Topic: Gambler avoiding friends after a big win. - page 3. (Read 3099 times)

Each person has their own priorities, and in the eyes of the person who won the money, there will be many future plans to continue to improve their life thanks to that money, people usually think about going to college, starting a business, even buying a house and settle down with their spouse. It depends also on how mature the person is.
I agree we should not judge these kind of situations and stories without having further context, though, I lean myself to think the wanted to stay away from gambling and since his friends continued to be gamblers, then he decided to cut ties with them for the sake of his own future. His former friends may have not understood that decision and took it as something personal.
Just because one won big st gambling, it does not mean one is expected to party and waste all the money in frivolous stuff like alcohol, women and small luxuries.

Sometimes fame can really get to you  and it even attract and brings attention that isn't really wanted because that's the way some persons act when someone close to them actually got a big break of winning huge money from gambling and this notion doesn't only applies to Gambling winning, I believe it can be  in every field of life. More money attracts more person and that makes things awkward and make people shy away because at that moment they only feel love because of their money.

Having a big cash out doesn't make a person segregate from his friends, that's a stingy and greedy lifestyle and I see no good explanation other than what I think it is. One thing about this generation is that people no longer know what is termed friendship, there is quite a difference between knowing a person and calling that person your friend, someone who is really a friend can't behave in such a manner. It should be some mutual understanding, personally I would take my friends for some quick bottles and in that same spot I would indirectly through our interactions let them understand they are not entitled to the money as my friends but is not enough of a reason to make me avoid them.

Totally depends on what kind of friend you do have on which just like been mentioned by other people above that there would really be those friends who turned out to have that self entitled that they should be given up by some share of those winnings which is complete BS and this is why instead on having those possible arguments then they do opt out on getting away or having no contact with their friends instead rather than on having those serious conflicts just because of having that refuse on sharing up the winning. There are really people who are really that looks that they do have the rights on having those share. lol

You cant really be able to blame someone on why they have decided on making that kind of avoidance but just like been said that making up some generalization sometimes isnt really that just as
good just because you had presumed something. It would really be just that impossible that you cant really be able to notice something on what kind or type of friend you do have.
If you do see them too greedy then it wont really be shocking that you would be having that assumption.

Do you know a fact? Such people have always been that way from the inside, it is just that they never had the opportunity to show how they are and what their actual face looks like, and when they get the opportunity, they show their real faces and tell how evil they are from the inside.

Genuinely good people aren't affected by money or richness because they will always have that sincerity and decency in their nature even if they become rich from being poor throughout their lives, and it is only those who were wearing a mask of goodness whose reality is revealed after getting a lot of money.

It's better to have no friends than having such friends in your life. Be happy about him not being your friend anymore.

There might even be friends, who will try to motivate that winner to continue gambling. With cheering and saying "look how well you did" and "you have found a magic strategy to win, keep on gambling", they might lead this guy to loosing everything back. There obviously is a real reason why that guy choose to distance from them. People dont that for no reason. And even a "greedy bastard" does not have to share his winning with friend. I am sure that there is something with friends, not with a big winner.

Not all bust most likely there would really be those friends or other people who would really be feeling out envious and would be ending up on saying something bad about you or would really be taking out some distance or totally changed because they cant really be able to control their envy and wishes for them to experience the same. If ever they wouldnt really be able to do so then you would really be hearing out those kind of curses or something bad words or whatsoever. Although not all would really be something like this considering that there are really friends which are really that real or someone whose really that happy for you on whatever the things that you had obtained or on what you have achieved.

As for someone or the winner is the one who do make out that kind of distance then it do proves out that you are really that greedy bastard who doesnt really like on getting asked
by some money or bonus but well we do have our own decisions in life.

That's why I prefer to gamble alone rather than with friends, so when I win big none of my friends know it's just me who knows I won big at gambling and only I know I lost at gambling, I think maybe it's fun to play gambling with friends but not playing in a casino together, for example playing card gambling with friends in the front yard of the house would be better because even if you don't win much, the results will definitely only be enough to buy food for my gambling friends, but if Playing at online or land-based casinos with friends and winning big is definitely hard to avoid.

Even though our aim is good to avoid it so that they don't borrow money and it ends up being hostile when there is debt between me and my friends, of course avoiding is the most appropriate way, but I am also sure that my friends will not try to come to see me and they will definitely think I'm as greedy as you think because people will only look at the negative side, not the positive side, winning together is a bit difficult to try to avoid, but just to treat yourself to a meal, there's no problem, it's just that we have to be brave people and not feel sorry for our friends. us because they could borrow money to gamble and lose.  

We have good topic here that might one of possible reasons why he avoided friends - It’s unlikely that anyone besides you will be happy with your winnings. People are greedy and envious. When someone wins or achieves something, some people start to have a bad attitude to that person. Sometimes they think that that person got all that due cheating or not being fair, some people thing that a winner must share something with them, that this person owes them something. That is why sometimes people limit themselves from such people, because you never know what is on their mind.

I like that idea, if you already suffer before losing a lot of money, then once you win you wanted to keep those money and not to let anyone knows to avoid someone to ask you to lend them or to give portions of your money, it's not greed but being practical to save up your winning money, and logically it's your money  and it's always your right what to do with it.

Though, someone might think that you are doing bad things by avoiding other people but if you just want to save then there's nothing that they can do about it.

