Topic: Gambler avoiding friends after a big win. - page 10. (Read 3099 times)

Showing his true color after winning, things that you can't avoid in terms of money matters, there are people who being change by that situation, with a lot of money in hands people change their perspectives in life, they will start to think that they are more superior than other people around them, sad true that even it was a friend before there's still a big chance that they will also be eaten by this kind of mentality.

There should always be that kind of limitation on which it would really be just that normal that we would really be that having those kind of privacy specially on things that arent meant to be shared.
We do know that there are things life which needs to be private on which even our loved ones wont really be that anytime to know on what we are dealing with. On the time that you do have a big
win and your friends do knows about it then you would really be having that kind of hassle on trying out to make some explainations on the time that they would really be asking for some bonus or amounts just because you have won something. Some might dont care but majority even your own family will really be asking after a win but well family is family
and nothing beats out our family in terms of relation on which i would rather choose on giving into them than with other people.

You are right. We should not tell all our personal things to friends because not all friends can protect what we say. We may only tell it to close people in our circle, but we also have to tell them not to tell it to other people. Actually, other friends don't need to be curious about why he did this, but because we are a society, it will make other people feel the need to know what is happening to the people in their environment. But moving to a new environment might solve everything because they won't meet those curious people, so they will be calmer in living their lives.

If you notice that sometimes we see crime report in the media where there are people who close to the crime they are not unknown person. As such, if I talk about that friend, then there is no scope to call it evil in one aspect. Because there are many crimes where friends where friends become enemies. But he certainly could and should have arranged for treats with those friends. Because if those friends are good friends then after this behavior there will be no chance to get those friends. Gamblers must make the best decision based on the situation.

Yes I know there are some friends that will not think evil against you whatever happens between you guys but some friends will do you bad thing if you didn't give them their share of the money. They would go and meet other of their bad friends and arrange with them to come rob you in the night so in a situations like this one have to be careful with the place you go and things you do because those you friends as this time are very angry that they can do you anything.

I don't really support what the guy did. At least he would have given them something to buy food or drink for them.

Avoiding someone it's actually depend on a person mentality. Only not Gambler some other people after getting success avoid their childhood friend close friend or best friend etc. now this friendship calls for benefit because after getting success everyone leaves they are friend and makes new friend in their class. Not only Gambler those person who get success in life not all are same but many after getting huge amount of money or after reach a good place. They leave those type of person who are closest to them but they don't do anything in life that time they leave them and make new friend with their class.

        -    Maybe the winner at the casino was thinking differently, so he thought to avoid his close friends who were with him. That's why if these are close friends of the winner in the casino, the winner should not think badly of the close friends who considered him a close friend.

Oh, maybe this winner just showed his true colors because he won a large amount of money gambling, so that's what he did. Which is also not a good thing he did, in my opinion.

I don't think this is perculiar to gamblers, it happens to weak people who suddenly see amount of money they've not seen before. I call them weak people because they are not matured mentally; they believe that when they have money, they have to change their class of friends to reflect their new status.  I have seen childhood friends who grew up together, shared everything in common,  attended the same university and graduated the same year. One got a big job and within a short time, he became too uncomfortable around his friend because he made new friends that measure up to his standards. 

Strong men or those who are mentally matured maintain their childhood friends even when they achieve financial success. They do everything possible to elevate their friends, I have also seen this happen.Therefore, it is not a gambling thing but a societal problem.

So what you're trying to say is that there are friends that are bad luck and keeping company with them can perpetually bring you bad luck and hard winning chances and peradventure they get to have a huge win before you they're just going to kick your ass and leave the companion. And in all of this you think it's natural that people should act this way. Oh wow!

Don't you think that a man that's betrayed of by someone he called a friend but wasn't truly a friend as had thought, will such a man want to have himself in the circle of friends again? Any new circle of friendship will imply to be a joke for him. For once beaten twice shy. Fair enough we make friends in other activities of life why should that of gambling be distinctive.

That amount of money that I would never have that amount of money that I would avoid my friends or classmates. You think he won a million in their country's local currency. Here he wins a million amount of money but here is his friend avoiding him. He won a million money his friend did not share the million money with him at all his million money is all his own. Maybe a million money has changed his life so he wants to forget his past. People never forget their past, I always hope that our relationship with the friends I grew up with since childhood never creates distance. I want not only me but every one of my friends to achieve success and after achieving success we can come together and tell each other that today we are successful. 
Yes not all can prosper in friend circle but it is not a good person to avoid any friend just because of bad financial situation.

If you want to know the true nature of humans, just bring in money issues. This is when you will know that many people only care about money and not the welfare of friends or relatives. The world is becoming materialistic every day and people can do anything legally or illegally just to get money. One of the ways of increasing your security if you win such an amount is to reduce the number of your friends. You can still be communicating with them through other means but face-to-face contact should be minimized to a larger extent. The best option for a person who gets such a big win is to change his location. Move to a place where nobody knows about your win and live a modest life

You have a very good point, because that point of view has not been seen, we do not know why he chose to make that decision, sometimes we see things from one point of view, or the story of only one of the parties, this It means that if we are seeing it from there, we have to see the other person's part of the story, but that is very similar to a couple who seems very Happy , and Who are doing things together all the time , and From one day to the next they Separated, so we ask one of them and they tell us one thing, and then if we grab the other, and he tells us another story, then who do we believe? to him or her'? You are very right, and this is something that must be manifested, we can see everything from a very simple point of view, and we can see that he was the bad guy, but we also don't know how things are with the other person, maybe the other two. Would people have a ridiculous attitude towards him? or anything else that made you make that decision.

