Topic: Gambler avoiding friends after a big win. - page 18. (Read 3111 times)

Apart from gambling win, money is something that reveals your true self on what you are capable of doing. Many people are selfish but you won't know until there is a thing happening that will reveal the real identify of the like the gambler who ran off his gambling friends . Now is he associating with the guys who have some money but he couldn't do that before his winning, he sticked with his friends. He has inferiority idealogy and that is why he felt he has moved up and won't go to the gambling friends. Anyway, money is transient if not well managed.


However, it depends on the level of friendship that exist between them because I know some gamblers just form clique while gambling because they share shame goal and aspiration which is to win big some day and this is fustered because they meet almost on a daily basis at the offline gambling house. So in such situation they may not be regarded as friends that are indepted to each other one way or the other but there are also true friends who have been through thick and thin, so you don't have to move on like that after all you guys where there together and putting heads together trying to summount the insurmountable financial huddles all the while.

This happens a lot as you have pointed out, but most times the friends might also be the one to be blame this is because for someone to keep you by his side when he have made it in left means, at the struggling stage you where there giving them that support they needed to overcome what ever circumstances that hardship have presented and doing that alone shows that those people have the interest of your success at hand.

So the question is, the people who claims the man have abandoned them and forgetting their long time friendship, when he have not won that bet what have they done for him, have they supported him in any way, even if it’s not financially have they given him any form of moral support which will help him reach where he is today. No body want to keep who can’t help them go far in life close to them, I have money now means I should be dreaming big and anything that will want to drag be backward I will have to cut those things up, so I believe that’s what the guy in question just did.

That is true. Managing expenses and investments is not everyone's cup of tea. In fact, many people are bad at managing their wealth and end up bring broke even after having a huge amount of money.
We have already seen people who had won a huge amount of money in lotteries still ended up being poor. So such people lose their wealth as well as their relationships with their closed ones just because they changed when they got money.
Nothing lasts forever and I have even written it as my personal text in my profile. People should be aware of this fact and stay humble with everyone.

It is better to prevent than to cure, instead you want to boast about yourself because you have been able to get a victory but on the other hand behind the scenes you are talked about by them because you only sponsor but do not give any rations to your friends as a form of celebrating the results of your victory. It really depends on yourself, if you really want to give them some of the winnings then go ahead if you want to tell them, but if you don't want to give anything then I think it's better to keep it a secret. That's right, it's better to keep quiet and behave as usual by not showing anything and also not to avoid them because there will definitely be suspicion.

If you do want to give a little of the winnings to the closest person then yes you can tell in detail how much it is because if you lie about the amount then surely there might be suspicion, especially if you give it very little. Therefore, honesty is better but you must know the place and know who the person is.

 I think this person did the right thing because if the money the one is very big it could make his dear friends to betray him, I believe the gambler is just scared for his life, there are too many betrayers happening now, and you can't even trust anyone when it's about money, the one you don't even expect to betray you will do it.

 It is also possible that this Gambler is a very stingy man maybe he get away from his friend to avoid giving them some part of the money there are some people who are like this they are hiding their real self because they don't have money and once they get access to some money that is where they will start avoiding people who was with them right from the beginning when they are nobody but all in all I don't want to judge this Gambler because it is unclear what really happened why they decide to make such decision.

 There are some people who keep some friends just because they don't want to be alone and there are some people who keep friends because those friends are genuinely good friend to them so let's not judge anybody you can be in the same position where has the friends you keep you cannot be trusted and there is a part in you that believe that you can't trust them so once you eat a money and they're aware that you eat that money you won't want to stay around such friends since you never trust them right from the beginning so I believe this story looks something like this but I'm not really sure.

Whatever the case might be, there is something we can learn from this story, do not trust people that you never trusted right from day one when you have access to some valuable things or money, they can be the end of you, and do not betray your good friend simply because you are now richer than they are.

Yes, there are people like that and we also can't do anything because it all depends on each person. That means their friendship is not affected by anything and that is very rare for many people to experience.

