Topic: He Committed Suicide After Losing School fees, And That Of Friend To Betting.. - page 6. (Read 2172 times)

Even how tough it was, parents needs to extend their efforts to make sure that they are doing the right thing, better than regretting if you find yourself in a same situation with the parent of that kid who committed suicide due to this un-anticipated situation, Parents will continue to be liable with how the kids being influence with their proper guide those young minds will be protected, but if they are not doing anything, the problem will come up.

For sure, there's none of us as parents who in the right mind that will blame our kids for doing that suicide, for the love that we had. We will always blame ourselves for such action that is being committed.

While you are right about that, actually, teaching our own children what to do will not be enough to keep them away from harm because that alone will not put them in a much safer place where they will always choose to do the right thing, instead we should be a role model for them as that will make them to follow us. It will be hard of course specially if we're almost the opposite of it, but we need to tread the line more carefully if we wanted them to be safe and as a parent, we would go to an extra mile just to say that it's somehow guaranteed.

So, for whatever a child does at that age, everything will return to the parent figure who has full responsibility for the loss or impact of what his child has done. Regarding gambling, maybe we already know that this activity is quite common in the eyes of society and its circulation is very fast, so it cannot be denied that it will be very easy for children who are underage to find out new information from various sources. close to them, such as their own environmental factors. However, even though both parents have been strict in educating their children, sometimes there are still opportunities to make mistakes that should be avoided, most likely they can occur because of the child's own delinquency.

The world of gambling is now increasingly sophisticated and very easy to reach and can also be done anywhere using only a smartphone. It is quite difficult for most parents to deal with conditions like this, but at least they can still do something by increasing the rules in their family, one of which is by not liberating their children too much in doing things that are considered suspicious or unnatural. .

Indeed, parents cannot be completely blamed, but at least they look after and care for children from childhood to adulthood so parents are responsible for their children's lives. We as parents can indeed reason that we work hard for the sake of our children and their future because we want to prepare everything for them. But we have to remember that they have their own life different from ours and if we prepare everything for them without them having to work hard, they can become spoiled children in the future because everything is already available for them. They can become less grateful for what they already have.

That's why we have to be close to children so that at least we know how their lives are up to now and if they need advice, they will ask for advice from us before anyone else. They will also always tell us everything about their life as their parents. And when they grow up, we can give them what we have prepared for them while they also try according to their wants.

There is no need to blame if it has happened because it can make things worse. Maybe it's time for parents to pay more attention to their children so that their children know that their parents still care about them. Even though it may look difficult, there's nothing wrong with trying it for the sake of our children. I believe there is still time for parents to start opening up to their children so that later there will be a time for their children to start opening up to their parents so that there will be two-way communication between them, which can improve the relationship between parents and their children.

If we can educate our children properly and correctly, they will certainly be able to carry themselves properly and even in association with their friends, they will not act outlandishly. They can even show good things to their friends because the children have been taught good things by their parents so they can apply them when they are with their friends.

But if they are adults, parents cannot always supervise them. However, parents still accompany their children at any time so that if their children are in trouble or have difficulties, parents can provide useful advice for their children. Well, it's about how the communication between parents and their children.

That's why communication between parents and children must always be maintained so that when their children have difficulties, parents can immediately help them. Parents can also teach how to overcome difficulties according to what their children are capable of and give choices to overcome these difficulties to their children and let them choose. Parents only need to accompany them and supervise them.

Indeed, parents need extra time and effort to find out what their children are doing, which is normal. Our parents in the past might have been like that too but the difference is that before, technology and communication were not what they are today and being a parent today is more difficult than our parents before. But basically, everything is the same and there must be two-way communication between parents and children which must be maintained properly.

The generation we have right now is far from how it was way back when we are still young when we are in our children's shoes, I like that statement regarding to how parent should communicate with their kids, the need of continuous assistance and guidance will avoid or lessen the chance of having this kind of problem, kids are prone with how the community are developing him, his surroundings is what influence him the most, it's still the responsibility of the parents to be well alert in any possible activities the kids are involved with.

You always need that extra time and effort to know what your kids are doing, I see that point where parents are too busy to work hard to provide the needs financially but even you'll able to address that, without that emotional help the kids are potentially experience this influence issue with friends and prone to develop that rebellious attitude.

