Topic: Gambler avoiding friends after a big win. - page 16. (Read 3111 times)

I would have done the opposite. I would tell all my friends and see which one is my real friend or not. If I tell all my friends that I won 30 million dollars today, even without actually winning, I guarantee you that none of them will want even a single dollar from me, they would congratulate me, maybe some of them would talk behind my back Which is normal really nothing to worry about, if I learned they got 30 million then I would say stuff like "lucky mofo.." too but nothing to their faces, and ALL of them would act like everything is exactly the same and never ask a dime from me. That's the important part, if any of them ever ask me for money, unless I know that they really need it, then I would just cut ties with them.

Obviously, if its a hospital thing, like some sickness, I would help even right now as much as I can, which is my downfall because I help everyone with their hospital bills, but aside from that they wouldn't ask I am sure.

It is never that simple, there are many people that have problems saying no to other people, while at the same time there are those which are very pushy and will not accept a no for an answer and will keep asking for money nonstop.

And if we also consider that one of most crucial factors that may lead a gambler to lose the profits they got out of their gambling activities are their loved ones which squander their money, we can begin to understand why someone may take the decision to avoid them for a time until things are more clear on their minds.

You don't need to be jealous of all that because we can be friends with whoever we want. From these friendships, we have to select friends who can truly be friends so that they will be our friends whatever the conditions and situations we face so that we can give and receive well from each other. There won't be many and maybe it will only be 5 people or fewer because finding friends who can become friends is not easy and we can find them after having a few friends. And those who understand us and vice versa will maintain good friendships and not hurt each other. And if someone succeeds in winning at gambling, they will invite all their close friends to share their winnings but no one is jealous of what their friend has got because they know that it depends on their own luck and the luck of each person will be different.

Many people like to use other people for their own interests and when they get it, they will just leave it, especially if nothing is left to use. Friends like that don't need to be approached because they will approach us, especially when they need something. This has often happened to us and other people, so we have to be careful in socializing and always look for people who can be our friends in every situation and condition. Good friends are hard to find but friends who are just friends are easy to find. It's possible that the man knew that he didn't have any friends who were really close to him, so he started to stay away from people who weren't close friends because he knew that the people around him only wanted to take advantage of his winnings. He doesn't want to be lied to by friends who pretend to be nice to him but they have a specific purpose behind their good attitude.

Having a plan with the money we win from gambling is certainly a good thing but we shouldn't avoid friends who are always with us in various situations, but by telling them that we have a plan with the money we win from gambling will certainly make our friends understand it and of course they support whatever we have decided if it is good for us. Yes, of course we know which friends are always there with us and which friends are only there when they need us.

Nothing wrong with planning to grow or invest the money you won but not to totally avoid friends who know how you guys have come along way. Although, there are people who call those who are not their friends as friends but in real sense they are just acquittance but a real friend is that person who stood by you through thick and thin, so if you have a big win such people can even guide you in ideas to manage the money into lucrative business so that you don't go back to the dusk. The little beginning is always a cherish one so no point running out of friends when we win big, you only have to know who is your friends.

Yes, we also can't accuse someone of having a reason to avoid friends, it could be because they want to forget about the game and stop gambling to make life better, for example building a business or investing all the money in something that produces long-term profits, we will never know what that's on someone's mind just because he forgot us because he won big from the gambling he won. After all, it doesn't look wrong because it is his right.

As a friend we should support any decision, at least happy to see a successful friend win big money and not expect him to share his money with us because we don't know the needs of his life that he might have to fulfill, for example paying off his debts because we can't know what the problems are in his life. Try to think positively about anyone, even if it's our friend, even if he wins big, don't expect him to remember us and expect him to share the money with us.

I am very jealous about these things, I am not one to be with friends, because I consider most of them that at any moment they cannot betray, they can talk too much, I try not to give them too much encouragement, my friends are few, they do not even reach 5 fingers the hand, why? because people nowadays are quite bipolar or betrayal, disappointing most of the time, my wife is a woman who told me that she had friends, then those friends, two of them were very bad, the good thing is that she I let her know with tests, one I discovered that she was a lesbian and a witch because she did witchcraft on her when spirits came to kill them, and since I'm not afraid of that I just got scared and realized that it was her, and I told her that I didn't even want to see her. that woman more, and another one was quite biolar and toxic, then I also told her the same thing, and I told her what friends? Those who try to harm other people are not friends, but I can't understand why people focus on harming other people? What do they gain from that? I don't understand it, instead of worrying about getting money, or business, something that produces them.

