Topic: Gambler avoiding friends after a big win. - page 14. (Read 3101 times)

And if they can't find a friend's interest, they don't need to look for it in someone else because it might cause problems if they try. Many people try to be good friends but that will all be proven by time so we will see how a good friend should act towards other friends. If his attitude shows the attitude of a good friend, he can become a good friend but we have to remain alert because some people still try to be good friends but in reality, they cannot be good friends. Especially if we have a lot of money, there will be lots of people trying to approach us because each of them has their goal in approaching us. We will also never know what is in their hearts, so we really have to find good friends among those many friends.

By getting good friends, we can share with them and they even know what's inside us so that if one day we experience a problem, they will come to us and help us to solve the problem. And it will depend on us because if we refuse their help, they will not force us to accept their help. But at least they have shown that they are good friends that we have and we can share many things with them, not only when we are happy, but they will also come to us when we are experiencing difficulties and try to help us.

Yes, it is true, people will always look for an interest and will be able to determine what they want because basically it is about this, for many who are Always there it is nice to have friends who join them for whatever, sometimes you can have friends , They are in any part of the world and if something is needed, they will always be there, whatever, but in some way they manifest themselves, now, when it comes to this type of people, I have also come across people like that, I In general, it is very important to have friends, because the majority are like those who take that attitude and if not, since they are betrayal friends, a friend has to be carefully chosen, based on respect and everything that has to do with it. In order to be better people, in this order of teachings we have to obey certain criteria, be in good times and bad times, especially in bad times, because in good times you have many friends, I was seeing a case that happened in soccer, with Luis Diaz, where his father was kidnapped in Colombia.

Well, not only her father, her mother too, but her mother managed to rescue her at the time, and once suddenly the player couldn't go out to play because of how he felt, and in that case the players who were there on the playing field Scored a goal, the first and they dedicated support and strength to their father, those are gestures of a team because they are a good team and apart from the fact that there is a lot of friendship there, there are values, there are many things that can be counted on with them, as far as In particular, I really liked that gesture , I consider that very few people in Europe are given to giving compliments like that, or they have a way of being that is not as affectionate as that of South Americans, or perhaps in some cases the majority are not as kind as the Latins, but that gesture really seemed excellent, beautiful, and well the Exception , because particularly there are very few people in Europe who tend to be like that.

Yes, it's better to celebrate with close friends who we know well and not think about people who try to be "friends" only when we win or something else. We have met many friends like that and will always be there, but we also have the right to determine who our friends are.

They also can't blame us because they should be aware of what kind of friends they are, especially those who only approach us. After all, there is a desire or something they want to get from us. We are also used to people like that so we should also be able to determine our attitude towards them.

I completely agree with that. I do agree with the fact that people do change when they become rich from poor but that isn't because of the money but it is because they have been hiding their reality all this time because of their own benefits and thinking that they might need you some time and if they behave badly with you or ignore you, you would obviously not help them that way, so as soon as they get money and know they don't need you anymore, they will show their real face.

However, we can't be judgmental about someone just by hearing a conversation of their friends unless we know what the actual reality is behind the story. Maybe the friends were not really nice to him when he was their friend and he decided to leave those friends since they would now behave nice since he got money and he doesn't want to have such friends, or there can be any other reason. That's why, we shouldn't reach a conclusion before knowing the other side of the story.

That is a selfish and greedy friend that is not good to move with when known the real character of the guy. At least he would have given them something to keep their body and soul together and they would use that small token to remember him. And has forgotten that the matter the amount is big and if he is not using to do business they will finished one day and he come back to square one and start asking for his friends for food to eat. Or asking them for one "white" and at that time he will also received the other parts of his friends.

Some people are naturally like that. They only like to receive and don't like to give our and he has forgotten the Holy Bible that "givers never lack". Lolz let me retitled the topic to "A Greedy Gambling Friend". If I was the one, I can't do such a thing and if I does, my mind will not be a peace.

it doesn't make sense that as a gamblers after winning some big amount of money I start avoiding my friends that we all laugh, gist and cheer together when the winning hasn't presented itself. It's simple to explain to them if you have something to use the money for and for that reason you can't share anything with them they will understand as friends and wouldn't be expecting a dime from you but ignoring and avoiding them is silly.

Friends shouldn't be recognized only in our hard times but also in times when life smiles at us they should be brought closer due to how they were the people that we together got encouraged when the winning was not forth coming. If we should we meeting together as gambling friends and not having expectations on each other then we are just pretenders and shouldn't be called friends as the first instant.

Yeah right, there are different types of people that surround us while we are in this activity, I think your opinion is right celebrate with those you treat as your friends and don't be bothered regarding to those who you think just taking the advantage on just doing it for the sake of benefits.

Not that hard to differentiate the people who are on your side, there are always differences in terms of true and those who are just using the situation to gain some decent advantages.

I think he may not be that bad because at least he showed or told his friends about his win. I think their friends should communicate with him, ask him why, as he may be worried more people will know about it. If I experienced same thing but in very deliberate way, I would ask and show he behaves. I would never ask money to my friend because I think its dick move (unless its a matter of life and death). So some people intentionally try to find new friends after getting rich.

