Topic: Gambler avoiding friends after a big win. - page 9. (Read 2962 times)

It's saddening that it happened to them. Having a strong bond to other people whom you aren't related by blood should be a big deal and should be cherished especially if they had been with you during the highs and the lows. It's just so cheap that he had to distance himself just because he won a huge amount of money. The saying that has always been told to me is really true, money matters really reveal what kind of people you are being surrounded with.

I guess they can tell and just consider it as a blessing in disguise to distinguish as early as that time that he is not really a true friend that will be with them whatever happens. Because if he is indeed true, he would have celebrated with his friends. Winning is a good news, and sharing and celebrating that with them who has your back althroughout is a great thing to do to show your gratitude. Unfortunately, their friend turns out to be fake and only wants to be in during the times he can benefit from them.

Telling someone about your gambling lifestyle is not bad so far as the person knows how to respect boundaries and keeping secrets as the case maybe between the both of them. If you feel like telling someone about it, then it must be that person you trust enough to keep it to him or herself. However getting out of it, you must be prepared to do it because it wouldn't be that easy as you think it is as it has to do with addiction which has become part of the gambler lifestyle and would need some approach to gradually divert the mind of the gambler to another thing.

Yes that's right, and also no matter how or in whatever way they worship their gambling to their family, I still think it can't be completely successful, because of course over time like a carcass that over time will definitely be smelled by both parents or other family members. One indication that can be found out is from your financial factors which are gradually getting weaker due to gambling, and with that, your closest people will suspect about why you are very wasteful lately but there is no reason they can believe in the reasons you say regarding where the money has disappeared, and also with that means that gradually your gambling activities will definitely be found out.

On the other hand yes maybe you can tell about your gambling activities to one of your closest people who of course like you said on condition that they must be trusted in order to keep this secret, but on the other hand in my opinion you should not only tell it but also find the best solution to overcome your problems such as trying some actions to reduce or even stop, because after all the best thing is when you can get out of this activity so as not to cause any problems later.

Family is always family and there is no two ways about it when it comes to things of this nature. One can be able to hide things from their friends but not from family as it would definitely not be easy to do if one try it. Actually, with respect to keeping things private to ones self, it is true that one can do that but at some point, one can no longer keep that particular thing a secret to oneself because at some point it would be obvious that you yourself knows it is time you say something about it to a trusted confidant for instance your spouse or son or your brother but let it be a trusted one that you can trust information to and he or she keeps it a secret no matter what happens down the lane.

Yes, unfortunately many people claim to be our friends because they only seek to benefit so that we can help them out of some particular interest. I have friends who have gone to the USA, for us the USA, Europe are and we see it as a work Opportunity for get ahead with a Little more Salary than normal with hard work, but there are some people whose ego gets so high, that they are just there, and I don't write to them, because every time they write to them they have that thing in their mind. mental scheme that since they are in those Countries they are going to ask them for money, so I don't know, because they believe that, they are people who here even helped them a lot, even to leave, they were advised, sometimes they have even been helped with money , and then they Believe that , then if the same people they have shared with one become like that, what can you expect from people you meet in Casinos , in nightclubs, of course not everything is like that, there are people who are actually human , who help, sometimes it is not money that is needed, sometimes good care is worth more than money and they do not value that.

I have many cases of people who are like that, that when they get what I could give them, or what someone can give them, then they leave, they forget that Someone helped them, made them see that things can be wrong. So they benefited, they leave and just like that, although I no longer give importance to that, because I know that at some point in life those people are going to need help again, and that is when one should tell them, and I think that sometimes they don't even Write or something because it will make them sad, or they will feel, so sometimes we have to be people who must accept that the majority in the world are like that, maybe the nature of some of us It's like things aren't like that, that you can achieve more things, that there will always be Affection , because it has been shared, but it's not like that, but in the case they're Talking about here it's Something that I already see as normal.
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Still, I don’t regard him as a bad friend. But if I were him, I would still remember and find time to spend it with friends, no matter how rich I was. I am sure of this, but we also know that in life sometimes everything happens differently than we are 100% sure of.

