Topic: Gambler avoiding friends after a big win. - page 5. (Read 3099 times)

Some people may be silent when they get a victory where they enjoy the victory secretly not by expressing it, but there are also people who get a victory and invite their friends to enjoy the victory they get to enjoy together with a small party or with other things.

However, those of us who get the victory have choices and rules in choosing friends to enjoy it, by inviting those who have good solidarity and good behavior towards us, even though people who get the victory tend to spit but in my opinion there will be friends who are still remembered and want to be invited to enjoy the victory that has been obtained where these friends are not ordinary friends but friends.

If I am in his shoes,  I will do the same because if I win a lottery at least I would have the honour to announce it to anyone I feel that needs to know about the winning and not some other person letting the cat out of the bag by letting others know about my winning.

But then also that man that sues his friend for letting the cat out of the bag is not taking the right approach in all of this and at that,  he may be exposing himself more by going to public court to pursue such case,  instead, he should have just overlooked the whole scenario.

I recently heard a story about a man who is suing his significant other for letting the cat out of the bag so to speak on his lottery winnings. I could certainly understand why people want to keep these kinds of windfalls a secret, as the murder rate jumps quite a bit when people know you have money. Perhaps that is a possible motivation.

Actually this is a bad one, but we can't force people to join us after they won a big amount of money, and as you said it's about a million in local currency which is pretty big enough to sustain thier daily needs and build a business but like what you said above mate after that win those winner didn't see his friends. And that's a big sad part from his friends cause imagine 3 of them are playing most of a time but after that won the friendship are over which is pretty bad.

Do you that there's an amount of money that you'll have now your lifestyle will automatically drift from the way it used to be. There are people you'll start avoiding not because of pride but because you know too well if you hang around them, you will not make any resourceful use of your money, or maybe for security reasons too, if you become so wealthy today, bro there are people you call friends that you wouldn't wanna be around because you know what they are capable of, and you're sure your security isn't guaranteed if you're always around them. Have you not seen cases where people are poisoned by their friends just because they're more successful than them, so if you become rich today and find out one or few of your friends are a likes of that. Are you telling me that you'll still hang out with them and put your life and safety in danger. Or you don't know the same way money brings friends it also brings enemies and frienemies too?

Like a high-stakes poker game, friendships reveal their true colors when corrupted by money. Players only show hands when it helps. As in gambling, life deals us fair and unfair hands. The trick is understanding when to play and fold.

Your tough position is justified. Who wants a one-sided bet relationship? Constantly betting on a losing horse never pays off. Do these "friends" act like players faking their way through? Only appears when pot is full. A dose of their prescription may wake them awake. Remember, the house always wins. You're the house. You control the game by setting rules. Cutting off? Not only giving them a lesson, but recovering your authority in relational dynamics.

Yes, that's true, everyone has their own rights when they win, it's up to the person what they use it for because they gamble with their own money.
But if you intend to share your winnings with your friends, it's better if you give it to friends who are really close to you, don't occasionally give it to friends who only come when you win because usually friends will take advantage of your success for their personal pleasure, we can find out their attitude when we have won, a good friend will not ask for a penny from you and maybe just ask for food or drink, but if friends are just taking advantage of your winnings they will try to ask or borrow your money so they can enjoy the results you have obtained from winning gambling so it is true that we should not trust anyone too much except our own family or our partner.

And I think everyone agrees that a friend who only comes when he needs it should be taught a lesson, because it is also to make him realize himself. Not everyone likes friends who behave like that, the attitude of such themes can make all friends uncomfortable because of their shameless behavior. And also all things will have reciprocity in accordance with what they have done, and this has become a natural law that cannot be denied, where a less good attitude will get less good treatment too.

