Topic: Does it looks responsible as woman telling husband you gamble? - page 7. (Read 2300 times)

I believe the main thing in the family existence is trust. That is, when husband and wife trust each other, the bond of love is formed between them. If there is no trust, discord, frustration and distrust will take their place. And when the negative aspects are excessive then that family will be destroyed and there will be no more family. Divorce has become a common thing nowadays and one of the reasons is that one cannot trust the other.

Gambling may be a simple thing but when this simple thing comes to her husband's knowledge indirectly, their romance can take a big shape. Of course, I also think that the woman should tell her husband about her gambling condition in order to have a good relationship. By doing this she can surely get better advice from her husband. There will be no hindrance in the relationship.

In my opinion, the main perpetrator should be honest with his partner, because if their partner can accept it, that's not a bad thing, also if they get angry and give advice, that's good, because he himself doesn't want anything bad to happen to the main perpetrator, which means he loves the perpetrator. mainly. When we are in a relationship, especially when we are married, it indicates that we have to be open with each other, because it is natural for couples to be open to each other without keeping any secrets, because that could cause problems.

I'm not married myself, but I agree with you, if it is true,  couples must accept each other, and honesty is an important thing in a relationship,  because I myself hope to have a partner who is not reluctant to talk openly,  because that is one of the keys to the survival of a relationship so that it remains well, rather than keeping it a secret but in the end he will find out for himself,  especially if he finds out from other people's words then that will is a big problem in my opinion.

No matter how he feels, the right thing should be done. Here, the right thing to be done is that she tells her husband that she is into gambling. I don't think there is a need for such privacy in marriage. No husband will pick offense especially when there is no trace of recklessness in the activities of his wife.


Knowing an addicted gambler is not through word of mouth. A gambler might deny being an addictive gambler whereas his antecedents show otherwise. If the woman is an addictive gambler, her husband will know because she might not have been showing prudence in her finances.


This will be imperative because it will control any panic from her husband. It will hit differently if she is a dependant and still gambles. Having her finances is a must if she must gamble but then, it should be done responsibly.

Of course, it is very important that we have to be able to manage financial stability if we don't want to experience problems that will be faced related to gambling and relationship balance. Set aside money that is really loose so that we don't need to worry because we have already managed the expenses that will be used for gambling so that it doesn't exceed this limit if you don't want to lose economic stability. Increasing the bet amount will affect the initial rules so never use money that exceeds the initial limit.

It is true that we must be honest and open with each other about the expenses we want to use for gambling because to maintain the financial stability of our family and partners we can remind them if we exceed a certain limit in terms of gambling and if it is regular then we can enjoy gambling happily without worrying about it causing significant financial losses.

Totally depends on what kind of woman you are on which there are ones who are really that have fears into their husband on trying out to hide something but there are ones who doesnt really care as long
they are really that dealing into their own interest without bothering on telling  their husbands on what they've been doing. Its up to their own personal choice whether they would really be that honest and
really that having the respect into their partners on which it would really be something that would really be just that depending. Just like the rest been saying that it would really be best that you should
really be that honest and be that having no hidden thing from your husband or your wife specially on dealing with gambling which we know that it could affect finances that on such severe manner
if ever you dont able to control yourself towards it.

There are ones who are really that just fine as long they arent compromising their life savings but in overall it would really be that best that you should really be telling
even if it isnt really that something too big or much of a concern. It would be that best on having a relationship on which you do know that it is really something
that nothing is hidden.

 It is very true that things should always be focused on good communication, there is no other way, things are always like that, for us to be okay with everything we have to do things well, and every time we are in a possible argument with our partner try not to raise your voice or anything, because things should be settled in the best way without getting upset, rather a debate, because one's partner is who one is always with and that is the only thing that matters, so if one If both of you are in danger with the game, what the other should do is help you, if necessary you should go with your partner to the casinos and see how you play, how you can play, win, lose, all this, then because These things must be done well, therefore it is something that will always be generated, the best thing of all is that they can help each other, there is no other way.

Now, for this, your partner must understand, that sometimes things are like that in casinos, which should help prevent them from falling into an addiction where both are affected, because if in the couple one of the two is wrong Well, the other must be there to give you their support, that's the most common, and the most normal thing, so in that way you can help, as we here have a little more knowledge about this casino, because it's easier to give advice about the game, the first thing I would tell you is that you have money, only use the money that you are willing to lose, there is no other option, because you can't do anything if things go to another level, we as good players and people with experience we must do everything possible so that things go well and thus protect our partner, because there is nothing stronger than falling into an addiction, that is the worst, I could say that things like this are more difficult easy to treat, which is why Support is something that Should be given immediately and without much thought.

They should be able to discuss it carefully so that it doesn't cause many problems later because after all, they already live together and manage their money for the common good. There must be a reason why her husband doesn't like gambling, and this can only be found if his wife wants to talk to him carefully to explain that he gambles responsibly and doesn't use a lot of money. If her husband could understand and know that his wife was speaking the truth, he could still accept her and even accompany her to gamble. What is important in domestic life is openness between husband and wife about what they want to do. If something makes them uncomfortable, they can discuss it well without causing misunderstandings.

