Topic: Does it looks responsible as woman telling husband you gamble? - page 13. (Read 1863 times)

There are many questions that needs to be answered, before we can answer your question.

1. Does your husband gamble?
2. Are there any religous restrictions against gambling?
3. Do you work for your income or do you get money from him?
4. Why do you have to keep this a secret?

A marriage is a partnership where two people work together in an environment of trust. You should not have to keep this a secret, if you are not doing something that will break this trust.

This is a good intention because if you are married it will be more comfortable if your husband also knows what you are doing. Especially if you use your husband's money for gambling. But I'm sure you used the money from the campaign so the money is completely yours, so whether you want to tell your husband or not, I think it doesn't matter as long as you can be responsible when gambling and don't exceed the allocation you prepared.

I'm sure you know what's best for your family and you can do it well, because in some countries sometimes gambling is considered a negative activity, especially in countries where gambling is prohibited.

Of course that's not good looking for other people to target our anger is not right because the actions they take are actions based on their own will it's a big mistake if they gamble by looking for people to blame for the losses they get. in gambling and in my opinion it is not good if we have a partner who likes to gamble, even though they can control themselves well against gambling but still the fear that I have is about the bad effects of gambling, if I were married myself I would stop gambling because I don't want to continue gambling if I already have a wife.

I think everyone has a lot of negative views on gambling and with that, there will be many people who have a negative perspective on gambling so in my opinion as people who have good thoughts we have to forbid our partners from gambling  it's also impossible if we have a partner who supports gambling activities because even though we have enough money to gamble, it is unethical if it is legal that husband and wife still like to gamble,  it is better to focus on domestic relationships.

I think your husband has the right to know what you are doing, although perhaps his first response will be to forbid you from gambling, you can explain slowly that the gambling you do is not random and you only do it occasionally with as little money as possible, explain that you gamble moderately and can be responsible, you can convince your husband with a wiser attitude, I'm sure your husband will understand and maybe will let you gamble and of course with your husband's supervision because the wife responsibility is on her husband and if you make a mistake on this site your husband can help you and if you secretly gamble without telling you and one day your husband finds out by himself, I don't think that will be good for your domestic life because there is a big possibility that your husband will be very angry.

I think every husband definitely doesn't want to see his wife gambling, but if basically his wife is already familiar with gambling and especially since online gambling is widespread everywhere then it is normal for women to take part in these gambling activities, I think the gambling that husbands and wives do is different. The wife has complete control over finances whether her own money or her husband's finances and as long as they can allocate their money then she will be a responsible gambler.

II think this topic should go to politics and society.

That is a problem, not having confidence in yourself, by the way you think you have it and in fact you affirm it, with the decrees shown in your OP, but then you say, I don't know whether to tell him..

 Don't hesitate, it is an important decision, perhaps the one with the most influence on your game, you have to tell them.

Yes there is no need to keeping secret as husband wife, and sincw tour partner is your support system, tou need to carry him along regardless of what the nature of what you are about to do, sometimes, when you cant help yourself,  your partner becomes the only option you have to rest back on, so imagine of you need help and you are keeping secret from your spouse how then can you get the help you seeks.
Alot need to be looked into and as sensitive as gambling,  all decision related to it must be taken based on the family understanding to avoid crisis that can be avoided innthe future.

You know him more; question is why are you being secretive in the first place if you know to yourself that you are gambling responsibly? If it is just you being conscious of your actions then try telling it to him already 'coz he might understand it and take it positively. But if you are hiding it 'coz you know to yourself that he's against gambling and that he will never be convinced, then that would be a problem I guess. However, at the end of the day it will depend on the way you will explain it to him and to why you want to continue gambling.
It is just the stereotype behind gambling. Being responsible of something means you are carrying it well and that you can manage the consequences; both positive and negative ones. Well, gambling is for all genders and sexes as well as ages; it has nothing to do with any restrictions. In her case, given that she listed things proving that she's gambling responsibly, maybe it's just her own guilt why she did not tell her husband in the first place. We don't know the whole story yet but for sure there's a story behind it.

As a couple, the husband have the right to know what the wife is doing.  Regardless of whether you control yourself and emotions when you are engaging in gambling activities, your husband should know you are into gambling and gambling discussions. I do not think it will bring harm if you tell your husband about your involvement in gambling discussion although I do not know what will be his reaction about your gambling activities.  If your husband disagrees with your gambling engagement then it is better to follow his advice so that misunderstanding and argument in the family will not happen.

This statement simply means that you have picked interest in gambling and have not started gambling yet.

This statement shows that you have been gambling. So, there is a gross misunderstanding in your post. Just be real so that the responses you will have will also be real.

What I have always heard or read is man binding his gambling life from his wife and not the other way round.

Well, if your husband is open to anything, especially in your relationship, then I think it's safe to say that you can share what you are doing with him. If you know yourself and know that you are not doing anything bad, then I guess there's no need to be afraid, and if you know the things to avoid in gambling, then I guess you can control yourself or have discipline with yourself. But the thing is, you should first know if your husband doesn't like things like gambling. If yes, then maybe you should not say it right away. You two should talk about this topic carefully so you can both understand each other. It's much better than hiding things from your partner, right? So have a conversation about this; it will be helpful for you to remove your question from your mind. I also have a partner, but she knows what I do. As long as I don't do anything wrong, it's okay for her.

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Going through materials and your chances to get tips and advices here are not enough because it is usually easier to say than to be done.
It is believed that there are still addicted and irresponsible gamblers who are unable to take control of their emotions While Gambling. So, your readiness to stick Conciously with the above mentioned are more than necessary to be acknowledged and dealt with.

