Topic: Gambler avoiding friends after a big win. - page 8. (Read 3099 times)

I have also been thinking about why the general public see's gambling as a negative engagement and I have to be sincere, some gamblers made the public see gambling as a negative engagement and as such do not want to get anything doing with gambling or gamblers because they always have that thought that gamblers would not have financial integrity and as a result of lacking in it, they tend to use any funds kept under their care.
This scenario happened in my neighbourhood in the past where funds contributed by a group of cooperative for a particular purpose and was given to their very own secretary to deliver but he used the money for gambling and when it became obvious that the person to receive the money started wondering why the delay and met with him to inquire to know why he has not been given the money upon meeting him, he then opened up and  pleaded to not say it and promised to give him the money as soon as he is paid his salary and to cover it up so that nobody would know. After that time passed later on the both of them had issues that was when we heard all these stories of him being a gambler and how he used the money given to him for gambling.
You see all these things puts bad image on gamblers when some are just not matured to control themselves and gamble responsibly.
That is why most times I do not get entangled with the societies View about gamblers because most gamblers are just too careless and act childishly.

Yes, basically conditions like this are indeed quite confusing for someone who has just won, between they have to fulfill their personal needs with the money they won or maybe they will celebrate their victory with their friends with the risk that the money will definitely run out quickly. I'm sure if I were in that condition then I would also be quite confused in choosing a decision, on the other hand I need the money but on the other hand I also don't want to lose my friends. But I think the middle way in this problem is like for example they talk to their friends that they have a very important need and what they can do is maybe just share their friends a few percent of the winnings and not choose to party because it will definitely be very wasteful. I think that's a pretty good solution for a balance, and also yes hopefully some of their friends will understand the situation you're in at the time.

Yes, if you really don't want to be complicated with problems like that then it's better from the start you don't tell them anything, and don't take actions that can make them suspicious of you. Basically good friends are those who can understand and appreciate each other, I'm sure their friends won't be that bad even though they have pretty bad habits, at least maybe they will be able to understand about your situation at that time.

There are many reasons that a person who wins at gambling can hide from avoiding his friends. The reason that no one will borrow money from him is reasonable because if that person already knew the character of his friends, they would definitely not want to lend him money. And some friends will tell him to gamble again so he can win bigger wins so he can get bigger wins. And if that happens, that's okay because he should stay away from his friends rather than get into trouble with them. But they don't know what the reason is for avoiding their friends, especially after getting a big win from gambling.

Yes, that's a very good saying, basically it's true as you say in that saying, actually there will be no problems that cannot be overcome, all problems must have a way out and maybe it will take enough time to find that way and also with different processes. In my opinion, the problem of gambling addiction will not be too difficult to overcome if indeed the person has a strong will to get out of such activities. By having full awareness that the activity is indeed useless and also encouraged by several actions that I think he will take as a prevention not to overdo it and also as one of the actions to stay away from gambling. Basically yes they will not be easy to stop completely right away and it is clear that on the way to stopping they will definitely have enough difficulty in resisting some of the temptations that tell them to gamble, but I think it doesn't matter because it's only natural that they are still in the adaptation stage.

Yes, usually everyone has people closest to them such as friends or one of their family members as a place where they tell stories for whatever problems they are experiencing, I also have friends like that and it is very useful to help each other in any case. I think if they really have a true friend like that then it will be very likely that their friend will help them.

Yes, it is clear because the general perspective of society on gambling is like that where they consider gambling to be a negative activity that should be avoided, none other than because the impact of gambling is very bad, therefore as proof a gambler will always hide his gambling activities including from his family, and also as another impact we can see many who are down and experiencing many problems in their lives, especially in their finances. People care about you that's why they forbid you to gamble, and yes it may be true that there are some casinos that restrict some countries from engaging in the activity. The point is you have to know what is best for yourself, don't gamble if you don't want to experience a lot of problems with your finances, look at the many examples of people who have fallen victim to this activity, so all your decisions are your own and I'm sure you know what you should do.

Usually there are certain factors that make a gambler avoid his friend after getting a big win, maybe one of them is that if he doesn't immediately avoid it then his friend will ask him for a loan or maybe his friend will tell him to come back to the game and increase the amount of bets with these funds, so that Like it or not, he was forced to decide to avoid it because he didn't want to suffer a loss. We often encounter things like this among gamblers and they certainly have certain reasons why they choose to stay away from their friends after winning.

This makes me to remember the saying that says "when there is a will there is a way" of a gambler who is willing to stop their addiction will always seek for ways to do so and as a result of efforts they have put in sourcing for ways to minimise their gambling lifestyle which had lead them to addiction, they would definitely take it seriously and put efforts to making sure they have their ways in reducing their addiction to gambling but when forced to do so, I think the will would not be there because their mind is not made up yet to quit gambling addiction.

