Topic: Mentality of Gamblers Before and After Winning - page 3. (Read 1875 times)

Gamblers often break promises, this is common not only with you, I myself often experience things like you experienced, but because I often hear promises like that, especially to my friends, so I don't really care about that, I don't know. He wantskeep promises or not, fuck it.

Many of my friends when they are in trouble don't have any money, when they borrow and promise to give me extra money when they win a bet, when they win they disappear, when the money runs out they meet me again, So I can judge that friend, in the future I will not give him any more money, whatever the reason, because for me people like that don't keep their promises when it's hard to get to know old friends, when they're happy to get to know new friends.

GxSTxV, let that friend enjoy the win, even though you are not given any of the winnings, you don't need to collect it, so you can think about it yourself in the future, just once help him understand betting and so on.

Unfortunately, many gamblers are not masters of their word, and they sincerely want to quit gambling and switch their attention to something more useful, but they can’t. And I feel sorry for such people. Unfortunately, the words of an inveterate gambler, like an alcoholic, cannot be trusted. They are ready to swear by anything, threaten or beg, and this will be an unpleasant sight. Often, their loved ones who are codependent or simply forced to live with them because of the impossibility of changing their place of residence suffer from this. And only an experienced specialist can help here, which is now very difficult to find, and they are very expensive.

That's a good thing, my friend, but not because he will experience himself the losses (chances are that he keeps winning, which would make no difference) but because the best way to give a piece of advice to someone else is not by telling him what to do, but lead by example. If they both had an addiction, and the OP learns to don't care about earnings anymore, maybe his friend will rethink about what he's doing while, on the contrary, asking for the promised money could have a negative impact, IMO.

Well with those wins dont expect too much because sometimes people getting carried with their emotions and let those words came out with their mouth as you told that you are now getting quit with playing gambling it seems your friend would like to have a solo journey, now you could still be friends and makes mature enough with just small things you are getting argued. Let him on his gambling journey and learn from his wins and mistake so he will experience too why you quit playing gambling at the same time.

I agree with you that it is very important to maintain self-control and limits in gambling, because if you gamble uncontrollably, a gambler will most of the time face losses. When someone starts making decisions based on emotions, either in the excitement of winning or in the disappointment of losing, then he takes the first step towards his disaster, because this kind of mentality leads a gambler to complete disaster.
Therefore, controlling emotions in gambling is very important, and you should set a certain limit for gambling, and you should gamble with half the amount of money you can afford to lose, The further a gambler can stay away from gambling, the safer he will be.

Actually when we can limit ourselves to our gambling activities, everything will be fine. Those who finally have a change of character and become more ambitious about gambling will usually soon experience bad luck in their gambling.
A person's character can change when they get some wins from gambling. Likewise, when they lose in a row, there will be a change from the gambler too. Gamblers who are unable to control themselves are likely to be trapped in the future.

They don't realize that they will difficult to make them rich because gambling is not the right way. They don't see the loss even if they already lost their money in gambling but they will keep playing gambling without stop. Their mentality change following what happen to them so it is difficult to stop them and make them realize what happen to them. Playing gambling can change everything in our life and when we getting addicted to gambling, that will be worst for us and we will lose everything we have. So we can only be careful when playing gambling and always use the things that we needed so we don't get a problem from gambling.

Anyone that accepts this are probably pretending, in this case no one will feel less hurt just because the friend said sorry I have expenses, this doesn't make the friend a better person, it is only a man of integrity that keeps their promises, man to man it is a must, even in friendships, so that you both can respect each other and also it will make your friendship to be stronger and built on complete trust.

For what the world have turned into today I will prefer to stay away from any friend that don't like keeping their promises, it reflects a part of them that they can't be trusted and rely on, this is just me though, as I have come from dark places where friends aren't so loyal.

The sad reality is that most people expect gambling to make them rich. Losing is not even in their minds, as they are focused solely on winning. That is why we see so many gamblers drowning in debt because they can’t accept defeat and constantly chase after a win. Unfortunately, instead of reaching their goal, they end up losing even more. This is the wrong mindset because we all know that gambling can never be a reliable source of income.
Putting pressure on ourselves leads nowhere other than frustration. Many people don’t become addicted to gambling because they are always winning instead, they become addicted because they keep losing and are desperate to win back their money.

This should really be put up on someones mind on which we will really be ending up on losing in the very end when we do play gambling and thats why its really that very wrong that you will be thinking up that you can make money with gambling, and as of those times that you do make out some promises into someone then it cant be avoided sometimes because of extreme joy and excitement. The bad thing on this one that not all who  do make out such promise are the ones that they do meant it on which most of them will be that hiding on the time where winning amounts are significant and promises would really be meant to be broken on which this is the usual case.

