Topic: Gambler avoiding friends after a big win. (Read 2804 times)
Well, it's just funny on how gamblers do act especially if they win money that is not enough for them, you will hear them saying that, I have profit enough or what I have now it's not even up to what I lost or once they win, they disappear, they will want to leave immediately to avoid friends from begging then, some will even behave as if they are hearing anybody again just like my friend, I was at home that day and he came to and say, let's go and gamble and I told him, I don't have money and he replied that I shouldn't worry about that, that if he wins, he will give me some of his money to gamble and when we get there, he gamble up to two times before winning and when I ask him for the money, he promised me, he started shouting at me and I was like, what happened, did I say something wrong or is there anything the matter and he keep shouting till he left there, leaving me behind and I left in shame and that is the end of our friendship. So gamblers always act funny in they win and also causes some to lose their relationship etc.
I believe that a person would never avoid friends for no reason. If that person from first post made such a decision, then there must be a strong reason for that. We can only predict reasons. Maybe that person is greedy and dont want to share. Maybe this big win is his life changer and he has decided to quit gambling, so he avoid those friends, because they might drag him back into gambling. Maybe that person is no longer interested in gambling. He has caught his luck and dont want to test it anymore.
It's not everything that our friends must know, some people pretend to be friends but are haters and backbiting agents. It is important to know your friends very well because that's what can grant the level of information you given to them about your achievements. If you don't trust your friends because you believe they can do anything to harm you once they know you are successful than them, you don't have to tell such people anything good about yourself. One thing must lead to an action, before taking any decision, there is usually a cause for that decision. Some people stay away from friends after big win because they are don't want to share any money with their friend, if the money is big enough, I can tell my friends I won small amount.
Yeah right, It's a matter of trust and confidentiality. Even I, doesn't tell everything in my friends especially if it's money related or even the career growth because there's a possibility that you will be having a problem towards them because you didn't know that some of your so called friends envy you. We need to learn how privacy works nowadays because what others didn't know, they can't be ruined.
I believe that a person would never avoid friends for no reason. If that person from first post made such a decision, then there must be a strong reason for that. We can only predict reasons. Maybe that person is greedy and dont want to share. Maybe this big win is his life changer and he has decided to quit gambling, so he avoid those friends, because they might drag him back into gambling. Maybe that person is no longer interested in gambling. He has caught his luck and dont want to test it anymore.
It's not everything that our friends must know, some people pretend to be friends but are haters and backbiting agents. It is important to know your friends very well because that's what can grant the level of information you given to them about your achievements. If you don't trust your friends because you believe they can do anything to harm you once they know you are successful than them, you don't have to tell such people anything good about yourself. One thing must lead to an action, before taking any decision, there is usually a cause for that decision. Some people stay away from friends after big win because they are don't want to share any money with their friend, if the money is big enough, I can tell my friends I won small amount.
I believe that a person would never avoid friends for no reason. If that person from first post made such a decision, then there must be a strong reason for that. We can only predict reasons. Maybe that person is greedy and dont want to share. Maybe this big win is his life changer and he has decided to quit gambling, so he avoid those friends, because they might drag him back into gambling. Maybe that person is no longer interested in gambling. He has caught his luck and dont want to test it anymore.
It's not everything that our friends must know, some people pretend to be friends but are haters and backbiting agents. It is important to know your friends very well because that's what can grant the level of information you given to them about your achievements. If you don't trust your friends because you believe they can do anything to harm you once they know you are successful than them, you don't have to tell such people anything good about yourself. One thing must lead to an action, before taking any decision, there is usually a cause for that decision. Some people stay away from friends after big win because they are don't want to share any money with their friend, if the money is big enough, I can tell my friends I won small amount.
Then we should choose friends wise. For example I share with friends most of my achievements. The moment I sold and bought new car. The moment kid went to school for the first time. I've got a annual bonus at work and etc. And I never saw envy light in their eyes, not their attitude to me changed, nor they ever asked me to share.
With situation with this guy, it might even be not his decision to part with them. That guys girlfriend, wife or other friends can suggest to do that, if they saw that those friends drag him down. Life is complicated. We can look on a situation from different angles. Not only from "that guy is greedy and dont want to share".
