Topic: Does it looks responsible as woman telling husband you gamble? - page 11. (Read 2300 times)

A relationship without having no secrets is much better and much preferred rather than on having a partner which does have those hidden things or secrets on each other.
You would really be that definitely be ending up on having that kind of possible arguementation on the time that one of you would really be caught up something on doing the things
which arent supposed to be done or simply that the other isnt really that liking specially on doing gambling on which on the time that you do get caught then it would surely be a
problem and this is why it would be always best that you should really be honest most of the time. This is why its better to tell him rather than on getting you caught.

All the OP's points mentioned are correct, and if all the points are actually done well there is no problem.
However, the problem with the points mentioned by the OP is that there are no points of important obligations that the wife must carry out in taking care of the household, husband, children and other important needs. And if these points are implemented along with the points mentioned by OP, then overall it will be safe. And I'm just afraid that everything won't go well, or maybe there are some wifely obligations that have been neglected.
And I personally would forbid my wife from gambling, and I have no problem with her gambling responsibly, having fun and so on. And I'm worried that my wife will neglect some of her work or obligations and also be a bad example for the children.

Honestly as couples, we should be able to know ourselves well and be also accountable on each other, there's no how we can make a decision on our own without involving our partner, of your wife is just making a discovery of you being a gambler now over the time being you both have been together then you're a cheat and not to be trusted, there's no point hiding for your wife whom you're or what you do as long as you're being confident about it, so such woman can rake on her husband more than enough if she got to discover such.

Women generally don't like gambling much like my wife is always against gambling if I want to gamble it has to be done secretly. And if a woman in a family encourages her husband to gamble without stopping him, then that family will face many problems.  However, women in most families do not like gambling, which is why they pressure their husbands to stay away from it and reduce the effects of gambling on men.  And in married life, no man can continue to gamble for long, hidden from his wife

Even if she doesn't tell him, he will know about this secret at some point. It's impossible to hide a gambling routine, because it directly interferes on the financial life of the couple. The husband will notice there is money missing, so he will ask the wife where she has been spending it. If she lies, it will get even worse, as the husband will become highly suspicious of her and will start looking for left tracks of the money. He just need to check bank account's history to see deposits made at casino platforms.

If she decided to lie, then I fear it's the end of the marriage, because he won't trust her anymore, doesn't matter the situation. And without trust, no marriages can exist, at least in a true way, although there are people who decide to remain together solely for formal reasons, to not disappoint the society or not be criticized by people around.

To tell the truth is the best alternative, despite the consequences.

Could be a new way for you and your husband to bond over something really. But I say you guys should proceed with caution. I've seen one to many a story about families being ruined by gambling all because they couldn't check themselves or control their urges and impulses.

It's so easy to lose track of your own self when you're enjoying the company of other people, especially those that you really care about. Even though you're gambling pretty responsibly there's a pretty good chance that you guys may fall in too deep when the both of you start your gambling spree and lose on a couple of games. Both should have a way to check on each other or at least be responsible enough on their own to quit gambling when they are already aggravated with the results of their sessions. As I said this could be a new way for you two to really have fun when other means of enjoying yourselves aren't available at the moment. Both of you teaming up or going against each other on certain games like poker and dice are a real way to connect and enjoy each other's companies even at the comfort of your home. Just need a little precaution and care to make sure you guys don't get addicted to gambling. And of course, you should let him know about it and be honest with him as well so trust can be built between you guys.

Yes, if their husbands really give permission to engage in gambling activities then I think there will be no problems in the family relationship between her and her husband, but I just hope that she will be able to maintain her husband's trust by having a good approach and way of gambling so that things don't happen in the future. And maybe I would advise her to remain firm in applying awareness, caution and vigilance to her gambling involvement because as we know that this activity has a lot of things that look tempting that can certainly change one's perspective and mindset such as the temptation of winning.

It is not uncommon to find gamblers who eventually fall into the addiction phase even though they initially had boundaries and control, as I said above that there are so many things that can tempt you and that means anything is possible and it cannot be denied that you might become one of the next victims. So my advice is to maintain awareness and firmness on the precautions you have in place to keep you safe.

It depends.If he is a pussy all house and church and is afraid of all what people might perceive as unhealthy activities it is better to not tell him that you are involved in such activities.In case he is a real man then even if you tell him I don't think he will make a big mess about it and most likely accept what you have been doing,maybe he will start giving some advices and monitor you more than before but overall I don't think it will be a big problem for him.In the end as you see depend on the type of guy your husband is.

Well, I do not know about your relationship with your husband and how much you both have mutual understanding but still in an ideal family situation husband and wife should not hide anything between them and both should have the big heart to accept each other choices and opinions.

I guess, if you think that you can convince your husband and he won't be angry with you, you can tell him that you gamble without telling him. It can be much worse if he discovers himself that you are involved in gambling but the intensity of his reaction will be much less if you, yourself tell him that you're an occasional gambler.

Again I would repeat try to make your relationship open with your husband so that you do not need to hide anything. It will be good for both the husband and the wife.