A person's attitude will be easily revealed over time, especially when it comes to money. Because money has a sensitive nature for everyone even if the family itself when discussing money is very sensitive, so the attitude of a friend will be seen when we have a lot of money, then they will come by themselves without knowing the shame of wanting to ride and enjoy what we have, obviously if what he did was wrong, and this is not once because it has become a bad habit so naturally friends like this get lessons that make him uncomfortable.
Friends like this will last a long time if we still address them well, if they are treated badly then maybe they will leave with the awareness that is in them, and they will not last long if we treat them uncomfortably. But don't get me wrong, if we're like that it's not wrong, because they're the ones who are wrong by coming just because they need to. Generally we can all choose which friends are good and which are not, the winnings will be celebrated by those who are really friends like you said, if those who don't know themselves come when we have money maybe I will give them bad behavior to teach them a lesson. And anyway I myself am sick of a friend like this, friends like this are not worth keeping for a long time, it's better to give him a lesson to make him realize that he can behave well with other friends.

What you say is very true, because one has a very different vision of friendship from what is done, for me things always have to be Different, I have a sense of friendship that is very different from what they think, I know that there are people who do not Have any type of Impediments from doing things only for their benefit. I Might think that every time you have many things in common, you should make something clear when trying to make money Well, things have to be clear, in my country we have a very wise saying: "Clear Accounts keep friendships", so if there is a group like that they should quickly talk about what they should look for, it is not pro-nothing but I would think that the same thing happens when It is about Doing what is best for a group of friends , it is that things always turn out well and the friendship continues to be maintained. I am one of those who think that friendships are important, certainly not because of the support of the owner , but of the labor that It will always be there, even to save a life.

But a person who really acts as if it were only out of interest is not good, it is something that has to be clear, if a person who is within a group of friends, and they work together, then it must be something for everyone, not for one , Unless the gains that are obtained in a group in a particular way, then they are not touched, because that is how it is minimized that clear accounts, maintain friendships, is what we should always see, is what is recommended and as I said before When there is money involved, things are usually like that, I am the one who thinks like that. So when a person agrees to do things so that there are no misunderstandings in the future, always the businesses that happen by chance and if they become very serious, some rules have to be given so that there are no misunderstandings. like that, and much less to lose friendships that are very important later in the Future.

Yes, no one can forbid or allow us to give to whoever we want. They can only wait to see what we will do, and if we want to give a little money to other people they don't know, they also can't do anything because it's our money. And we will share this victory with friends who have been good to us so that they can feel the victory that we have achieved. Meanwhile, for friends whom we rarely see or who are not kind to us, we can hide our winnings and tell other friends not to say anything about our winnings. If there is a friend who is very calculating with finances and even hides his gambling winnings, that is not a good friend, and I think they will not make many friends.

What you said is true because what they do, they can also experience from other people. If they can do good to other friends, other friends can also do good to them so that there is reciprocity in the friendship relationship. We also will not treat them badly because they can be pleasant friends who not only come when we are happy but will also come when we are experiencing difficulties and help us to solve them. Yes, we have had many experiences with various friends, so we can see which friends are good and which ones will only come around occasionally and expect something from us. Friends like this will not last long because they will leave. After all, they don't get anything from us, and we also don't give them anything because of their own behavior. We follow what they do so they don't do it to us again. We will celebrate with friends who can really be good friends and not friends who only come around occasionally. We don't need friends like that because finding friends who really understand and can be good friends is very difficult, so it makes us very selective in choosing friends.

And it seems that I think everyone can change, especially with the big win situation they get, people tend to change when they get a big win, because their financial situation improves quickly, I think everyone also agrees about money which is sensitive. Don't even friends, family can be problematic when it comes to money because it is sensitive. So it is natural that they change because it is certain that they will change when their finances improve, especially quickly, such as getting a big win that can change their lives, which were originally lacking, into sufficiency. But they shouldn't avoid friends who have accompanied them for a long time, maybe there will be one or two or three friends who will still be invited to hang out when they get a big win, because as I said friends are our environment, And maybe there are also people who leave all their friends and look for new friends, it all depends on each. It's just that they tend to avoid their friends a little when they get a win. Because there will definitely be friends who pretend to be good just to take advantage of us with the aim of living or seeking benefits with us, and friends like this should be avoided.

If that's what's happening in your country, it's horrible, and I think physical encounters should be avoided if that's the case. In my circle of friends there are people who have no shame in coming as they please and behaving as they please without thinking about the feelings of others, and I can also distinguish which friends I should share the benefits of what I get, and which friends should be avoided, because as I said, there are friends who are shameless about what I have given even if I am forced to share it,  but what can it be, maybe they are destined to be shameless and ungrateful from birth.