Yeah right there are influences that might change the mindset of such person though the big chance it's all because of the money and he don't want to share his blessings, looking at the perspectives, they all in the same spot before the guy wins that huge amount and right after that luck he change his mind and he doesn't like to be with that same company again.
Maybe he's trying to save up or whatever the reason behind we can't judge things out and same with your statement we need to look at it on all the different sides of a possibilities.
I believe that a person would never avoid friends for no reason. If that person from first post made such a decision, then there must be a strong reason for that. We can only predict reasons. Maybe that person is greedy and dont want to share. Maybe this big win is his life changer and he has decided to quit gambling, so he avoid those friends, because they might drag him back into gambling. Maybe that person is no longer interested in gambling. He has caught his luck and dont want to test it anymore.
It's not everything that our friends must know, some people pretend to be friends but are haters and backbiting agents. It is important to know your friends very well because that's what can grant the level of information you given to them about your achievements. If you don't trust your friends because you believe they can do anything to harm you once they know you are successful than them, you don't have to tell such people anything good about yourself. One thing must lead to an action, before taking any decision, there is usually a cause for that decision. Some people stay away from friends after big win because they are don't want to share any money with their friend, if the money is big enough, I can tell my friends I won small amount.
Then we should choose friends wise. For example I share with friends most of my achievements. The moment I sold and bought new car. The moment kid went to school for the first time. I've got a annual bonus at work and etc. And I never saw envy light in their eyes, not their attitude to me changed, nor they ever asked me to share.
With situation with this guy, it might even be not his decision to part with them. That guys girlfriend, wife or other friends can suggest to do that, if they saw that those friends drag him down. Life is complicated. We can look on a situation from different angles. Not only from "that guy is greedy and dont want to share".
I believe that a person would never avoid friends for no reason. If that person from first post made such a decision, then there must be a strong reason for that. We can only predict reasons. Maybe that person is greedy and dont want to share. Maybe this big win is his life changer and he has decided to quit gambling, so he avoid those friends, because they might drag him back into gambling. Maybe that person is no longer interested in gambling. He has caught his luck and dont want to test it anymore.
If everyone could think like you, of course there would be no dispute between those who win their bets and those who win their bets of course have the right to use it for what they really want and we have no right to forbid them or ask for a share of the winnings obtained, however I think it really depends on a person's personality and I often see those who win their bets celebrating with their friends.This is a wholesome reply. Instead of judging the trader, there is a level of understanding what could be their reason behind why they are doing what they are doing. Because keeping in mind that we all have a reason why we are gambling. Some gamble to make friends or waste time, some is there to bond with their friends, yet most were there to make money and bring food to their home. This is just the reality. We don't want to force our friends to treat every time they win. Let them have their choice, because after all they also have their own reason why they are also gambling.
but it depends on each personality. Some people really want to give a little gift, some don't.
Or it's true, as @bakasabo said, it could be that he is distancing himself from his friends because he wants to end his gambling activities.
I believe that a person would never avoid friends for no reason. If that person from first post made such a decision, then there must be a strong reason for that. We can only predict reasons. Maybe that person is greedy and dont want to share. Maybe this big win is his life changer and he has decided to quit gambling, so he avoid those friends, because they might drag him back into gambling. Maybe that person is no longer interested in gambling. He has caught his luck and dont want to test it anymore.
If everyone could think like you, of course there would be no dispute between those who win their bets and those who win their bets of course have the right to use it for what they really want and we have no right to forbid them or ask for a share of the winnings obtained, however I think it really depends on a person's personality and I often see those who win their bets celebrating with their friends.This is a wholesome reply. Instead of judging the trader, there is a level of understanding what could be their reason behind why they are doing what they are doing. Because keeping in mind that we all have a reason why we are gambling. Some gamble to make friends or waste time, some is there to bond with their friends, yet most were there to make money and bring food to their home. This is just the reality. We don't want to force our friends to treat every time they win. Let them have their choice, because after all they also have their own reason why they are also gambling.
