things in the house. Regardless of it being your money that you're using to gamble and not the family money, you still have to tell him so it doesn't spoil your marriage. Gambling has spoiled alot of families, If you love him tell him on time.

If he finds out he'll think you're hiding other things from him and he'll never see you the same again to trust you so don't hide anything from your husband. If you're scared that he'll ask you to stop gambling, take your history of gambling to him so he can see that you're not just losing money but making some profits while you enjoy yourself and also make him to know that gambling won't interfere between your duties as a wife.

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Quote from: madnessteat on January 12, 2024, 08:14:34 AM

Quote from: SmartGold01 on January 10, 2024, 03:41:14 AM

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I am not quite sure why you are hiding this information from your husband if you are a responsible gambler. I think that your husband should know that you like to gamble. A strong relationship can exist for a long time only on the full trust of spouses. Imagine how his trust in you will decrease if he accidentally finds out about it. There is nothing worse when you find out that your spouse is doing something secretly from you. Think about it and make the right decision.

Perhaps she doesn't feel comfortable telling her husband that she's a responsible gambler. But her husband should know about her gambling activities so that there are no secrets between them. We don't know what will happen if her husband doesn't find out about her gambling activities. Perhaps his trust will immediately decrease, and what's worse is that her husband could leave her because he has been dishonest. By telling her secrets about her gambling activities, at least it can let her husband know and perhaps she can stop gambling with her husband's help. Hopefully, she can make the right decision by telling her husband about his gambling activities.

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Quote from: madnessteat on January 12, 2024, 08:14:34 AM

Quote from: SmartGold01 on January 10, 2024, 03:41:14 AM

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I am not quite sure why you are hiding this information from your husband if you are a responsible gambler. I think that your husband should know that you like to gamble. A strong relationship can exist for a long time only on the full trust of spouses. Imagine how his trust in you will decrease if he accidentally finds out about it. There is nothing worse when you find out that your spouse is doing something secretly from you. Think about it and make the right decision.

It is true, I agree with you, if indeed she gambles by being responsible for everything can control everything well including with her finances she has nothing wrong with telling her husband about her gambling habits, because with her telling her husband of course her husband can give a clear comment her husband will give advice or what is the goal for her own good as well as her own family relationship, because gambling is related to money and families can be destroyed because of unstable finances.

also indeed family relationships will be good if there is a sense of trust in each other, and by being open without hiding anything one of them, of course I also if I don't know my partner likes to do things secretly and he tells me I will talk about it, if it can't be eliminated from his habits, then find a way so that it doesn't have a bad impact on the relationship that is being carried out. because as you said, we have to think about it well by considering everything well so as not to take the wrong step.

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Quote from: aioc on January 12, 2024, 07:56:16 AM

Quote from: SmartGold01 on January 10, 2024, 03:41:14 AM

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

I just think that you're enjoying gambling and that you forget your obligation to your husband, your loyalty and your obligation should be with your husband, it's dishonesty if you are doing something that your husband does not know.
You will be hurt also if your husband is dishonest with you husband and wife should share everything even small things and gambling is not a small thing, it will cause a big misunderstanding if he finds this out through other people, so be the first to tell him about this to avoid bad consequences.

I agree that you need to share even the smallest things with each other, because it is important, because there are almost no such people to whom you can say this. Many will not understand, even friends may stop picking up the phone after this when they see that you are calling them. In general, concealment can cause the onset of mistrust, and this gives rise to other negative feelings. And as mentioned above, the most unpleasant thing for me personally was if I learned such things from a friend and not my girlfriend. It looks like everyone knows but me, I don’t know what could be worse. I know real stories where something similar happened and they were just about gambling.

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Quote from: SmartGold01 on January 10, 2024, 03:41:14 AM

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

You have a bright knowledge about gambling before you even started betting and this made you far
from becoming addicted so why not tell your husband ? how long have you been married ? because I may understand
if you are newly wed but if being together for years now ? then I see no problem for him understanding you.

and besides you are in crypto world , enjoying signature campaign and as we knew most of the campaign
now requires gambling posting so how could you communicate in gambling section when you don't understand what is
gambling and how being gambler is?

just continue with limited time and funds in gambling , and tell your husband what he needs to know.

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Quote from: suzanne5223 on January 11, 2024, 09:33:48 AM

I understand what you are trying to say and yes there shouldn't be anything secret between her and their husband which is the reason why I said she knows her husband more than us and his level of understanding will determine her decision.
Having said that, let's be honest with ourselves. Is there a relationship that didn't have something one side hid from his/her partner? I'm not talking about something that involves cheat or disrespect.
Some things are hidden from partners due to the respect, and love we have for the person.

