Topic: Does it looks responsible as woman telling husband you gamble? - page 15. (Read 1863 times)
January 10, 2024, 01:41:21 PM
People value honesty so yes it should be responsible of you to tell something about it as long as you are also responsible for the money you spend gambling.
It's just you who knows how your husband may react to this and if you think he will protest in how you spend your money then I guess this is a big discussion for both of you. Its a personal choice and it depends on how you see your husband.
January 10, 2024, 01:23:47 PM
Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;
- Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
- Not chasing profit after lost
- Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
- Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
The revenge gambling was the biggest mistake doing by the gamblers,because they can’t accept the loss in the gambling site.The reason was they used the real money in the gambling,this also leads to the biggest loss in the gambling site.If the gamblers accept the loss and move on means it will be far better one.Only few gamblers recover the loss in the gambling site,Since it based on the luck.The gamblers who loss try to recover the loss by managing the next profit in the gambling site.The game based on the luck and the tactics,So we don’t know the result of the game 100 percentage favour us.
- Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
- Not gambling with all my income or salaries
- Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself
The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
The second mistake made by the gamblers,actually most of the gambler is get the all in to the gambling site.Their was the might in the gambling,if we use more money.It’s possible to recover the most of the loss,but with my experience it’s not true.The gamblers use hundred percent of the income to the gambling site and worry at the end.The gambling will give us entertaining,but rich using gambling site was not sure thing.
January 10, 2024, 01:19:59 PM
I can relate to your precarious balance between personal and marital interests. You've done well to learn about safe gambling. Healthy gambling involves not chasing losses, gambling for fun, and minimizing financial risk.
Secrecy is key to your circumstance. I value honesty in relationships, especially in difficult topics like gambling. Not just gambling, but trust and openness in your relationship. Sharing this with your partner may soothe your guilt and spark a conversation about shared hobbies and interests.
Review your relationship dynamics las Every couple communicates and sets boundaries differently. If your husband is accommodating, he may appreciate your honesty and support your passion as long as it is pleasurable and not financially or emotionally draining. Its complicated, but its about balancing personal interests with relationship health and openness.
Secrecy is key to your circumstance. I value honesty in relationships, especially in difficult topics like gambling. Not just gambling, but trust and openness in your relationship. Sharing this with your partner may soothe your guilt and spark a conversation about shared hobbies and interests.
Review your relationship dynamics las Every couple communicates and sets boundaries differently. If your husband is accommodating, he may appreciate your honesty and support your passion as long as it is pleasurable and not financially or emotionally draining. Its complicated, but its about balancing personal interests with relationship health and openness.
January 10, 2024, 01:17:35 PM
Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;
The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
- Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
- Not chasing profit after lost
- Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
- Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
- Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
- Not gambling with all my income or salaries
- Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself
The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
I think you have done your research and prepared yourself for any and all pitfalls. Most people are not as careful when they go into gambling. You show responsibility and a logical mind. I think that there is no harm in letting your husband know about your gambling, although he might still be against it, he will see that you are not just throwing money around without a plan.
You could make a spreadsheet of your losses and wins so you have data to back up your claims of responsible gambling. If you do gambling right, then your losses should only be considered peanuts.
January 10, 2024, 12:57:13 PM
The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
As I understand the concept of marriage and mutual trust which it involves, I think there shouldn't be secrets between husband and wife, especially regards activities they are practing in their routines. I think you would be bothered if your husband was doing something in secret and you didn't know... So the same is valid for him regards you. "Don't do unto others what you don't want done unto you"*. Treat them as you wished to be treated. Think about it and you will reach the answer you are looking for. It's already inside you. Just need to find it now.Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
*Confucius
January 10, 2024, 12:45:43 PM
What If your husband was not talking about the same?!
Well, if you are not wasting money or hiding a big win personally I find it absolutely normal to have hobbies and passions that we don't share with those who live next to us.
I don't see anything wrong with even talking about this passion... I think this Is just a personal choice and no more.
Well, if you are not wasting money or hiding a big win personally I find it absolutely normal to have hobbies and passions that we don't share with those who live next to us.
I don't see anything wrong with even talking about this passion... I think this Is just a personal choice and no more.
January 10, 2024, 12:38:27 PM
Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;
Good picks I must say but as easy as they sound, the reality is different and here is my reservation about your points.
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- Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
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- Not chasing profit after lost
This is similar to the first one, as you think of profits, think of loss to avoid disappointment.
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- Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
If you have a financial challenge, gambling should be the last thing you want to think, avoid like a plague.
