Under many cultures, even though they want a woman tk have studied as much as possible, it is considered ideal for the family to make ends meed only with the husband's income. Women are considered housekeepers and not much more. Of course under such a culture it would be considered immoral for a woman to gamble. But think about it...
Shouldn't we apply equality to how we judge people regardless of gender? Of a woman gambles, I can respect how a culture perceives it, but then you must apply the same principle to men also. Otherwise don't judge at all. Judging solely based on gender is just not right.
Topic: Does it looks responsible as woman telling husband you gamble? - page 16. (Read 2300 times)
January 10, 2024, 04:02:48 PM
January 10, 2024, 03:59:48 PM
I see gambling is not just for men but even for women as well. Hence, telling your husband that you’re into gambling for quite some time might shock him but later on he will come to understand that as long as you only gamble for entertainment, then I guess there’s no wrong with that. Just be open with your husband as he deserves to know whatever activity you got involved most especially for gambling where probability of losing is high. It’s never bad to gamble as long as you still manage your finances, but to be honest, it’s not actually decent to see a woman gambling, just leave it to your husband as it’s a men thing.
January 10, 2024, 03:59:28 PM
Yes, If can.
You're marrying him, he deserved to know at least before you get some problem. It's rare to see everyone can control them self, however most of people from gambling problem they tell their family after they got a problem.
It's better to let him know.
You're marrying him, he deserved to know at least before you get some problem. It's rare to see everyone can control them self, however most of people from gambling problem they tell their family after they got a problem.
It's better to let him know.
January 10, 2024, 03:57:31 PM
Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;
The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
- Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
- Not chasing profit after lost
- Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
- Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
- Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
- Not gambling with all my income or salaries
- Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself
The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
If you're having to ask the question here, then you're not going to get the right answer quite simply. The fact that you aren't more open about it, means that you might consider it shameful or something that should be hidden, when if it was no problem at all you might just consider it light entertainment that you do occasionally. What are you even looking for? If you just consider it a form of light entertainment, that you spend maybe half an hour on per week, then why would you need to share it or hide it? Just do your own thing. If you have it under control, then you would have no problem if he looked at your accounts, maybe you're down a few bucks or maybe you are ignoring the fact that you've really lost thousands.
or should be known and if you are someone who do secretively making some spendings on gambling activity then this would really be bringing up a potential problem once you do get busted.
Just like on what everybody been saying here is that there's no secret that cant be reveal.It might not be now but time will come that you would really be caught.
So it would be always best that you should be that open and be honest on each other. It isnt really just that limited to the wife but also to husband as well that there's no good
on hiding something from your loved ones because once you do get bust up then you would be fucked up.
January 10, 2024, 03:53:20 PM
If you have good control over the gambling activities you do, and you gamble using personal money, not money given to you by your husband, in my opinion this is not too problematic.
Unless you gamble using money given to you by your husband, that is something that is not allowed. Even though your husband will not ask for details of the costs you incur every day, as a form of your wife's responsibility to your husband, you should be as transparent as possible regarding the gambling activities you carry out. Because there are quite a few people out there who gamble without their husband's knowledge, even though they can gamble thanks to the money their husband gives them every day. Meanwhile, if we talk about gambling, this is an activity that has quite high risks and can result in losses. And unfortunately, the money her husband gave her was spent on gambling, while her kitchen needs were not met. So this will be a big question for the husband which will ultimately raise suspicions which will lead to disharmony in the household.
Unless you gamble using money given to you by your husband, that is something that is not allowed. Even though your husband will not ask for details of the costs you incur every day, as a form of your wife's responsibility to your husband, you should be as transparent as possible regarding the gambling activities you carry out. Because there are quite a few people out there who gamble without their husband's knowledge, even though they can gamble thanks to the money their husband gives them every day. Meanwhile, if we talk about gambling, this is an activity that has quite high risks and can result in losses. And unfortunately, the money her husband gave her was spent on gambling, while her kitchen needs were not met. So this will be a big question for the husband which will ultimately raise suspicions which will lead to disharmony in the household.
January 10, 2024, 03:49:23 PM
In my opinion, if one is already married then those kinds of habits and activities are indeed supposed to be shared with one's partner. It may be even matter of time before the partner realizes about your gambling habits, and it is better for anyone to realize about it directly from the person than from rumors or third parties, in my opinion.