To tackling this contradiction and giving the benefits of doubts about your gambling life resulting to your secret gambling off from your husbands consent and how your conscience is demanding you to tell your husband of it would be termed risky because, the disappointment expressions of your husband may not be tolerable by him for I believe he would suspect you to be doing other undesirable things which may still have not let him know so on that note, you would be pointed to be an illegal and secret practitioner. He may demand you to tell more secret things you must have been doing behind him according to his instincts.
If your conscience could trouble you this much as a secret gambling wife,  then it is assumed you are operating prohibitably that is against the will of your husband so, the best tip is that you should QUIT.
Even though your husband one of the gamblers with his awareness about the negative potentials of gambling, he would definitely conclude that "Oh no, I a man is struggling to keep a responsible gambling so there is no possiblities that a tenderous fragile woman as my wife would be able to take control of her emotions on the race or gambling.

My advice: instead of telling him as your conscience entails you, then better quit gambling and safe yourself marriage from any form of catastrophe.

I think that there is no need to hide this from your wife, because when she finds out about this, the first thing that will come to the fore is that you actually deceived her, because you didn’t say what you probably should have said. She will think that there are things that do not relate to gambling, in which you could deceive her there too. I listened to various interviews with wives whose husbands are addicted to gambling. It was very difficult to listen to this, some eventually abandoned these men and began to build a new life, while others said that they would deal with these problems to the end. I don't even know which is better.

There are also cases when everything comes out too late, the wife is told by everyone around her that her husband owes them money, and she is the last to know about it, I can imagine how morally heavy a burden this is.

Your husband needs to know what you've been up to lately.  Keeping secrets from your partner whom you share a roof with is not healthy at all. It is quite early for you to be 100% certain that you are gambling safe. You might get carried away with this your new found hobby and begin to neglect other aspects of your life, you can't be100% sure of what you are or you are not capable of. Things might go messy if your husband finds out by himself that you've been gambling without his knowledge.

The society hasn't really embraced women who gamble, they believe women who gamble are irresponsible and not fit to be called wife materials. We shouldn't be surprised If your husband goes against your decision to gamble.  If this becomes the case, whatever your reasons are for wanting to gamble, you have to keep it aside and obey your husband. Everything here depends on your husbands understanding of what gambling is all about.

It's important to understand that doing things like gambling might not make your loved ones happy when they find out. Imagine if your husband isn't happy about it; he might feel worried or upset. Keeping secrets from your husband isn't a good idea because he's your best friend and partner. Secrets have a way of coming out eventually, and it might hurt him more if he finds out from someone else.

It's a good idea to talk to your husband about it, share your feelings, and see how he reacts. Being open and honest can help both of you understand each other better. Imagine if you keep it a secret, and he finds out later  it could cause problems in your relationship. As a suggestion, try discussing it early on, so you can decide together what's best for both of you.

I think gambling is dangerous for everyone, but especially for women. In order to prevent future arguments, it is preferable to place a high value on honest and open communication in a relationship.

I don't think it makes women look any more irresponsible than men to tell their spouse that they gamble.  It may be more common in men, but it isn't like women are considered crazy for gambling.  I would assume the man who marries a woman like this would be attracted to her doing things like this.  It's like women that watch football.  They're out there and there's a lot of them, but men are still surprised and usually appreciate when they come across one.  I don't think gambling has a sexist aspect to it.

First of all, no one knows who TF you are...it doesn't even matter in here..all the same,i can see how well everybody plays along, maybe because it's on the gambling section?? IDK.

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why would you say you developed an urge/interest to gamble and you're definitely evading all these criterion? What in God's name evolved the interest then? Cus you can't tell me you read so much about how peeps are scrambling, showing off their winnings and you got enticed, just to gamble with your own rules that doesn't validate anything at the end - like gambling for fun???
Do well to tell your husband what you've done. There are no two ways about it... It's either you tell him or he gets to realize it himself.

Sandra 🧑‍🦰

i guess, times are changing. gender equality is already practiced across the globe or maybe there are still some areas left still clinging to the old way of life that the husband is the provider and the wife is taking care of their kids and home.
so for me the answer to the OP here is that depends on how deep your relationship to your partner, you will already feel or know what he will say to you if ever you brought this discussion to him.


much better if you let your better half know what's going on. at least, he doesn't have to nag you if he ever finds out your other activity. as long as you think you are still in your boundaries and not doing anything wrong, there's no reason why you won't let him know, right?

Under many cultures, even though they want a woman tk have studied as much as possible, it is considered ideal for the family to make ends meed only with the husband's income. Women are considered housekeepers and not much more. Of course under such a culture it would be considered immoral for a woman to gamble. But think about it...

Shouldn't we apply equality to how we judge people regardless of gender? Of a woman gambles, I can respect how a culture perceives it, but then you must apply the same principle to men also. Otherwise don't judge at all. Judging solely based on gender is just not right.

I see gambling is not just for men but even for women as well. Hence, telling your husband that you’re into gambling for quite some time might shock him but later on he will come to understand that as long as you only gamble for entertainment, then I guess there’s no wrong with that. Just be open with your husband as he deserves to know whatever activity you got involved most especially for gambling where probability of losing is high. It’s never bad to gamble as long as you still manage your finances, but to be honest, it’s not actually decent to see a woman gambling, just leave it to your husband as it’s a men thing.

Yes, If can.

You're marrying him, he deserved to know at least before you get some problem. It's rare to see everyone can control them self, however most of people from gambling problem they tell their family after they got a problem.

It's better to let him know.