These close people already know a person's temperament and character, so they won't feel anything if someone gets a big win and considers it normal. However, we cannot equate it with other people because the situation and conditions will differ, so we must understand it well. And if there is someone who wins a lot of money but instead deliberately distances himself from his friends, that is also up to them and his close friends may already understand why he did that.

But sometimes there are also people who already know that their friends have such traits, instead do deliberately showing their victory, but when asked he does not give it, but what I observe their friendship is still ongoing and there is no quarrel or whatever happens to their relationship.

Instead, I think that people who are too close will be more courageous to show their attitude and behave like that to the winners, rather than distant people who can be skeptical of the victory we have gotten, psychologically the person who is the closest will associate it with feelings, which when a friend Near his request was not fulfilled, it would make a rebellion and feel disappointed to his friend who did not give what he asked. So it's better not to say it, even though it's your close friend, sir.

It would be nice for you to not say the nominal winning you win, if you want to share though, share without having to answer specifically the nominal victory you get.

I always expect any behaviour from people, both friends and strangers, so I am not always surprised whenever things like this happen. Not everyone we call our friends is truly our friend, some of them are just pretending, and the easiest way to know someone’s true character is when they have money. Any of your friends who doesn’t change after being richer than you are the true people we should call friends, and I'm sure just a few percent of people won’t change after having money.
 
After winning, what the boy was supposed to do was just give his friends some money for them to take care of themselves, and I am sure if he has done that, then his friends wouldn’t even ask him for money, and they would maintain their friendship. But maybe he doesn’t want to share the money with any of his friends, and he knows that they will keep asking him for money if he continues to associating himself with them. That’s why he just decided to start avoiding them.
 
All I know is that if he finishes the money, then he will have nobody to meet, he has already chased away his friends, and I am sure they will never accept him back even if he goes back to them.

I agree with you if you didn't include the word " friend ". So for me, I also see it wrong. I can relate to this as I have friends like this who I won't see when they have something but they approach me if they have nothing. It is very annoying. They are lucky that I didn't confront their behaviors but I never let them abuse me anymore.

If the gambling friends are those people whom we only meet in the casino, and our places are far away from each other, they shouldn't feel bad and think their friend are avoiding them but it was only the gambling is the ones that he avoid. We don't know the reasons but he might be doing those examples you mentioned. There is still a chance for him to play again soon.

Once you do leave and abandon those friends then it would really be final and there's no turning back but if you are lucky then there are really friends who are really that willing or ready to forgive you but of course this is something that cant be known until it would happen. Come to think that there's no such thing about permanent on this world and we do know on how relevant on having a friend is but its not shocking that for the sake of money then anyone could really changed up an instant and this is something not really that good to look at on which you are really that making yourself getting that controlled with the love of money or simply being greedy on which you are really that prepared or willing to surrender anything for the sake of it on which it isnt really that a good quality of a certain person.

Good thing if you do able to make those amounts to be able to make it big or something that could sustain you but we know that it wont really be that easy specially on investment or whatever business you would be making. Once you do able to fail then you would really be coming back into those basic things on which meeting up with friends and hanging out again? It wont really be that the same ever
again after you have abandoned them.This is why its never been that ideal on taking up such action specially when it comes to relationship because money cant really be able to
exchange or replace that loyalty and friendship.

If you accept that life is all about changes, you will worry less about some things, that's what you can not change about life, changes happen and you should likewise expect people to do the same. It's a normal thing you see people change their cycle when they unlocked a great financial level, they will likely want to change everything about them. You can't blame them for that, that's how life is, it occur everytime.


I don't think a gambler should take that far, how much did they win that will warrant that kind of treatment. The money he won will finish at some point and when that happens, if he is the type that cannot mingle alone, he will be feeling lonely and will want to regroup with the same guys he left when he had a minor change with him.

I think the guy is only stingy type that thinks his friends are after his money that will finish one day. Only few people use gambling money for serious things, most likely pay bills and enjoy for some couple of days and then go back to how they are use to been broke. As long as he didn't win a jack pot of money, by the time the money finish, he will comr back to the street.

