Topic: Does it looks responsible as woman telling husband you gamble? - page 6. (Read 2300 times)

Responsibility is not based on whether you tell other people including your husband about your gambling activities or not, because responsibility is something that is within yourself, the point is that I cannot be sure that you are a responsible female gambler even if you tell your husband. And anyway I think there are quite a few husbands who would actually allow their wives to engage in gambling activities, overall gambling has a negative viewpoint in the eyes of society and maybe even in the eyes of your own husband and it is possible that you may not get permission from your husband to engage in this activity.

One of the things that I think will be on your husband's mind is that he is worried that the money he gives you as money to meet the needs of the kitchen turns out to be used for gambling, it cannot be denied and this is a possibility that is quite potentially large to happen, no matter even though you have a good responsibility in gambling by being able to resist all the temptations that exist in gambling, I'm not sure if this is a good idea, but I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm not sure if it's a good idea, but I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea, and I'm sure it's a good idea.

In my opinion, in marriage there should be no secrets, it is very important that in a marriage people know that they will live on the basis of agreement on both sides, a man cannot decide to spend money to pay bills and take that same money to gamble in some casino, I have read many cases of marriages that ended because the man became addicted to alcohol, addicted to drugs and addicted to gambling. although the casinos of gambling addictions that I have read are very low cases, still the few cases of gambling addictions that I have been able to read have left me very shocked, this is because they are stories with very beautiful beginnings, but with a very sad end. When I started reading that the guy got a good job

then he managed to marry a good woman, he had 2 very beautiful daughters, his life was very beautiful until one day he went into a store where they had a slot machine and played a little and then he started to get very interested in playing even more, then he went to other gamble, he began to play a lot to the point that he lost track of the time he had to go to work, he was always late at work until one day he was fired, at home they no longer had money to pay the bills and his wife She started fighting with him a lot until she got tired and left the house and took her daughters. he lost his wife and children and job and home. These types of stories constantly happen when the husband or wife is addicted.

Better than the husband find it out on his own and create doubt with her, telling something in a manner that the husband deserves the truth is creating good relationship between the two, you are already attach to your husband and if you need to tell him something that may create bad things to your marriage better to tell him.

Telling your participation into gambling will also helps to watch you out and not to let you go on deep and get addicted, changes in mood and your actual attitude may allow him to make a good stop and prevent you to keep on playing.

Telling your husband you gamble looks responsible; what does not look responsible is keeping that away from him, because every responsible married lady always has to keep the marriage peaceful by not trying to hide anything from their husband, and the husband will also do the same thing.
 
Your husband might also be a gambler without you even knowing, or he might have told you, but he is not a chronic gambler, which means it doesn't affect his day-to-day life activity or the family's finances. If you can assure him that he doesn't have anything to worry about in terms of control and fund safety, together with not putting gambling first before your family, I don't think he will react harshly.

It's better to tell your husband as soon as possible, because it's only a matter of time before your husband finds out and will be even more disappointed with you as a gambler, especially if you are addicted and spend a lot of money just to gamble.
as @GxSTxV said, by telling about your gambling activities, who knows, your husband will accept it and even be able to play together and have fun gambling. However, if on the contrary, your husband forbids you from gambling, then stop gambling.

Best to hear a perspective of an actual woman than a man that are into this discussions. I can't go and read each of the posts here if they're a woman telling that their husbands to gamble.
Because most of the thoughts that we'd hear is that it's totally fine like men were designed to do these things and there's no problem as long as the husband provides everything.
And if you're the wife that gambles and wanting to expose yourself to your husband that you've been gambling, it's the same with the reasoning that as long as you take care of the house then everything is fine.

Well, I think it’s just bad to even think not telling him and waiting our thoughts about this matter which relate you both only especially that it’s something not that serious as you described it, you are not an addict, understand how to gamble for fun only. So, In my opinion you should already told him as long as he is okay with gambling too and nothing forbids him from gambling, or it’s the total opposite? If your husband is religious and consider gambling as a sin and something very bad, then I suggest thinking more about a good explanation and how you both can find a solution to this that would serve both of you.

In your place, I have a girlfriend and in my first days I asked what she thinks of gambling, even though she didn’t gamble before, we agreed that we can do it together sometimes for fun. Already had few sport bets together and it was so fun watching the game we have bets on it together. I wish you go through the same and that husband accepts your activity.

Well, in a relationship, and even more so when you get married , because there has to be more confidence and better results in your life as a couple, you can't just think about one person what the other can do, you have to think together and make a difference there, that's why every time we decide to be with someone in a serious situation  , we Consider ourselves a couple , Because if we have to tell things, even though many times when we try to have a relationship like that, well It becomes toxic but if there must be a Communication that shows that the Things that are done like this , of Being in a Casino, of being managed within what a casino is, then that must be Communicated , We have to see those things, when it comes to money, then things must be communicated even more, because it is a budget for both, and those things are delicate, as long as there is money involved   , things are like that.