So we should be smart and need to choose really good friends, because it seems that everyone does not want to have friends who only pretend to be good in front of them, the problem is that this can cause problems even with trivial things or things that are not too big. A big win can also change someone into a more powerful person like my friend who got a big win then he boasted about it, and I already knew that it was just an act, and in the end it was true that he was just making it up. In the end, he went back to begging me because he had been caught lying about his big win. If it's to get the attention of friends, it shouldn't be like that, by lying in a big way, because I myself am not stupid and not easily deceived.

I can distinguish friends who should be kept and friends who should be ignored or should be avoided, I avoid friends who are always opportunistic, because they only approach me when my finances are improving or I'm getting a big win, because they will ask or beg to share the winnings that I have gotten, and with a shameless expression he loudly asks even though he himself knows what he is doing is wrong. And also they do like that because they know I'm a person who has a nature that always feels sorry for them, but this becomes an opportunity for them by taking advantage of the weaknesses I have. Therefore, I choose friends to keep because I know that they are worthy of sharing the benefits I have gotten, even friends who deserve to be in my circle, I myself will provide more benefits that I get, maybe I will support them, but not with friends who only come when they need it. Because in my opinion friends like this should be avoided not worth keeping, because I myself also often feel annoyed when this shameless friend comes to me, and it's not just me who feels annoyed, maybe other friends will also feel annoyed with this shameless friend, because his face is thick so he has no shame. they do what they like, even if they harm others they will not realize it and this is what makes me annoyed.

I have experienced what you said, by treating this shameless friend so badly that it makes him uncomfortable to be in a group of friends, When he came to me in a situation where I got a big victory and wanted to share the victory that I had got, I did not treat him well at all, I did not start a conversation with him, did not offer to eat or drink, and if he invited to chat I only answered him briefly, and in the end he was mentally affected by realizing that his existence was not considered. I was satisfied that I was able to make him realize that what he was doing was wrong, because it is impossible for friends like this to do well continuously. I think it's natural that they are occasionally given lessons because it is also to make him realize that he always comes when he is in trouble and disappears when he is happy.
I only share the benefits with friends that I trust even though I have a lot of friends, I can also choose which friends deserve to enjoy the victory I get, the rest are just ordinary friends, but the name of a friend in my opinion is worth keeping and deserves to enjoy the victory I get because we must have friends who always accompany us in any situation, so he deserves to enjoy the victory I get not even just a little maybe all the victories will be enjoyed together.

The friends that exist in our neighborhood must exist because it is a requirement in life to have friends, but the rest of us must be smart in choosing friends.  Do not let us keep friends who do not have good ethics, because friends like that should be avoided  because it will harm us in the future if we always have friends like this. So even though they are our friends there is no way we will always keep friends like this who always harm us.

Maybe it can be avoided with a little lesson, namely by treating him as if he doesn't exist when we get together, basically to make them realize that they don't have good ethics. And it's natural that they are treated like that because if they continue to be given comfort until whenever they will not realize that what they are doing is wrong because they come when they need it, leave when they are happy That is very unethical,  maybe there are certain reasons they are like that, but the name of friendship will definitely judge how someone behaves to his friends, and it determines in the future if they are worth keeping or not. In my opinion,  friends who don't have good ethics should be avoided to maintain friendships as well. Because it could be that friends who do not have good ethics will become a problem and bring conflict between friends So it's better to avoid than to cure.

Entitlement is one character that's really destroyed so many relationships because some friends feel that since they're friends with someone, it's the responsibility of that person to financially help them as often as possible even when they aren't ready to do whatever their friends do to earn money.

Sometimes it takes a lot of losses in gambling before a gambler can win big and that's why I think it's absolutely wrong for anyone to think that a gambler who  wins big must help his friends from the most they won in am gambling. If a gambler wins and decides not to share his winning with anyone, I don't think he should be criticized for making such decision.

