Topic: Gambler avoiding friends after a big win. - page 6. (Read 3111 times)

Some situations will force us to avoid all our friends. Some friends are priceless, maybe they have stood by you throughout your days of little beginnings but I fear that people could change. And these changes could be caused by envy, jealousy or greed due to your win. Another reason why you should consider avoiding all your friends could be because humans can be perfect pretenders. They will act that they are happy with you while they are not on the inside. I will always suggest that a big winner should consider moving out of his immediate environment and only communicate with his friends through telecommunication devices.

You can always share your wins with them without meeting them physically. I am just concerned about meeting them physically because of the high rate of kidnappings for ransom that we have in my country. You don't also have to feel superior to them because of this win. Talk to them with respect and love as usual but maintain the distance for some time. As time progresses, you will be able to identify the friends that deserve your close relationship.

We can't entirely blame friends' dissociation from other friends, we need to treat each case differently to ascertain the true cause of it whether it's worth it or not. Presently, I am trying to let go of the majority of my friends, and if I suddenly become rich, they would say it's because of the money, but it's not. And frankly, if I get got rich now, I know the friends that would benefit from it and those I would naturally cut off simply because of their ways of life and bad advice, some friends could be bad influences for real.

I'm tired of arguments, especially when they are not constructive, I hate backbiting and unproductive relationships and friends dragging me to the view that what is illegal is actually legal or doesn't make any difference whether it's legal or not, I just want to do the right thing. The company we keep says a lot about us and if you are the only one reasonable and productive always guiding them, then you might want to rethink the circle you associate. It's our lives and we are entitled to live it the way we want as long as the reason for our actions is reasonable and not wicked. The exception to this is those who had good friends but turned their backs on them when they made money, that is wickedness.

We can never avoid friends like that completely, sometimes there are friends who are very good at camouflage, they seem to care about us but when on the other hand they just want to seek profit, they come only when there is a need. We cannot live without friends because it is our environment, and also if we only prioritize gambling over friends then obviously we will feel lonely, but certainly and what can be done in my opinion is that we must be smart - smart in choosing friends, if you have found indications that it turns out that one of your friends comes only for profit then you can keep a little distance from him, don't get too close because they will only harm you.

If you want to share a little of your winnings with them then you must be able to distinguish which friends are really good and which friends only come for profit. Basically they will never feel ashamed of their arrival just to seek advantage from other friends, but we just have to be smart in distinguishing, and yes the case experienced by the OP seems to be nothing more than a misunderstanding.

Yes, that does happen, and we have probably experienced it up to now, so we really have to choose between making friends. Many friends will come to us when we are getting something, say winning the lottery, and congratulate us. But actually, many of them are not sincere in saying congratulations, but there is something they want. We have to be more careful in conveying things to people close to us and only tell it to people who are really our close friends so that only a few people will find out. In @ OP's situation, there may be a misunderstanding between them, so someone talked about someone who was always together at first, but because he won a lot of money, he avoided and disappeared from his friends.

That's why we have to choose anyone who can know about our big win, and they can really keep the secret so that only a few people know about it. Indeed, nowadays, many people easily change because of money, so we have to be more vigilant in establishing friendships with the people around us. And we also shouldn't easily trust people we have just met because we have yet to learn what their true character and nature are like. We could share the story of our win with our family and friends who are truly friends so that only with them we will celebrate the win.

We shouldn't tell people about the big win we got, even people we don't know, rather than endangering our safety because there will definitely be people who have evil intentions towards us and want to get the winning money. And, normally, more people will be jealous of what we get, so they will tell us about bad things or speak ill of us, and we don't know about it.

We must be people prepared for any event, for anything that arises we must be prepared, more than anything when it comes to Money , when it comes to money, even so the People who Claim to be our friends, we must still be careful, because There are people who change money and do nothing but give priority to money, which seems absurd to me, but the reality of life is like that, in businesses that are simple friends of a lifetime, if they Decide to set up a joint business, things can be very different, because if one of those friends who are in partnership and begin to see income, things get very good when it comes to making any type of withdrawals, because they have to have the approval of the same, because when they are in that state things can turn out very well, because it is a business that begins to make money, and that is where all the problem can occur , when it is for money, since everyone wants have to be able to execute their own actions.

