Topic: Does it looks responsible as woman telling husband you gamble? (Read 2300 times)

It is not a bad idea if women gamble because we have seen it several times on those who play slot. However, it is when the husband does not like gambling that it will be something bad to him for his wife to gamble. If she her husband is not bothered about his wife gambling, she can gamble occasionally with very little amount of money just for her to enjoy the fun in it. It is when she starts or see gambling as a means to make profit that it becomes bad, because she might one day use the family money in her custody and gamble it all which will affect her marriage.

We do know that husbands could really be that different to each other on which there are ones who do really accept out their wifes wrong doing or secrets but there are ones who would really be that normally reacting just because its really that something a very negative thing to have when dealing up with gambling on a secret manner. In marriage life which trust is really that something that you will really be needing up to consider. If you do have some gambling activity issues or simply being addicted into it then it will really be better or worth that  you should be telling it into your husband. We should really be putting up into our minds that there's no secret that will not come out, neither it would be told by other people who sees you or he would really be able to find out neither you've been caught in act or have done something which is obvious.

If you do really want to have that peace of mind, then it will really be that recommended that telling everything on what you are doing or get involved with into your partner whether your husband or wife.
Gambling could naturally be having that kind of bad or negative impression on which we know that it will really be compromises out your budget or life savings on which we know that it will
really be getting on having that negative impression which might cause up for some possible argument or quarrels just because of this one.

Sure, let’s say the wife’s actions are understandable, but the real question is whether the husband finds it acceptable. If he’s okay with it, then all is well; but if he’s not, we know where that could lead. It might seem like discrimination, but personally, I don’t think it’s a good look for a woman to be caught up in gambling. Well, at least she’s being honest with her husband—things would be much worse if she were hiding it.

Anyway, many families have fallen apart due to secrets, so as a couple, we need to be open with each other. Trust is the foundation of a healthy marriage, and once it’s broken, it can lead to more than just disagreements—it might even end in separation.

I don't know about other continents but in Africa there are somethings that aren't just normalized and one of them is a woman that gambles, I'm not saying there are women that don't gamble but saying it publicly or in front of your spouse might not be really wise because they might get a wrong impression of you. A lot of things are expected from women, they are responsible for holding a family together and many other expectations, so saying that you gamble might make people categorize you as an irresponsible woman of which you are not, somethings are better left unsaid

Yeah some wives are like that. It was like they are very knowledgeable and wise. They can even figured out if their husband had some dirty little secrets. There are still wives that are not like that unfortunately.

I think that even though the wife already knows that their husband is in to gambling, they can still choose to hide from them because they might be really greedy and wants to solo their winnings just in case they got lucky. If lose, it can still help them reduce the stress because a gambling husband can still get angry about their partner if they figured out that they use their money to play gambling especially if that money is already intended for the house expenses. When it comes to the word cheating, I think it only refers if a partner looks for another partner while they are still in a relationship.

I'm not trying to say that gambling should be for men only, but it isn't ideal for a woman to gamble especially if you are married and have kids, men are more rational and in control of their emotions by nature women on the other hand don't have the capability to handle that chaos that comes with the frustration and depression of gambling, cause at the end of the day you have to hold the family together and you need to be in the right state of mind to do that, I agree that some women play for fun but my advice is to flee from it totally

You are less likely to become addicted to the important aspects of gambling that you have become aware of if you can stick to them. I believe that if one follows the mentioned points and even if he makes gambling loss, it will not have any negative impact on his normal life. A gambler is not doomed when he loses but when he becomes addicted it can be fatally disastrous. But still you should inform your husband about your gambling. Because if he suddenly finds out about your gambling, the relationship may deteriorate. He may even mistrust you. And if he has permission or support, then even if you are gambling, there will not be any kind of harm. But it is better if you know how your husband feels about gambling. There are many people who do not consider gambling as positively.

After creating this topic, any updates? Did you end up telling your husband about your gaming activity?

It's important that, before telling him something, you ask him what he thinks about a certain subject, ask subtle questions, this will help you with how to direct the subject about gambling.

Yes, and a fact, things when it comes to couples and something as important as fidelity, loyalty, and above all trust fail is already a problem, because in part if one lives as a couple, you have your husband or wife, it is logical that the person with whom one is is the person that one has all the confidence in the world and if one fails or the other person fails it is clearly a disappointment, and it makes you think about many things, and if one does not have confidence for matters with money, I believe that the thing is worse, because with money things with people are very, very delicate, now, if we consider that people, not all, change with money, then even more so.

There are always consequences if we hide something from our partner, if we don't act on it immediately, the results are usually not good. in this context, a person continues to gamble and keeps secrets from their partner. Telling the truth is not as simple as we discussed, especially since we really know our partner's background. Let's just say that our partner doesn't really like gambling, that means we know the other consequences that are at risk for the relationship that has been built. In fact, each case will of course be different, because each person or couple has a different perspective. We even know that gambling problems often have an impact on our relationships, it even seems like those of us who already have partners have experienced problems due to gambling.

OP created a thread for us to discuss, some of the points are as you concluded. also, if we refer to the question title of this thread. although, OP says that he has understanding and tips for gambling responsibly. It's just that it's not easy for our partner to understand the point of view we give, especially if we invite him to get involved. For me, there is no better trick than for us to decide the choice ourselves. I mean, gradually our partner will realize or know about it. either because of our carelessness, or we are the ones who cause problems with our gambling. Well, having a dialogue or discussion with your partner is very important, including things that are entertainment in nature such as gambling. instead, a person can act as an alarm to their partner so that he or she remains in control and can be controlled over his or her gambling. provided that nothing is kept secret, and each partner is allowed to correct it. if it can be done, not a bad idea I guess.