There have been other people (mostly men) who have came here with exactly the same question about whether they would disclose their gambling activity or not to their wives and I recall saying to them that they should do it.
Marriage is supposed to be embedded in trust to one another and those kinds of secrets undermine it, it is just my opinion, of course. Perhaps, you believe talking your husband about it is not a good idea because of the religion of his or the cultural aspects of gambling. It is your decision and only you know what the context truly is. If you decided to go for it, hopefully would be for the improvement of your marriage.
There have been other people (mostly men) who have came here with exactly the same question about whether they would disclose their gambling activity or not to their wives and I recall saying to them that they should do it.
Marriage is supposed to be embedded in trust to one another and those kinds of secrets undermine it, it is just my opinion, of course. Perhaps, you believe talking your husband about it is not a good idea because of the religion of his or the cultural aspects of gambling. It is your decision and only you know what the context truly is. If you decided to go for it, hopefully would be for the improvement of your marriage.
January 10, 2024, 03:41:27 PM
You are husband and wife and that's why you need not to hide secrets so you must tell your partner that you're into gambling if still doesn't know what you've been doing. That's the first rule of being married, you have to make the other know what you're up to because if you don't then that means that you're trying to hide a secret that your partner doesn't want to know and that means that it's a crucial thing within a relationship.
It's not a problem that you gamble and you're not addicted or yet but make sure that you know your boundaries and it's not going to affect your relationship because that's one important factor why couples are breaking their relationships because of disagreements. If it's also just discussions, not a problem either but when you get into the actuality and both of your money is involve, that's the time that you need to tell it.
It's not a problem that you gamble and you're not addicted or yet but make sure that you know your boundaries and it's not going to affect your relationship because that's one important factor why couples are breaking their relationships because of disagreements. If it's also just discussions, not a problem either but when you get into the actuality and both of your money is involve, that's the time that you need to tell it.
January 10, 2024, 03:40:45 PM
The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
You should let him know about your activities so that you can see his reaction if he can understand on what you are doing or not. If he find it disturbing since he doesn't want to get involve with this activity and find it as bad hobby to take then respect his decision then decide if its really worth to continue or just follow your husbands like if he advice you to quit doing this activities.
But if he support you and tell that you are fine then make sure you don't gamble to much then always try to follow his advices so that their will be no trouble created since if you insist and not follow certain things he want you to do or avoid then it can start a conflict that you might regret later on. So come tell him since its really worth to discuss this matter and make sure he's in good condition telling this since timing is also important so he will not get surprised about what you are trying to tell to him.
A wife who helps her husband to gamble never seems responsible to me, it can be happening only in dream, lol. It must be accepted that gambling brings a lot of money at a certain time, it does not mean that gambling should be made a career, right? Gambling instills greed in people, degenerates morals if he fail to keep control. You know, there are also examples of people who lose every penny and come on the road after losing money in gambling. In addition, many commit serious crimes to collect gambling money.
I just said the possible reason why any wife wants to prevent her husband from gambling, this is fear, they are fearing her husband will end up becoming greedy. If she does not prevent her husband from gambling and does not try her best to attract him on herself to find relaxation but rather encourages him gambling then she is really a dream wife, lol. I need one of this type
..who wants to have a husband addicted in gambling? Even those who are already rich are against in such gambling activity because they know what can happen especially when a person goes too far. Do you want to have a spouse who will encourage you to gamble? Funny. Then when you lose or get stuck, you will blame your wife because they didn't forbid you or they push you to do gambling but the truth is, you really want to gamble. You are just looking for someone to blame for your wrong actions and decisions.
January 10, 2024, 03:34:47 PM
Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;
The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
- Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
- Not chasing profit after lost
- Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
- Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
- Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
- Not gambling with all my income or salaries
- Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself
The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
If you're having to ask the question here, then you're not going to get the right answer quite simply. The fact that you aren't more open about it, means that you might consider it shameful or something that should be hidden, when if it was no problem at all you might just consider it light entertainment that you do occasionally. What are you even looking for? If you just consider it a form of light entertainment, that you spend maybe half an hour on per week, then why would you need to share it or hide it? Just do your own thing. If you have it under control, then you would have no problem if he looked at your accounts, maybe you're down a few bucks or maybe you are ignoring the fact that you've really lost thousands.