Although that story has nothing to do with this, I tell it because there is a certain analogy and that is that people like to use others to climb and they don't mind trampling them as long as they clarify, so this means that when we do certain things like those friendships, which for me are not, and what this man did when he earned that money, well, they are things that show that when they do not have a common interest they use others and when they get what they want they leave , that is not about friends, so companions are one things and a friend is another, that is what we must differentiate, so when we do the analysis it is difficult when there are friends and money mixed at the same time, that is why when we We see the money and friends, we should not mix them, it is always more likely that there will be problems that will arise.

If that happened to me and I had to watch my friend do that, I would leave it at that. I can't force him to hang out with us because it's his right. I also won't ask why because I won't think about friends who change because of money. But a friend often shares money with us, especially if he wins a lot of money from gambling or gets a bonus from his company. This friend didn't avoid us and even gave us some to celebrate together because he knew we were close friends and should share it with each other.

Or maybe he knew His friend that will not accept if he tipped them small amount so instead of trying to give them , then He decides to keep a distance and may consider coming back to their group in the right time or if he already spent all that winning money.

This is a clear example of How money can change person and how can this break a group  of friends or even a family.

better never to fall the same mistake and try not to become greed because after all , that money will never stay on your side but a friends will.
sad to see his friend having a broken heart because they did  not only lose the tip but also lose a friend.

We don't know the real stories but the guy who won the big amount must have his own reason, maybe he wants to get back to the two guys who also did not give him a prize when they won, so he just wants to get back, its his right not to give part of his winnings to people that he doesn't like giving it's his money, but people will think that he is stingy he could have given 10% of his winning but it's his decision it's his money he can decide what to do with it.


It's hard to tell the right reason because we do not what happened to these people but the reason could be compelling, for the guy not to give him even a small portion but if I won a big prize  I would have given these guys even if we are not good, we have a saying here share your blessing so the blessing keeps coming and I'm a believer of that saying.

I agree with you because avoiding the friends we usually hang out with will cause us to lose close friends and no longer be able to enjoy their company. There is no need to avoid our friends, especially if our friends are close friends, because they are friends who are with us whatever our conditions. We could tell them honestly about the victory we got and celebrate it together so that our friendship with them will be even better. And later they will also do the same thing because they will feel that we are their close friends. This is more important than money because close friends are hard to find so we shouldn't waste them when we can get big wins.

Greedy people will only want to share what they win with others if they feel it's theirs. Even if they don't win, they still have close friends who are always there with them, whatever the conditions. They can also enjoy a friendly relationship that cannot be valued with money so they can stay together through thick and thin.

Could always decide to quit gambling after his win and avoiding friends means breaking old habits of continual betting and being around gambling as a temptation to continue endlessly.  Unless he actually owes money I dont see much harm in doing something different.   He should put the money into something long term that will pay off eventually, if he has been betting for an instant win changing to the opposite is not a bad idea at that point.

In terms of money usually everyone wants to experience everything alone maybe after a big win, he avoids sharing his winnings with anyone. Sharing with family is good but he feels that sharing everything with friends can lead to many difficulties because not all friends are the same. There are many friends who do not hesitate to do bad things for money. Problem gambling for money is not determined solely by the frequency or amount of gambling it is characterized by the negative effects of gambling on a person's life.

Hard for those people to understand especially if they know that he won a huge amount of prize from gambling. If they said that and they feel that they are been ignore then most provably that those people will feel bad about his action done to them. So sometimes I really think that avoiding them is not a nice approach since we might lose our friend if we do that and we don't have any person left when we need something in future. maybe he should approach them in nice way and if they ask money then try to give them a little token as part of respect then tell them nicely that you want to use the money you won for something that is more important to you in future and if you give a huge part of your winnings to them for sure you get broke so provably those people will understand that situation and will be happy for the small amount you give to them.

