Topic: Do you care about what people say about you gambling? - page 3. (Read 4691 times)

Yes, that can also be done, or what I mean is maybe I will summarize everything simply in the sense that whatever decision you want to take, try to depend on the environmental situation in your place, or what you mean is as you said that if it turns out that you are in an environment that is really anti-gambling then clearly hiding it will always be the best decision with an environmental situation like that.

On the other hand, to be honest for myself, maybe I will say that I always act neutrally, in the sense that I always adjust to the environment where I am, such as when I am in an environment that is quite active in gambling, then of course I also dare to exchange stories with people related to gambling activities and experiences that I have in gambling because I think of course it will not be a problem when I tell something in the right place, but of course when I am in an environment that is really anti-gambling then I also will not say anything that smells of gambling, so the point is if you don't want to get any criticism from other people then you must always be able to adjust to that environment.

Gambling is not considered fake in my country but some people see it as financial loss. There is lot of hype about lottery in my country and so people are fighting for luck just by winning lottery. But in my area people react very badly if they see Kao gambling. Gambling is not a compulsory game so here you can bet if you want. I think i can invest or waste my money anywhere. I don't even want to tell my family about this because my family will react differently when my pocket is empty. They will not help me but point out that when i lost money gambling.

I’m glad you perfectly understand my point.
It’s quite unfortunate that some people always view advice as insult, maybe due to the way it was given or maybe from whom it came from. But if we can learn to accept the fact that  we don’t know everything and we can make mistakes then we can also learn to accept advices when they come, and we can also be able to distinguish between advices and seamless criticisms, we’ll be able to know which to accept and which to discard. But if we always see ourselves as one who can’t make mistakes, then we won’t even be able to acknowledge the advices when even if they’re genuine and meant to help us make better gambling choices.

You’re absolutely right.
As long as you know fully well that you’re not an addicted gambler and you’re totally in control of your gambling habit, there’s absolutely no reason to give much thought to what others have to say about your gambling lie, especially when they just feel differently about gambling due to someone else’s experience with gambling addiction. Some people have already accepted the fact that all gamblers are liable to be addicted and their lives could be destroyed by gambling, without actually knowing that there are people who actually do gamble responsibly.

But then again, there are responsible gamblers who are already on their way to addiction without even knowing it, and without proper guidance from people who must’ve had similar experiences, they might end up falling into that addiction. So yeah, sometimes some healthy and constructive criticism could be welcome too.

Other people concern about gambling often comes from their concern about the effects that we will feel from gambling, but sometimes it just seems that they are very annoying when they continue to interfere with we lives, I personally the same as you who gambles just for fun, but when other people interfere with my business too much then I often argue with them and tell them to focus on their own lives, In the case of your church member, he seems to have good control over his habits and shows no signs of addiction, but I think he should take good care of his privacy, because he is supposed to be a good example to others, because after all people will still look negatively at his habits that are not in line with his status as a church member.

Not really just that only limited on gambling but also in other things as well on which there's really always that has something to say whenever they've seen something bad or something negative into it.
There would really be those negative saying or those words on which you will be able to hear up from other people or even to hear from someone you do know. When it comes into this aspect on which there would be those individuals who would really be that too reactive and thats why they do really hate up on something that pertains about on what they are really that doing. Just on what had been said that its none others business on how someone will really be doing with their money on which we do have the full rights on doing so because its our money and having some gambling activity isnt really that a bad idea as long you are really that having the control. Gambling should really be just that for the sake of entertainment and leisure on which it is really that recommended that you do really know on what you should gonna do and when it comes or talks about limitation and discipline then this is something that requires self control and have that fixated mindset when it comes to limitations and other aspects that related into it.

I like to discuss my gambling among my friends ^{(sometimes they give very useful practical suggestion)} but I would hate to have  strangers on their place.  Your never know why on earth the stampeders intrude into your gambling  affairs, thus, I would nip that in the bud. ^{(Sure to be safe it is better to remain publicly mute about your gambling passion, as strangers may suffer from your vision towards gambling).}

Since I’m not addicted to gambling. I won’t care what anyone has to say about me gambling. I think if anyone shows concern towards one playing bet, is either they’ve seen or heard of someone who’s life is ruined due to being addicted to gambling. Not being able to make a decision on when to stop and when not to. This are the reasons I feel one will want to show concern when they find out you play gambling.

I have a church member who plays bet, the problem she has is what people will say if they see her playing gambling. What she do is predict the game then give it to someone to go play for her. She knows when not to play and when to play. But she is not addicted to it.
So one could be concern about someone they care about who is addicted to gambling. So they always show concern

Of course, if someone makes fun of me, I should definitely find out why they are mocking me. But if I have a bad effect on the society then I should definitely correct my bad habits. If my gambling addiction has a bad effect on the society, then if I criticize me, I will definitely accept it well.

The community and society always form common judgments about standards, once this wave has denied the gambling regime in their part, as long as we violate this standard, they will definitely make rude comments and spread it more. Although society is adapting more and legalizing gambling, the argument is also difficult to belong to the gambler, how to best justify when every few days there is a bad news about the loser gambling and destroying society, gambling is the fuse to destroy the impression, preserving identity is the best way to avoid being harmed by this fuse

It's very simple one shouldn't bother about what people say or think concerning their gambling habits because if they are going in line with the gambling rules of using money they can afford to lose and all of that then they can keep aside people's opinion but on a lighter note one should take every advice from people seriously rather than complaining cause it's your money . Alot of people avoid such advice and find themselves being stucked, if you ask me I'll say me I definitely appreciate when people bug in things I do that way it makes me to see the deeper side of what I'm going into and make decisions either to deviate or continue.