January 10, 2024, 03:25:06 PM
The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
You should let him know about your activities so that you can see his reaction if he can understand on what you are doing or not. If he find it disturbing since he doesn't want to get involve with this activity and find it as bad hobby to take then respect his decision then decide if its really worth to continue or just follow your husbands like if he advice you to quit doing this activities.
But if he support you and tell that you are fine then make sure you don't gamble to much then always try to follow his advices so that their will be no trouble created since if you insist and not follow certain things he want you to do or avoid then it can start a conflict that you might regret later on. So come tell him since its really worth to discuss this matter and make sure he's in good condition telling this since timing is also important so he will not get surprised about what you are trying to tell to him.
A wife who helps her husband to gamble never seems responsible to me, it can be happening only in dream, lol. It must be accepted that gambling brings a lot of money at a certain time, it does not mean that gambling should be made a career, right? Gambling instills greed in people, degenerates morals if he fail to keep control. You know, there are also examples of people who lose every penny and come on the road after losing money in gambling. In addition, many commit serious crimes to collect gambling money.
I just said the possible reason why any wife wants to prevent her husband from gambling, this is fear, they are fearing her husband will end up becoming greedy. If she does not prevent her husband from gambling and does not try her best to attract him on herself to find relaxation but rather encourages him gambling then she is really a dream wife, lol. I need one of this type
.. 
January 10, 2024, 03:16:48 PM
- Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself
You have listed all the things to avoid in gambling ideally and I'm not surprised that this is also coming, many gamblers say they don't want to enrich themselves with gambling and they want to do right all the things to do for them to be a profitable gambler
Like you want to restart your gambling and having fun not profit lol.The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
Well if you want disclose to your husband, I don't see that as a problem especially if you have been making very good profit and not wasting his money on gambling. If you tell him that and he has been complaining you are extravagant he will trace it to your gambling losses immediately and you know that will not be funny. My conclusion is if you have been profiting then it is okay but if not then no need, you only manage yourself until you decide to stop. Don't tell a man you have been gambling with money meant for the family and losing it.
January 10, 2024, 03:06:54 PM
Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;
The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
Glad you already know what to do and avoid in gambling but I hope you understand that these things are easy to say and difficult to follow when gambling. It's just like a newbie who's started trading with a demo account balance and her trading is profitable but when she tries real trading she understands everything is totally different.- Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
- Not chasing profit after lost
- Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
- Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
- Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
- Not gambling with all my income or salaries
- Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself
The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
Having said that, i believe you know your husband more than every one of us here and you ought to his level of understanding and maturity, the things he likes and dislikes. All these things will give you a hint if you can tell him about your involvement in gambling.
that it is really just that right that she would be telling the things that shes really that into. It would be always best on having a relation which it doesnt really have that kind of secrets
and having those kind of hiding on something on which it is really just that less stressful that you are really that hiding something from your loved ones.
Its not something a healthy i should say for long time.
January 10, 2024, 03:04:24 PM
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
Yes, it's worth telling him. No matter the level of self-control that you have over your gambling habit, and you know you are going to go off limit, it's still going to be a good thing that you let him know of your involvement in gambling. This is because it's better you tell yourself than for him to find out himself, and it will be as if you have been hiding something that was not supposed to be hidden from him in the first place, which might make it seem as if you have other hidden motivation that you are yet to talk about.
Providing you are gambling with your own personal money and you don't allow your gambling activities to affect your financial habits I don't think there is going to be any negative reaction from him. If you can assure him you won't get distracted from taking care of your family and performing your wifely duties, then you don't have anything to worry about.
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January 10, 2024, 03:02:43 PM
Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;
The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
Glad you already know what to do and avoid in gambling but I hope you understand that these things are easy to say and difficult to follow when gambling. It's just like a newbie who's started trading with a demo account balance and her trading is profitable but when she tries real trading she understands everything is totally different.- Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
- Not chasing profit after lost
- Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
- Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
- Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
- Not gambling with all my income or salaries
- Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself
The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
Having said that, i believe you know your husband more than every one of us here and you ought to his level of understanding and maturity, the things he likes and dislikes. All these things will give you a hint if you can tell him about your involvement in gambling.
