Topic: He Used Our Wedding Savings to Play Bet (Read 3855 times)

And it is also why we keep insisting that people gamble with the money they can actually lose, and the money that you are going to use for your wedding is obviously not on this category, and if this ever happened to me I would call the wedding off, since there is no way that I would marry with a person that is that irresponsible, and if they do that before we are even married, I can only imagine they will do way worse things once those papers were signed.

Of course everyone wants to be able to make money without any effort, so from this we see many cases where many people choose to gamble as a means of doubling their money but this is certainly not as easy as we think, chances are we will only experience losses even though there is a chance to win but it is very difficult to get a win or profit in this case if it is not because of luck on your side then the player will not be able to get a definite win or profit.
When they have lost all their savings of course they have to work hard again to find money for their marriage capital, and it is ridiculous if there is still the thought of doubling money again in gambling it is very risky, that is why gambling is not recommended as a way to find money or profit, it is better to do it for entertainment purposes only nothing more than that.

Well mainly things can be very disappointing when your partner can do something like that, also for money, that is something that is much more disappointing, I think that many of us here, even if they put an amount of money in our hands that is stolen, it is something that we will not accept, because we do not know what sacrifices the person made to obtain that money and for another to come and take it like that, that is not a good thing, it is disloyal and goes against many moral things , I think that many in the forum respect those things and would not take it, that person let themselves be tempted and fell into temptation, something very unfortunate, but fortunately there are many women in the world.

This could be also a reasonable point because we can't predicts the future and we don't also read the inner heart or minds of people to see what would occur in the next 10-20 years after marriage, that is why it's said during marriage counseling that someone shouldn't marry with a pity or because s/he helped during your rainy days so for that you(we) must spend our entire life's with them. Marrying for a companionship, and life partner who will understand you, shares your burdens/joy/happiness together, someone you feels more relaxed at staying with. You can help someone to any level but that doesn't mean they would spend their entire life with the person because both of you aren't compactible. Therefore, compatibility is what mostly needed before marriage and this includes; overall life performance and behavioral attitudes if they are suitable with each other's nasty and naughty characters.

Yes, of course, all decisions are up to the woman, we or people only know the incident but do not feel what the woman feels, of course she is very devastated, and on the other hand I am sure that her decision to cancel the wedding was not because of money but because she was very disappointed with the bad behavior of her prospective partner.

And another thing that is the biggest reason that seems reasonable why she canceled her wedding party is because as you said, most likely the woman thought that this was not the last incident, or what is meant is that if she continued to marry the man, it is very possible that in the end a more terrible incident would happen when they were married.

That's right, my friend, getting a large amount of money is tempting and who doesn't want something like this? Of course everyone wants this, but as you said, although in gambling this can happen, it is not a solution or way out of the problems that occur, such as lack of funds for marriage or unstable finances, because the uncertain profits or wins in gambling make it difficult to win. This is a mistake from one party, so in my opinion, if the wrong party realizes that he has gone too far, he should apologize and work hard again to get everything back and also be very lucky if his partner can still forgive the mistakes he has made. Because honestly being disappointed by someone is a painful thing and it is even difficult to forgive it, especially with something like marriage which is indeed a very important thing.

It is unfortunate that things happen that way, or have happened that way, the desire to have money without effort is something that can be very tempting, but it is not the way out, the bad thing is that they used all the money, that was the mistake, where they would have bet only a small part of the money the story would have been different, because they would have spent only a part, not all, that is where the irresponsibility lies, the bad thing is that to save money again they have to work their asses off much more than before and it is infuriating considering that it was totally irresponsible, this leaves many lessons.

Whatever that woman or girl would be thinking then it would really be that up to her, we cant blame her on what are the decisions that she would really be that making into. We do know that
guy had made out a very huge mistake on making use of wedding funds on which this one is really that considered to be the most important event into someones life on which to be married
to the love of our life. Now this thing happens then it will really be bringing up that kind of thinking or doubts that what if things getting worst on the moment that they do get married?
It cant really be avoided that you will really be changing up your mind on the time that this would really be happen into you as a woman.

Yes I don't support him as well, it's very painful to have saved up to such amount and at ends it results to were they lose everything and didn't end up wedding again. But sincerely what I didn't understand about lady cancelling the wedding and did she finally leaves the man or she cancelled for other reasons to get peace and rethink about their love life if actually she would be comfortable with the character in the future if such repeats itself again.

I never said that the lady knew about her husband's gambling habits. I never gave the confirmation.
I just mentioned whether or not she was aware of it which means "may be" she was aware of it and "may be not".
The conclusion was that the husband should not have used the money for gambling in simple terms.