As for getting a confidant well trusted to keep secrets, it's not a bad idea because everyone has that one person they can confine in to reveal things to and as you have said, if one wants to share with their confidant their gambling lifestyle, it is not bad but at least that person should be able to proffer a solution or advise that could help their friend to minimise or entirely stop from gambling as the case may be. I think these are or should be amongst the quality of a confidant one should choose.

Of a truth most societies sees gambling as a negative engagement and as such frowns at it and forbids their families and citizens from gambling. Some societies go a long way to restrict their citizens from gambling as well. This is to show you the height at which many frowns at gambling and they go a long way to put measures restricting members of their families and the society from doing such. Even some casinos do make a list of restricted nations on their Terms of Service so that anybody registering from those nations would know that their countries do not support gambling and if they go ahead doing such,they are likely to forfeit any deposit made and account blocked upon discovering it.

Everyone has different thoughts when they hold a lot of money, money can show a person's true character, and when they have a sense of care and respect for their friends, maybe they will think about celebrating the victory with their friends but still leaving some space for themselves and their families.
while those who do not have a sense of care and are selfish are more concerned with themselves and forget their friends because they feel that victory is their own result without help and support from their friends. As the like a word "the nut forgets the skin" therefore we can see someone from money they have whether to be arrogant or remain humble.

That's not really true, what we really are is already in the open, it's just that it's not that obvious for some people unless they really look at you and observe your behavior. No such need for revelation because there's nothing that money reveals when it comes to a person, the real saying should be "Money magnifies who you really are". The image below is where I got my argument that "Money reveal people" isn't the right phrase or saying.

This really indicates that we are in an era where we are scared of what people will say to us when we gamble because they do not understand why we do gamble, which does not mean that we are addicted to it. Sharing with your friends about your gambling activities is kind of useless if they don't gamble because they can't relate, but it might be good if you just want to share it with them. For myself, I prefer sharing it with those who do gamble also as you are sure that they will keep it secret because they can relate to it.

Friendship reveals when  win or lose. Yes, not all friends are "brothers." True friendship can withstand life's challenges. Its easy to work together when things go well, like when everyone wins the jackpot. But what about the bumpy parts? True bonds are tested there.

Money's role is noteworthy. Its said to bring the nature. However, is it too simplistic to focus solely on profit or loss? Share experiences, esteem each other, and make each other feel better .These are the currencies of true friendship, arent they?

Those who value long-term friendships should cherish them. They're rare for some reason. It warns some to be careful. Friendships should go beyond moody phone calls. Find friends who will support you during good and terrible times. Keep these uncommon gems—they're worth more than any win.

If this would have been everyone's scheduled mindset towards each other maybe things would have been better than ever, friends that are not of benefits are contributing nothing to one's life than nuisance, there's no reason to have a continued relationship with them except we allow them ruined us the way their own life has completely been battered.


Can you count on successful occassions whereby you have received good positive impacts from your friend, have you ever been out of finance and that same friend came around for your rescue to offer you the money needed to gamble, maybe we should just take our time to examine the impacts of friends in our lives and the truma or troubles they have caused us to see which is more weighter than each other.

 I think is base on people behavioral patterns, not every friends are considered as friends talk less of becoming brothers, your friends should be able to have your back irrespective of the condition, and you should have theirs too as well, splurging on your friends after a win shouldn’t be a thing to think twice because it y’all are really close and do everything together, they should also be there to celebrate with you. They are always red friends when dealing with people it is either we are too carried away to see the signs.
  They say that money brings the true identity of a person, and even the most loyal ones will switch up when they finally get what they want. But then it shouldn’t be so for someone who was there all through the tides and for us that’s still have loyal friends irrespective of the status or class that still uphold that friendship we should try and keep such people in our circus cause they are really the real gem. We still have good and healthy friendships out there, some way back from childhood and still maintain the bond till adulthood. It’s very rare to meet the loyal ones when we do we should on our part uphold to the friendship.

Indeed, it has something to do with the environment in which a person lives and how his friendship with his friends is because if his friends are like you said, someone who wins will definitely not have the personal time to do something related to their life. After all, they will be bothered by the desires of their friends who ask them to celebrate winnings from gambling. He wouldn't be able to prepare and carry out his plans because his friends wouldn't let him do anything outside of what they were currently doing, so the person could only obey his friends. But if that person has strong intentions and can refuse his friend's invitation to party, he will definitely do it even though there is a risk that he could be ostracized from his environment. But even though he was ostracized from his environment, he could move to a new environment far from his old friends so he could carry out his plans well.

