Topic: Gambler avoiding friends after a big win. - page 17. (Read 3111 times)

Since we only heard about one side of the story it is too unfair if we have to judge that winner guy for what he has done to his friends. Given that you sense their closeness, it is too awkward for that guy to avoid his friends without any valid reason. But if his friends expected something that was not given to them after the win like giveaways then I think there is something wrong. It could be that the winner has priorities but the term "avoided his friends" really has something.

It may seem to be cold hearted but if the amount of money you have gotten is in fact significant then the right move is to think deeply about how to use that money, since it can bring a big change to your life if used correctly.

However those which believe this person could have managed the situation a little bit better have a point, because as a consequence of his actions it is likely he has put his friendship in question and once he wants to retake it he may find himself shunned by his former friends.

yep, it makes more sense than avoiding friends when winning big it would be better to stick around and share a little food or a few drinks and tell him honestly that he needs the money for something more important like you said. this method is more mature and wise because you avoid friends when you get a lot of money. on the one hand, when you win, your friend is there beside you and sees that she is very happy, but after her friend provides support, she avoids it and that really hurts her friend.
usually a friend will not force him to give money if he wants to tell the truth to survive and of course his friend will be more mature in understanding and appreciating his honesty so that he can continue to get together as usual and dont let money destroy friendships.

That's what I think as well.

When you've won big and you've got friends that you know that will ask you to keep going on aside from asking you some giveaway from that win of yours. Then, it's just better to have your separate ways.

When we say big win, how much that could be? Thousands of bucks, hundreds or how much that could be on this case?

I will also support this kind of decision in avoiding friends when you make a big win in gambling, this is not because you wanted to intimidate them or got them disappointed, but you wouldn't like to engage in doing any mistake that will result in loosing the entire money back to gambling and unnecessary spendings that are mostly orchestrated through friends, when you should be sitting down in planning how you can Invest with the money.

it's actually frightening that someone you were having at heart as a friend would just give you some distance because they won huge amount of money. A friend you all probably shared both bad and good moments in all the times you guys have been gambling and just for him to be so fortunate to win that huge amount and he suddenly turned cold and seeing you his own friends as liability that will squander his money if he still stick around.  You guys didn't squander the little he had when he was with you then it's huge amount you'll squander, doesn't that sound hilarious.

It would make much sense he still sticks around but mad it plain  to his friends that he has budgeted the money for some investment or business project so he doesn't have money to give them from the win, I think that would have made sense more than anything else.

The gambler friends had two sides,one is ready to enjoy your victory alone.So it’s essential to skip those friends after the big win from the gambling.It’s essential to keep of one list who had helped you at the time of your sad part of the life.They may help you by two ways,one is by financial at the hard times.Second category people will help you emotional at the bad times.So join hand of your friends who helped at bad times.Then they will realise your real character,If the gambler only join after the victory in the gambling.This friends also try to steal your winning money by asking th loan to repay in shorter period of time.

Even human beings does really have  that having in love with money but not all the times that we would really be just like that on which there are really ones who do cherish out their friendship rather than with money or whatsoever that correlates about money because not all the time that people around you would really be mattering on the money you do have. If your friends that you've been dealing or been together with those gambling sessions and then you do suddenly won big amount of money then they would really be surely be happy  for you on what you had experience which we know that winning significant amount is really that rare.
There would really be those common reactions that they would really be joking around that they would be asking a little amount of sort of bonus but its not  something that they would really be asking big or something that mandatory. It would really be just always be depending on someones personality on which there are ones who dont really care if you do win or not as long you are with together or having that cherishing the friendship you do have. As their friend then it would really be just that right that you do have that kind of treatment too on which you dont let money would really be tarnishing out that kind of relationship with other people
specially that you've been long together on things around.

Actually you wouldn't blame his actions because those guys are his friends or rather best of friends and before he could behave that way towards his best friends there could be something fishy he may have sense towards his friends perhaps he may have noticed that if giving them the opportunity they could harm him, because I have seen a case were someone won a huge sum of money from gambling and do to the level of trust he had for his friend so he decided to open up and told the guy the money he won and his friend became envious on the guy so he drug the guy and made away with his money without leaving a cent for him.

So no matter how close we may be with people we shouldn't be blinded by trust because a friend that claims to love you may be your worst enemy in a disguise form.

your reply succeeded in impressing me and I really appreciate the very wise thoughts related to remaining honest and brave not to avoid friends when they win big and the method you gave is very reasonable and as a friend you will definitely really understand the situation.

but back to each other thoughts because sometimes someone has slightly bad thoughts when trouble comes to their friends but when they get a lot of money they actually avoid their friends and this behavior is actually very inappropriate to be considered friends because as friends we dont need money but need time to gamble together even if you use real money just to hang out and have fun.

Sometimes we need to see someone's character with just a little money or a few big wins at gambling, usually we can see which friends are true and which are not, but be grateful if you know what the character of a friend is if you win big money and then stay away from you, so you You can know someone's character with money, after all there are no real friends in this world because everything depends on money. but I won't make any deeper accusations because there could be certain reasons why a friend distances himself from his friend when he wins big.