I believe that a person would never avoid friends for no reason. If that person from first post made such a decision, then there must be a strong reason for that. We can only predict reasons. Maybe that person is greedy and dont want to share. Maybe this big win is his life changer and he has decided to quit gambling, so he avoid those friends, because they might drag him back into gambling. Maybe that person is no longer interested in gambling. He has caught his luck and dont want to test it anymore.
It's not everything that our friends must know, some people pretend to be friends but are haters and backbiting agents. It is important to know your friends very well because that's what can grant the level of information you given to them about your achievements. If you don't trust your friends because you believe they can do anything to harm you once they know you are successful than them, you don't have to tell such people anything good about yourself. One thing must lead to an action, before taking any decision, there is usually a cause for that decision. Some people stay away from friends after big win because they are don't want to share any money with their friend, if the money is big enough, I can tell my friends I won small amount.
At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.
After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.
After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.
Many are saying that the "friend" disappeared with the money, but I have another theory:
I believe that when he won, he wanted to make a "smart" move by betting again with the money he had won in the hope of multiplying it again and keeping entirely the winnings from the second bet, dividing only the winnings from the initial bet among his friends.
However, as with most greedy players, he was unable to multiply his winnings, quite the opposite... he lost everything
As a consequence, he now needs to suffer the heartbreak of his defeat without the courage to tell his friends about the trouble and what he got himself into... he prefers to be called a "dishonest" than a "stupid".
I believe that a person would never avoid friends for no reason. If that person from first post made such a decision, then there must be a strong reason for that. We can only predict reasons. Maybe that person is greedy and dont want to share. Maybe this big win is his life changer and he has decided to quit gambling, so he avoid those friends, because they might drag him back into gambling. Maybe that person is no longer interested in gambling. He has caught his luck and dont want to test it anymore.
It's not everything that our friends must know, some people pretend to be friends but are haters and backbiting agents. It is important to know your friends very well because that's what can grant the level of information you given to them about your achievements. If you don't trust your friends because you believe they can do anything to harm you once they know you are successful than them, you don't have to tell such people anything good about yourself. One thing must lead to an action, before taking any decision, there is usually a cause for that decision. Some people stay away from friends after big win because they are don't want to share any money with their friend, if the money is big enough, I can tell my friends I won small amount.
I believe that a person would never avoid friends for no reason. If that person from first post made such a decision, then there must be a strong reason for that. We can only predict reasons. Maybe that person is greedy and dont want to share. Maybe this big win is his life changer and he has decided to quit gambling, so he avoid those friends, because they might drag him back into gambling. Maybe that person is no longer interested in gambling. He has caught his luck and dont want to test it anymore.
If everyone could think like you, of course there would be no dispute between those who win their bets and those who win their bets of course have the right to use it for what they really want and we have no right to forbid them or ask for a share of the winnings obtained, however I think it really depends on a person's personality and I often see those who win their bets celebrating with their friends.Each person has their own priorities, and in the eyes of the person who won the money, there will be many future plans to continue to improve their life thanks to that money, people usually think about going to college, starting a business, even buying a house and settle down with their spouse. It depends also on how mature the person is.
I agree we should not judge these kind of situations and stories without having further context, though, I lean myself to think the wanted to stay away from gambling and since his friends continued to be gamblers, then he decided to cut ties with them for the sake of his own future. His former friends may have not understood that decision and took it as something personal.
Just because one won big st gambling, it does not mean one is expected to party and waste all the money in frivolous stuff like alcohol, women and small luxuries.
I believe that a person would never avoid friends for no reason. If that person from first post made such a decision, then there must be a strong reason for that. We can only predict reasons. Maybe that person is greedy and dont want to share. Maybe this big win is his life changer and he has decided to quit gambling, so he avoid those friends, because they might drag him back into gambling. Maybe that person is no longer interested in gambling. He has caught his luck and dont want to test it anymore.
If everyone could think like you, of course there would be no dispute between those who win their bets and those who win their bets of course have the right to use it for what they really want and we have no right to forbid them or ask for a share of the winnings obtained, however I think it really depends on a person's personality and I often see those who win their bets celebrating with their friends.Sometimes fame can really get to you and it even attract and brings attention that isn't really wanted because that's the way some persons act when someone close to them actually got a big break of winning huge money from gambling and this notion doesn't only applies to Gambling winning, I believe it can be in every field of life. More money attracts more person and that makes things awkward and make people shy away because at that moment they only feel love because of their money.