Sometimes, when someone is under a situation that needs urgent attention and they are just confused and do not know what to do or where to start from,  they could be under pressure and be forced to take advise from friends or elsewhere and in that case, they might likely get the wrong advise which might cost them what they never expected until then they would never realize themselves. Possibly, this might just be the situation of the man and maybe he has felt bad about the fact that his girlfriend was the only one contributing hugely towards their wedding and he took it upon himself to do something about it and maybe he got the wrong advise to bet with the money and from the looks, i don not think he is a gambler because if he is, he would not have used up the whole savings for it. I believe the situation of things with him made him give in to using the savings to gamble but it was unfortunate he lost it all.

If we are to go with the fact that he was possibly advised by his friends to bet the money, I believe this would serve as a big lesson to him to not invest what he can not afford to loss. Maybe he could have informed his girlfriend first before taking such decision as they both have the savings together with her being the highest contributor to the savings.

The world is cruel, I know some friends may be hiding under a mask, and deep down they don't want anything good for us but I understand that we ought to have our final say in things. Not because someone is our friend then we get to make decisions coming from them without considering the dangers it may cause for us.

No there isn't any book code in casino where you can come back later to play them.

If we refer to what the OP discussed in this thread of course we can say that the fate of the woman is very tragic, I think in this case it seems that the woman realized that her partner was a gambler and somehow she trusted her partner to keep the money that they had saved together all this time and that is a stupidity in my opinion,  But in this case, of course, the gambler man has a big mistake by expecting a lot of money from gambling, although he knows gambling is something very risky, I don't know if the reason is acceptable or not but sacrificing marriage is something ridiculous just because of gambling problems, if we listen in detail about what the OP discussed,  It seems that losing money is not something he regrets, but it seems that he is embarrassed to face the reaction from the people closest to him after the marriage is canceled.

You can’t really blame people for their actions; that’s why we have accountability, and everyone should be aware of the consequences. What this guy did was wrong since that money was meant for a special occasion, basically, it wasn’t money he could afford to lose. Situations like this happen all the time because addiction doesn’t discriminate by age, gender, or background. How they handle it, though, usually comes down to the family or the two people in the relationship.

If you know what some friends are capable of doing you will not think that way, secondly their are some pressure you will be facing can make you listen to any suggestion by a friend, actually if you have not been on that situation you will not understand, however from how the story goes I don't think it was a bet done on the Casino because is only someone who understand gambling can go for  Casino and besides I don't think we have booking code in casino were somebody will booked some games for you to play later, so perhaps since football betting is much easier and booking option were someone can even already booked a game that would be played in a week time and we no how most gamblers act on that aspects, so it could be that his friend booked a game and brought for him to play and assuring him that it will play no matter what and the guy being somebody that needs the money he had to play it, however I'm not trying to justify what the guy did to be right but we are just analysing based on similar scenarios.

Imagine what the world we would have if couples split and families divorce after first problem or failure of one of the partners. We dont know the situation before that case, we know only little of information. We all here are right saying that woman was right to do, there was problem with that man, his act of gambling raises lots of questions, money issue and whatever. Everything is correct. But what not correct were ending everything so suddenly, so quickly, not giving a hand to that man (if he has gambling or self control problems).

You are right. That is just my guess. Even if he was a gambling newbie, he should already know that gambling is not a place to make money and he should not try it especially that money prepared for his wedding. Maybe that woman can not hold his feelings seeing her fiancé doing that thing making it worse. She can not tolerate what his doing so she acts like that and maybe other people will do the same. But yes, it is strange seeing that case so we can only hope nothing bad happens to both of them although they will not marry. And I agree that close people and family must help that person if he is in trouble but that was a dream for that man.

true, it's hard to believe that there will be someone who will sacrifice and gamble their wedding fund for a game that they ddint even know if they can really make rewards after all. it's a game of luck indeed ,so no one will rely on it if the intention is to make their funds bigger until wedding . it's a really stupid decision to be honest and i hope that man still a live. Lol

The actions taken by this male couple in my opinion surprised his partner because the savings that they may have previously worked for the good of each other in the future but instead disappeared in just a short time with the actions of the man who was quite careless and stupid in my opinion. The thing that drove the man to risk his savings in my opinion was because he wanted to have more funds without wanting to be tired of working or anything else so he thought he could double it by gambling, unfortunately that made him more stressed. Basically, a wife is a good role in holding money in a household, but what is being discussed is that they use their wedding savings and in my opinion this makes them fail to get married, maybe even the woman does not give the man another chance because it is too excessive or excessive even though the man said his goal was to double his money into more but in reality losing all his wedding savings is very painful for the woman.

Thank you for also observing that because it could be that the Lady contributed almost all the money based on the fact that the guy dose not have and considering how most tribe behaves in terms of duty that is the responsibility of the guy to provide all the money they needed instead of the lady to provide, so perhaps since he is with all the money he decided to take chances by trying to use it if he could get some money so that at least his woman will be very proud of him that he was able to hustle out some funds, so actually information without a detailed narration on how it all happens means that there is always a mystery that if thoroughly investigated they will realize that he was just a victim of circumstance.