So if problems happen at that level, what can be expected from people who are just playing partners in a casino where they do not have any type of contract in society ? Of Course we pay that we are people that if I see that I win and I am next to my Usual friends, then I give them some money so that they do not feel bad, because they are my friends, they are there, but it is my way of being, and I cannot expect the same Treatment from others, because each person is a world, they have a very different way of thinking than mine, so these types of things are what we must expect or mature, because we cannot There is another way, it has to be done this way so that it can be seen in a more appropriate way to look good, in these cases what that Playing partner demonstrated that he was only going to be able to win and leave, that was his thinking, and when he Achieved it He did it just like that, so these are the types of things that we must Learn to Accept.

I can attest to this, not literally i do able to make myself a winner or on gambling but on the moment that they've seen that im already that having some good life status or financial condition on which your
closest friends and relatives would really be approaching you and would really be asking for some funding as if they are really that entitle on getting some loans or getting some extra money.
How much more if you have win up some jackpot? For sure they would really be having those kind of thoughts or kind of approach on which they would be asking for some money.

This is why its not really that shocking or something surprising that someone would really be making out such action just because of what people around would be doing or asking.
Its understandable that there are people who would really be that just that too sensitive when it comes to this matter and on the time that they do win big then they would be hiding
from their friends or even into their own family. Its not really totally that being greedy, it is really just that we dont like to share up the wins. 

Money Changes people, if you touch the kind of money you've never touched before for the first time, I bet there are a few people you wouldn't wanna associate yourself with, this isn't pride, I'm not saying it's okay to avoid friends when you finally make a big win or when you get rich, I'm just saying it's not everyone you should associate with, some people just pose to be friends but behind you, they've got hidden agendas. Maybe the dude figured out they're not really his friends and chose to secure himself by avoiding them first because some people can do something crazy to you out of jealousy and too much expectations.

Not only strangers or people you don't know, but your relatives, close ones, and so-called friends will make your life hell if they come to know that you've won something significant from gambling or something else and even those who never talked to you or paid any attention to what you do or how you are will come and try to be friendly with you just because you have a lot of money now, that's how the world has become, everyone out there is selfish these days except for your blood relations but even some of them are greedy sometimes, apart from your mother and father.

This is the reason why most people don't even tell their close ones about their winnings even if they win a significantly high amount because they know what is going to happen. I also suggest people do the same, never post statuses or stories, and let people know about what you've achieved, there are very less people who will be genuinely happy for you but more will be jealous and have bad eyes on your success and achievements.

Very funny but it's reality, there are annoying people who will call themselves as your friend as they need something from you, after you win huge amount of money, expect that there are many people who will try to claim as your good friends, though in terms OP's situation, it's so sad hearing people talks about someone who at first is always with them enjoying the games but after winning huge money got disappear and no longer wants to communicate or already put a gap between him and his old pals.

And it has become a habit for people to ask for things from the winners even though things like that sometimes become annoying for the winners. They can't enjoy their winnings in peace, but there will be people who come to them to say congratulations. However, there is something they want. That's why gamblers who win a lot of money ask their casinos not to reveal the identities of the winners or publish them to the public to avoid things like that. They also want to protect their privacy from interference from people they don't know so they can enjoy their winnings in peace.

Indeed it is something quite common because the name of money never lies, with a lot of money it will only reveal who we really are, and whether we are someone who is greedy enough or someone who cares enough for others.

And I will not regret too much, if there is someone who gets a big win in gambling and then he chooses to avoid his environment, if the reason is so that the money can be used as well as possible to start investing in large amounts or used to build a business, because anyway later also when the business is successfully realized, then it will provide benefits for many people. And what I regret is, when the main reason he avoided after getting the big win, because he wanted to enjoy the winnings alone, by going to entertainment venues for fun and other things that are less useful. Or back to betting with a large amount.

But what if the friends weren't real friends to him? What if they were constantly mocking him, making fun of him for being poor or having no money and never really were with him happily? What if he had realized that his friends were greedy bastards who would only value him if he had money and never respected him before? There can be a lot of things that aren't known behind a story which you only can see a single side of, so, it's better if we don't make assumptions before knowing everything.

I wouldn't ask or meet people who have been around but have never been very good to me when I wasn't doing very well and I know they would become super good all of a sudden once they see that I have won a significant amount in gambling because they know they can't get anything from me if they stayed bad with me now.

Basically money is very sensitive, money can give happiness and can also be the starting point for disasters or some problems like the one we are discussing. And also on the other hand money can give us information about the true character of a person. Back to the original topic that it is best as I have said above and you have repeated that it is better to be honest, it is good and with you being honest it will grow the trust of some of your friends. And yes, if they know from other people then obviously maybe what they say will be different from what actually happened, and it is very possible that there will be slander that can harm the person who just got the victory, surely some of his friends will have a bad view of the person who just got the victory.