That is a good thing for you. Another positive result is that you can finally talk with your husband regarding your gambling habits. At least you already have his consent, you can do gambling without being worried about what will be the opinion of your husband about it. As long as you know your limitation, and you don't think that your gambling activities will be a problem between you and your husband in the future, you will be a responsible gambler.

Yes I don't take it as a career or as a must and a must do something without undermining my limits I can't even gamble with the mindset of making a living chasing rewards from gambling and secondly people tends to channel their efforts and thinking on becoming very rich through gambling with this mindset they will always get addicted to turns into serious issues among themselves. When people understand the values of a responsible gambling then they will always learn to set a limitation for themselves without looking out whatever profit they will make or that is to come, when they play or bets any game they should look their limits to save their home.

Healthy relationship would really be pertaining on having no secrets into each other, it doesnt really need that those personal problems would be able to be reached out into those people
speaking about this and about that. They arent the ones who could help you out but rather it would be better that you should really be that telling honestly into your husband or your wife
that you are really that engaged into something. Having those kind of sincere explaination and asking for some forgiveness when it comes on lying or hiding something from your lived ones
then it cant be avoided sometimes on not to be angry specially if you had been blinded but telling them early as you could then it would might be just accepted and forgiven so easily.

Depends on the people you’re telling, since not all are sincere to help you or to at least hear your side, so make sure you only tell stories to the real people. If your wife opens about gambling to you then that she is asking for an assurance that you wont be mad and you’ll hear her side. Having a partner should always be open to each other and have a good communication so you can have a healthy relationship, this can also be the way to help your partner when the trouble comes.

That's a good sign I guess, by hearing that from your partner means that he understand you and trust you in terms of limiting yourself, as long as there's no problem that will raise I guess that words from your partner is an indication that he's giving you the green light just do your responsibility not to dwell that much to avoid any problem to come out.

Gambling is gambling and the bad after effect is something that can ruin your relationship so better to always put that above in any decision making that you'll going to do while playing/gambling.

Okay i have also seen your view towards this but the point is that he knows that i am into this forum as well earning little via sig promotion, so I think it is better to let him know than keep shuts. However, we've both discussed it and he didn't give any negative feedback towards my involvements rather he was saying that "Na so the hustle don carry me reach"?. So indirectly i understand as a woman I shouldn't go above my limits and bands, and i don't even plans to gamble regularly talks less of becoming an addicted gambler. Btw Who told you that women don't gamble is there any law by our Federation that stated women shouldn't gamble in our country or something similar?

A gambler may bring trouble to his family by gambling. But if a husband or wife of a family is addicted to gambling, he should give up gambling for the peace of the family. There are some people who gamble without thinking about the family. Became addicted to gambling. People who get addicted to gambling without thinking about their family have to face many family problems. If a wife is addicted to gambling then her husband should explain his wife and take her away from gambling. And if any  A husband becomes addicted to gambling and his wife's duty is to convince her husband.

I don't know about the cultural differences of different regions and how things work, but based on the rules of marriage and marital partnership, a partner isn't supposed to hide anything from their partner, whether it's husband or wife. There is a level of trust among two people that are married to each other based on which they are supposed to share everything which creates a general understanding among them and they can discuss and decide what one or both partners need and need not to do.

So, I think you shouldn't have hidden it in the first place. I understand that you are using your own money but he is your partner and you shouldn't hide anything from him. So, I would say you should go ahead and let him know because if he finds out about it, that will shatter the trust he has in you which isn't good for your relationship.

At first gambling is not good for women and no man will be happy seing his wife Gambling. Because men alway see women that gambles as inresponsible women. Because if women takes gambling serious, it might cause a serious problem in the family in the sense that woman are like manager of the family and if they fail to manage the family financial issues, it might cause havoc because the woman might be the fund given to her by her husband for family expenditure to play gamble. and always find excuses that might atract third party interference. So its better not to let him know Because if you do it will generate alot of controversies between you both except maybe you have won a huge some of money before letting him know.

It's better to be open with your husband since clearly you have discipline everytime you play. Therefore I don't think it will become an issue if you tell your husband about this because you're not addicted to it and just playing in moderation and as you've said, for fun.

However, there are things that you can keep to yourself especially if this activity doesn't affect your relationship with the family and your finances. But of course, it's still best to have an open communication with your husband so he will be aware of what you are up to.

Honesty and openness about the things that's happening to you in your relationship should be a priority, if you're hiding something from your partner or loved one then the possibility of that relationship maturing to the point that you're together forever is going to go down, I don't say this as someone that's biased on gender or someone that wants to meddle with your relationship but I do think that you should let your husband know about this habit of yours because this involves finances and I don't think that anyone in a relationship appreciates that their significant other is hiding something from them, who knows, your husband might even support you or even join you gambling, this might be your new bonding time as a couple and it's also a good thing for you to be able to be honest with your husband because it eases up your heart and soul because you're not bottling something inside that when left unchecked would explode on you in the worst possible way.