I don't even know what you mean by such subtleties that would prevent communication or honesty about such things. Other than if they have an agreement that they don't have to be open about everything to each other. Which is fine, but i guess it's more a matter of why not. Because what op is doing is her own business, sure, and she don't have any obligations in my view to report everything to her husband, especially when it's not causing any problems.

But if i would be the OP, i would ask myself, what's my motivation about hiding this specifically. Why wouldn't i mention about it? Is it fear of judgement or something worse? Because then i would have to double think about the marriage, and what are we hiding from each other and why. Everyone can have their secrets, but if the reasons for not sharing are getting too heavy, then i would rethink my situation.

If that gambling would be a problem, then only thing i can see worth not being open in a healthy marriage is that if that partner is abusive, and that gambler is afraid of her/his violent partner. But at that point the whole marriage would be divorce-ready anyway, and maybe there would be larger issues to focuse on.

What you are saying is true because in every marriage sincerity is one of the most important thing, though we know that sometimes people have reasons they choose not to tell there husband but I realized that is not the right way to go about it because one of the things that hurts so much is when they learn about things from people about there spouse and sometimes it possibly lead to marriage separation because when there is know trust the marriage is bound to fail, though I know that the reason why most women decides not to tell there husband about there gambling habits is because of the hatred the husband would have had on gambling but still that shouldn't be a reason someone will decide not tell him.

The fact is that we do not know the full picture of the relationship between husband and wife, and there may be subtleties, so I personally would never be able to advise anything in such a situation. Of course, many can help with advice, but they can also do harm, and we shouldn’t forget about that)

I think that most of their advice here would be for the wife to tell her husband about her passion for gambling, because everything should be open, but the fact is that in life sometimes a sweet lie is better, I have been convinced of this several times in my life. Because concealment can save the marriage and in a few years they may not even remember about gambling. I want to say that in life sometimes everything is not so obvious and before doing something, you need to think about it several times.

As a husband then hiding something from me is a no good thing specially if this one talks about gambling whereas finances would really be that affected but if she talks about its extra money then it would be fine but i do always prefer on knowing everything or some sort of honesty and transparency on which we know that this is something that makes relationship even more stronger. In wives point of view then it would really be that the same which we dont really like that something is really that being hidden on which everything should be known and that the recipe for long lasting relationship which being honest and be transparent on whatever things that we are involving with then we should really let our partners do able to know on what we are doing and not really that making them blind.

It woud realy be always important that y ou should realy be mindful about your partners feelings on the moment that they do find out that you are really that keeping something
which arent that they do like. Its better to have at least do have that kind of tranparency and telling everything on which you are getting involved with.

I am just trying to process the possible reasons that will make a wife to gamble and hide it from her husband. Wives are expected to know their husbands, what they like and what they dislike before making any decision. A wive who hides her gambling lifestyle from her husband already knows the husband is against gambling but she still chose to disrespect him. Respect is very important in every marriage either from the man or the woman, any party who chose to hide things from the other is already cheating and it is wrong in marriage.

Whether the husband likes gambling or not, no wife should hide gambling or any other activity from the husband, little secrets like this ruins trust in marriage.

I also did not want, as a husband, for my wife to hide anything from me, especially gambling stories. I would be furious if I woke up one morning and discovered that our family was in debt to creditors or family friends. I think it was unpleasant for absolutely everyone, it was like a very serious deception.

Although, if you look from the other side, after confessing to your husband, he can leave his wife, but this is a very difficult question, because maybe he was going to do it anyway, and this confession became a trigger. After this, this wife may regret her action all her life and understand that she should not tell the truth, but rather deceive for her own benefit or something like that.

Add "respect" to the list of the attributes to make it full Sometimes a husband or wife must accept that hobby, passion or something their second half is interested in. Dont like wife gambling, tell it her, but not straight, but give some tactical hints, try to monitor her gambling spending's and etc. There is always something that your second half does not like or accept from you also, but he/she keeps silent about it or give little hints. Anyway, compromises can always be found. And it is important not to be silent about something you dont like or want to keep in secret.

We're on the same page and I think you've said it all, but then I want to add that the attributes that makes a healthy  relationship is love, trust, commitment and when one start keeping secrets from their second half like you said, that's when trust issues comes in, so I think it would do the OP more good if she come out plain and open up to her spouse concerning her interest for gambling than going into it and he later discovers on the long run. My reason is that not all men are comfortable with their spouse going into gambling some are anti gamblers and if her husband happens to be such person then it could ruin the marriage if he discovers without her informing him of it earlier. However I don't see anything wrong in women indulging in gambling but then I'll want my spouse not to keep it a secret so I'll be able to give her some tips of responsible gambling.

Such a huge discussion of such a simple question In history of relationships, keeping something in secret from your second half never worked well. Impossible to keep something in secret for a long period, one person would start finding out about that activity, other will try best to hide it. This will lead to ruining relationships one day. Yes, it looks as a behavior of an adult when you tell your second half about gambling or whatever you do. It looks lame when you try to hide hobby or passion over something from your close ones.

I'm an advocate of not keeping secrets in a marriage, spouses should be open about their desires and what they engage in to their partners. If you enjoy gambling, there's no need to keep it a secret from your husband, unless you plan to hide the information forever. It'll be nice if he hears it from you rather than learning it from third parties, he'll feel betrayed and it might affect your relationship negatively. Communication is paramount in relationships so you need to educate him about the difference between gambling responsibly and addiction, I'm sure that he loves you and he'll understand.

Being in cryptocurrency and visiting this gambling section will make anybody to understand what responsible gambling is all about. The person can change the perspective of people who are skeptical about gambling, including their spouses.