And it is our choice to hide the winnings we get from them because they are not good friends who are only there when we are happy and even invite us to party for a few days, and that is actually a waste that is not worth doing. We should immediately get rid of various excuses and not have to think about whether we can't accept them because this is our life, and we have the opportunity to win prizes from gambling. We must immediately carry out our plans, especially now that we have so much money that we don't need to postpone them. Good friends will always support our plans and give us the best advice so that if we want to do something, they will definitely offer help and will do it wholeheartedly without expecting anything in return from us.

And that means that environmental factors will have a big influence on a person's life, it is clear and I believe that if the character of their friends is a person who likes to waste when they have money then surely when they know that you get a win from gambling then they will advise you to do what they usually do. Basically, everyone has their own life and there will also be times when they really need money for their personal affairs, if they need money for their personal affairs and at the same time they get a win from gambling then obviously the main thing they will do is fulfill their needs first before thinking about the advice of their friends.

In this condition if you remain firm to hide your victory then I think it is quite risky for your friendship, because obviously if only they know about what you are hiding then maybe they will not consider you as a friend anymore, it is very possible. So yes it's true that when we are in a condition like that there is no other way but you prepare a very reasonable reason such as for example to pay debts or whatever it is, it doesn't matter if you lie because it's better than you follow their way to squander money. But on the other hand there are also friends who understand your condition and some who don't, some come for profit and some come because they are sincere, it is a human character that is beyond anyone's control.

Of course there will be different reasons for problems like this and as OP has said, they may also be different from you or me.
We know that friends are the people around us besides family who are always there when times are bad or good.
If I personally win especially in fairly large amount, I will invite some close friends to have fun together and spend little money to get together and enjoy the results of the win.

Indeed, sometimes when we have close friends who are truly always there for us they will feel like relatives like family who really want to accompany us in any condition.
Spending a little money when you win for them is also not difficult thing, but still the family at home must be prioritized first, as you said setting aside certain amount of winnings to be able to enjoy with the family.

But saying that act selfishly when you win and forget your friends is not correct because there will always be a reason behind it all.
When there are people like that, it is better to think and consider if the person really needs the winnings, such as to support their family or whatever they should prioritize.

There are really differences from how a person will take his winning I mean in terms of money there are changes that can take place, it's good that for you there's nothing should matter, you will stay and continue your freindship with the people that surrounds you, like what you mentioned, if things not going to work after having that huge amount of money, your freinds is the common place or comfort that you'll going to lean on.

It's your take and how you balance that kind of situation, better to have the same mindset and stay at low with your freinds who always there with you win or lose you should keep them as how it should be.

True. I consider my friends my real brothers. If I win a good amount in gambling they may get a part of it and I won't mind as long as I secure the funds for my family first and I bet they will understand that. A small token of gratitude like treating them to a fine restaurant and maybe drinks on me too after that will be satisfying for them. I know that because they have been my friends ever since I was a kid and that is why they are my brothers too.
It's a selfish act if the gambler who won is avoiding his friends just because he has loads of money now. If all of that is wasted on more gambling activities and he gets broke then I bet he will have no one to run to considering what he did to them.
The worst part is, it's not like they are asking for money, he literally just avoided them thinking that's what is coming next which could be a wrong assumption.

Some speculations that they aren't that close to call them friends, Maybe you're right that those guys are bad luck to the winner? Kidding aside, We will know the reason behind this topic if The winner itself explain his side why he avoids his friend after the winning. If I were in the situation, I would choose to remain silent even they knew that I won the prize, just to protect my privacy but I will treat my friends as a token of my appreciation for being them as my companion while gambling.

Your topic touches on a very important and really relevant aspect of the lives of people whose friends have become rich. The fact is that all relationships have their reasons, someone is friends sincerely, and someone for the sake of profit. But all this while people are in the same financial situation. For example, being representatives of the middle class. But once one of them gets rich, it is no longer a fact that they will communicate. A lot of money makes any person free from pretense - he does not need to play a role anymore. You can forget about those to whom you have served before, because you are rich, and you no longer need to answer to anyone for your actions and words

Yes, as I said above, as in general, gambling activities are quite negative in the eyes of the community, especially if their environment, including their family, forbids these activities, so with that, of course, if we really want to tell your close friend or for example a family member, then yes, as you also said, make sure that the person is trusted in terms of keeping your activities secret, I hope you choose someone who is not only trusted but on the other hand they can also at least consider giving the right advice on what you should do, because it's useless if you just tell him and tell him to keep it a secret if on the other hand you don't find a way out.

Yes it's true, it is difficult to get out of this gambling activity, especially if you are already quite addicted, but I think it's not impossible, I'm sure everyone can stop or just reduce it as long as there is a strong will and intention, but even so you will still need a long time to be able to stop completely because obviously this is about changing your habits and mindset, and believe me the process will not betray the results.