Topic: Mentality of Gamblers Before and After Winning - page 11. (Read 1639 times)

Better not to force him out and since OP wasnt really that go after for that 10% then there's no something that his friend would be acting that way. People do really love on breaking up some promise due on being greedy with money and just like on what others been saying that if we do talk about money then there are really those people who do instantly changed up or on point even if it means that they will really be staying away with their friend .
People are really that different when it comes to their behavior on which there are ones who do give out importance about their relationship with others even if it talks about money but there are ones who are really that willing to sacrifice it out as long they are the ones who are benefiting or advantage then they will really be doing it. So it will really be just that basing up on someones actions when it comes into this aspect.

i am so sure that he only said that because of the excitement he was having at that moment and likely, he didn't know or mean what he said by agreeing to give you 10% of the money if the game comes to an end in his Favour. since you guys are friends, there is no point trying to take things too personal because if you follow him up that way he is likely going, he might feel that you are feeling too entitled and that's going to make you feel bad. if you are able to, you can just call him and tell him that he should forget about the money and subsequently, you can just tell him to be careful the way he makes decision when he is excited about things. some people have made promises they cannot fulfil because they were just excited. this is not just related to gamblingalone, generally, when you are angry or excitted, its best you dont talk much or else you end up saying what you cant stand to defend when the emotion goes all down.

You are a lucky person, every day you find yourself in a new story. I am starting to envy you because of my boring life.

Friends stop being friends because of smaller promises. So don't worry about it.

Gambling fuels people's greed very strongly and few manage to overcome this vice.

It seems to me that he is no longer your friend and hardly deserves your advice. I would say he is not worthy of it from you.

Forget about the intention to talk to him, forget about his promise, forget about him. For he himself will remember you when he loses his "last pants". The winning streak is not endless.

If I were you, I will ask the 10% share because he promised that before, if he don't want to give it, then I will know if he's not someone who can be my partner. Ask it without any pressure, act like you don't really care with the money and take it easy.

My suggestion, never expect anything from human, if you help someone or someone promise something to you, don't expect they will help you back or they will fulfill their promise. Do it for God, without expect anything.

The player after winning went through all he could do with the money, including gambling, and found out it wasn't enough. That was why he failed to check up on you. Assuming you reminded him immediately while he was excited, I don't think your friend wouldn't have kept his promise.

However, you are right, he's in the box of thought that wants more wins. Not losses, he knows the requirements if he meets you again for help, and wouldn't be fine giving you money which may be a loss to him. It's fine you clarify things with the gamer regarding how less you're interested in the fulfilment of his promise.

your friend should see what happened to you and make you finally decide to stop gambling activities. from what your friend showed, it is very likely that your friend will experience addiction. he will have the desire to double his money again and start betting more. if you still have the opportunity to advise him, then do it. if he can not be advised, then let him feel it himself. how it feels to lose more and will be frustrated.

This change of attitude after winning or getting some money is not only related to gambling. It happens even in business and other ventures. You will hear people saying if I get the payment from this job or contract, I will give your an amount for maybe your support or hard work. Immediately they get the money, they will change and fail to fulfill their promises. They will begin to calculate what they need to acquire with money and at the end they will feel that what they have won is not enough for them talkless of giving out to someone else. They will come again with another promise after failing to fulfill the past once. It's just basically connected to lack of contentment and integrity.

If you are really that in concern on giving him some advice and wont really be having plans on meeting him up, then the best thing you can do is to text or message him whether on your phone
or social media accounts. Pretty much sure that he's really that trying out to avoid you because he's afraid that you would sue him out about on that 10% winnings that he promised but since you
dont care much about it then its better to approach him. It will really be just that a waste of friendship if it would really be ending up on that way.

It is really that indeed true that people would really be changing up on the moment that they will really be able to make some huge wins in gambling and its pretty normal that urge and boost up will
really be that something that pushes you to play even more. The main thing that comes up into your mind is that if you do able to win up earlier then you would be able to do it on next time.
It is really just that a shame that there are individuals who do waste up their friendship because of money.

There are indeed times that you will really be trying out to avoid someone because you dont like on giving on what you do ow or promise on which this simply shows on how greedy you are
on where it comes into a point that you are ready to forget your friend just for money.

It's not just gambling alone; what you said is true. When someone is excited, they can make huge promises to anyone. In this life, we should just learn not to put interest in the promises of someone if not we will get disappointed. What you can do is not say a word to him about the money, just let everything be and be his friend as usual.

If your friend had lost in his bet. You will notice he would stick to you for you to show compassion for him. Funny enough money won in gambling does not last forever, he will spend it all someday and then come back to you.

I don't take seriously the promise of anyone made to me when they are extremely happy, angry or sad. At that point they are not thinking straight their only being emotional and not logical. So it is with the gambler who you are just describe in your story. You shouldn't take it personal and you should just forget about it. Your friend is experiencing the thrills which you once did. But in my estimation, this is not even about your friend but you. You recovering from gambling addiction, you should stay away from triggers if not you risk relapsing which is worse because it will take you a while to become sober again.

There are some who won’t honor their promises, but the majority of gamblers do. As gamblers, we’re people willing to take risks, and most of us value our word. So, IMO, it’s only right to give someone what they’re owed if you’ve made a promise as being honest is important.

Of course, greed can sometimes get in the way, especially when it comes to money. If 10% is a significant amount, some might feel reluctant to give it to someone who didn’t even risk a single centavo. But that’s just how it is, every gambler has a different mindset and attitude. You just have to accept it, because at the end of the day, it’s not really a gambler’s obligation to give you that 10%.

I have shared with the community before how I stopped gambling and am currently healing from that addiction. However, recently I had an interesting experience with a friend who was just getting started with sports betting (football). He placed small bets on several football matches, and to his excitement he won 10 out of 11 in a combined bet. He was excited and waiting the final match, knowing it would bring him a huge gain. I supported him telling him he would win and he even promised to give me 10% of his earnings if he won that combined bet with around @1400 odds in total.

The match ended with a win and we were both happy. Personally, I wasn't concerned about receiving any money from him as I was more focused on my recovery to not set a bet or deposit ever again. However, the next day my friend avoided me and didn't follow through on his promise even though I wouldn’t have minded if he didn’t.

What I took away from this experience is how the mentality of gamblers can change after a win. The thrill of success often leaves us wanting more and in this case it seemed like my friend was caught in that cycle, as I was feeling before too and he was unable to honor his word probably because he wanted to keep increasing his gains and bet more. It's a reminder that the brain is never truly satisfied when gambling, there's always the desire for more. I believe that friend deserves an advice, but I don’t want to embarrass him myself, is there a good way to talk to him without making him feel that Im indirectly asking him for the money he promised me?