Topic: Does it looks responsible as woman telling husband you gamble? - page 9. (Read 2300 times)

As someone's husband, i always tell her that i do this and i do that, currently doing this and previously did that. There's nothing wrong about telling it, as long as you didn't make loans for gambling and never sold things that came from your savings. Especially the things you mentioned since you're the kind of person who knows how to control and manage things (based on what you have said), I think he deserves to know those things as your husband.

I think that would be worth it, surely a guy can understand as long as you don't gambling what is meant to be for future use. You're in marriage and for sure you'll understand that everything you do is surely involve the other half, that's what my parents doesn't tired to tell me. Gambling or not, opening something will mean respect and honesty.

Husband might not really be that much in concern if he do sees out that it isnt really that affecting or compromising their budget which it is really that unlike into the condition that they do have
 that struggle way of earning and then suddenly you have caught your wife or you've known that shes really that doing gambling on which we do know that when it comes
to gambling then spending up money would really be that standard or default. This is why it would really be that best that you should really that know on what are your priorities
and dont let your partner would be caughting up on what you are  doing specially if its really that against on him/her because it would really be a huge quarrel
but if there's no big money that involved and only just peanuts then it wont really be that something that severe.

My advice will be inline with that which I already share with you on altcoinstalk, and that is that, telling your husband you are into gambling is completely up to you, as to me, gambling is a prerequisite or should I say, something you must do as a promoter of a gambling casino.
Promoting casinos on this forum requires us all to engage in gambling discussions on daily basis, how will you effectively blend into a gambling discussion is you yourself is not a gambler, or have no single knowledge of what gamble is or feels like?

So, for me, if I was you, I either will tell him or not tell him, it's completely up to me, it's not an obligation or whatsoever, it's what I am required to do based on what I do online to make money.

For example, I've been gambling for years now, and my wife does not know about it, and the truth is that, I should have stopped gambling a long time ago, but because I am required to engage in gambling discussions as often as possible, I have to keep gambling from time to time, to stay updated with the latest stuff, and have what and what to share with the gambling community.

As long as it doesn't affects the family cashflow and personal responsibility of the women it has nothing to be feared with having a woman gambling but best done with the knowledge of the husband as you said,who knows maybe the husband also is gambling secretly, and lookinyflr ways and opportunities to let the wife know also.

And if the wife open up to him, it then means alot for both paterners since the both of them will be collaborating and having the fun together at all time since both now have same hubby.

It's not a questioned if it's worth it or not. It's good that your partner knows your involvement in gambling.

Since you are responsible gambler at the end, expect that you won't end up in an argument with your partner. You can start the discussion by taking things as funny as it should be like you will mentioned gambling in a fun way and considered it just a normal activity the same way you are doing your other hobby. Your partner will surely get along with that discussion also in a fun way. It's good that we don't keep secrets to our partner especially gambling.

Opening up to your husband is a good thing, who knows, he might also be gambling without your knowledge. If yes, you are very lucky to have a life partner who has the same hobbies.
Regarding the points you want to convey to your husband, it won't have any effect as long as it doesn't disrupt your household's cash flow.
Because gambling does not require gender A or B, everyone has the same right to pleasure as long as it does not harm other people.

Unless you damage your household's cash flow and then you tell your husband, that will be a complicated problem.
Because the main problem in a husband and wife relationship is an economic problem, right?

Its a must thing if you do really want a life on which there's no hiding nor secrets because if you do put up yourself into your husbands conditions on which you are really that getting blind on something which you dont really like, then you would really be that happy? Then it would really be just that better that you should really be telling those things directly into your husband
and would really be that admitting into the things that you are dealing with and dont wait for him to be the ones to bust you up on the things that you are dealing with.

When it comes to marriage life then having secrets is never been that good, it wouldnt really be giving out that kind of result once you do get caught.
Trust would really be that mainly be that affected on which it might be lasting up for a lifetime.

