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Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
You have a complicated situation in your life situation, if you are a woman and a gambler, you have to be very careful in situations like that, before you say what you want to say, the risk is that your household could fall apart leading to divorce.

My opinion in such a situation.
* You are a wife, of course you know your husband's activities, look and investigate first, whether he is angry or happy when you talk about gambling, don't tell him you gamble first, provoke him about gambling, If his response is positive and happy about talking about gambling, then you talk about how you gamble. On the other hand, if your husband's response is negative towards gambling, don't occasionally say that you gamble, he might get angry and divorce you.

In situations like that you have to look at both, sometimes there are husbands and wives who both like to gamble, there are also vice versa, the wife gambles, the husband doesn't and really hates gambling, so it depends on the situation between the two, after that you can talk about something, after both understand the situation.

You are correct in your idea and suggestions I think we have both engaged in gambling discussion before I didn't see him respond negativity, just that he was neutral while talking with him about few matches that plays some days ago. Just that he was wondering how I suddenly began to pick up interest while before he was the only one who loves watching football and wrestling, my sudden interest made him started wondering, though he might be suspecting me and who knows that was why I raised this topic to have a collective idea to know how to handle this situation at hands.
Anyway.. thank you for your contribution +1 for you, I am out of sendable otherwise I could have credited.
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I do not see any problem in gambling if it doesn't affect you financially, mentally, or emotionally and if it doesn't affect your life as a whole. I would rather be open with my partner regarding this than to secretly do something else behind their back, and take it as a form of respect to your partner. As you mentioned, you do it for fun and it seems you have full control of your gambling habit. I think it won't hurt if ever your husband asks you to stop gambling as it seems you are not that inclined to gambling and see it as a form of entertainment than a source of income, this is just incase he doesn't agree with you getting involved in gambling.
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It would always be a better choice to be honest with your partner where after confessing your habit, both of you can think of a solution or end up on a decision whether he will support you or would ask you to stop. Since you know to yourself that you are gambling responsibly then the only problem for not telling him is that you are not sure about his reaction cause we all know that gambling is really bad if handled poorly. It could be a worst-case scenario if he found it out on his plus in a long time already. If you are already in a family or have a partner, this kind of habit and lifestyle would be normal if you are young but don't forget the responsibility of being in a committed relationship, there would be always a sacrifice like your habit that we consider not good that would affect that relationship.
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Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
I don't mean anything or what but let me ask you this,
Is your husband the only one who makes the earnings for your family? Or do you also provide for the family?

If the money you spend on your gambling activity is your own money, I don't see anything wrong with it. But if it is your husband's money that is given to you to handle the money for the family's daily needs and monthly expenses, you have to say it.

And if there's something within you that makes you want to tell him about your gambling activities, it's better to follow it and have a discussion with your husband. Hiding anything from your husband will only make things worse if ever he finds out about it.
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Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

  • Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
  • Not chasing profit after lost
  • Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
  • Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
  • Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
  • Not gambling with all my income or salaries
  • Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

In my opinion, even though you gamble with a goal that is not like many gamblers in general, but also because you can control your emotions and control your finances, there is no harm in telling about your habits, because if you are married, it is better to do all the things you do. open, and he himself must also be open to you, but if you feel he is closed, there's no harm in hiding your gambling activities if it doesn't make you lose money.

However, what must be paid attention to and must be remembered is that gambling can affect the thinking of someone who plays it, therefore gambling can change a person's thoughts and also their attitudes or behavior, this is what must be paid attention to. Don't let your relationship be destroyed because of gambling because that's not very good. and what I know is that there are many people who get divorced because of unstable financial problems If you gamble and are still able to manage your finances well, you must maintain it, don't let gambling affect your family's finances.
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Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
You have a complicated situation in your life situation, if you are a woman and a gambler, you have to be very careful in situations like that, before you say what you want to say, the risk is that your household could fall apart leading to divorce.

My opinion in such a situation.
* You are a wife, of course you know your husband's activities, look and investigate first, whether he is angry or happy when you talk about gambling, don't tell him you gamble first, provoke him about gambling, If his response is positive and happy about talking about gambling, then you talk about how you gamble. On the other hand, if your husband's response is negative towards gambling, don't occasionally say that you gamble, he might get angry and divorce you.

In situations like that you have to look at both, sometimes there are husbands and wives who both like to gamble, there are also vice versa, the wife gambles, the husband doesn't and really hates gambling, so it depends on the situation between the two, after that you can talk about something, after both understand the situation.
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I think it's worth telling your husband so that he can understand that you are gambling and he can protect you from the problem of losing too much money to gambling addiction. Even though you still feel like you can protect yourself from gambling and not cross these boundaries, no one knows that you can stay like that when you are gambling. There are times when a person will be weak and helpless, so when he sees the temptation to get a promotion offered by the casino, he will immediately take it without thinking. That's where the problem will arise and he can lose control of himself, especially when he uses more money without anyone's knowledge, including his husband or wife. If you can be honest with your husband and you don't hide anything from your husband, he can continue to protect you from anything. But if you're not honest with him, he could be disappointed and you might end up with something you don't want.
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The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

For me, women shouldn't be involved in gambling no matter how conscious you're in maintaining a good gambling habit but it's not really a good idea for a woman to be involved in gambling or gambling related activities due to some certain reasons because if a woman gets involved in gambling, her duties as a wife will begin to fade because she might not be too focused on her family again.