January 10, 2024, 02:43:42 PM
First, if your husband is in this forum or on any other discussion forum, he should be aware of what gambling is and how it affects and at the same time the strength of women in gambling, this is very vital to the point that some husband already knows that women are stronger and much more effective in risk-taking than men and at that, they will allow the wife to gamble as long as she has fun and also not becoming overly involved in gambling, so your husband will practically understand with you.
The risk will be more if you don't tell him at all and he gets to know about it in the long run, this has been the most propelling case that we have had for quite a while now as regards to how men feel with their wives gambling, mostly online gambling.
The risk will be more if you don't tell him at all and he gets to know about it in the long run, this has been the most propelling case that we have had for quite a while now as regards to how men feel with their wives gambling, mostly online gambling.
January 10, 2024, 02:34:08 PM
Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;
The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
I don't know how strong your relationship is with your husband and how the house affairs are being and by this I mean the things you both like but I believe honesty is one way to go in order to set a strong relationship between a man and a woman. I have an Aunt who also gambles and she even calls me sometimes to actually send her games to play and her husband is fully aware of it and they all take it as fun and whenever you go visit them, you would see the two talking about games but they just do it for fun as they hardly play but at first I actually thought the whole thing was wrong but to some extent I really see that parties are okay and that's the best thing so I think concealing such habit isn't healthy at all in a relationship. - Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
- Not chasing profit after lost
- Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
- Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
- Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
- Not gambling with all my income or salaries
- Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself
The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
January 10, 2024, 02:30:13 PM
I will advice you inform your husband and if he doesn't support with your idea of gambling then you should stop to avoid stress, I don't know if you feel comfortable keeping it a secret, this question you asked although people will make different comment but the decision is yours to make and I believe you will make the right decision.
This kind of issue depends on your marriage and if the communication between you and your husband seems strong then you might end up telling him unknowingly to you, this is quite strange cause it's very rare seeing women gamble cause they can't control their emotions and might end up stopping the process but seeing this seems encouraging.
This kind of issue depends on your marriage and if the communication between you and your husband seems strong then you might end up telling him unknowingly to you, this is quite strange cause it's very rare seeing women gamble cause they can't control their emotions and might end up stopping the process but seeing this seems encouraging.
January 10, 2024, 02:26:14 PM
The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement to practice gambling.
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
The fact that you are a married woman, it is your responsibility to let your husband know what you're up to and how do you manage your finances inside and outside of the household. In fact, you both need to be honest with each other. I think your husband would be totally fine with it as long as you are able to control your finances when it comes to gambling and other expenditures.
Afterall, gambling is a form of an entertainment. As a man, I wouldn't hold back my wife if she loves to gamble, but the again as long as she can manage to control her finances I wouldn't interfere.
Don't wait for it till your husband find outs about it, he might get mad that could spark an argument. There will be a possibility that he won't let you gamble anymore.
January 10, 2024, 02:24:46 PM
Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
You have to tell your husband about your current situation, apart from being open about your situation, you will also have more control from the external side.
Don't know whether you will become a problem gambler or not in the future, but you will feel guilty someday (if you become a problem gambler), so, try to talk to him and ask him to understand you. I know this isn't easy because I also experienced the same thing some time ago.
on which stopping cant really be possible. I do agree on some points on here that you would really be ending up yourself on being that too secretive into your relationship if you do keep on hiding something from your husband. Dont wait out that things turns out to be worst before you would really be confessing something.
Its true that huge problems would really be coming out if you've been caught on doing something that the other one isnt really that knowledgeable about. There are ones who are really that
that might be that tolerating their wifes activity but it is really that impossible that someone wont be skeptical into this kind of activity on which we do know
that it could bring out some devastation into your finances.
January 10, 2024, 02:16:50 PM
In a situation like this, what I will encourage you now to do is to make sure that you have not inform and let him find out by itself and with this when it ask you will explain to him, because I know that since it's your husband he will surely find out because one day you may win a big amount of money and that money you can't not be spending it in secret, so if you wish to tell him you can tell him but don't give him a full gist of how long you being playing gambling because if you do it will be angry with you, only the thing you can tell him to win his soul and it will support to continue gambling is when you have win gambling and you show him what you win in gambling with the cash.
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