He stopped lending probably because this is a fundamental point for him. He just never lends money to anyone. There is a saying: “If you want to quarrel with friends or relatives, then lend them money.” Even I have met people in my life who constantly borrow, this is their lifestyle, I don’t like them, it’s better to avoid them.

We know that human beings could really be that easily be changed up when it comes to money on which it would really be just that so easy or i can say that it would really be that instant if we do speak about instant change on which its a common thing in todays society. A certain individual wont really care on how long you've been friends or having relation with him/her as long we do talk about huge money or amount
then he/she could immediately make out decisions that he would be completely be separating or simply he/she would really be forgetting you on point as long he/she does have that feeling that he do have that kind of power and right which we know that it would really be that pretty common if you do have tons of money. It is really just that sad that there are people who do changed up directly because of money
without even trying out to cherish things.

For me if ever i do win up something big then i cant afford to exchange those relations to money because on the time that things turns out to be messy then there's no one would be able to help you out
but it would really be just your own family or loved ones. This is why you should really be that careful when making decisions because once it would be broken then theres
no way on making it back.

That would've worked if they didn't know that you've won but in this context, it seems that they knew that the dude won so no point hiding in their situation but you're right about that stuff though. Yes the possibility of being exploited by their friends goes up but I'm sure that it differs from person to person, if you're the kind to be easily intimidated into giving something and that you can't stand to not give them because you feel like your bound by something that's not your obligation then you're likely to give money to those friends but if you're the opposite then all luck to you because you can stand to leave them when you've got a big win.

We can't judge this scenario by the fact that we don't know the whole story about this situation.
So let's just say, the winner just do his own thing because it is his winnings anyway.
People around should not get butt hurt because they haven't gotten their share, just be happy to that person.
At least you know the attitude of that person, and learn his boundaries when it comes to gambling.

But don't you think that no matter how many new interests a person develops, I don't think he/she should stop talking to one just because of new interests.
As he said, he didn't borrow any money or anything but still his friend didn't have any contact with him.
This shows that he changed because of money and not because of new interests.

In the gambling table there is no just friends, that is a survival of the fittest board rather individual existence is acknowledged due to familiarity.

Maybe the one that won was on a payback as a result of the other guy not caring for him at their own winning time too but what I feels can make one behave such in the first place is greed or he has been waiting on such a winning day to go solve necessary problems or it could also be that those of his friends don't exhibits the characters of good utilization so he abstain so he can concentrate to his pursues.
Else they should just wish him well for one good turn deserves another.

True, basically there are still quite a lot of other factors that make them or require them to hide the winnings from gambling, it is also possible that maybe they need money for their personal needs so they have to hide the winnings, and on the other hand we also have to look at the character of our friends too, if indeed one of your friends has a wasteful habit like you said then yes it's up to you if their character makes you uncomfortable and makes you finally have to follow their way of spending the money from your winnings.

The rest is up to you and if indeed you have a strong enough reason to hide the money from your winnings then go ahead and do it, and yes it is true that it is better for us to use the money for something more positive or in the sense that it has an equal or even more reciprocity such as for example capital for business or whatever the point is that you think is good. It really doesn't matter in my opinion, after all in gambling there is absolutely no rule that requires you to share your winnings with others, it's up to you.

I not defend anyone, but what your friend did might be seen as a bad friend because he distanced himself from his friend when he was already successful in becoming rich, but on the one hand, you shoul not judge him by wishing him bad luck or thinking bad things about him because we dont know what his intentions were. what he was doing when he refused to give a loan to another friend.

for example, I once had a big win, actually I had hidden it from other people, but a friend found out about the win I got and spread it to other friends and they came to borrow money from me and I refused to give him the loan. I am not someone who is stingy, but I have good intentions because even if I give him a loan, whatever the amount, it will not rule out the possibility that he will stop borrowing and will not be satisfied with the money I lend him. because someone who often borrows will continue to expect help from other people and will not be satisfied with whatever amount it is and someone who often borrows money should be grateful to his friend who refused his loan because it has saved his life from the bad habit of looking for loans and just to gamble, which is very bad.