If after her husband finds out that his wife is gambling and her husband forbids his wife from gambling again, his wife does not need to continue her gambling activities because she must understand that the money she is holding is money to meet her husband's daily needs. He must be able to suppress his ego to want to give in for the sake of his family, and even though he is a responsible gambler, no one can guarantee that his wife can remain a responsible gambler because there are so many temptations from gambling that can make someone forget themselves. A marriage is an important thing, and it's not worth it if it's ruined because of a gambling problem, so it's best for them to talk about it well.

I don't know if he will feel comfortable seeing his woman as a gambler, you know him better, if he is capable of handling this then tell him, he can also be your way out if you somehow get addicted some day, you guys are one already, the reason why you feel like telling him is because you knew its wrong to keep something like this away from him, what if one day he find out on his own? That won't be so good isn't it?

Tell him how you are gambling, to make him feel at ease that his woman isn't a addicted gambler, show him that you are indeed a responsible gambler, and he won't need to be worried about the state of your mindset health.

I hope you have a job? If yes then there won't be any reason for him to think that you will be wasting his money on gambling, as afar as you are a responsible married woman there is no cause for alarm.

Spouses can have different views about something and if she had kept it from the husband deliberately from the first day of their relationship, it might mean that the guy is not such that associate in such or even liked gambling at all, so she might have had her reasons for doing that. But this will break the heart of the guy if he eventually finds out, and living with a woman that you didn't know completely could be so dangerous and the guy could term this to so many things if found out by himself. This is why I will advise her to tell him regardless of what the response of the husband would be, after all, they are family, and they can talk it through and come to a reasonable conclusion one way or naother.

And unless she is not working, I think that she still can prove to the husband that she is not depending on it or addicted to it for any reason, it might just be her hobby and that doesn't mean anything. Also, judging by the way she explained herself in the OP shows that she is a responsible gambler which is a plus in this regard even as the husband would know the kind of wife she marries, so I do not think this is a serious issue. But peradventure the husband didn't agree to it, I think that gambling is not a must, she can go for another hubby than that. Her marriage is so important because if she doesn't yield this time and the guy retaliates with another thing, it might be too painful for her just in the name of gambling.

Indeed, there will be no guarantee that everything will be fine, but there is no harm in telling the truth to our partner. after all, we have a relationship with our partner of course on the basis of mutual acceptance and if we tell each other honestly about something we didn't know before, of course we have to accept each other's honesty even though your partner will not agree if you gamble, of course you also have to respect your partner not to gamble anymore because he as a partner has respected you while hiding your gambling activities and after you tell the truth don't let your partner be disappointed.

maybe we have different lives and have different partners but I believe as long as I have a partner it means he accepts everything I do and I also have to always be honest with my partner.
and for me, this honesty is a form of mutual respect and a way to protect us from the bad effects of gambling because there is always someone who reminds us not to gamble recklessly.

However, you need to know that if your financial condition is still stable then your partner will not have a problem with your activities in gambling, the balance of the relationship is still fine, but you must anticipate that our finances will not always be stable, so gambling will be the main factor that will be blamed if you experiencing financial problems even though you have gambled with strict rules does not result in financial losses.

The right solution is for you to be honest with your partner about the funds you use for gambling, so that your partner will not blame you if your financial condition worsens, because he already knows the history of the account you use for gambling deposits and he does not blame you for gambling. .

If you are still able to control yourself as you say, there is no need to tell him, but if you feel you have done more or even violated what you said, it is better to tell your husband immediately before it is too late because the effects of gambling are very big, without us realizing it, we can destroy it. Our life is only in 1 minute so stay careful

The woman who tell their husband to gamble by their own interest in the gambling site,she may not get the chance to play the gambling.It was the reason for the recommendation of the gambling to their husband.Even she may married her husband because he is the gambler.The couple should manage their expenses because they need hug money for the rotation of the continuous game.The trust was the essential one in the gambling,the gambler should trust the process of the gambling game.Because some game will give the gambler more money,some game will make the gambler to loss the money.The luck also important to the gambler to make huge profits.

if you truly love and trust your partner, you will be very honest with him or her. because no matter what, he or she will be the first one to help you out in case you put yourself into a terrible situation. you will know also when to reveal your side once you know your partner well. because if you think you are not yet ready, it means, you have some hesitations that your partner won't truly understand you.

though it would take time to reveal your totality as a person, but consider the fact that your spouse should know all about those small details of you, so  he or she knows what to do if caught up in a compromised situation because of your doings. it is hard to explain if your spouse has no idea about what's going on with your life. and suddenly he or she will be in a terrible situation because you failed to inform him or her about your other side of things.


you are one lucky person if you find a partner who can understand such balance concept. so long you know your boundaries when it comes to gambling, i guess, there's nothing to worry about. sometimes we need this facet of life to see the fun side of things. after all, we are all not work and stress in life. we can have our entertainment on the side as well. there's nothing wrong to experience the gambling side together. if you both know the consequences of what you are doing, i guess, you will be more careful when you are into this activity.

