Topic: He Used Our Wedding Savings to Play Bet (Read 727 times)

This was the sad part for the lady,it was the bad luck for her fiancé.If her fiancé had win the game in the gambling,he will book the biggest honey moon trip for her after the expenses of their marriage.But we don’t know how was the lady fiancé was experienced in the gambling.If her fiancé was the experienced gambler,he may not loss the game.So he should learn the game and play the game with the important money like this wedding money into the gambling.Gambling is the game for the people with huge luck or to the people with enough tactics for the game till the big win to the game.

Well, it is certainly horrible and very difficult to digest but people being used as colateral is not necessarily something new in the history of mandkind. It used to be more common, you know, when slavery was a normal thing around the world and when women were considered to be of a lesser importance than the men, to the point of being treated as merchandise.

The disturbing feeling comes when we realize that those disgusting practices have actually not been left in the past, they have mostly just hid themselves in an underground market in hopes to stay away from public scrunity.
I believe that what that woman is going through could be actually a good thing, a miracle in disguise, because there could have been a minimal but real possibilty she could have ended up being mistreated, abused or even sexual exploited to keep her husband's gambling going...

She may have dogged a bullet there. A life threatening one and she should be extremely grateful the man fucked up and revealed his bad habits that has probably cost him a lot before. It’s not entirely surprising the lady pooled in more money in the contributions for the wedding.
The action taken by the man suggests to me the marriage won’t be a happy one mostly for the woman as there is bound to be financial problems later on as she’s likely going to be the one to run the family as well as other things with her own funds and that’s not going to be fun for long.

Totally hard for the girl or woman for this situation or something that do talks about being heartbreaking on which it would really be that normal considering that wedding funds had been used up for the sake of gambling
which your man didnt really that been thinking about the things that should really be that to be prioritize first. I dont know if the girl would really be still that liking to hear off on whatever reasons that would really be telling which we do consider out that its never been that a wise decision or showing up some respect into your wife to be on such act even if you do say that you did such thing for trying out to double the money.
You dont really have the full rights on spending it all since you dont have that contribution or even lets say you do have the bigger percentage but it is really just that right that you should really be
asking first on whatever decisions you would really be taking because you would really be making things mess up if you do take actions without letting the other side knows.

For me as a woman then i would definitely be leaving out this man although it is painful but its better not to take any decisions on marrying him considering that he had made out some
gambling addicted kind of act and also he didnt respect nor choose that marriage but instead he do risks out those funds without hesitaiton.

I think this is will be a good decision for the lady, going into marriage with a man so addictive to gambling can also be a serious problem to her which will also affect her. Situation like this will keep on happening,  this particular one of gambling with money that was supposed to for the marriage ceremony didn't just happen by mistake, what gets me so surprised about this story is the audacity. I think this man sees gambling as the most important thing in his life , other things can came second.  People who play gambling like this can be a problem to other people,  which they can use the money of people to settle their gambling urge first.

The matter is too much sad for the lady. But trying luck in gambling is a big stupidity. If you try to test your luck in gamble you are the most stupid person in the world. Because luck doesn't fever every time favour on you. In gambling it's rare to favor luck on you. Game is fully depend on your mentality and your experience.

The man try to see he is luck but he had done too much stupid in his life. He spend 60% of his wedding savings. who we are Gambler here. We always gamble that amount of money which we can recover after loss. If we faces loss in gambling then we invest that amount of money that we can maintain and that will not create problem in our life. Gambling is a game there is a win or loss experience increase the win rate of game.

I feel so sad for the lady but the man made a big stupid for trying his  luck in gamble.

Whether he knew it or not, there is nothing much he can do about it. All she can do for now is to moved on. Some time's people are good at hiding things. So I won't blame someone else if they can marry a wrong person. If we already know that our partner is a gambler but is responsible at first, we can allow them but as they say, people change. So, maybe that is also the case that happens to them.

I think it's better to just not be confident and secure our valuables if we think we are the ones who is much responsible and don't have a habit such as playing a gambling. Yes, these types of posts are helpful to give us awareness or can act as a reminder, so thanks to the sharer of it.

I disagree with trying to give another chance, marriage is something for life in my mind and marrying with someone with divorce at the back of your head is not a good idea. You shouldn't marry with someone who you can easily divorce, if that is the case then that is not what marrying someone means, back in the day you stood together thick and thin, and yes you can definitely divorce someone if you think you shouldn't stay with them, but you do not marry someone thinking "if this doesn't work out then I would simply divorce them", that's not a good way to start a marriage.

I think it would be smarter to just not marry this person and forget about the money and think to yourself this was a close call and you got off cheaper than you would otherwise. It's worse to spend time on them and realize it was a mistake.

Addictions to gambling and betting include more than simply financial loss; they also involve losing one's identity, morals, and occasionally, as you said, other people. I have heard about it and seen it, but it's just different.

People being used as collateral now? That's just... it's beyond comprehension. It surpasses our capacity for imagination. Furthermore, even while it's fantastic that some people were saved, there are innumerable others who weren't. who, as a result of the most unbelievable betrayal by someone they trusted, are still suffering today. It's incredibly painful, genuinely painful.

