Topic: Does it looks responsible as woman telling husband you gamble? - page 14. (Read 2300 times)

I don't know the husband that will be happy with the wife to disclose that she is gambling without profit. Gambling is about profiting and many gamblers have been criticized for gambling without profit and encouraging them to stop. So if the wife is gambling and she is not making profit, what is she going to be telling the husband? Just to disclose to him she has been using family to gamble without profit?

Except she is coming to make a confessional statement to the husband that she has been gambling without profit and she wants to stop.

If she disclose to her husband that she is gambling and the husband see she is not making profit and if she is asking to continue then he will demand to know how long she has been gambling and that will determine if he will support her or not. What about if the husband does not gamble, then this will become another kettle of fish because she has to show she has been profiting for she to continue.

The society hasn't really embraced women who gamble, they believe women who gamble are irresponsible and not fit to be called wife materials. We shouldn't be surprised If your husband goes against your decision to gamble.  If this becomes the case, whatever your reasons are for wanting to gamble, you have to keep it aside and obey your husband. Everything here depends on your husbands understanding of what gambling is all about.

Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

• Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
• Not chasing profit after lost
• Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
• Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
• Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
• Not gambling with all my income or salaries
• Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

If the husband had enough assets,the woman can easily say his husband to gamble to enjoy.Because enjoyment is different one from the earning,the gambler who had enough money will play gambling only for the entertainment.They never bother about the money returns from the game.The poor gamblers can’t play the gambling as entertainment because they using the gambling only for money earning purpose.If the woman also engaged in the gambling,surely she would not asked her husband to do gambling.Because the gambling was need for money for the rotation as like the business.So the gambling by husband and wife leads to financial problems.

I think your opinion is right because it would be better for her if she shares about gambling with her husband. Because if her husband somehow finds out that his wife is gambling then he might get upset after knowing it. And when her husband  I think her husband can support his wife a lot if she tells him about gambling, but again it may be that her husband can't make her to gamble. But she should not talk to her husband about it, if there is a big difference between them later on.  There may be trouble.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

I understand what you are trying to say and yes there shouldn't be anything secret between her and their husband which is the reason why I said she knows her husband more than us and his level of understanding will determine her decision.
Having said that, let's be honest with ourselves. Is there a relationship that didn't have something one side hid from his/her partner? I'm not talking about something that involves cheat or disrespect.
Some things are hidden from partners due to the respect, and love we have for the person.

I believe that if she can convince her husband that she is playing the  gambling for a temporary pleasure, her husband will not forbid her to play it. Gambling by informing the husband will also reduce the human pressure there. But here again if there is something opposite then there may be some problem. But above all the wife must inform her husband so that the bond of fidelity between them can be strengthened. Moreover, if her husband is also willing to bet there, then they both can do better research and take a more suitable decision to win the bet.

Getting responsible in gambling venture is hard because not all would really be successful when it comes to this and this is why it is really that good that shes really that having the control and having awareness on the actions that she's making.It is really just that shes in torn in neither telling or not on what she's been into into his husband on which just like on what most people been saying on here
that it is really just that right that she would be telling the things that shes really that into. It would be always best on having a relation which it doesnt really have that kind of secrets
and having those kind of hiding on something on which it is really just that less stressful that you are really that hiding something from your loved ones.
Its not something a healthy i should say for long time.

Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

• Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
• Not chasing profit after lost
• Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
• Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
• Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
• Not gambling with all my income or salaries
• Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

I think your husband has the right to know what you are doing, although perhaps his first response will be to forbid you from gambling, you can explain slowly that the gambling you do is not random and you only do it occasionally with as little money as possible, explain that you gamble moderately and can be responsible, you can convince your husband with a wiser attitude, I'm sure your husband will understand and maybe will let you gamble and of course with your husband's supervision because the wife responsibility is on her husband and if you make a mistake on this site your husband can help you and if you secretly gamble without telling you and one day your husband finds out by himself, I don't think that will be good for your domestic life because there is a big possibility that your husband will be very angry.

I think every husband definitely doesn't want to see his wife gambling, but if basically his wife is already familiar with gambling and especially since online gambling is widespread everywhere then it is normal for women to take part in these gambling activities, I think the gambling that husbands and wives do is different. The wife has complete control over finances whether her own money or her husband's finances and as long as they can allocate their money then she will be a responsible gambler.

I have this feeling that One of the reasons why she chose to keep it as a secret is that, her husband doesn't want her to be involved in any gambling activity. Like, He has his own preference when it comes to the person he wants to be with for the rest of his life and a woman who gamble doesn't fit to his standard, But it's also important to note that when you get married, all the problems and issues inside your relationship needs to be addressed in a good way. Always remember that secrecy is not good for a relationship.

I have this feeling that One of the reasons why she chose to keep it as a secret is that, her husband doesn't want her to be involved in any gambling activity. Like, He has his own preference when it comes to the person he wants to be with for the rest of his life and a woman who gamble doesn't fit to his standard, But it's also important to note that when you get married, all the problems and issues inside your relationship needs to be addressed in a good way. Always remember that secrecy is not good for a relationship.

I will ask you a question, why should you hide it? What on earth are you thinking to ask that question if it's worth to tell him? Isn't it more comfortable to do gambling without hiding? If he's against it, respect it. But that was the challenge to you, give him some words that should make him think that even if you are into gambling, you still know your responsibility to your family.

Keeping that gambling as private stuff from him will just make things worse.

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

I think your husband has the right to know what you are doing, although perhaps his first response will be to forbid you from gambling, you can explain slowly that the gambling you do is not random and you only do it occasionally with as little money as possible, explain that you gamble moderately and can be responsible, you can convince your husband with a wiser attitude, I'm sure your husband will understand and maybe will let you gamble and of course with your husband's supervision because the wife responsibility is on her husband and if you make a mistake on this site your husband can help you and if you secretly gamble without telling you and one day your husband finds out by himself, I don't think that will be good for your domestic life because there is a big possibility that your husband will be very angry.