Topic: Gambler avoiding friends after a big win. - page 7. (Read 2970 times)

On a good stand casinos do not easily give Victory neither do they give wins that easy to gamblers. They too try every possible best to retain funds from gamblers through any means because they are a business venture and at all cost would want to have it all themselves so they could make much profit and run their casino.

Considering the risk involved too can make a gambler cautious of his or her gambling activities. The probability of winning or losing is just a scale to be weighed by the gambler before they engage but it seems they are hell bent on gambling without checking the modalities and chances of their gambling outcome as they are possibly addicted to the course.

This is a simple logic we have to understand if we do it with a pure mindset not for greed. There are many people who had won big bets and end up spending the money carelessly without using the fund to do something better. There are many reasons that can make a person which is potential gamblers to stay out from friends after winning big amount of money. Sometimes when we noice that we are fake friends all around us, it is better for us to stay away from bad influence that would make us look like they care about us but it's not so.

Simple thing, the person who had won big doesn't want to share or give little to his friends. If he keeps distance the friends also won't get an opportunity to request him for financial help. Money changes the minds of people and what we had seen is just an example. Someday he'll realise there is much more things that are more important than money.

This makes me to remember the saying that says "when there is a will there is a way" of a gambler who is willing to stop their addiction will always seek for ways to do so and as a result of efforts they have put in sourcing for ways to minimise their gambling lifestyle which had lead them to addiction, they would definitely take it seriously and put efforts to making sure they have their ways in reducing their addiction to gambling but when forced to do so, I think the will would not be there because their mind is not made up yet to quit gambling addiction.

As for getting a confidant well trusted to keep secrets, it's not a bad idea because everyone has that one person they can confine in to reveal things to and as you have said, if one wants to share with their confidant their gambling lifestyle, it is not bad but at least that person should be able to proffer a solution or advise that could help their friend to minimise or entirely stop from gambling as the case may be. I think these are or should be amongst the quality of a confidant one should choose.

Of a truth most societies sees gambling as a negative engagement and as such frowns at it and forbids their families and citizens from gambling. Some societies go a long way to restrict their citizens from gambling as well. This is to show you the height at which many frowns at gambling and they go a long way to put measures restricting members of their families and the society from doing such. Even some casinos do make a list of restricted nations on their Terms of Service so that anybody registering from those nations would know that their countries do not support gambling and if they go ahead doing such,they are likely to forfeit any deposit made and account blocked upon discovering it.

When someone wins a large amount in gambling he hides it from his friends because everyone knows that it is very easy to earn in gambling without any hard work if one is lucky and that is why if a friend hears that another friend has won a large amount in gambling then that  He may ask for money as a loan or for any other reason. Everyone tries to hide this fear. I don't know this more clearly because I have never been in such a situation and my friends have never done anything like that to me.

When someone wins a large amount in gambling he hides it from his friends because everyone knows that it is very easy to earn in gambling without any hard work if one is lucky and that is why if a friend hears that another friend has won a large amount in gambling then that  He may ask for money as a loan or for any other reason. Everyone tries to hide this fear. I don't know this more clearly because I have never been in such a situation and my friends have never done anything like that to me.

In my opinion, the person you told me about who was one of the suspects in the misuse of donation money for gambling, I think he was very severe in his gambling involvement, it seems that he has entered a fairly high level of addiction, so he is very brave to take actions that are out of control like that. As we know that someone who is already addicted they will do anything as long as they can get money just to realize their gambling desires, one example of a case like the one you told. Therefore we must be more careful in gambling activities, the first thing to pay attention to is in terms of risk not victory, yes I understand that there is a chance of winning but it is not entirely and you must be able to consider logically because the casino will not be that easy to give victory.

I have also been thinking about why the general public see's gambling as a negative engagement and I have to be sincere, some gamblers made the public see gambling as a negative engagement and as such do not want to get anything doing with gambling or gamblers because they always have that thought that gamblers would not have financial integrity and as a result of lacking in it, they tend to use any funds kept under their care.
This scenario happened in my neighbourhood in the past where funds contributed by a group of cooperative for a particular purpose and was given to their very own secretary to deliver but he used the money for gambling and when it became obvious that the person to receive the money started wondering why the delay and met with him to inquire to know why he has not been given the money upon meeting him, he then opened up and  pleaded to not say it and promised to give him the money as soon as he is paid his salary and to cover it up so that nobody would know. After that time passed later on the both of them had issues that was when we heard all these stories of him being a gambler and how he used the money given to him for gambling.
You see all these things puts bad image on gamblers when some are just not matured to control themselves and gamble responsibly.
That is why most times I do not get entangled with the societies View about gamblers because most gamblers are just too careless and act childishly.

don't want to blame the person, i might be like that too if i win big. maybe people will see it as quite strange and think that this is unacceptable, but i think differently, because usually people do that to avoid other problems, for example a friend suddenly comes and wants to borrow money from him or his friends want to ask for a big meal, and other problems. so to avoid such problems, he prefers to avoid his friends and that's not wrong because that's his choice.