But is it everyone that we share our gambling winning fund really deserves such, not everyone will be involved in sharing ideas together with us while making up the bet, we would have forgotten other times thst we don't have a y support to made our bets and yet win or looses, am sure some will be there only to witness what is going to happen and also partake in our philanthropist foolishness in sharing our money won with other fellow gamblers instead of using the money for doing something great in life.

Those are not friends but people called 'users'. They're users of their friends and are only there when you have something to give them or they see that you've got something that can be taken by them. These people are pro and they are not friends in times of needs but they will be there when they have some needs that can be seen to you.

Avoid these people and only give to your real friends that whether you give something or none, they'll be at your wings and they won't reject you whenever you have nothing to give them or it's just a casual day that you are going to meet them. It's hard to find real friends nowadays and you got to see them on how they do in life.

Because if they see that you're winning, they're also going to think that you're winning without anything to ask to you in return. But that's just a normal person that wants to see some of their friends win in life. But if you're the one that's going far away from your friends because you've won, well, it shouldn't be their problem as it's your personal decision of what has been done.

We really shouldn't count on others winnings and personal thriving to take a slice of that for ourselves. That is a big mistake I see people commiting nowadays, because they forget living their own lives and working to make it beter, to pay attention to what their friends are doing and earning, so they imagine to have any rights over their profits and success as well, while in fact, that is not how things work and each one should be responsible for their own decisions and consequences in life.

Not that a friend can't help another to get a job or to acquire a new knowledge, but I believe help is more related to proportionating the tools for a friend, so he can work by himself, than giving him free money, as he didn't need to do his part in life, just because he got to have a wealthy friend.

Everyone has the right to share their gambling winnings with anyone or choose not to share with anyone because they are gambling with their own money, so that is the basic point of this long discussion. You are right, we tend to know the attitude of friends who are worthy of sharing the winnings from gambling because they are good friends and they will also do the same if they are lucky enough to win from gambling, so it is impossible for us to share money with random friends and we will definitely be selective in giving money to a good friend. But sometimes some friends are unreliable, they are very calculating with finances and they hide their gambling winnings so they won't be shared with friends, but that's a fact and we shouldn't trust anyone too much in the circle of life.

True, if you are open sharing your winnings even in small portion of it then you must know your friends, as it's true that you can't avoid those people who are only beside becuase of their needs and if they don't have any they'll be out of sight, for sure most of us here understand the value of friendship and with how this topic went through. There are situation that we can't control when money start to control our minds.

Yes, you are right in saying that, but we can actually also camouflage in front of our friends who are also camouflaging because I know what my friends will do. If my friends were honest, I would not be camouflaged and would act normally and appropriately because they are our friends. So it will depend on how our friends behave when they come to our house so that we can also determine the same attitude as them. If they are not sincere when they come to our house and we also show the same attitude, they will not stay in our house for long and will leave us disappointed because their plans did not work out the way they wanted.

Sharing a small amount of winnings should also not be given in front of friends, but we can call one of them and give them the money so that they won't misunderstand that we will give the money to them one by one. But if it were our good friends or best friends, of course, we would definitely do things differently like our other friends. They will never feel embarrassed for something like that, but they might feel disappointed if what we do is different from what they imagined, but we only act according to what they do to us.

Its really that impossible that you wont really be able to assess things on which if your friend is really worth keeping or something that could be easily ignored. There's indeed a different level when it comes to those kind of relationship with other people but if you are seeing that they are someone who would really be that opportunist then you can simply ignore and leave them out but it is really just that a waste of friendship if you are really just that simply avoiding them because of money or something a part of your winning. So its a personal choice and a personal action to be made.
We know that not all people would really be that looking after for money even if you do win big,so lets not generalize first because being judgmental does have its cons too.

Everyone cannot find a friend that will be with him always no matters its a hard situation or happy situation. Some friends are always with us but they cannot see us successful. Gambler often change their way after getting money but his friend will never leave him to do such thing because a bad person attract more people in inappropriate places.



This is a matter of trust and because of trust many people loss their life. People often calls others friends to meet with him but the reason behind their calling is to threaten him because they cannot see their friend more successful than him. I think if someone is hiding his success from his friend later so why he is not doing all of the work alone without the entry of second person. In such situations neither you will be dependent on other nor others will make any hope from you.