So it is true that the only best way that can be done is to tell the truth to them, do not let anything be covered up so that there is no suspicion whatsoever from them. As I have said before that it is with that then I am sure your friends will also understand your condition, they will not be too forceful in their intention to party, and there you can give at least a little money to buy cigarettes or whatever to celebrate your victory a little. True friends will always be able to understand whatever their friend's condition is.

Cant really deny but we are all having that kind of impression on the time that you do win big, we would really become that selfish and we would become that too greedy on which
it is really that a normal reaction or thing that we do really make on which we dont really like for our winnings to get some portion which to be given whether into our own family or to our friends.
You wont really be minding about the relation that you do have on a certain person as long we would really be talking about money then pretty sure that majority of us
would really be normally be choosing money over friends. Suprised? No its not a shocking thing honestly. People or human beings are greedy and everything could really
be exchange with that and this is something that it is really that very normal.

The exact reason why you stay away from your circle of friends when you win a large amount is because you don't want to share the big winnings you get, because you know that when your friends find out that you have won big in gambling. , then your friends will ask for your money. And to keep your money safe, you really have to do that.

However, avoiding your circle of friends is also not a good thing to do, and money is not everything. because when you are experiencing difficulties, the first person we will meet is a friend, and don't blame them if they don't want to help you. because you yourself have cut off your friendship with them, just because of the amount of money you got. Sharing some of the winnings we get from the gambling we do will never make us lose. Meanwhile, losing friends will obviously make us lose.

There are a million and one reasons why someone will avoid his class of friends after a big win, ofcourse, when there is a win beyond your league of class, it will acquire more responsibility and a different lifestyle which might not be welcomed by a certain class of friends that you have.

One thing to note is that, for every amount of money you have control over, there is a thinking pattern attached to it, you cannot continue to live on a level 1 when your finances are now on level 100, it is a misfit, but I do not believe it is best to avoid all of your friends, there is gonna be a few who understand you and the new class you have attained and you can also do more to educate the others so as to upgrade their mentality to the new height attained as we all need friends and money isn't a friend but an instrument to achieve loads of things easier and faster and better.

If the friends had reach you to free food after the big win news is acceptable,but if they use you like atm means it will be the biggest trouble for the winner.Some experienced gambler sometimes make the spread of fake win news to the co gambler to get the free food by saying they will help after getting of the winning dollars from the gambling site.So the two types of the gambler was using the same situation.The majority of the gambler will hide the win from their friends to avoid of the trouble because their friends use them for the expenses.The family members like brother and sister itself demand of the loan to the gambler after come to know about their win from the gambling sites.

It hurts his friends so much when they already know that you lied to them and that they will probably reject our presence if we visit them. Telling us what happened will give them real information without going through other people they don't know closely, and the information provided may be supplemented with other things, such as incitement. It will worsen our relationships with our friends. Telling the truth is a better way to avoid misunderstandings between them and us. I am sure they will understand the conditions and situation and will not ask for anything. Instead, they will help us. That is the figure of a true friend who is always there in joy and sorrow. We might find it difficult to find a friend like that.

And if one day we are experiencing problems and tell our friends about it, they will definitely give us support and help. They will not let us experience these problems alone because they are always there for us and vice versa. That's the truth about friendship, which is now difficult to find.

Sometimes, it is the habitual behavior of the supposed friends that does make gamblers to distance themselves from his friends whenever they win big because as much as I know, there are friends who are very envious of the success and progress of their friends and you don't expect anyone who has such people as friends to come close to them when they're winning.
That being said, if a gambler friends aren't the negative kind of friends, it's a very bad behavior to avoid them when he's winning.

Yes of course, that is the problem, if their lies are found out by their friends through other people then it is clear as you say that surely their friends will be hurt because they have been lied to, it will greatly affect their friendship, at least there will be a little conflict and their friends will definitely stay away from them. Therefore the better thing to do in such conditions is better to just be honest about your winnings, it doesn't matter and the most important thing is that you also have to tell about everything, especially with your condition which at that time really needed money for personal needs, I think if his friend has heard your story then at least they will also definitely understand about your condition, and after that maybe you can chat with them that you can only give or share a small amount of your winnings, as I said that I think that's the only better way.

It's true buddy, building social relationships with anyone is good and we must be able to maintain these relationships so that they remain good - fine, nothing other than that just to keep so that there are no problems behind the scenes between us and them, and also if we experience problems like this then I think this is not a big problem if we have a good relationship with them.