I think differently, this call for full transparency has always seemed to me to be uncalled for, telling the important things to your partner is a must, I agree on that, but telling them even the most minute and insignificant things is not necessary, as an example if I bought a TV this is something I would tell to my partner at the time, but if I bought a bottle of water, why should I go through the trouble of telling them about an insignificant purchase?

It's not just about obligations or responsibilities not being fulfilled or taken care of, but it's about the trust that is being broken. When you are in a relationship, especially if it's a marriage, you would expect your partner to share everything with you, and by everything I mean every single thing that they do or happens or whatever else that one can think of, and if one day, all of a sudden, you come to know that she has been secretly doing something without telling you, how would that feel? Ask yourself.

Most of the time, we hide things from others because we think those things are not for them to know as they will either get angry, not allow us, or because what we are doing isn't ethical. But if there is something so casual, like gambling for fun, as OP said she doesn't have intentions to get richness from it, so I don't see any point why she had to hide it from him in the first place.

It is really just that putting a gun into your head if we do speak about getting up some loan and then you do really gamble out of those funds completely on which simply you arent that making use of it into more worthy manner. It might really that sound that impossible but there are actually people who do really make out such step and really make out such decision due to extreme or severe gambling addiction and this is why they do really end up on having this kind decision and later on they do make out those kind of regrets because of too much debt on which they do make themselves getting wrecked because of too much loan.

Basing up into the situation or condition then it would really be that advisable that you should really be telling things into your husband because once you do make yourself that
being secretive then it would really be that possibly be creating that kind of conflicts because lying is never been that a good thing for a relationship.
it would be always best that everything should be told and be transparent.

How about if you refuse to let him know and he later finds out himself? Have you considered how his reaction would be? You know your husband very well more than anyone and you can guess his stand on gambling entirely or women involved in gambling. Just coming across the post now and I believe you have gotten series of opinions already. I did not read through all the pages, I don't know if someone has given similar opinion like the one I am about to give. I would advise you to initiate a conversation with him about gambling gradually and from that discussion you can be able to know his stands. If it's positive, you can continue with the discussion and tell him what you are doing and if the reaction is negative, don't bother telling him and stop gambling before he finds out to avoid problems.


You might have other reasons why you choose to have this opinion but if it is because of the above stated reason, I will disagree with you because it is not convincing enough and besides, the poster already gives insight on how she's managing her gambling habits. I understand where you are heading to based on how delicate women emotions can be but gambling is not a respecter of any gender and I see it unfair to conclude that women are more susceptible to its effect than men. What is necessary is gambling education and the risk involved to both gender not gender stereotyping to exclude female gender from gambling space. They should be allow to enjoy their right as well but I also do not support extreme gambling for women. It must have a limit because women can not handle frequent tension associated with gambling.

Gambling is good but I think it is very stupid to gamble with a loan from the bank. Because the loan you gambled with did not work properly. I think if your wife was not by your side, you might have lost all your money in these few days. Gambling would ruin the back. So I would tell you that if you are going to do something big, you should consult your wife first so that you don't get into any big danger. I think your wife wouldn't want you to have any big problem. So it will be good for you if you share everything with your wife.

Husband and wife must trust each other, but hiding a wife's gambling activities from her husband can cause problems between husband and wife. A wife should not be ashamed of her husband because that is what she does, and it is better if she is honest with her husband so that there is nothing to hide from her husband. Her husband might be able to provide a solution to what his wife is doing. A good husband will not want to see his wife fall into gambling and will do something to get his wife to leave gambling. There are still many fun activities they can do, and it's not gambling where if you gamble, there will definitely be risks that must be faced. And that risk can be greater if there is no responsibility. And before bigger problems occur, the wife should immediately admit her gambling to her husband.