In most cases of robbery attacks, shooting, killing and arresting by police are cases of closed friends. There are sometimes because of misunderstanding among themselves and in most cases sharing of money they would join another gangs to come rob the person, or killed or report the person to police so this not sharing money among friends is a very dangerous thing and that was why I said, even though it is not a big amount of money he (the winner) would have given some to his friends because they can sell out.

When we come to Monetary issue there is no friends and mostly in gambling arena.

Sometimes it's not just all about privacy that most gamblers avoid their friends after winning big. There are friends that are very consuming and likes squandering of money whenever they see it and would definitely advice their friends to also do same whenever they have money at their disposal and I don't think it's bad to avoid such friends whenever one wins because failure to avoid them would definitely result to spending like them and still not make good use of the money gotten from the big win in gambling.
So in other to wisely invest one's big winnings in meaningful things that'll in return be source of income to the gambler, I think it's absolutely fine to avoid such friends

Maybe your friend want to experience new things such as traveling because he had given a chance to travel. I don't have any problem with your friend based on your description, your friend just want to enjoy his life because he has a chance to. New interest is a normal thing, even me changed my hobbies a lot because I can and I want to. About borrowing money, I think it's a right move since I'm not fan of lending money unless it's really a life or death situation. Try to cope up with your friend, try to get a long. A full day with him will be worth it after not being seen for a long time. As long as you both treat yourselves as a friend, money will not be a hindrance.

Privacy, yes it is something we should have even with our friends, and they will understand that we also have privacy that should not be shared with them. They will have their own privacy or secrets that should not be shared with other friends. We have to respect each other's privacy, and it's okay if we end up having to hide our winnings from them because we don't want to see the atmosphere get excited and end up letting everyone in our circle know the news. That will obviously trigger bad people or at least friends who are "not close" to us to approach us because they want something from us. There will be people who will ask for their share of our winnings, and we will probably feel uncomfortable with that. We should consider first what we should do.

I know the same example when one of my friends got rich and stopped communicating with me, although before that everything was very good, we had fun, we often met together. But after a lot of money, he developed new interests, he began to spend time in different countries with his family, and now I hardly see him. Many tried to borrow money from him, but he did not lend money to anyone. Sometimes bad thoughts come to me that if big money hadn’t fallen from the sky on him, we would have continued to get along well, communicate, and meet. But on the other hand, I’m happy for him and I won’t wish him anything bad, let him do as he wants.

I had already commented on this, but I will comment again because I have seen this happen very often. Here in my country and even in other countries it has become normal that when people are very poor they always live surrounded by many friends and relatives, they are constantly with friends and relatives on walks, at parties and at weddings. but when a person gets a job that pays a lot, they immediately stay away from their friends and poor family, they start hanging out with their co-workers because they are people who have money, this is something that I have seen happen very often. here in my country

I just need to see a group of many people drinking beer at home, on the streets I immediately think: these are people who still don't have a lot of money, because when they have a lot of money they have a lot of cars parked on the streets of the neighborhoods to show off and put the loud music sound. Now the strangest thing is that when a poor person makes a lot of money from gambling, that person starts donating money constantly and ends up poor after a few years. After seeing many stories like these, I started to wonder why poor people who earn a lot of money from gambling have this behavior of making donations when they win a lot of money in the lottery, for example?

my only conclusion is that since these people who won a lot of money in the lottery were poor and didn't have any big goals in life and have no idea that the money runs out and they can go back to being poor, so they keep thinking that making donations will make them have better luck and they don't know that that money could run out. They have no ambition in life, so they keep giving money to other people and end up poor.

Showing his true color after winning, things that you can't avoid in terms of money matters, there are people who being change by that situation, with a lot of money in hands people change their perspectives in life, they will start to think that they are more superior than other people around them, sad true that even it was a friend before there's still a big chance that they will also be eaten by this kind of mentality.