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- Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself
This is what gambling is about but is this what it's in reality, is like telling person that smokers are reliable to die young but they love it more despite the health implications. Gambling is for fun but it's mainly money driven, people hardly even look at the fun of it but that's what it's all about.
January 10, 2024, 12:28:35 PM
Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;
The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
- Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
- Not chasing profit after lost
- Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
- Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
- Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
- Not gambling with all my income or salaries
- Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself
The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
It is nice you put up this topic here. I believe other married women and ladies too are seeing this post to learn from the replies and comments here. Many people have their own perspective of what you have said here and their ideology varies when it comes to the fact of women into gambling. Some forbids it while some see it as nothing and some just take it as fun to do.
I think letting your husband know about your gambling practice is very much alright because both of you are one and as such should know what you are really into. All these you have written down is better done this way than putting into practice because eventually, when it gets to a point where it seems you are beginning to go out of control, your husband would be very much conscious of it and immediately help you control your gambling lifestyle. So keeping it to yourself would not help any matter. I would advise you relate to him irrespective of his response you anticipate, let him know that you are into gambling. Then he would guide you through or possibly both of you join heads to make a plan for it.
January 10, 2024, 12:26:45 PM
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Gambling as a lady is not what to hide from your husband because even if you didn't tell your husband about it, he would eventually know about it someday through someone or seeing you involved in gambling, and that would come as a shock to him and also cause a problem in the family. For me, it is better to tell your husband about your new-found habit of gambling beforehand than for him to find out by himself. You know why? To be on the safe side than not knowing your stand on whether he will like the idea or kick against the idea completely because not all husband loves to see their wife engage in gambling no matter how it seems. Some husband don't want anything to serve as a distraction given to their wife as a cause of that, let it be that their wife is focused on taking care of their kids than having it elsewhere
January 10, 2024, 11:23:42 AM
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
Everything has to be base on understanding of each other, there are times that we need to speak and say some things that will bring liberation to the current challenges we are facing while we can also choose to utter a word and the whole things got ruined, I expected her to understand the nature of the kind of situation they are into currently before making any money to say something to the man, if you know that some people around you will be highly disappointed in you after discovering that you're a gambler, then it's better you prevent that from happening right on time.
January 10, 2024, 11:15:44 AM
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
In the first place, you should not hide anything from your husband, by not telling him it just means that you do not trust your husband will understand you, and besides, there's a possibility that you will get hooked on gambling, and the budget of the family will be at risk and your husband will be suspicious on where the money is going.
You should tell your husband right away the more that you're hiding the more that you're putting your marriage at risk, if you're husband sees that you are playing just for fun and to fight boredom in the house and the money being used is allocated, I'm sure he will understand, you should be honest with your husband.
Dishonesty is one of the causes of broken marriages so to stop this be honest with your husband.
January 10, 2024, 10:44:42 AM
The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
You should let him know about your activities so that you can see his reaction if he can understand on what you are doing or not. If he find it disturbing since he doesn't want to get involve with this activity and find it as bad hobby to take then respect his decision then decide if its really worth to continue or just follow your husbands like if he advice you to quit doing this activities.
But if he support you and tell that you are fine then make sure you don't gamble to much then always try to follow his advices so that their will be no trouble created since if you insist and not follow certain things he want you to do or avoid then it can start a conflict that you might regret later on. So come tell him since its really worth to discuss this matter and make sure he's in good condition telling this since timing is also important so he will not get surprised about what you are trying to tell to him.
January 10, 2024, 10:41:38 AM
It's not the gender that's the issue here but rather you not telling your husband beforehand that you gamble. If you both have financial responsibilities on the household, then it's important to let him know what you're into so you can talk about it. Otherwise, if problems arise on your end financially, he will have difficulties in looking for money just because he hasn't adjusted to your activities. Communication is important, and is a two-way street, so for sure your husband will listen and try to meet you halfway.
On the time that we do make ourselves getting involved with marriage then we do know that this is really that pertaining about conjugal property on which what he owns then both of you does have the rights and also on what you do own too then your husband would be also have the rights to know on what you are dealing with. It do really sucks on living up on together but having lots or tons of secrets behind basing up on the things that you are dealing with. You would really be just that basically making yourself that making some potential trouble once your partner would really be caught you on doing something that he/she doesnt know specially if its talking about money on which everyone would really be that so sensitive in this regard. This is why it would be always best that you should really be open to each other no matter how small it is.