Sometimes, in her quiet times she will start reminiscing about the games that she gambles with and it will distract her from her normal daily duties as a wife. Even if she tells her husband about her gambling habits and her husband sees reasons with her and possibly gives her advice and clues on how to go about her gambling habit but me I can't encourage a wife to be involved in gambling though if it's a woman that's not married that one is quite different because she has time to herself unlike married ones.

If she likes what she does and she feels that she can relax from playing the game and wants to have a past time from work or taking care of her children, then why do you stop your wife from doing what makes her happy? I mean, there is nothing bad if she gambles when she knows her limit, as she stated above, and she can manage her finances and her emotions as well. I mean, let's promote gender equality, and that doesn’t mean that she is a woman; she cannot play what men are capable of.
 
If it is wrong for others to see a woman who is skilled at gambling, consider whether it is appropriate for other men to see husbands who are emotionally unstable to the point where, in the event that they lose and become enraged, their family will become involved, and he may even harm his wife. It is quite a comfort when a woman confides in her husband about personal matters. This allows the husband to know what his wife is up to outside of raising the family, and he may warn or raise awareness if she is heading in the wrong direction.
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The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Of course it is definitely worth telling your husband about your gambling ventures.

When a man and a woman gets married, there should absolutely be no secrets to each other no matter how difficult it may be to accept to the other party. This secret involves anything that may or may not affect the relationship- so naturally you should tell him about your gambling activities. Not only this may keep the marriage intact, but this may also be helpful for you to understand better the risks that may be involved in gambling.

At the end of the day, your husband deserves to know everything especially that the money that is being used in gambling is part of the absolute community of your marriage. Naturally, every expenses must be audited for proper financing.
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The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

You're the wife you are in a better position to answer this, I know you already know the answer to your question and you just want to validate your answer, follow your hunch, on running a family wife's decision is always correct, and besides honesty is the best policy more so inside our home.
Ask yourself what if your husband found out in an unexpected way or from other people, so respect your husband and your family and do the right thing.
You can't go wrong if you follow your hunch and be honest about what you feel you should do.
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The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
We should really put up into your minds that there's no secrets that could be hidden or would really be kept forever on which if you are really that been bothered on everyday that he might caught you
then it would really be better that you should really be telling him, but of course you should really expect that there would really be those main questions would be asked. It would really be that impossible that your husband wont really be talking about financial spending on where you do get it? Even if you would really be telling yourself that you are on having that good control but it
is impossible that it wont really be raising up those questions that your husband would be mainly thinking.

This is why it would really be always best that you should really be telling him about it or else then it would really be that resulting into huge quarrel because
it would really be that impossible that you wont really be that having those questions or interrogations about gambling thing on which we do know
that this is something that would be a lasting kind of discussions and questions asked.
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Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

IMO, you should share the issues that are on your mind with your husband. I don't see anything that would make your husband object to you gambling seriously. And even if your husband has a negative attitude towards gambling, explain your point of view clearly. I think in a marital relationship there should not be any secrets, sharing to understand and accept each other. But remember your attitude and responsibility towards gambling, as you said. To be honest with gambling, there will be situations where you can lose control, but don't let things go too far and make mistakes make you regret.
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The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
Firstly, I think you should be open to your husband. In marriage, both parties should always know about the financial and other activities of their spouse because it promotes trust and understanding. So I suggest your husband should know about your gambling activities. Another issue is your husband's view about gambling. Have you ever discussed anything about gambling with him and what was his reaction? If he is comfortable with gambling then you might have a soft landing but if he is against it, you have to be ready for his reactions.

The fact is that I would not want my wife to be engaged in gambling because it is not in line with our cultural and religious beliefs. I think the mother should focus on raising children rather than gambling. My wife could analyse games and come up with predictions but I will not want her to be an active gambler. Even if she is a responsible gambler, I will still prefer to be the gambler and let her focus on other activities. In summary, If you think he has a negative view about gambling, you might consider discussing it with him or consider quitting. But if he has a positive view about gambling, I don't think he would stop you from gambling.         
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The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
Are you gambling with the funds meant for family upkeep? Is your gambling habits preventing you from fulfilling your duty as a wife to your husband? How about your kids and extended members of your family. If you are using one percent of your income for gambling and your are doing everything responsibly, then yo do not need to tell your husband about it. If you have had enough of your gambling and want to quit, then do so quietly. If he doesn't ask you, then do not tell him so that the relative peace and mutual respect which I want to believe you are enjoying in your home will still continue.
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In my opinion, in as much as you are not a compulsive gambler and you have not yet lost your mind to gambling, then you don't have any problem with your choice to gamble. If peradventure you started noticing some reckless symptoms of gambling addiction in yourself, then there is a need to talk to your husband about it but where there is no such for now, you are safe and you are enjoying the fun of gambling and also making some money.