For the person with whom you have seriously established a relationship or can be called your life partner, revealing small nooks and crannies is not just to receive evaluation and caution from them, revealing it here is just so they can see another version of us because our lives wear so many masks, they are meant to cover these corners, being able to peel off these faces to face the person in front of you is the greatest proof of faith and trust. This hidden corner may be special, but through it we can love someone more completely and that person will soon change and quit gambling because of our gentle response.

Yes I understand about that buddy, I have read the statement that indeed the woman has some restrictions and mindsets that are quite advisable and that can at least make her safe in her involvement in gambling activities, but what I mean is that she is worried that she may experience changes over time and of course this is something that should not be ignored, considering that it is not uncommon for some gamblers who, although initially had a pretty good preparation, it turned out that over time they experienced a change in mindset because maybe the tantalizing things in gambling affected their mindset slowly, and yes, the point is that I hope whoever is experiencing a situation like this to still really maintain firmness in himself regarding some of the boundaries he has built, not only that because the strong awareness factor must also really be applied and maintained. For the initial problem about her with her husband I think it is better to tell her husband that she is involved in gambling, family relationships will be stronger if we are able to be open to each other, and in addition this is a gambling activity that always cannot be completely avoided from the name of risk.

Yes that's the point and indeed that's the best thing to do, as I said before that having good communication and being able to be open with each other is something that can further strengthen the relationship because this is related to trust and if it's like you said that her husband found out about this from other people then I'm sure at least this will be a problem in the relationship and trust might fade a little, by telling our partner about anything then on the other hand this will also make them feel appreciated by you for his presence.

All about balance, right? Communication and understanding are crucial. Your support for your wife while considering your family is admirable. There's more to consider when the casino chips are down than just how much is spent. About why. The hunt, not the money, makes gambling exciting. When your partner plays slots or tables, you must understand why. Is it innocent fun or a problem? Recognizing differences is key.

How to manage casino habits Spending less is smart. Not just odds, but control. Control is essential in gambling and life. Your suggestion to play with your companion is smart. It's about sharing experiences and understanding each other's reactions and decisions, not monitoring. Couples must work together to handle money. Not simply the money lost or won, but the journey you go together making these decisions. Partnership is about that, right?

We don't know how husband and wife live directly, so we have many different assumptions. But if a wife gambles, she must tell her husband that she is gambling. There must be communication between husband and wife so there are no misunderstandings between the two. Married life requires honesty between husband and wife, including when one of them gambles because, after all, gambling using their income budget can affect the allocation to various kinds of daily needs. They will find it difficult to control their finances if they use their money for gambling. By discussing it between husband and wife,, there could be a solution to the problem.

Yes, there must be communication between husband and wife so that they do not misunderstand. Most problems in the family arise because of misunderstandings and a lack of honesty about what has happened, which makes them feel suspicious of their partner. This must be resolved immediately so that it doesn't become a problem that could cause them to experience even more complicated problems. By discussing the problem well, husband and wife will clear the air so that misunderstandings will disappear and they can live their lives well. When a problem is hidden, one partner can feel it so that he will ask his partner about it. If his partner is not honest with him, he will know, which usually triggers the problem. And if the problem can hurt their family, the husband and wife can immediately find a solution so the problem doesn't get bigger.

If one of them gambles, it would be better for his partner to know about his gambling activities so that he can control the use of his money, especially if he sets aside a small portion of his income to allocate funds for gambling. After all, gambling requires money, and if they are husband and wife, there is a possibility that they will use the money for their family, so if they don't really monitor their use, it could be more than they imagined. His partner can always remind him to stay within his limits and not exceed what he can afford so that there is no unnecessary use of money just for gambling. However, if their partner has started crossing his limits and still thinks he is fine, the husband or wife must act immediately to save him from crossing his limits. After that incident, he and his partner can discuss how to proceed with their gambling activities, and if they feel that gambling will only hurt both of them, maybe they need to stop their gambling activities and leave gambling forever.

But don't expect it will go well, most people don't want to reveal their secrets because they scared if their spouse might not agree with their habit/choice/activity. The problem is when you reveal your secret in the beginning, he/she will underestimate and don't want to have a relationship with you. However if you reveal it when you both already in relationship, usually your spouse will try to accept that.

There's no clear answer because you will never know what the real personality of your spouse when you've married for long period.

First, it is good to know that you are a careful gambler, and with what you iterated above and what you believe and avoid in gambling, if you can keep them truly, then you are good to go with no reasons for worrying. It shows clearly that you are mostly gambling for the fun but if the money comes from it, you will be happy. This is the right mindset to gamble, so I do not see any reason why you do not tell your husband, you are not just irresponsible with it. Gambling is not that bad, and even if your husband is not gambling or a religious person who frowns at it, it is still his right to know unless you are practising something else but falsely calling it family.

To me, although it is subject to the kind of spouse we are talking about, everything should be revealed in the family with an open mind. It is better for him to be angry or even scold you, but as a family, you will still come to a reasonable conclusion on this. Perhaps, if he tells you to leave it (which I don't think so with your responsible gambling style), you should please yield. This is in the name of peace, after all, gambling is not a must but your relationship is as a couple.