Im guilty with this on which i do let my toddler on using up some device or phone but strictly checking out on what are the videos been watched which i do mainly focused on Baby first and Ms Rachel type of videos
or phonics songs on which it is really that helping when it comes to developmental at least. Yes, its not recommended on having that screentime no matter what and really needing that actual communication in between parent and child specially on young age but due to the nature of my work then it would really be that hard to do such thing even on a single day on which i would really be prioritizing on making a living or having that work to have income for me to be able to support on what my baby needs which it would really be just normal.

I agree on some points that it is really that recommended that you do really know on what they are watching because it would really be a huge influence or factor that would really affect them out
if ever they would be seeing something online and would really be the things that they would be following specially on gambling means.

Unfortunaly, that is something I have seen many times in my neighborhood and when visiting family. How parents decide to give their children a phone, even when they are toddlers, so they can get some rest from caring care of the little one.

They may not even know what kind of content is being reproduced on the phone or what kind of games/advertisement is being displayed. In the end, a child could start to play on slots on the phone of their mother and both parents would never notice what is going on.

That is how far irresponsible parents can go in some situations.

Many parents need to be cautioned about handling there children or else things might keep going wrong. If we train our children in a way that is polite, they will keep living to that kind of lifestyle or else something else happens. Parents need to go extra miles to watch there children activities to prevent them going too extreme in the wrong path.

 There are some certain age we don't have to allow children to go into gambling because of the big risk that can make the child become a gambling addict that the society frown at. When there is no proper care for a child, he will not be able to easily be influence by  friends peer groups.

I would agree with you, and I understand why you would think that considering that a lot of teenage people with clinical depression are found to have attributed the lack of their parent's apparent care and love as one of the reasons why they succumbed to that ailment. And while blaming the parents in this regard wouldn't do anything good as we all know they're the ones who are probably suffering the most out of this whole ordeal, their negligence should've really played a part in the formative years of this kid for him to be this depressed and this afraid of failure.

This isn't gambling's fault anymore although it was the straw that broke the proverbial camel's back in this case, there's more likely more than what meets the eye in this case that lead to this eventuality.

Not every parent would should really be taken out the blame most of the time on which if there are no time on watching up your kids but we are something doing like this on being busy at work because we are doing this for them to have a better future but its true that it would really be that better if you are really that mindful when it comes to balance on everything because money isnt everything and if you arent really that making that kind of monitoring with your children on what are the things that they've been dealing off with, then you would really be mainly having this kind or type of problem on which your children might be suffering into those
possible problems specially on gambling or even silently dealing up with things which arent supposed to be deal up with minors. You would really be missing out those kind of updates of their lives on the time that
you dont have much attention on them. This is why its always been better to check them once in a while no matter how busy you would be but still you would be needing on kind of handling because you dont know
if they are already involved on something or had really be dealing up on which they cant really able to tell into their parents. On the time that they would really be addicted with gambling then this is usually
the case on spending up funds which arent theirs.

I was surprised to see the handling of parents with children growing up. It's as if they don't see the potential in their children but only give what their parents want and demand that their children follow their parent's wishes. And I also often see children rebel against their parents to the extent that it causes the children to commit juvenile delinquency. This is the importance of communication between parents and children because, in the old days when parents were children, the conditions in their children's era are now very different. Hence, parents must supervise their children well and guide them to grow up well.

I agree with this because indeed in this era there are more parents who are too concerned with their busy work rather than always having to supervise and guide the actions of their children*.
But actually, no matter how busy parents are, they should still have enough time to direct and supervise every child's activities.
The family economy is indeed very important, but in my opinion, there is nothing more important than making children smart and achievers and avoiding all negative things.

Indeed, not all children can be like that and only parents know how their child's character is so they will find an approach that can make their child understand it. If told about one thing carefully, a child will definitely want to listen and parents also don't do things that are contrary to what is suggested. But in reality, many parents still do not match their suggestions and actions so their children will not take their suggestions seriously. This depends on how the approach is taken to their children and parents also give a good example for their children and don't just give suggestions.

Today's parents who are too busy often forget important things for their children, so the relationship between parents and children becomes distant with the excuse of being busy making money. And there is no communication between the two of them, which is also an important factor that they have lost so this is one of the causes of their children not getting enough attention from their parents. And this is made worse by environmental conditions that are not supportive and friends who are not good can make their children fall into bad things. Many stories have been about a child or juvenile delinquency that started from misbehaving with their friends. This is where parents must realize that they need to change how they educate their children so they can change for the better.