January 10, 2024, 10:35:50 AM
You should tell him about your gambling activity regardless he like or don't like gambling.
If he like to gamble, it means there will be no problem except you or him turns become a gambling addict.
If he don't like to gamble, he might be angry and not accept it, but as long as you're honest and transparent with your gambling activity, I believe you will be fine. You need to show how much you make and how much you gamble, if you gamble not to big, he high likely won't complain.
If he like to gamble, it means there will be no problem except you or him turns become a gambling addict.
If he don't like to gamble, he might be angry and not accept it, but as long as you're honest and transparent with your gambling activity, I believe you will be fine. You need to show how much you make and how much you gamble, if you gamble not to big, he high likely won't complain.
January 10, 2024, 10:31:50 AM
It's not the gender that's the issue here but rather you not telling your husband beforehand that you gamble. If you both have financial responsibilities on the household, then it's important to let him know what you're into so you can talk about it. Otherwise, if problems arise on your end financially, he will have difficulties in looking for money just because he hasn't adjusted to your activities. Communication is important, and is a two-way street, so for sure your husband will listen and try to meet you halfway.
January 10, 2024, 10:30:38 AM
You should let him know because he is your husband and don't for him to find out that you are involved in gambling activities without you telling him the truth. This might be none of my business but yeah as a husband and wife thing I think it is important to gain trust and of course honesty to each and everyone of you since that is what you two promised in your wedding day right? Sorry about that but yeah family is family.
January 10, 2024, 10:19:33 AM
Most people have a negative view of gambling. So when people hear the word gambling, they have a negative attitude. I think this matter should not reaveal to her husband. Because her husband's place of trust in her may be weakened when he hears about gambling. Also her husband may force her to give up gambling. If the woman is not an addicted gambler then she can continue her gambling without telling her husband but if she thinks she is addicted then she must tell her husband. So that her husband can keep herself away from addictive gambling. If there is a good understanding between husband and wife then I think it will not be problem if he know the fact. But it will depend on the mentality of her husband.
January 10, 2024, 10:15:18 AM
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
You have a complicated situation in your life situation, if you are a woman and a gambler, you have to be very careful in situations like that, before you say what you want to say, the risk is that your household could fall apart leading to divorce.My opinion in such a situation.
* You are a wife, of course you know your husband's activities, look and investigate first, whether he is angry or happy when you talk about gambling, don't tell him you gamble first, provoke him about gambling, If his response is positive and happy about talking about gambling, then you talk about how you gamble. On the other hand, if your husband's response is negative towards gambling, don't occasionally say that you gamble, he might get angry and divorce you.
In situations like that you have to look at both, sometimes there are husbands and wives who both like to gamble, there are also vice versa, the wife gambles, the husband doesn't and really hates gambling, so it depends on the situation between the two, after that you can talk about something, after both understand the situation.
You are correct in your idea and suggestions I think we have both engaged in gambling discussion before I didn't see him respond negativity, just that he was neutral while talking with him about few matches that plays some days ago. Just that he was wondering how I suddenly began to pick up interest while before he was the only one who loves watching football and wrestling, my sudden interest made him started wondering, though he might be suspecting me and who knows that was why I raised this topic to have a collective idea to know how to handle this situation at hands.
Anyway.. thank you for your contribution +1 for you, I am out of sendable otherwise I could have credited.
January 10, 2024, 10:04:55 AM
I do not see any problem in gambling if it doesn't affect you financially, mentally, or emotionally and if it doesn't affect your life as a whole. I would rather be open with my partner regarding this than to secretly do something else behind their back, and take it as a form of respect to your partner. As you mentioned, you do it for fun and it seems you have full control of your gambling habit. I think it won't hurt if ever your husband asks you to stop gambling as it seems you are not that inclined to gambling and see it as a form of entertainment than a source of income, this is just incase he doesn't agree with you getting involved in gambling.
January 10, 2024, 10:03:18 AM
It would always be a better choice to be honest with your partner where after confessing your habit, both of you can think of a solution or end up on a decision whether he will support you or would ask you to stop. Since you know to yourself that you are gambling responsibly then the only problem for not telling him is that you are not sure about his reaction cause we all know that gambling is really bad if handled poorly. It could be a worst-case scenario if he found it out on his plus in a long time already. If you are already in a family or have a partner, this kind of habit and lifestyle would be normal if you are young but don't forget the responsibility of being in a committed relationship, there would be always a sacrifice like your habit that we consider not good that would affect that relationship.
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