When we are generalizing things to Another level we see that many couples are somewhat toxic in the sense of communication, so they are constantly telling each other Everything , and I don't know, sometimes things can look bad in that way , I don't know I see well.

Couples who do not reach a good consensus of communication either, because obviously it results in divorce, and when there is not much that can be done , they have tried to see things from all sides and have tried to see things from every point of view Seing as it is good, if there is no way to fix things, then whatever is possible, but considering that things in the casino for some people can cause addiction, because it is something that one person needs from the other to overcome it, and If you are addicted, the other person has to take care of it, give immediate Treatment to your partner to get out of it, and that represents an opportunity for things to be handled better when there are problems.

Exactly my point, telling him with her mouth is better than the husband using his hand to discover because if that happens it will be hard for the husband to forgive and secondly their might be a little clash on trust in such marriage which is what no man or woman want in their marital life.

Gambling is not completely bad and the husband will also understand if she cool her self down and give an explanation to the reason she is gambling and she is also in control of her self.

Allowing him discover by himself that you do gamble will definitely ruin things much more than it would if you tell him and he gets to know through you informing him, then he will be able to accept the fact that you respected him enough to have told him what you are doing with your funds and your free time .

He may not take it lightly when he first gets to know and that's normal because it's definitely going to shock him to know that his wife does such a but then the way you will approach him with it is definitely going to matter and have a lot to do with how he's going to react if you tell him ramosfully and promise to quit if he wants you to or regulate your habit as he wishes, you will see that amicably he's going to discuss it with you and there's definitely not going to be a big deal made out of it.

Its never been cool looking if you do see your wife on doing gambling, even if i do say that im a gambler but seeing my wife on doing gambling things is never been appealing and never
been that good looking. It is really just that there are people who are really that too lenient when it comes to their wives doings. Well, its not really that bad on dealing up something like this but
as a men or male then we do know on what are the risks involved with gambling.Even if we do say that they are really that responsible on their spending but as the time that you are really that
playing or getting engaged with it then you are really that prone to addiction which might lead into possible messed up gambling activity later on.

As wife or even husband, whatever the things that you've been dealing or making, then it would really be always better that you should really be honest
and be transparent towards your partner so that you wont really be that having those potential problems later on.

personally, I don't like the idea of a lady going into gambling nit because it is totally bad but I feel that it doesn't fit their gender that much. Their was a certain time my female freeing for reasons best known to her decided that she was interested in soccer gambling and came to me for advice on how to go about it. I just told her to forget about it that I wouldn't tell her shit because it doesn't go down well with me that I am gambling and my woman would also gamble with me.

This is just a personal something and I know their are others that might find it cool that their wife is into gambling but I think before taking this decision of going into gambling as a leader you must have seen that it would go down well with your husband if he finds out and if that's the case then you are good to go.

But regarding the rules you've set out as bench mark you wouldn't cross as you start up your gambling journey, I feel they aren't necessary I you're going into a gambling niche that you enjoy playing with friends. Just don't for fun as a lady and don't allow yourself to become addicted or become used to it.

When I am doing an activity as important as this, what I do is Focus on mine , if I have Someone then let them know, and it will not cause any type of change in anyone, I could say that when there are people who are The Avant-garde of Doing anything in a casino should do it , regardless of Whether you have a husband or not, if you are Married, then obviously the husband has to know that he is a person who likes the game and that he Cannot deny that, I am not going to stop doing something I like only because my husband doesn't like it, that's why you earn money yourself by Working.

When I have a partner, I don't tell him what I'm going to do, but he already knows what to do and he doesn't like it because it's bad, but I'm not Going to stop Doing my thing s, in this case things can be different if they are done Secretly, but otherwise there is nothing to hide, Well that's my way of Thinking.

Yes, at this point things should be done that way, we are people who must use intelligence at all times, it is well known that emotions are difficult to manage in many situations , so we must help ourselves to minimize them. That responsibility and having good results , in this order of ideas it is good to budget before playing, and to have that money willing to lose, because basically when you have money willing to lose you can do many things, the first thing is taken away from On top of that, the responsibility of Self-monitoring of the emotions , a person knowing what they can spend and not going overboard in making deeper partners because it's simple, things don't get bigger, so only in this way is it easy to determine things well , if not, we have We have to take stock of things we Should control and it turns out to be more Complicated.