I believe that a person would never avoid friends for no reason. If that person from first post made such a decision, then there must be a strong reason for that. We can only predict reasons. Maybe that person is greedy and dont want to share. Maybe this big win is his life changer and he has decided to quit gambling, so he avoid those friends, because they might drag him back into gambling. Maybe that person is no longer interested in gambling. He has caught his luck and dont want to test it anymore.
If everyone could think like you, of course there would be no dispute between those who win their bets and those who win their bets of course have the right to use it for what they really want and we have no right to forbid them or ask for a share of the winnings obtained, however I think it really depends on a person's personality and I often see those who win their bets celebrating with their friends.
I believe that a person would never avoid friends for no reason. If that person from first post made such a decision, then there must be a strong reason for that. We can only predict reasons. Maybe that person is greedy and dont want to share. Maybe this big win is his life changer and he has decided to quit gambling, so he avoid those friends, because they might drag him back into gambling. Maybe that person is no longer interested in gambling. He has caught his luck and dont want to test it anymore.
If everyone could think like you, of course there would be no dispute between those who win their bets and those who win their bets of course have the right to use it for what they really want and we have no right to forbid them or ask for a share of the winnings obtained, however I think it really depends on a person's personality and I often see those who win their bets celebrating with their friends.You cant really be able to blame someone on why they have decided on making that kind of avoidance but just like been said that making up some generalization sometimes isnt really that just as
good just because you had presumed something. It would really be just that impossible that you cant really be able to notice something on what kind or type of friend you do have.
If you do see them too greedy then it wont really be shocking that you would be having that assumption.
In my life, I came across the fact that my friend, with whom I was on the same financial level, suddenly won a big jackpot and got rich. After that, we talked for a while, but he changed a lot.
Unfortunately, rich people do not understand the problems of the poor, they very quickly forget that they were the same. While they are getting interested in talking about their fancy purchases, the poor man is not interested. He has completely different problems.
It is correct to people say: "a well-fed person is not a friend to a hungry person."
Do you know a fact? Such people have always been that way from the inside, it is just that they never had the opportunity to show how they are and what their actual face looks like, and when they get the opportunity, they show their real faces and tell how evil they are from the inside.Unfortunately, rich people do not understand the problems of the poor, they very quickly forget that they were the same. While they are getting interested in talking about their fancy purchases, the poor man is not interested. He has completely different problems.
It is correct to people say: "a well-fed person is not a friend to a hungry person."
Genuinely good people aren't affected by money or richness because they will always have that sincerity and decency in their nature even if they become rich from being poor throughout their lives, and it is only those who were wearing a mask of goodness whose reality is revealed after getting a lot of money.
It's better to have no friends than having such friends in your life. Be happy about him not being your friend anymore.
I believe that a person would never avoid friends for no reason. If that person from first post made such a decision, then there must be a strong reason for that. We can only predict reasons. Maybe that person is greedy and dont want to share. Maybe this big win is his life changer and he has decided to quit gambling, so he avoid those friends, because they might drag him back into gambling. Maybe that person is no longer interested in gambling. He has caught his luck and dont want to test it anymore.
If everyone could think like you, of course there would be no dispute between those who win their bets and those who win their bets of course have the right to use it for what they really want and we have no right to forbid them or ask for a share of the winnings obtained, however I think it really depends on a person's personality and I often see those who win their bets celebrating with their friends. Maybe he feels that they will ask him to borrow money and does not want this pressure. Maybe something happened to him or some other reason. Personally, I think he doesn’t want to lend them money.
In any case, you need to have such friends so as not to stop communicating with them if someone suddenly gets rich or, on the contrary, becomes poor. Such situations clarify relationships well
In any case, you need to have such friends so as not to stop communicating with them if someone suddenly gets rich or, on the contrary, becomes poor. Such situations clarify relationships well
We have good topic here that might one of possible reasons why he avoided friends - It’s unlikely that anyone besides you will be happy with your winnings. People are greedy and envious. When someone wins or achieves something, some people start to have a bad attitude to that person. Sometimes they think that that person got all that due cheating or not being fair, some people thing that a winner must share something with them, that this person owes them something. That is why sometimes people limit themselves from such people, because you never know what is on their mind.