Some people are just looking for that lucky break in order to get out of a destructive cycle and that sounds a lot like what's happened here. It depends how far a million goes in the local currency, but in most western countries that would symbolize a very hefty win and possibly enough to retire on if it was invested wisely. There may also be a hint of jealousy that comes in from certain friends, who might talk about it but would possibly do exactly the same thing. If someone wanted to leave gambling, or any addiction behind, then often that means cutting off people that you used to associate with in that arena. It's a shame when friendships like that break down and there is inevitably going to be some hurt feelings, but they'll move on.

Staying away from his friends, wouldn't increase the money, if he doesn't invest it, the money will still finish and when it finishes will he still be able to see those his abandoned friends as people that he can mingle with again..No.

Sometimes I wonder why some people allow money to control their thinking. Who knows if tomorrow one of those his friends will win a bigger amount of money than what he won, and would also treat him the way he treated them. I don't see any reason why we are to stay far from our friends when we are somebody but embrace them when we are nobody.

Whatever his reason for staying away from his friends is his reason. I'm not sure how common this is but all the time, a Sudden Wealth Syndrome (SWS) always affects the being of a person. I think the money he won is not enough to share with his friends so he just avoids instead. Or maybe he just learned these 2 friends talked behind him.

I would probably offer beer to this friend if I were one of the two. Just so they can chat again. If they were friends surely they could laugh again at whatever they always talk about.

 Funny enough, I see some reasons in your line of thought. But if it was his friend that won that money and not him, i believe he would be complaining of the Same thing if his friend is giving him this same attitude he currently dishing out. Money some times brings out some hidden characters in people, and the guy has shown to be that kind of person to his friends. There is nothing wrong in giving his friends some amount of money to share within themselves, at least to cheer them up for their friendship over the years, doing that wouldn't make him go broke.

The gambler after the win should not stay away from the friends who did the good things for them.Because not all the friends are same,some of the friends are good.Some of them are bad by their character.So the gambler can stay away from the person who try to cheat their money after the win.But he can help the friends who stay with him during the hard times of their life.The good people won’t stay away from their good friends,because the money doesn’t affect their feelings.The gambler should not change his mentality after the big win from the gambling.He should keep their good heart after the big win and try to help the poor any needy from the winnning from the gambling.

Just because we've won, we should not try to be away from the friends who had done good for us. Similar incidents can be seen all around, however it is the people's mind. If we see the winning of the person next to us to be our winning then there is no problem. Here most of us don't have such a mentality, when one had won our minds will start thinking, how can he/she can win. This mentality is really bad and serve to be the reason to make the friends break the relation.

For me, there’s no need to avoid your friends because you are just afraid that they will try to borrow you and won’t be able to return the money. Instead, face them and tell them the truth that you are also in need of that money so that they will also understand your point. At least, giving them some tips regardless of the amount will make them feel that they are not forgotten and are still important to you. If they are really your friends, they will understand you and won’t never criticize your decision.

Large-scale borrowing has an unwritten code of ethics. Honoring the loan payback is crucial, but remembering human conduct in financial transactions is too. Emotional expectations accompany the financial transaction. If someone becomes wealthy and avoids their debts, lenders may feel deceived or used. This goes beyond debt settlement; it honors trust.

Like you said, how one manages their money winnings might affect their relationships. You have the right to allocate your money. However, ignoring former supporters might backfire. Relationships are mutual. If money changes a relationship, was it genuine? However, dont our behaviors, especially financial ones, indicate our true character?

Everyone has their opinions about friends and families and believe me mine is very cruel, while growing up I changed too many friends because they betrayed me and I don't want the same to happen to me after forgiving them, they expected things we go back the way it was before but I moved away from them.

Money reveals the true self of people that's why we have to be careful with people around us, you won't know what they are capable of until it comes to money issues, I have learned a lot and I so much prefer to move alone right now compared to a few years back.

It's a shame we won't be able to know why this gambler decides to avoid his friends but some people are good at watching you very well, once they see some bad attitude in you they will wait for the perfect time to let go of you.

My opinion about this topic is that this gambler must have a good reason for doing this, maybe he never trusted his friends before but still decided to move around with them because he had nothing to lose but now that he has, he is better off alone.