Well if they pay up thats a good freind! I find usually that unless i put in some skin in the game i'm not getting a payout period lol. There is no such thing as something for nothing, there is always some sort of price you pay whether it be monetary or something else! The price could be a favor or some other sort of agreement not always tied to money but more so a promise to give something or do something. Honestly IMO it sounds like unless you hound this guy on it I don't think he is gonna pay.

You’re definitely right and sometimes promises can be broken for some reasons, we are definitely not God who makes promises and must fulfil His promises, we are humans and it’s normal to promise something and maybe later have a change of mind or feel indifferent about fulfilling those promises, but if such case should ever happen, it’s only logical to explain to the person, and sometimes whether the person understands or agrees with you shouldn’t really be your problem, as long as you’ve tried explaining your reason for breaking those promise, but just disappearing without an explanation is illogical.

As a matter of fact for someone who has been in this shoe before can handle the early stage. At times it’s not even related with gambling win or activity rather a lot of people act same whenever money is available, this is actually two sided because I can remember a topic here stating gamblers should avoid their friends after a win due to careless spending. I’m sure the friendship between both is genuine so why should anyone act in this manner, the money might not stand as a problem yet it’s nothing related with gambling rather greed, funny enough the friend needs an advice or he/she might repeat same attitude perhaps another gambling win or something else.

The point is we can bet but do not risk your life in gambling, so it is a place to have fun from your fatigue in multiplying life, it should be like that we consider gambling in our lives, but indeed most people gamble to see greater life opportunities, they are willing to risk Whatever for happiness that comes from the benefit, it is not a bit of a little time when it has gained victory and then emerged confidence in us then risking everything to get greater profits and that we call impulsive or greed.

Yes, do not hope to win and could change your life. There are millions of people who are hoping for that jackpot, and remember the jackpot is taken only by one winner in a week, months, or even years. Games of chance are programmed to be lost by the majority 'cause the house really needs to grab the money, it's a business after all. There are occasional winners, but they are the exception rather than the rule, and their stories are used to attract more people to play, telling a really good cinderella story. Luck-based games are obv deceptive because they create a false sense of hope through small wins or near misses, tricking players into thinking they are close to a jackpot so always be careful.

Just think of this concept, to gamble is to lose, that made us clear to us that it's actually our destination to lose, not to win or gain. However, with slots and other luck-based games, if you can be lucky you will win, but it's only rare to be lucky in gambling, what is often is our losses we incur every after gambling. So to gamble is to lose, not actually to get rich quick and become instantly wealthy.

It's not common, I call it reality.

Whenever a gambler loses, you know what's next to it. I am not trying to be good here but I won't be a hypocrite too. I've seen myself in that position and I want many gamblers to learn from it. Gambling is so much fun but we cannot bury our life into thinking there's a lucky strike somewhere out there because there's none.

From the beginning I have known that money can actually bring out the real character of many people and both gamblers are included. However, going to a gambling shop with just $100 saying if you can make it $150 you will leave the gambling shop and go back home but unfortunately, when you luckily won $150 you will be tempted to continue gambling because of greed. Actually this is how many gamblers lost their money on gamble because the felt that they could continue winning after they have won their previous stakes. Well, the truth is simple, when you don't have money you plan on how to manage but when you have enough money you spend carelessly. If we can carefully manage the money we have, we can also manage the risk that's involved on gamble by knowing when to quite and when to continue.

Promises could really be happening on the moment that you are on extreme joy or on the moment that you are on a good situation specially when you do make money or having those winnings. You will really be able to say up such thing into other people and promising out whether on giving out some part of the winnings or will really be that giving some bonuses at the time that it is really that currently happening. We are just humans and there are really those moments or times that you will be that skeptical on trying out to believe if there are those people who do make out some promises on the moment that they are at drunk or in the influence of alcohol or liqour.

When we are on such state then we cant be able to think up well on what we are saying up into our words on which at the time that you will be going back to normal then you will be able to realize that you have said such thing but not all will really be running into their promises and there are ones who do stood their ground and do follow on what they had promised. It be just that depending into someones principle because not all will be having that the same mindset and behavior into various things.If you are a friend whose been saying about a part % of profits be given then better not to take it seriously.

Yes, those promises can happen in any situation, usually when they are in a worrying condition they can also say those promises, such as the scenario of borrowing money to gamble and promising that if the result turns out to be a win then they will give a number of bonuses to the borrower but it turns out that there are always some of them who cannot keep their promises when the result turns out to be a win, but yes in most cases usually those promises are said when they win, I am sure that this happens due to the influence of the dopamine boost that increases when they win big, but what is unfortunate is that there are always those who are too careless like OP's friend who actually uses the winnings again to gamble with greater risks and ultimately loses everything, on the other hand this is the reason why the ability to cash out at the right time is always recommended to gamblers.