For example, I once felt that I had a lot of money when I won big, at times like that, many people approached me, from people I didn't know to becoming close friends with me, so that there I could also see which ones were really sincere as friends and which ones were just being a sycophant, basically we can know a person's character from money alone which is more than enough, when I didn't have money there were no friends who were truly sincere to me and everyone left me, at that time when I had money, family was someone The person I prioritize to experience victory more than a friend.

A million dollars is a substantial sum, and buying a meal for two friends wouldn't cost more than $150 to enjoy a delicious feast. I personally view it as a friend who doesn't understand the meaning of sharing joys and sorrows. Perhaps today, they win a bet, but tomorrow when they lose, they shouldn't be seeking help from their friends.

Selfish behavior among gamblers is rare, but it does exist in this world. Those who win from gambling usually share a bit with their friends who lose.

For friends who derive enjoyment from the winnings of a gambling champion, don't be selfish and squander the money your friend has earned. We all don't know the individual needs of others, so if invited to celebrate, at the very least, a friend can restrain themselves from burdening the one who treated us to a meal with their gambling winnings. The key is mutual respect to maintain a strong friendship.

And this has happened to many people where they can change and be different from before when they have money. We may have experienced it in our friendships with friends like that. But it's up to them if they decide because it's their money and they can do as they like. We also can't say that they changed because of money, even though that is the reality. And we also can't blame them for doing it because human nature is like that and we must understand it. And if later they come to us needy, we must not say bad things about them. We can accept them back as friends. But if someone can't accept him as a friend, that's okay because it depends on each person.

You are right mate,it is true that the true colour of a man shows when he has money,a man can remain humble and cool when there is no money,but immediately he starts seeing money,he can change overnight,and you will now come to see the arrogance that has been hiding under his skin.Money can intoxicate you know.This particular one is happening everywhere,that  people change when money enters their hand,but they forget to know that life is not always good,It isn't balanced at atall.
If you have the chance to help anyone today,better do it because you don't know how tomorrow will turn out to be,thesame friends you abandoned,might be thesame people you will run to for help,and with this attitude displayed,they might turn their back on you as well.

Not really stupid idea, wouldn't say that it is a good one neither.

The problem here is that if you think that you have the type of people around you that would ask for money if you have a lot, then you are with wrong people to begin with. Get people who like you for who you are and not your money before you get rich, the fact that you will need to cut contact with people because you fear that you are going to get bombarded with money requests means that you were never with people who were all that decent.

So yes, I agree that the idea of cutting all contact with those people is a smart move and you should do that if those people around you are like that, but the problem with that is the fact that you spent your life so far with those kind of people and called them your friend, that should be an important distinction.

I could tell all my friends that I won 10 million dollars today, everyone around me, and aside from my wife who will spend most of it in 5 minutes (lol) nobody else would care about it and just congratulate me and move on.

Stopping to gamble when players have a winning streak is hard to do and I wonder what the main motivation would be to avoid so called friends when someone won big. It could either be because he wants to avoid other people being jealous or maybe he also knows that these friends will get him back to gambling rather sooner than later and that is why he wants to avoid them. Another question is when someone stops because he won big, what does "stopping" really mean? Quit gambling forever or just that night and maybe temporarily for a few weeks. In the end gambling is what it is, a game of chance and if someone keeps gambling long enough, becoming a loser again because luck is gone is only a question of time. I think it really is a rare story that someone wins big, quits gambling forever and uses the money in reasonable ways. So many people can't handle huge lottery wins for a reason.

I don't know any story or any details about something like this. But this seems logical unless the gambler decides to quit gambling and invest what he own and to some businesses and carry on with his life that way. But most people don't think like this, especially gamblers. They think that they have won something with their luck and this money should be used for luxurious things. Or for gambling in the future.

Not everyday people win jackpot. So if the guy who wins it decides to do better in life, then he should always prioritize investing that money in order to make more money and not blew it all away again in gambling in hopes for another jackpot. But as a gambler I don't think many people do this.

That's really sad that the long and old friendship just get break only because of jealousy and a person winning big amount in gambling.
Not all the time this happens but if the relationship is broken because of this reason then believe me those friends were never true friends and they were only for the some individual benefits which we don't need to discuss.

Maybe you can take positive thing from this that if a friend leaves another friend because he has won some money then it's better that friend leave him forever as they are not true friends.

It does not take time to forget a long term relationship if someone is financially harmed but one's moral values will not work here for betting it depends entirely on luck so it is not right to behave like this. Life moves at its own pace and in its own way and with it comes a change in the world of thought of man some friendships don't stay the same for good reasons friendships don't have to be all the same. But many feel that it is important to stay on the same straight line and when they don't get it it becomes difficult for them to maintain friendship.

Losing and winning are both different in the system. When a gambler records losses, he finds means to sort out himself with recreational activities that would ease his pains and probably hang out with friends, he would do anything to forget about the terrible incidents about the space, but anytime he made hugh winnings, he will definitely keep it discreet if he happens to be that mute guy that doesn't like spreading good news because people will always comes to your dms for aides, both the ones that's your close friends and the ones that are not, choosing not to spread good news of winnings is impressive and totally understandable,  besides he has other priorities to reach.