Parenting is a serious aspect of life because it is where the child is shaped to live in the country where he or she find herself but some parents don't see it that way that they owe the children they brought to the world that training that will make them turn out as good citizens. Chasing of money by both parents is one reason that children fall into different devices because at that age of juvenile, they want to explore almost everything in their way. Their friends have that influence over them especially where you have an older young person being friends with a child far younger, he is likely to influence the child wrongly. Also those having helpers in the house, a helper that gamble is capable of a negative influence on the child.

You are right but....

1. Not all children will respond the same way if we talk to them about how things should be in their life.

2. Some of them like learning after they take the wrong path.

I wouldn't be saying this if it hasn't happened already, someone in my family did the same thing to his father, who always warned him about gambling, and even used another person in the family who ruined his life as an example, and the son pretend to learn from it, later this son use his parent credit card to gamble online and wasted everything.

He couldn't go back to school and he cried his eyes out, full of regrets when I saw him, he hated himself for not listening all along, I can't help but shed tears myself because the parents are struggling, they can't afford much.

We cannot accompany or monitor where our children are going or what they are doing, but we can tell them everything about kindness so they can think. Humans are given reason to think, especially if their parents often provide good examples so that their children can think about why their father did that and what impact it will have and others.

By giving instructions or suggestions to their children, I think it can help their children to think before doing something and they won't go beyond what they shouldn't do. And while his father also pointed out that gambling was a thing that could destroy his life, his sons also would not go anywhere near gambling and would not even use other people's money to gamble.

It is a very sad story, I've heard of almost similar cases but this story is so touching and almost made me tear up, if only he had applied the risk management of gambling, I wonder when all this young lad would start taking precautions, because most times it's due to greed or peer pressure that's causing them to want to get rich quite and too bad they take their focus on gambling that's considered very risky, of course their is luck when it comes to gambling but it's not 100% guaranteed because luck doesn't shine on gamblers always.
 As a student that's looking for a side hustle to survive in school the least you should do is use your tuition fee to gamble it's very wrong and shouldn't even be considered at all, because of the very high risk involved in it, that's why many experts advice people to invest money they could lose without remorse into gambling, do not go into gambling with an intention to get rich quick, because you could face the consequences of losing out completely which could trigger depression, heart attack or even make people commit suicide just like this young Lad, gamble with your spare cash, do not use  money meant for other bills to gamble, gamble without emotion and for fun, these are the common risk management people should take note of, anways may the soul of the young lad rest in peace and every gambler in the forum should be careful with their decisions.

Gambling is not to be blamed but the gamblers, using money that's not yours or money that's meant to settle other inescapable things in life is stupidity.

How deep can supervision on children goes? There will be times where you won't be able to monitor them, you can't go to school with them, you can't sit beside them in the lecture room,  there are enough time for good kids to turn bad and pretend they are good when coming home, this is why some people always say that God is the only person that can guide your children right, if a kid is going to be a bad kid there is no amount of discipline will stop the kid from going bad.

There are some parents that don't care about their kids but even those who have the time are not going to get perfect result from their children, you have to make money with your time to be able to pay for school fees and help your family, there is no way you can keep an eye on them around the clock, while you are trying, keep praying for them to choose the right path.

Supervision from parents is needed so that their children are not provoked into doing something that can get them into trouble. But the problem now is that many parents are so busy with their work that they forget to watch over their children, so there is much juvenile delinquency around us.

Maybe the age limit for children is not yet 18 years old or gambling is not allowed. But with so many online casinos nowadays, they can just play gambling online and use fake identities to register. The availability of an internet network everywhere makes it easier for them to play gambling. This requires serious attention from parents to supervise their children even though they are very busy working.

If gambling is being done at physical casinos, then we can monitor the age and demographics of the gamblers. But what can be done if someone wants to gamble using online casinos? At the most, you can enable strict KYC procedures. But then, ID documents are available in the dark markets for as low as $10 and anyone can use them to create fake user profiles. And in countries where there is blanket ban on gambling, all the activity will be moved underground. And this makes the situation even more tricky, as the online casinos are not under surveillance.