I agree about on having that secrets which arent supposed to be shared and not really just that means that you dont respect your partner but rather it is really just that showing that you are really that mindful about on the possible effects that it could give once it would really be known. This is why there are really indeed things in life on which it is really that better that you should really be keeping it as a secret forever on which it would really be just that a normal approach. I agree into those points somehow that when it comes to things like this one on where something it is really that totally against with your husband likings then it would really be just that right and something that worth for it to be told into him because it would really be that creating a potential conflict if things been known.

Just like on what everybody is saying that we do know on what are the risks of gambling that could give, even if we do say that you are really having that good control but when
things becomes a hobby then it would really be that turning out to be something that will really be a default activity and knowing gambling where you would really be gonna need to spend
and this is something that you would really need to look up.

I agree with what you said. However, when gambling turns into a hobby it shouldn't be considered gambling anymore cause that's abusive because gambling is not meant to be a hobby but a game of chance that should be considered participating sometimes that's why casino always advises their user to gamble responsibly.
If a woman or man gambles as a hobby then he/she needs help and it's better to inform the partner about it.

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Quote from: SmartGold01 on January 10, 2024, 03:41:14 AM

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I am not quite sure why you are hiding this information from your husband if you are a responsible gambler. I think that your husband should know that you like to gamble. A strong relationship can exist for a long time only on the full trust of spouses. Imagine how his trust in you will decrease if he accidentally finds out about it. There is nothing worse when you find out that your spouse is doing something secretly from you. Think about it and make the right decision.

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Quote from: aioc on January 12, 2024, 07:56:16 AM

Quote from: SmartGold01 on January 10, 2024, 03:41:14 AM

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

I just think that you're enjoying gambling and that you forget your obligation to your husband, your loyalty and your obligation should be with your husband, it's dishonesty if you are doing something that your husband does not know.
You will be hurt also if your husband is dishonest with you husband and wife should share everything even small things and gambling is not a small thing, it will cause a big misunderstanding if he finds this out through other people, so be the first to tell him about this to avoid bad consequences.

I don't think she intentionally doesn't want to tell his husband, maybe she was just enjoying but at some point, maybe she feels guilty and that's why he ask the advise of the majority of members here who might have been in the same situation before.

And even if we haven't experience the same, I think the best advise that we can give is to really tell it right away to his husband. And then explain everything and I have a feeling that being his better half, he will understand what she is going through, so no harm done.

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Quote from: SmartGold01 on January 10, 2024, 03:41:14 AM

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

I just think that you're enjoying gambling and that you forget your obligation to your husband, your loyalty and your obligation should be with your husband, it's dishonesty if you are doing something that your husband does not know.
You will be hurt also if your husband is dishonest with you husband and wife should share everything even small things and gambling is not a small thing, it will cause a big misunderstanding if he finds this out through other people, so be the first to tell him about this to avoid bad consequences.

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If you are comfortable asking this question publicly then definitely you should talk to your husband and explain to him that you are gambling just in your spare time and not at all addicted or losing too much money. Look men are not evil, it's just that we want to make sure our life partner is not indulging in any wrongdoing or wasting money on something meaningless like gambling.

I feel that "how" you tell him is more important than "when" you tell him because if you tell him with a guilty face then it will look bad and despite all your efforts, he will believe you have a gambling problem. If you take the time and prepare yourself how you are going to tell him, then it will be much better. You might as well ask him what he thinks about gambling and if he has ever done it himself. Based on his answers you can plot how to inform him about your gambling habit.

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Quote from: SmartGold01 on January 10, 2024, 03:41:14 AM

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

You two are married so the husband has the right to know, everything between the two of you is conjugal properties, so the money that you've used to bet is also your husband's money, so it's just right that your husband knows where the money is going, it's not good if he finds out that your spending both of your money on gambling.
So better tell her as early as possible it will have bad consequences if he finds out and it will have a bad effect on your marriage.

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I think every partner has the right to know what is happening with you especially if it includes financial decisions. Better, you are husband and wife so he definitely must know that you are gambling. I don't think he will be mad about it. Just my instincts. Maybe he will even just laugh it out.
For me, it's a sign of respect which is why I also told my wife about my gambling habit. Well, she also knows that I am too afraid to bet high amounts which is why she won't stop me from doing it. She knows I can control it and I am responsible enough that I don't let any day without food on the table. The same goes for their necessities and some food cravings whenever we go outside.
The truth is, it's harder to tell it to ladies than it is to men. Most men would not care as long as their partners are happy about what they are doing, especially for ladies who are staying at home and are too bored with their everyday routine. Better just be honest with it, I really feel like it won't go south when you tell the truth. If I am in that position, that will be my reaction. It's not like you are in pursuit of being a professional gambler. Grin

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When marriage is built on lies,there is that believe that the marriage will not last,the first thing that needs to be done while they are in courtship is for them to learn and try to understand each other,they must be open to each other in terms of all their deeds.If there is transparency in every thing they do,one party will not lie about his or her activities or engagement in gambling.
Gambling is not supposed to bring problem to any family because it is a means of survival,most persons are training and feeding their family with gambling,so when the wife finds out that the husband Gambles,it's not surposed to be a problem.