Few days ago, there was a thread I came across, Will you be worried or comfortable seeing your elderly mother gambling?, the image in that thread was what baffled me because it looks like the woman has lost more that she expected.

@Smartgold01, if you finally tell your husband That you are now a gambler, how do you think he will react? And if perhaps he ask you to stop gambling there after, will you obay him?  

Like I said before, as long as you are gambling responsibly and you are not gambling off the money that is not supposed to be used for gambling, then you are safe.
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The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.
In my opinion, you should tell your husband because he is the head of your family who has the right to know what his wife is doing. Moreover, this is about trust in the family, don't hide your gambling activities which will result in a lack of openness in the family. As a husband, I would forbid my wife from getting involved in gambling because her job at home is to be a good mother and take care of the children. What I mean here is that some family rules vary from place to place, so if that happened to my wife, it would give her some kind of reprimand because she was hiding her gambling activities outside of my knowledge as her husband. And to be honest, I strictly forbid it.

Don't feel as if you have control over your gambling emotions because the situation is temporary. You've only started gambling for just a few weeks and feel able to control all the risks and consequences? Be open with your husband even if it's a little bitter, but once again if you continue to hide it, that's not a good choice either.
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Revenge. Never do this brother.
Why can I say that? Because I've been there. It doesn't end well so I am passing the torch to you. There are times when we think that gambling sites will give back what we have lost, but the better idea would be to forget about it. They won't give back, it's a fucking bad joke. It would be better to start all over again than expecting something that would not come.

About responsible gambling, as long as you are not hurting the budget for the family then I think it's okay. Some would say it's still not right, but for me, that's the only possible way to control yourself.
We will always be on the path to try and take back what is taken from us so chasing losses will be a norm. But if you could possibly control that bad emotion and play in a professional way, then I think you will be okay. There's a limit for everything and I do believe the limit in gambling is if you feel like you are losing and cannot afford another bet, don't force it. Gambling sites will always be there waiting for us but our budget could sometimes not cover it anymore so it's better to just get out and try again next time.
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For me, women shouldn't be involved in gambling no matter how conscious you're in maintaining a good gambling habit but it's not really a good idea for a woman to be involved in gambling or gambling related activities due to some certain reasons because if a woman gets involved in gambling, her duties as a wife will begin to fade because she might not be too focused on her family again.

Sometimes, in her quiet times she will start reminiscing about the games that she gambles with and it will distract her from her normal daily duties as a wife. Even if she tells her husband about her gambling habits and her husband sees reasons with her and possibly gives her advice and clues on how to go about her gambling habit but me I can't encourage a wife to be involved in gambling though if it's a woman that's not married that one is quite different because she has time to herself unlike married ones.

The heck are you on about? Where do you live? Under a rock? Are you one of those men who feels like women are subject to wife duties such as cleaning, cooking, etc. while you're allowed to gamble and sit on the couch doing nothing to contribute to the house you're also living in? What kind of nonsense is this, and how can you have such a foul way of thinking in 2024?

@SmartGold01, You're asking; thus, it's something that has been bothering you. If so, then you should go ahead and be honest about it. Personally, I wouldn't like to find out one day by myself because you forgot a casino website was open or whatever. Plus, if you're honest about it, you wouldn't have to worry about doing it in secret anymore.
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Two people married to be one. Even as their may be some things that you may keep from each other, gambling should not be there. But the best is for you to not keep anything away from each other. Just tell him if you are not comfortable not telling him. But make sure you are using just little amount for it, do not gamble too much and do not let gambling take your time. If you gamble in the appropriate way, there should not be a problem.
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Quite sometimes now i have been active in the gambling section and have pick interest to start gambling i have gone through lots of material in both the forum, i have seen that I can control my emotion as well as controlling my finance this includes;

  • Not involving myself in a revenge gambling
  • Not chasing profit after lost
  • Not involving oneself into compulsive gambling
  • Not solely replying on every game to be 100 percent correct
  • Not hoping that gamble is guaranteed
  • Not gambling with all my income or salaries
  • Among all, gambling for fun and not to enrich oneself

The point is my husband doesn't know that i have been secretly gambling and involving myself with gambling discussions and the rest, So, this morning when i woke something in me keeps telling me i should let him know to understand my involvement  to practice gambling.

Does this worth telling him or not please i need you collective ideas.

Since both of you are married, I think He has the right to know this thing especially that this activity involves money. For me, it would be better if your husband knows that you gamble, so that at least he has an idea of ​​what you are doing. Also, he can help you when unexpected events occur due to gambling. it's good for him to know especially since you mentioned the thing that you don't do even if you participate in gambling, you just have to explain it to him properly and mention that you are a responsible gambler. You know? it feels easier when you don't hide anything from your husband.
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