Topic: Mentality of Gamblers Before and After Winning - page 5. (Read 1875 times)

Yes, it can be concluded that his friend forgot him when he was on top and remembered his friend again when he was down, yes, OP should be grateful because with this he no longer needs to respond to his friend in any situation, he also has to act indifferent to his friend so that his friend also realizes his mistake.
For me, friends play a very important role in my life if something happens, one day I will definitely need their help, so as much as possible not to break off friendship just because of money.

Right, the best thing you can do is to forget what he had promised and act like nothing happens. After all, it’s his money, whether he’ll stick to his promise or not, that’s his decision already. In the first place, you were not there for money, but as a friend to him.

It's best not to pay too much attention to him, because when he loses everything he will look for you, and that's the moment for you to advise your friend, forcing him to talk to him will only cause you heartache.

That's human for you, sometimes we can say things because of excitement and later act as if we never made any promises. There is no need to even talk about because the money belongs to him and he will make decision whether to give or not. I know this might look difficult for those who expect so much in cases like this when someone close offer to give a share out from their money, but if they have the understanding of how humans can easily change I believe it won't be a matter that needs to bother one. It is better to just move on just as if he never won the money because had it been he didn't win the game you their won't be any expectation from him.

Lolz. Money is the root of all evil and money changes and rebuild and remodel someone's character. Money can destroy friendship and reunite them again. Money is the changer of character. And Op friend character was remodel with the gambling win and immediately he he forgot his friend. And after when he has finished spending them then he will remember that, he had a friend in the gambling hall. But what he did was bad but Op you have to move on. And one day your God giving us coming and you will hit more than what your friend win. Old soldier never dies. I believe you are still visiting the casinos one a month. Even as you said you are trying to forget gambling but old soldier never dies.

I think you are very correct because the thing happens most time in gambling and almost to everybody. Gambling is not just true our luck, our mindset will change about gambling when we have started making good profits from it. Those that are not ready to fulfill their promises are doing so in greed and this would but be realized until the bet is won. Gambling promises could cause problem to different friendships because most time, we don't realize the degree or what promises we are making making until we see the final result. Some people will make promises before the bet is won and when the time to fulfill the pledge comes, they will disappear.

Once people ran for food. Now the scenario has changed, and people aren't satisfied. Everyone needs more and more, and your friend isn't an exception. Initially he is in a dilemma about whether the bet will be won or not. By the time he promised to give a few percentage of the winnings, and once the bet is won, he himself felt greed and want to win more money. Gambling is risky, as it is kind of a cyclic process. Today the friend has won big, and tomorrow we don't know how things are going to change.

But, gambling does not always target big wins because at least, over time they will have their own way to enjoy gambling. Indeed, at first they will  be very happy when they get the biggest win from whatever profit they get, and even though they will continue to gamble I think it  will not be a problem as long as they can control their emotions. But at least, it will be bad when they experience defeat andthen ask for a loan just to gamble, because it will make it very  bad when gambling with borrowed money like that. But the point is, as long as they have good control over themselves, then gambling  will remain safe.

Money is an amplifier of character, if you are the greedy type it would show easily when you have money... it's a shame that you got nothing of the win but this should be a lesson to you, do o not trust anyone when it comes to money related issues, and you are not entitled to anyone's wealth, no one really owes you anything. Gambling can be very exciting when you start winning at first but with time you would know that it's not always going to be Rossy. If you know anyone that got a huge win on their first trial advice them not to go back into it.

From the way OP narrated his friends action I don't think his friend would even regard him even if he gives him sometime because if he was a man of integrity he would have done what he promised, perhaps in other way round I think the OP should even be grateful that it happen that way because from that event he has been able to no the true nature of the person he called a friend, however in most cases how all this things normally end is when his friend will lavish all the money he has won that's when he would remember he had a friend, so I actually like the OP response to him because on this case silence is the best.

This is natural. No matter how good a gambler is in gambling, there will be losses. Along with losses, there will also be some winnings and during this time, the mentality of the gambler can be seen changing. In winnings, gamblers are so generous that they will never lose, and when they lose, it seems that it is not possible for them to win. When a gambler can control himself in this situation, he is a responsible gambler. I have seen several friends who are so confident after a win that they will not lose again, they also misuse money at that time, but when they lose, they realize their mistakes. In betting, everyone's mentality changes drastically after winning and after losing. Not every person can accept defeat easily, which is why they will be upset, it is natural since everyone is human. Controlling oneself in any situation is important in gambling.

It seems you know how to treats gambling with right because you can leave gambling for weeks. This is what we must do so we don't gets deeper in gambling and not think that gambling is our main activity.

Yes, when we are winning, we will feel better and think that we can win more than we did before. That will make us lose the win money without we can hold ourselves and stop gambling. Gambling can easily make you forget about controlling yourself so you will only want to keep gambling.