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Op you understand your husband very well and I'm very sure you should know if you inform your husband about your gambling activities you know how he will react, if he will be okay with it or not. The most important thing is that if you play gambling responsibly and you are not addicted and you are very sure gambling is not affecting you negatively you don't need to be worried about. For me I think if you are not struggling will gambling like addiction, playing with all your savings, playing everyday their is no need telling anyone about it. You can keep it to yourself if maybe you feel you husband will have a impression about your gambling lifestyle.

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Quote from: Strongkored on January 11, 2024, 11:26:02 PM

Quote from: SmartGold01 on January 10, 2024, 03:41:14 AM

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Everyone I believe have their different ways of reasoning and personal opinions about some vital issues especially when it has to do with personal issues and decisions and that's why it's important to respect everyone's opinion even when they look contrary to your own personal opinion.

If my own wife happens to be gambling without informing me and starts feeling guilty for her actions, the best thing to do for her is to stop gambling totally instead of telling me about her gambling engagements because I'm not gonna find it pleasing that she's been doing that for some time without notifying me. Gambling is a sensitive engagement that a wife is supposed to tell her husband before embarking on it in the first place so I'll find it very disrespectful that she started gambling without informing me so to save us from any kind of drama, it'll be best for her to end every gambling engagements she does in other to free her from any kind of guilt-tripping instead of telling me about it.

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Would be funny if OPs husband would also confess that he gambles Grin

I really wonder what has triggered OP to hide fact of gambling. Like this is something to be ashamed of or do secretly. Maybe OP is from a country where gambling is illegal, and telling husband is making him partner in crime. And even then it is advisable to tell the truth. Since you are married, this means you are at least an adult, who is allowed to do everything that is legal. Since it is a husband, second closest person (first one is always a mother), I would not hide anything, as he must be the first person to help you.

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Quote from: zaim7413 on January 11, 2024, 10:07:17 PM

Hiding something from your partner, especially in terms of gambling, is like activating a time bomb, sooner or later it will explode by itself. You need to tell your partner about the activities you have been doing so far, find the right time to tell it, hopefully his attitude will accept or not be angry with the gambling you have been doing all this time. Never store jackfruit in the house, when in time the aroma will smell, I think you understand what I mean.

We only worry about her relationship with her husband if her husband finds out that she is gambling, especially if her husband finds out about it from other people's stories. It can make him angry and will cause arguments between them. No matter how clever we are at hiding our gambling activities, there will be people who eventually find out. If the people who find out are those closest to us, maybe they won't be able to accept it even if we say that we are still okay with gambling. He will feel cheated by you because you have not been honest with him, even though honesty is the most important thing in a household relationship, especially since we spend all the time with them. Hopefully, she can tell her husband, and everything can end well.

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Quote from: SmartGold01 on January 10, 2024, 03:41:14 AM

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Why not, because gambling is not always bad things and I'm sure you do it responsibly, meaning you don't play using money for your living needs, especially if your husband is also a gambler, so you can discuss many things about gambling with him, such as casino games or sports betting, and It would also be better for your husband to find out directly from you rather than from other sources that could make him think negatively about you for hiding it from him.

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Hiding something from your partner, especially in terms of gambling, is like activating a time bomb, sooner or later it will explode by itself. You need to tell your partner about the activities you have been doing so far, find the right time to tell it, hopefully his attitude will accept or not be angry with the gambling you have been doing all this time. Never store jackfruit in the house, when in time the aroma will smell, I think you understand what I mean.

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Quote from: SmartGold01 on January 10, 2024, 03:41:14 AM

Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
Not chasing profit after lost
Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
Not gambling with all my income or salaries
Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

For me it's better that you will tell your husband that you are involve in gambling cause once you will tell the truth then there's a possibility that your husband will not mad at you cause you tell him before he know that you are a gambler. But if you don't tell your husband then it is still okay cause it's your decision but one thing for sure he will know soon. Cause like what saying says there's no secret that will not revealed and once that happen then there's a chance that he will be mad and then it cause into misunderstanding.

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