As for someone or the winner is the one who do make out that kind of distance then it do proves out that you are really that greedy bastard who doesnt really like on getting asked
by some money or bonus but well we do have our own decisions in life.
There might even be friends, who will try to motivate that winner to continue gambling. With cheering and saying "look how well you did" and "you have found a magic strategy to win, keep on gambling", they might lead this guy to loosing everything back. There obviously is a real reason why that guy choose to distance from them. People dont that for no reason. And even a "greedy bastard" does not have to share his winning with friend. I am sure that there is something with friends, not with a big winner.
Maybe he feels that they will ask him to borrow money and does not want this pressure. Maybe something happened to him or some other reason. Personally, I think he doesn’t want to lend them money.
In any case, you need to have such friends so as not to stop communicating with them if someone suddenly gets rich or, on the contrary, becomes poor. Such situations clarify relationships well
In any case, you need to have such friends so as not to stop communicating with them if someone suddenly gets rich or, on the contrary, becomes poor. Such situations clarify relationships well
We have good topic here that might one of possible reasons why he avoided friends - It’s unlikely that anyone besides you will be happy with your winnings. People are greedy and envious. When someone wins or achieves something, some people start to have a bad attitude to that person. Sometimes they think that that person got all that due cheating or not being fair, some people thing that a winner must share something with them, that this person owes them something. That is why sometimes people limit themselves from such people, because you never know what is on their mind.
As for someone or the winner is the one who do make out that kind of distance then it do proves out that you are really that greedy bastard who doesnt really like on getting asked
by some money or bonus but well we do have our own decisions in life.
At one of the local gambling shop I visited during the weekend I happened to listen to a conversation between two bald looking gamblers at the shop talking about one of their gambling colleague who had won a big amount of money amounting to a million in the local currency and due to that win this colleague of theirs' has been avoiding them since e won that money. From their conversation it was obvious that they were a circle of close three friends that gamble together.
After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.
any person who win gambling is at risk because the no quite to that it is neither you win your gambling and it disburse the money to some of your friends who participate in gambling with you or you win the gambling and keep it in secret majority people who participated in gambling before and the experience on losses always make sure that they keep their winning in secret and they will not like a situation whereby they exposit to other people to know sometimes they do avoid people so that they will not be much asking of money or demanding of money from them so that they can do or establish yourself with the money they win in gamblingAfter all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.
I like that idea, if you already suffer before losing a lot of money, then once you win you wanted to keep those money and not to let anyone knows to avoid someone to ask you to lend them or to give portions of your money, it's not greed but being practical to save up your winning money, and logically it's your money and it's always your right what to do with it.
Though, someone might think that you are doing bad things by avoiding other people but if you just want to save then there's nothing that they can do about it.
Even though our aim is good to avoid it so that they don't borrow money and it ends up being hostile when there is debt between me and my friends, of course avoiding is the most appropriate way, but I am also sure that my friends will not try to come to see me and they will definitely think I'm as greedy as you think because people will only look at the negative side, not the positive side, winning together is a bit difficult to try to avoid, but just to treat yourself to a meal, there's no problem, it's just that we have to be brave people and not feel sorry for our friends. us because they could borrow money to gamble and lose.
Maybe he feels that they will ask him to borrow money and does not want this pressure. Maybe something happened to him or some other reason. Personally, I think he doesn’t want to lend them money.
In any case, you need to have such friends so as not to stop communicating with them if someone suddenly gets rich or, on the contrary, becomes poor. Such situations clarify relationships well
In any case, you need to have such friends so as not to stop communicating with them if someone suddenly gets rich or, on the contrary, becomes poor. Such situations clarify relationships well
We have good topic here that might one of possible reasons why he avoided friends - It’s unlikely that anyone besides you will be happy with your winnings. People are greedy and envious. When someone wins or achieves something, some people start to have a bad attitude to that person. Sometimes they think that that person got all that due cheating or not being fair, some people thing that a winner must share something with them, that this person owes them something. That is why sometimes people limit themselves from such people, because you never know what is on their mind.
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