Unfortunately, this is a frequent pattern in gambling. No one has canceled the feeling of envy among friends. And since everyone likes to talk only about their successes and keep silent about their failures, everyone seems to be very successful, although in fact this is not the case at all. Big money changes people and they begin to behave quite differently because circumstances no longer put pressure on them, and they no longer need friends who can help. Therefore, often a large gain leads to the rejection of 90 percent of friendships.

someone will forget their friend when one of their friend win or is experiencing success, so this happens a lot in society and might be considered arrogant.
This victory is indeed that own right, but it would be better if continue to makes friend without having to avoid it, even though may have own fear when friend will borrow money from are afraid of what will happens, but this can be discussed well. A friend will definitely give you understand if it is true this victory was very necessary for himself.
Yes, we dont know the true story and we can only judge froms our own point of views.

Yes, we all know who are really friends, who are always there who want to help us and be by our side and we also act like that towards those who are really our friends. And there are indeed friends who only take advantage of the situation we are in for their benefit and once they get it, they will leave us as before and will not consider us their friends. We have experienced things like that so we can see the nature and character of each friend we have so we can know what kind of attitude we should have towards them. But if it were my friends, I would not hide myself from them and instead, I would invite them to celebrate the victory together because they are truly my friends who can understand each other. But for those who are not friends, I don't want to celebrate with them because they will use the situation to their advantage.

We often see things like this happen to gamblers, they will definitely not share their winnings with friends or other people, when you gamble with your friend and your friend wins big, he will definitely avoid you, there is no reason to continue with you, I often think about what exactly gambling addicts are looking for so they become so greedy even towards their own friends, don't let unpleasant things happen to you, don't have high expectations from your gambling table friends.

Money don't change person but show us the real character of that person, most of us have two different characters, when they are poor their character is different from when they are rich, what their friend did shouldn't be a surprised but they should consider it a lesson that is why we should fight for our independent because of this kind of disappointment, we should stop depending on other people because human being are dynamic including our parents too. Money itself is very dangerous because it separate friends, divide family, etc, let just say he got it from somewhere else he will still act like that.

Most of the gambler had won the money by the hard struggle in the gambling will do not like to share their winning money to anyone and including their friends and the family members.The friends also get the good money from the well paid job and expected the money from us only because we made the big win from the gambling.The gambler made the win by learning the game and made the biggest strategy for the big win,So nothing comes free from the gambling.So for this unwanted behaviour from the friends the gambler will do the hidden secret of their win to the game.This also had huge sense to avoid of the friends in sharing winning from gambling.

Hmm. That's not friends if that's the case, but if the favor is somehow option-less for your friend like they need money for an emergency, I guess it's valid. But avoiding friends is quite harsh and obvious. You can get along with them without saying or bragging your winnings on casino or gambling, you've got your privacy.

I guess it's really depend on what personality the friend has, or define what is a friend for you first. But avoiding your close friends or even best friend after winning in gambling or just have money in general is quite hard for me, it's like judging and mistrusting them somehow.

I think that's normal, especially if you've just met him and gambled, you're also aware that there's something special about the behavior of the man who won. It's hard to judge if we don't know the whole story.

Because if I'm the guy and the two are my close friends, I'll give them at least a little because they're friends and I'm gambling with them.
In his case, he actually avoided it and I'm sure there was a reason for that.

Yeah, Most of the time friends will do ask a lot of favor whenever they knew that some of their friend have a lot of money. Although avoiding friends is kinda cruel just because you win especially if you are regularly hanging out with them before you win. Treating them a few beers is not bad to celebrate and he can always decline to any favor such as borrowing money instead of avoiding them since money can be loss but friends stay forever.

I’m not really sure if avoiding is the right choice no matter what kind of friend he has. Maybe just try to communicate first and see how it goes before he decde whether to avoid them or not.

True to what you have said, money reveals the true character of people, give someone money or position, then you'll truly see their inner character. The friend that got the big win and abandoned his friends probably felt rich and decided that the other two were not in his category anymore, maybe he's naturally greedy and the win manifested his true character, that he didn't want to celebrate or give some share of the win to his friends. It's best not to put all our hopes on others, whether family or friends, no matter how close the relationship is, because anybody can disappoint you at anything, for whatever reasons, whether it makes sense or not.

On the other hand OP didn't get to hear the side of the story of the friend that won big and abandoned his friends, we would have known the real intentions for his behavior. The gamble winner understands his friends better than us, maybe he abandoned them for his own safety, maybe he doesn't trust them to be genuinely happy for him. I've had of friends that connives with criminals to rob their friend, others can even kill, set their friends up for blackmail or kidnap. Money is the root of all evil, so when you have plenty of it, almost everybody will became suspects to you.

With the conclusion of your opinion just now, in my opinion the winner should not be like that, it is better for the winner to keep quiet, don't tell other friends even if they are good close friends, because something like that could happen. The winner will only be empowered or exploited/taken advantage of by his friends because they know the new winner has a lot of money from gambling, even though the winner must have experienced a lot of losses before and it would be better if when he wins the money is only used for himself, such as saving or investing. for his own needs.
So in my opinion, winning or losing is only us who know and feel it, not other people, even if they are close friends.

A lot of friends are fair weather friend ls who are only available when things are going well with their friends but totally absent when their own help is needed and that's why I think those kind of friends should be avoided when one is winning in life be it in gambling or other engagements that fetches money. Those kind of friends if given the opportunity will want to squander the whole money that was won in gambling but will still be the ones to laugh at the person when he's exhausted all his money without investing it wisely. So if the best to do and wisely use your money after winning us to avoid such friends, it's absolutely a good idea to avoid such friends.