And not only while gambling can such scenario be reference with, because it is human's nature to have an insatiable needs (i.e according to economics), whereby the more we get, the more we want to get more, which is obviously what happened in this scenario with you and your friend.

I literally don't think he deserves any advice, apart from the aspect of letting him how it's totally wrong to make promises and failed to fulfill it. Just as he told O.P he will be giving him 10% if he wins, and he won and never fulfilled his promises.

If I was to be you, the best I could do is "Let Go", and act as if nothing ever happened, because for the fact that he promised and failed to fulfill his promises and not trying to afford me due to guilty conscience, the best I could do will be to behave as if nothing ever happened, and then be fully conscious whenever I'm around him, knowing fully well he can never be trusted with monetary agreement.

When I read the OP's story I was wondering how old he is but then I remembered from other threads that he is 21 if I remember correctly. I say that because in older people it doesn't usually happen. I'm not saying it's impossible but it's more typical of younger people a story like that. Apart from what he promised to give him 10% of the winnings, the friend is going to get a reality check. To win 11 out of 11 in a combined bet is a very improbable event even if you are an expert sports bettor with long term winnings. The difference is that these, the profitable bettors, the professionals, know that it is an improbable event and get their money from a total profitability of all bets.

It looks like this guy is going to spend lots and lots of money trying to reach the rush feeling he achieved when he won the 11 out of 11 combined bets.

It's normal for an active gambler to lose often because that is what gambling is designed for but we still can get some benefits at them like we still enjoyed our session firstly before experiencing a sad feeling, only because we lost all of our money at the end. It is great if you don't solo your pain. It can help you alleviate it and recover faster than usual. It is only sad to know if both you and your friends lost together because there are times that our luck is not the same as the others.

We might lose today but the people around us still wins, or vice versa. Losing money is truly devastating because most of us work hard for it for a long time only to obtain it and now we lost them in gambling very quickly. Losing has to do with our emotion and there might only be two types of emotion, and that is; one is sad, and the other is happy.

When we lose we can experience the sad emotion, but if we win, it was the happy one. Fun money in gambling is like a play money. You can't withdraw it but if you are talking about the real money, it would still depend on the gambler. Some are responsible enough to make use of the money very well and this money can last a long time for them, especially if the win is huge. Unfortunately for some, that is not the case that happens.

I think that's the best strategy we can come up with. To take the rest without gambling at all. A day off will be fine, it will help us refresh our brain and maybe take out the strain of stress especially if we all think about is gambling every minute of our day. I mean, that's not good for our mental health.
I am glad there are people who think that way, they need to miss gambling first before they will come back and I do believe that's one of the recipes for gambling to be more fun and entertaining. An everyday routine of gambling is not a good choice because we all know that the house will always win and even if we come up with the best strategy, we will still lose because there's really no such thing as that.

Well, yes, actually it doesn't matter even if his friend loses money from his winnings because he acted too rashly by implementing his greed, but for the promise issue, that's another thing, the point is that he has managed to win regardless even though in the end he has to lose the money again, and also OP is not involved at all with his friend's greed, or what I mean is that his friend made his own decision to implement his greed, meaning that maybe his friend is someone who is not responsible for his promise, he should at least apologize to OP if he doesn't have the money to keep his promise due to his greed. And if there is no apology whatsoever from that person, then maybe this can be used as a lesson for OP not to put too much hope in other people, as you said that not everyone can be trusted.

It will take a toll on our mentality specially if we have string of losses along the way. And who wouldn't want to lose our hard earn money from gambling? But we can't really help it and so I've seen some funny videos on tiktok recently that when a individual is playing he is very happy specially when he hit that bonus round and everyone around him is watching.

But after that, and obviously the guy has lost already, you can see in the video is that he is staring from distance. Maybe he might be thinking that he should have quit when he was still at the top and have winnings. So that is the toll that will take not just physically, but on our mind as it is very difficult to cope with losses. Specially that in the beginning, you might have been winning a lot of money but you didn't stop.

I get upset when I lose money, even though I don't gamble everyday, sometimes I got pissed and abandon gambling for weeks and when the thirsty comes back I will try again, the difference is I need to miss gambling for me to feel like gambling, I am glad I don't gamble like my life depends on it, when winning comes you feel on top of the world easily and when losses comes you feel stupid, I guess these feelings are normal, we are human not some robot.

The mentality of gamblers before and after gambling is certainly different, what I experienced myself is like this, I like to gamble but not too often now I do it when I want to, at first everything was fine, but when the gambling results are disappointing sometimes it makes me upset. It would be too hypocritical if I never got upset when gambling, I think everyone has experienced upset with disappointing results, it's just that maybe some people are embarrassed to admit it.
What OP said is true, when we succeed in getting a win, the sensation that will be felt is wanting to get more than what has been obtained, well at this time we ourselves will determine what it is like but what is clear is that the best thing is to withdraw and stop gambling and then go to enjoy the profits that have been obtained.