Now we must consider many things, but that decision that that person made seemed very reckless and even though people can sometimes be very frivolous and if something evil has to have a reason, or unless it is a person who is always like that and it does not matter to others, because there are also people who are like that, in this world there are not many people who are like that, so when you notice the things that can happen in a person's head, they are very determining and each person is a world and can do what suits him best, and if that person saw those two as just companions, then I think he could have felt without any type of commitment to them, although that was a bad attitude, one cannot be like that, to take advantage of the Otherwise, it is not the right thing to do, because we do not know when we may need from others, that is Something that will Always happen Under any Circumstance, for this Reason we must be better people Every Day.

Although it depends on the kind of friends you have even if we cannot see through the heart of someone to know how they truly cares about us but there are some friends that are more like a brother due to how close and caring they are, so perhaps somebody like that you can easily share some of your secrets because he has proven himself trust worthy.

So however apart from close friends we shouldn't share our secrets to others  especially our wining secrets because just like you said the person could come in the night to snatched the money and could even harm you if he has the chance, perhaps many gamblers has gone through a lot through sharing information about there wining so people should be very careful with the kind of person they share there secrets with.

In as much as possible, one should be very careful how information goes out from them because that information might be a weapon about them that can be used against them in the future if we they are no more together as friends and if it happens that they become opposition, that can be used against each other to fight dirty amongst themselves.  This is a thing of experience I had in the past.

With respect to win and avoiding friends I am think that should not be personalised as there is nothing wrong with me. This topic was brought here for us to deliberate on with ideas and opinions based on possible occurrences between both friends and moreover every one is entitled to their own opinion and contributions as to the possibility of what transpired amongst the friends so it is not a personal affairs.

What you say, of course, does not rule out the possibility that it could happen to online gamblers. What I mean is, people who like to gamble in groups or online gamblers who know each other. The point is, it's not only in offline casinos because in fact it can happen in the world of online/crypto casinos.
The case is different, if gambling is part of your privacy. of course, the things we discuss in this discussion will not happen. But, what you say is not completely wrong, in fact there are many underlying factors. in fact, it doesn't rule out the possibility that we could do what the OP discussed.

So it's like this, when we talk about money, especially if the value is fantastic. That's where problems, conflicts, avoiding friendship and all kinds of things can start. and this doesn't only apply to gambling. in particular, related to our social life. especially, if we win the jackpot ticket from the lottery. The point is, in most cases in general, it's not money that makes people different people. one of them, avoiding friends after winning big. Yep, according to the title of this thread. in fact, the opposite is true, it is because of money that we can judge a person's true character.

I agree with you. If criminal notice that such big amount money enter the guy hand, they might visit him and snatch away the money, and apart from that when such news went to the locality then those poor beggers will visit him and ask for their share and that the common practice in my area which I know. When someone win big amount of money everybody will like to take their share.

And I believe this practice is not only in offline casinos but it is also in online betting or other casinos. Remember they are friends playing game around so even if he won the game online the same thing would have have. Unless he did announced the win.

There should really be always those boundaries or limitation on which there are things which arent meant to be shared or would be opened into a friend yet no matter how much you do trust it up but on the time that there would really be some argumentations or conflicts then those things that they've known would really be a weapon that would really be used against you and we know that on how sucks to have that way on which your friend is been using on the information that they've known against you which is really that shit. This is one of the things that we whould really baring up into our mind that there's always a fine line in between
your friends and the things you've been doing so that you wont really be having those kind of possibilities of non good situation considering that it could be used against you.

On speaking about some wins and avoiding your friends then there's something wrong with you, its not bad to share up a small amount to them as some sort of having that joy on winning big.
I cant afford to turn back on them just because of the money that i have won. You would really be able to see their importance once their gone. So as much as possible you should
really be cherishing them.

The most common one faced by gambler after saying about their big win from gambling is friend try to get more free meals from their winner friend.The food is not the big one,but the friends try to get the more loan for their own benefit.So after some scam try by their friends alone,the gambler understand the real motive of their friends after the big win in the gambling.This was the biggest reason known by the experienced gambler compared to the new gamblers.The experienced gambler may face this type of action by their friend at the earlier stage of the gambling wins.So use your own opinion based on your friends.

You don't need a good reason to explain the behavior carried out by that person's friends, after all, gambling is a game of money and there are no friends or relations in it, there is only profit alone.  In fact, there are quite a lot of blood relatives who are fighting over inheritance issues, so what the man's friend did was actually quite natural, from this incident the man had to learn to manage his circle of friends well, let not him become friends again with someone like that because of that if he continues to be friends with that person, he won't get any luck, just bad luck always.

Maybe yes or maybe just an alibi to prevent giving some amount of money to them knowing that the friends are expecting some shares of blessings and the winner don't want to give some. Or simply because they think differently after winning such huge amounts,  they think that their level in life is now far different from those people who they called friends before.  Human nature or human behaviors that we can't deny that exists.