Gambling doesn't need gender. It isn't exclusive to men nor women. Anyone who wants to gamble as long as they are at the right age and have the means to do so if free to bet and play. The same way people could also avoid gambling because they have their own decision to begin with. Some men and women might not really like the idea of gambling, and that's the truth. This is mostly because of their own misconceptions of gambling and also because of the negative connotation of it. We can't really blame them for having such idea because it is somehow true that gambling can be a scary thing depending on the person's ways of handling it. It will really boil down on how a person can control his emotions and urges to avoid falling into the trap of gambling addiction.

I am very happy in my married life like op because my wife takes good care of me and always tries to keep me away from bad activities like gambling. I used to gamble in front of him for some time and he didn't say anything but he followed my activities now he doesn't let me gamble. He realized that I was slowly becoming addicted to gambling. My wife started speaking against my gambling from the day she came to know that I took a loan from the bank and squandered the money by gambling. Glad to hear you are still keeping up with your Ex girlfriend.  he he he

It has to be, it's not about being responsible in admitting something because it's a habit, whatever is done especially if it has become a fairly frequent activity, if it's a form of acknowledgment and if it's not done it becomes a mental burden, that's right. As long as you don't use emergency money or your own money (from work) for your personal needs, I'm fine with it.

You're a good wife for wanting to maintain honesty and it's not too late as long as you haven't stopped gambling.  Honesty is valued more by me than knowing everything that is hidden and known from others. Gambling is practically the same as you describe, although in reality it is enough to start the money you want to play and stop with enough profit even if the vapo or loss is a little bit the point is to manage expectations, and if the prediction is of course even though the general discussion but similar to speculation. Because in each country, gambling may be a tradition even though it is packaged in each game, either among humans or the system in the mobile app.

I don't think your husband will be disappointed for too long with your decision to tell the truth, although there is the potential for him to be a little pensive because he is afraid that you have crossed the line, or will increase your time schedule for working hours and taking care of the family at home, worried that you have a lot of energy. But I think you will still be accepted and become a wife in the house as long as you gamble within reasonable limits and do not harm the whole house

I agree with you, because as husband and wife of course they have to be open with each other, not by keeping things a secret from each other, including gambling, because even if one of them gambles, if it doesn't disturb their family relationship then it's possible that the other party will too. I won't mind it, but if the other party is against activities that can be done, such as gambling, and he tells you to stop and stay away, that's because he doesn't want anything bad to happen to himself and his family relationships.

I think it's normal for the husband to be angry because gambling shouldn't be done, because gambling has an extraordinary impact, and being angry doesn't mean it's without reason, but it's a sign that the husband loves his wife so he doesn't want anything bad to happen. hit their family. That's right, just hiding it won't help her, but it will only make the problem bigger because the husband doesn't know about her habit, and it's worse if the husband finds out about it from someone else like his wife's friend. , if it's like this, in my opinion, there will be big problems in a family, and of course this shouldn't happen, because this could lead to divorce.

If husband cannot trust his wife then there will be no peace in the family. A wife should share everything from gambling to her husband. As OP mentions, the wife is not an addicted gambler. But she may feel shy that her husband might think badly of her if he knows about her gambling. But she should also know that if her husband knows about gambling behind her back, it may create a bad attitude towards her. So if the woman informs her husband about her gambling before he knows it, there will be no rift in their relationship.

True, he has a wife who is very caring and concerned about him, I think it seems like his wife has a good understanding in the overall point of view of gambling, she can really conclude that in gambling there are more negatives than positives, if you understand what gambling really is then you will also have the same point of view as that woman, we can see many examples and maybe even you are also aware of the fact that in gambling losses usually always dominate more than wins that only come occasionally and with this means that if you can't stop or just limit it then you will lose money slowly in a certain amount.

So I think if you are experiencing the same scenario as that family where the wife is against gambling then I think it's better to reconsider, don't let you experience problems in your family relationship with your partner just because of gambling which is really an activity that is not recommended because of the many dangers that might befall you. On the other hand, like your story that your ex-girlfriend's husband committed suicide and that is the bad impact of addiction that makes a person suffer from many problems that make him depressed to do things out of control.