I am still yet to understand why people care that much about others opinion on them when they are gambling. You are either gambling for fun or gambling because you lack money therefore what others are saying about you should not concern you but you should be focus on trying to achieve what made you to gamble. After making the money or becoming a happier individual, it is you that is going to benefits and not the people that were speaking negatively about you because you were gambling. As far you did not do anything bad or cause disturbance in your society, you should not be ashamed of gambling. Some of the people criticizing you are also addicted gamblers that hide their addiction and only gambling with close doors so others do not judge them, the way they are judging you and others just enjoying the game.

If we lived in a society that very strict about gambling, we don't have to gives a little evidence to them because they will not want to accept anything. They will deny that and will not tolerate that thing so we shuld be better to keep that for our secret and not have to tells to anyone. We playing gambling using our money that we have so we must responsible with that and not let ourselves spends too much money. Besides that, by not telling to other people about our gambling activity will makes us calm enjoying the gambling games.

If we don't want to get critic from other people, we must be selective to tells about something to other people and not tells to random people especially if we don't know much about that people. We better to hide our gambling activities than gives us the problem.

If you playing gambling in a country that allow gambling, you will not getting a problem but that will be different when you playing gambling in a country that prohibit gambling. You will get the problem and maybe the government or police will arrest you and punish you. We must adapts with the situation where we lived and if we thinks that playing gambling in our country can give the problem, we should not try that. We have the other choice to playing gambling which is we can play gambling in the online casino.

We don't have to think about what other people will say to us if they know that we are playing gambling. We can responsible to ourselves when playing gambling so we don't have to afraid or worry unless we can not control ourselves and playing gambling only gives a problem to us.

What you say is correct, when parents say to stay away from things that are prohibited, it is likely that the parents have previously experienced the bad effects, therefore they advise their children not to do the same things they did before. When someone is old enough, parents will provide good guidance and when they are adults, the results will be seen whether the child will obey or not with the words and guidance from their parents that they previously gave. Sometimes parents say "I failed as a parent." This happens when their child grows up but experiences problems that embarrass their family.
Even though someone has grown up, of course parents are family who have the right to speak out and we ourselves cannot throw away or pretend that our parents don't exist, because what you said is true, we don't live alone. Many children regret it when their parents are no longer there, therefore we must be able to respect our parents when giving directions because of course they want what is best for us.

I understand what you said, indeed unknowingly we could be on the road to addiction. And with those who are worried that we will become addicted, of course they will remind us not to be too excessive in gambling, that is a good point and we must be able to appreciate it, because in my opinion when someone gives an expression about the activities we do, there are two possibilities, either criticism or advice, well if it is directed at advice then we must be able to accept it too, indirectly it makes us aware not to be excessive in gambling.
However, when other people say things that are more directed at criticism, such as saying they don't like seeing me always gambling, then I won't care, because as long as I don't harm other people, I don't think there is a problem that needs to be prolonged.

If other people give advice but we ignore it, this is a mistake that sometimes makes us regret it in the end.

Don't make absolute judgments like this. There is always a degree of relativity with which things should be handled. Let me explain: You are a conscious person and responsible for your actions and no one has the right to give themselves the authority to interfere in your privacy, and I do not advise you at all to pay attention to them or to let their criticisms influence your decisions. But at the same time, there are some close people in your inner circle, such as close friends or some family members, who have the authority to express an opinion and criticize gambling in the context of talking about its effects on your general behavior. These criticisms are useful and I advise you to deal with them positively because gambling has certainly begun to affect your surroundings in a way that calls for direct criticism. If you find yourself rejecting the criticisms of those close to you, then be sure that you are a gambling addict or that you are at the beginning of the road to chronic addiction.

Ironically, people would still comment on anyone entering a casino even if that person is using their own money to gamble, using credit or not gambling at all, the stigma associated with gambling is that big.
Here in my country there is  common practice: people looking for cheaper beer usually do not go to bars or pubs but prefer to walk into casinos because beer is cheaper there and they offer chips as change for the beer (when one wants to buy one beer but one does not have pocket change). Even though one did the same in other places of the world, only for the sake of cheaper beer the stigma of spending time in a casino would prevail.
For some reason, here people believe it is preferable to be a patron for a bar rather than an active gambler.

I would say we should adapt ourselves to society. Gambling is legal in many countries. So if I gamble openly in these countries then there is no problem. And no one will make any bad comments about gambling to me in these countries.

However, gambling is not legal in many countries. So we must adapt ourselves to the social system. We should not openly gamble in these places. First, since gambling is not legal in these countries, I may face legal hurdles. Secondly, most people in these countries consider gambling as a crime. So I must hide my gambling habit. I certainly don't want people to have a bad idea about me. So I always try to adapt myself easily to the people and environment around me and conduct myself accordingly.

But he's also one of those folks that have been hiding their gambling activities, we're the same as him.

Although having such actions and that type of respect is what we have to give to them. This is the same as we know what we're doing and we don't advise others to gamble but we still gamble.  

That's true because they know the consequences of it and their partners don't approve to them gambling.

Yes, the point is as long as we do not involve or harm others in any activities or affairs that we have, then you are free to not care about anything that other people say to you, but maybe on the other hand it doesn't matter if you want to tell them a little by providing a little evidence that what other people say is not true.
And regarding gambling, yes, as you said, one of the reasons why we don't have to care about anything that other people say is because we gamble with our own money, but of course it would be a different story if it turned out that you gambled using money borrowed from other people, because if so, the fault is on your side.

But on the other hand, you are also free to tell or hide your habits from other people, and if it turns out that you are basically one of those people who don't like it when people criticize anything you do, then clearly hiding it will be the best decision you can make.