And that gal who misplaced the nuptial funds? Perhaps, just perhaps, she avoided a more serious problem. Perhaps she saved herself from being mistreated, exploited, and considered as a commodity in the future. Though that's a frightening idea, many people actually live with it. Such horrible deeds require us to be alert, watchful, and willing to confront them. It is our obligation and our liability.

That's why it's important money management for young people who plan the wedding. Also, I don't know why the girlfriend didn't stop him for gambling if knew the risk she faced later. So if he wants to invest, and double the money, gambling is not the only way to face the risk. He can trade it in an exchange or save it on gold if they plan a wedding on over the years. This accident happened also in my city where his boy friend tried to double his wedding money by play the slot. but unfortunately it failed, all the money is at stake and gone.

That is the kind of stuff I meant some posts ago when I said there are worse ways and outcomes when comes to letting gambling and betting addiction to take over oneself. I knew there were stories of people literally using others as collateral (I assumed it was something in developing countries of Asia, for example), but this may be the first reference I have read in Bitcointalk.
At least, the final outcome of those victims was not as bad as one would have expected, since they got rescued by authorities, however, let us reflex on other cases which did not get resolved by police and people had to live in conditions of slavery because someone who was supposed to take care of them used them as poker chips instead.

True deranged and disgusting. How knows, perhaps the woman who lost that wedding money actually dodged a bullet in the long term, she could have ended up being used as a chip someday...

There is more worse than that, selling/gambling wife and kids to meet the father's gambling activity is the worst, IMO. Here are some of the article that were published in the internet:

Man loses wife as stake in IPL gambling

This was published in 2016 where a husband bet his wife on an IPL and lost her.  The wife does not know the she was used as a stake when the guy who won started to harrass her.

Gambler sold his wife, minor daughter; family rescued by officials

This is a grave mistake, a truly significant one that no one should commit. While we are all entitled to gamble or bet on anything, it should never involve money that doesn't belong to us, not even 100%. In this scenario, it's clear that all the risks should rest on the shoulders of the individual who used that money for gambling. The responsibility to reimburse the losses incurred through gambling should lie with that individual. The woman should receive her rightful share, which is 60% of the funds they've accumulated.

Pointing fingers won't resolve the issue because it's evident that the fault lies with the man. Like any responsible man, I hope he takes it upon himself to promptly mend the wounds of the woman. His reckless actions need to be addressed with fairness.

As for the woman, I advise against marrying someone like that man. It would only introduce long-term risks, and he might take even more irrational steps than the ones he's already taken.

Good to learn how severe the gambling problem that a partner has before you commit to them in marriage, because marriage is more serious. She has dodged a missile and should be grateful for that. A man who cannot control his gambling and does not have restrictions on the money to use in gambling is not yet fit for marriage and should remain single for as long as possible until they are able to put that irresponsible habit under control. If she already cannot deal with the gambling habit of her partner before marriage, she cannot get used to it in marriage.

This is very bad and I feel so sorry for the lady, I think the man did very bad how would he be so sure that if he bet with such huge amount he will be to get it back.  Gambling is very risky and no game is certain that it can end up with a win, since the money does not belong to him it should have be a good reason for him not to play gambling . From what the man has done I think if the marriage should continue the lady should expect more of this because such person can use all the savings for which is meant for his family to play gambling. Their is no sense in such act.

The woman's fiancé really doesn't have any sense, he shouldn't have used their marriage savings to gamble, after all, using their joint savings to gamble is the stupidest thing I've ever heard, the woman's dream of being able to get married smoothly, seems to be over completely extinct. My partner and I have emergency savings but I never use the money to gamble, I only use a little capital that I get from my small business to gamble, emergency money and savings should not be used for anything related to gambling.

They arent still legally married, therefore its not really that right to call that he's the head of family but even before or talking about pre-wedding plans or similar then it would really be just that right that men should really be the one to handle but its not really that something simple considering that you dont have the money so you dont have the rights to make those kind of lead or controlling the situation.It is true on what other people been saying that we would really be that hesitating since you dont have the money on handling anything and even lets say that you are the man but dont have the capability on closing out or funding the wedding then you dont have the choice.

The biggest mistake of that man is that he decided to gamble that money which is supposed to be used into his wedding with his loved one.Now he had considered out
on gambling it out then its does signifies that he dont care about their wedding, he's putting out the risks.

People can be heartless. The most shocking story that I will be hoping to read is someone using their pops or moms money for funeral for gambling..this story will break the internet.

The guy in the story is going to live with regret for the rest of his life..He cost the girl the marriage, her mental health, her money.

The woman is not to be blame because man is head of the family and the reason why the woman entrust the funds to Man is because she don't want the money to lost under her care, so what the woman did is the right thing to do but I don't know for other people opinion over the woman given  husband money for their weeding and the husband used the money for gambling, so it's the husband that is supposed to be blame not the wife, because the husband is selfish enough by using their money for gambling knowing the implications of gambling, before the man played this gambling with their weeding money he has being playing before.

Well, I guess that will depend on how good his "apology" is. And as for his addiction, I'm not judging, but how good can such a marriage be unless he makes some changes.


I agree. The issue here isn't so much about money but, above all, about the lost trust. I think both partners should be honest with each other when entering into marriage, as a thriving partnership can't be built on a foundation of lies.