We don't know the details of this situation. This situation shows that they probably weren’t friends at all, because friendship has to go through various tests. Secondly, it is not clear for what reasons he avoids contact with these people. Maybe he feels that they will ask him to borrow money and does not want this pressure. Maybe something happened to him or some other reason. Personally, I think he doesn’t want to lend them money.
In any case, you need to have such friends so as not to stop communicating with them if someone suddenly gets rich or, on the contrary, becomes poor. Such situations clarify relationships well

I believe that a person would never avoid friends for no reason. If that person from first post made such a decision, then there must be a strong reason for that. We can only predict reasons. Maybe that person is greedy and dont want to share. Maybe this big win is his life changer and he has decided to quit gambling, so he avoid those friends, because they might drag him back into gambling. Maybe that person is no longer interested in gambling. He has caught his luck and dont want to test it anymore.

Sincere friends never leave each other even if the situations are getting worse but if your friend leaves you after a big win then it means that he was not your friend but was using you for his own benefit. Those individuals who leave their friends for their own benefit can never achieve benefit in life and can never become successful.

But if you find that your friend is not a good person and your life is getting worse due to his bad habits then leaving such a company is not a bad idea. But if the reason behind leaving is financial gain then I think such individuals are selfish which will never help you during harsh conditions.

Yes, it's true, it's more likely to say that celebrating winnings with friends would only be done by gamblers who don't really expect to win in their gambling or those who come with a priority for fun or entertainment so when winning is not a priority then when they are lucky and manage to get a win then it's reasonable to assume that they wouldn't mind celebrating their winnings with their friends. In fact, I've honestly had an experience where I was sitting at a table with someone else and when he won he treated me to some food and drinks, even though I didn't know him at all but he invited me.

On the other hand, I believe and I have proven that kindness is always rewarded with kindness, I experienced that when I did not have any money at all but one of my friends suddenly sent money to me by saying "taste some of my fortune" which scenario made me not hesitate to share some of it back with him when I managed to get a win and this reciprocal scenario applies in any case including gambling.

On the other hand yes it is true that it is not wrong if someone does not want to share the proceeds of his winnings because after all it is his right, but maybe there are some people or gamblers who sympathize with other fellow gamblers and I think this depends on the personality that the person has but obviously sharing can increase the relationship in friendship, and other things yes as you said and it is true that if for example they want to share it then they themselves will definitely offer without the need to be asked.

any person who win gambling is at risk because the no quite to that it is neither you win your gambling and it disburse the money to some of your friends who participate in gambling with you or you win the gambling and keep it in secret majority people who participated in gambling before and the experience on losses always make sure that they keep their winning in secret and they will not like a situation whereby they exposit to other people to know sometimes they do avoid people so that they will not be much asking of money or demanding of money from them so that they can do or establish yourself with the money they win in gambling

Here in my neighborhood for example, I have seen many people who, when they are poor, laugh and talk to everyone, they sit around all day talking and ask other people to buy them beer, anything that someone needs help carrying something , they immediately make themselves available to help carry that person’s things. Whoever observes them might think they are angels, but when they get a job that pays them a good salary or earns a lot of money, they become bad people, they start to feel very superior. they disappear from the place they live because they want to be close to rich people. This type of behavior has become normal in my country. If a person from my country wins a lot of money in the lottery, the first thing they will do is become arrogant and will not want to talk to poor people anymore, they will distance themselves from poor friends to only talk to rich friends. but when they become poor they go back to talking to their poor friends.

I think if we find that our friends trying to avoid us, after getting a big win, it is time to think that they are not sincere with us and end that relationship is better as it is based on certain benefits and it is not sincere. Similarly i have seen a situation where when a friend is in trouble (for example needing a loan to survive after a loss in gambling), his friends leave him because he has become poor and never help him. Those friends are also not trusted and should be avoided.

I think these happy and sorrow moments tell us which friends are good and sincere with us and which ones are just time passing. 

There are only two possible reasons on why you would do that;

1. You dont like for your friends to ask out some money from you
2. Or simply you do separate yourself into your friends and make  your own since you do have the money now.

On the time that you would really be finding yourself to be on such condition then it will really be telling on what kind of person you are whether a greedy one
or simply that still the same. There are people who could really be changed up totally by money and if you are someone whose really that too greedy with money
and do want to cherish it all for yourself then you would really be making out such distance.

If i were the one as well that make such a big win, being my friend, don't be surprised if i try to avoid you, there are many reasons i can state for me to have done such, because i understand that there are times whereby i may not have any money with me to use for gambling and none of my friends will be able to available and be there for me in heling me out with money in their own little contribution, same way if i loose, nothing can also come out form them as a compensation to assist me get over it, then why should i also have to share my winning with them when they have never been there for me.

In fact, even the smallest win is worth celebrating with friends, but perhaps that only applies to gamblers who are only after pleasure, not the profits they get from gambling. I think it's true, that not all friends will ask for money or a share of their friend's winnings, so basically avoidance is more precisely called reluctant to share. Meanwhile, in a more intimate circle of friends actually avoiding when getting benefits is rare, because they often get reciprocity from others.

On the other hand, there are many cases where someone is reluctant to share, and that is not wrong, but it is also appropriate that he is not invited when we celebrate a victory with other friends. Personally, try as much as possible to not borrow money from friends who are lucky in their gambling, because it can ruin their winning momentum. Someone definitely has a tendency to share without us needing to ask, at least to treat us to delicious food.