So the player who has already pre-Established what he is going to win, can take it for granted that there is a lot to go, that even things can be taken with the perspective that is, one should not do anything other than deposit what we are willing to lose, then in view of that it is when we do anything to not remove our own rules, in this case things can look different, a person can eventually go crazy if they want to play, but always respecting the outcome that they can lose, otherwise You can see if the person loses control of the money or something, but if the person sees that they have a good performance and they have profits, another thing is whether they can withdraw , if they withdraw it is a good time to have to be able to Establish any something so that he leaves with full pockets , something that I see as excellent, but in the case that not, the acceptable thing is that after certain wins a player has to withdraw , otherwise he will never see the good in this, and the good thing about this is earning money , taking advantage every time that you are lucky enough to win.

By communicating well, husband and wife couples will not experience misunderstandings that can cause them to get involved in unfinished arguments. When husband and wife are involved in endless arguments, they may experience a divorce, which would not have happened if they could communicate well. By communicating, the couple can resolve the problem amicably, and there is no need for arguments to occur. Maybe his wife being honest about her gambling activities can make her husband understand and will encourage him to end his gambling activities so that his wife doesn't have to experience bad things.

By asking him to leave his gambling activities, he can give his wife the opportunity to do other things that can benefit his wife and husband too. Before the situation gets worse, especially if we are talking about gambling, where there will be impacts that we will feel apart from losing money, it is better just to end it and decide not to gamble. With support from her husband, his wife can choose what to do so that even though she feels she can be responsible for her gambling activities, she will prefer to stop her gambling activities. Moreover, he has experienced losses and wins from gambling, so he will think it is better just to stop his gambling activities rather than later he will get into bigger problems. Meanwhile, no one knows when someone will experience a gambling addiction, so before someone experiences a gambling addiction, it is better for him to stop gambling and do other activities that are more useful.

Yes, it takes courage for a wife to say that she likes to gamble and must accept the consequences because maybe her husband will not like it. But if the wife prefers to hide it from her husband, there is a possibility that there will be misunderstandings and arguments when her husband finds out. A husband or wife doesn't like being lied to or dishonest about what they do, so it's best to tell the truth to her husband immediately.

Yes, he is her husband, and as a wife, she should be honest about her gambling activities rather than causing something uncomfortable in her household. With honesty, a wife and husband can get through this together.

Maybe after his wife is honest about her gambling activities, her husband will accompany her when gambling so that she doesn't gamble excessively. And her husband might stop his gambling activities and replace them with other, more useful activities.

Its important to stay calm in emotional circumstances like gambling. I think a supporting partner is crucial in a casino. The important thing is supporting each other, regardless of the outcome.

I recommend making a budget before entering the casino because I value financial advice and emotional support. One basic yet successful method is to only gamble what you can lose. This strategy protects your finances and promotes a healthy gaming relationship. Take pleasure in the game without allowing it dictate your relationship.

Finally, helping a gambling partner is admirable. Equally crucial is recognizing addiction symptoms. Taking preventative measures can avoid many problems. Be transparent about gambling and ready to get help if things go wrong. Gambling should be fun while being responsible.

Even if he is going to get angry because of what you will tell him about gambling it won’t change the fact that you still need to tell him, at least he is your husband even if the money that is going to be used for gambling is not going to come from his pocket it’s important to at least let him know of what the wife do with her free time. The feelings no matter how bad it will look it won’t be as bad as when he will have to discover it by him self so better off telling him on time and get it off your mind.

Whatever is considered perhaps not normal activity to do, it is still wife obligation to tell her husband honestly about what she has been doing.
This is not only responsibility to be open with each other but also an attitude of wife who must be obedient to husband.
If, after saying everything, her husband forbids her from repeating gambling activities, then she as wife must obey him, she must obey what her husband says.
I sure that husbands will always have good mindset for the long term and husbands will be able to decide what is good and what is bad for the future of their family. Moreover, wife must also still have control over anything related to money because wife becomes place in money management in the family.

What is quite worrying is that when it is publicly known that woman or wife likes gambling, we know that the sentiment in some places towards women who gamble is not positive sentiment.
There will be negative thoughts and conversations and this must be avoided.

Well for a woman to plainly tell her  husband that she's into gambling I think that will be very thoughtful of her, because if she  keep hidden it from him probably he finds out that this is what she have been doing behind his back he's not going to take it likely with her as the wife.

Even if you're a working class lady at least you're suppose to get him involve if he's going to stick with it, even if he's not the one providing the money you use to gamble that doesn't change any thing, the facts remains that he's your husband he's supposed to be aware of it

Then after telling him probably he sticks to it I will advice you play responsibly and you shouldn't allow it to hinder you from doing your duties as a wife.
 

There is nothing wrong in this , Only if you know how to limit and not to become a stupid gambler.

This is more than enough to prove that you know what you are entering so  just go and enjoy

How long have you been married? do you think there will be an issue once you tell Him about your gambling activities?
because if he trusted you and  you trusted Him then better talk closely and with heart.