Only those greedy person will not understand the situation and if we know someone like that and didn't appreciate small things then its better to ignore them since they will just add up some toxicity then might disturb us always since the only thing they see is the money and not the friendship you offer to them.

But in reality, even though we can call them friends because they are good when it comes to money, everything will be clear and will prove to us which is really a friend and which is not a good friend. We will see this clearly and can even judge what type of friend he is so that we can stay away from him if he is not really a good friend. We don't need to maintain friendships with those who are not good friends because we won't get any benefits from them. Friendships should involve mutual giving and receiving so that there is reciprocity in the relationship. When a friend experiences a problem, all his good friends will help each other and provide support to resolve the problem quickly.

That's why we have to be able to choose someone to be a friend who can really be a close friend, not only when we are happy they are present but when we have difficulties they are not present for various reasons. Those are not good friends because they only want to approach us when we have something; when we don't, they will move away and look for other friends who have something. Just forget about friends like that because they don't deserve to be our friends. We may have all faced things like that and we can act according to the situation so that it won't make it difficult for us to choose friends.

I open up to something, one cannot change things, sometimes people do not change for the better, and if a person is like that with the Game, what can one expect in life ? If things are like this in this sense? I don't see anything good about him , apart from the fact that as a person he is not considered good, I have a couple of friends, I call them friends because they are nice People , but one of them Really likes good things, everything for him , and for the other, my friend. who works with him because he doesn't give him anything, he has a very strong job, they both do the same work and there are times that one gets more work than the other , so when that's the case, the other doesn't pay him anything , even though He Uses a lot , and does not Recognize him at all with good money, even though the work is quite strong, because it helps him and he earns good money, so the most logical Thing is for that person to give him good monetary recognition In Short , good things and friendships always have to keep accounts clear because that's what maintaining friendship is all about, and so they continue working together, and with good finances, and they help each other, so this friend left the other helpless and complains a lot, then this is a similar situation.

When these things happen , it is not Pretty, nor does it look Good, because I believe that things should always be clear, transparent and that everyone wins , so that there are no more misunderstandings, that is the only queen that can be It will work well to attend anything that has to be done with money, when there is money attached to any Activity and there are no rules or conditions, because things sometimes lend themselves to one speaking badly about the other and this is Something they cannot have the luxury of doing, because money must be something for which one person should not be angry with the other, a friendship is above this, well that's how I think , that's why this type of inconvenience happens when there are no rules clear.

There is no need for a valid reason to avoid his friends because he only needs to say that he is now busy with other things or his family so he no longer has free time to hang out with his friends. If he can give a good reason and not because he won big from gambling, his friends will understand and let him continue with his busy life. But if he avoids his friends because of his big win, it might be a question for his friends and there could be misunderstandings between them. But whatever it is, his friends shouldn't be angry if he leaves his friends and to be clearer, his friends can ask him.

In my country, we have called "Balato" money given away by a winning gambler. The colleague who won the enormous amount of money might have avoided his friends because he didn't want to share his winnings with them. In some cultures, sharing a portion of one's winnings with friends or family members is customary as a gesture of goodwill. However, not everyone feels comfortable with this practice and may choose to keep their winnings to themselves. It's also possible that the colleague had other financial obligations or personal priorities that required the total amount of his winnings, and he didn't want to feel pressured into sharing it with others. Ultimately, it's up to each individual to decide how to handle their winnings and relationships with others.

Like what I think, if we win at gambling I will keep it a secret to friends, I think winning at gambling is a privacy that everyone has so there is no need to tell anyone including your own friends. And one more thing, if we have a lot of money, it is very likely that many people will take advantage of us in terms of winning at gambling, and I have seen this myself around my environment.
And it would be good if we win at gambling, we save the results and invest for the long term, there is no need to share the story with our friends because it could be that we don't have savings, in fact it will run out because many people borrow money from us and don't necessarily get the money back.

Yes, it is not a bad policy if one abandons the company of friends in order to keep the winning money safe. Because nowadays there are many instances where even friends can indulge in various types of misdeeds at some point of time. But if such a decision is taken then he must inform them that he is busy for some time or he will not be able to accompany them at the moment. But if you have some real friends, it can be difficult to put yourself at that level. What will you do if your benefited from them before? Above all, you have to take responsibility for the proper disposal of your money, which no one else will ever do.