I also prefer to tell my friends the truth so they know that I have interests to fulfill with that money. I know they will definitely be disappointed, but as good friends, they will also definitely support me at times like that because they also have needs that must be met, like mine. And the solution you gave by sharing a few percent of the winnings with friends to celebrate their victory is good enough because we have told them about our problems, but we also give a little to our friends so they can celebrate. I think they might feel uncomfortable accepting our gift because we have been honest with them. Honesty will provide a solution to what we are experiencing so that our friends understand the situation.

Good friends are hard to find, and therefore, we should always be honest with them whatever we are facing so that they can understand the situation and will provide support to us. This also won't be a burden on us because we have explained it to them, and we even gave them a little of the winnings so they can share in the excitement and celebrate together. This is where we can feel the closeness of our friendship with them, and that is difficult to find nowadays.

Still, I don’t regard him as a bad friend. But if I were him, I would still remember and find time to spend it with friends, no matter how rich I was. I am sure of this, but we also know that in life sometimes everything happens differently than we are 100% sure of.

He stopped lending probably because this is a fundamental point for him. He just never lends money to anyone. There is a saying: “If you want to quarrel with friends or relatives, then lend them money.” Even I have met people in my life who constantly borrow, this is their lifestyle, I don’t like them, it’s better to avoid them.

We are people who have been on different occasions living Experiences that have to do with friends, with money and many other things, so in this order of ideas we Are people who must Accept that there are others who are not like us,

When someone wins a large amount in gambling he hides it from his friends because everyone knows that it is very easy to earn in gambling without any hard work if one is lucky and that is why if a friend hears that another friend has won a large amount in gambling then that  He may ask for money as a loan or for any other reason. Everyone tries to hide this fear. I don't know this more clearly because I have never been in such a situation and my friends have never done anything like that to me.

Still, I don’t regard him as a bad friend. But if I were him, I would still remember and find time to spend it with friends, no matter how rich I was. I am sure of this, but we also know that in life sometimes everything happens differently than we are 100% sure of.

He stopped lending probably because this is a fundamental point for him. He just never lends money to anyone. There is a saying: “If you want to quarrel with friends or relatives, then lend them money.” Even I have met people in my life who constantly borrow, this is their lifestyle, I don’t like them, it’s better to avoid them.

That's why it's good we all have to be mindful of the kind of friends we keep, because a true friend can never abandon you no matter how rich he gets, but yet try his position best to ensure he support his friends to become successful in life, because there is a parable we always say in our local language "Na one hand dey wash another" which means the people who you assist today while you are rich, are likely to be the same people that will assist you tomorrow when you are no more financially buoyant. As this thing called Money revolves from one person to another in due time. Hence, we should never neglect people when we are given the opportunity to assist them in times of need.

Usually there are certain factors that make a gambler avoid his friend after getting a big win, maybe one of them is that if he doesn't immediately avoid it then his friend will ask him for a loan or maybe his friend will tell him to come back to the game and increase the amount of bets with these funds, so that Like it or not, he was forced to decide to avoid it because he didn't want to suffer a loss.

We often encounter things like this among gamblers and they certainly have certain reasons why they choose to stay away from their friends after winning.

Yes, basically conditions like this are indeed quite confusing for someone who has just won, between they have to fulfill their personal needs with the money they won or maybe they will celebrate their victory with their friends with the risk that the money will definitely run out quickly. I'm sure if I were in that condition then I would also be quite confused in choosing a decision, on the other hand I need the money but on the other hand I also don't want to lose my friends. But I think the middle way in this problem is like for example they talk to their friends that they have a very important need and what they can do is maybe just share their friends a few percent of the winnings and not choose to party because it will definitely be very wasteful. I think that's a pretty good solution for a balance, and also yes hopefully some of their friends will understand the situation you're in at the time.

Yes, if you really don't want to be complicated with problems like that then it's better from the start you don't tell them anything, and don't take actions that can make them suspicious of you. Basically good friends are those who can understand and appreciate each other, I'm sure their friends won't be that bad even though they have pretty bad habits, at least maybe they will be able to understand about your situation at that time.

After all I finished with my bet headed home and was asking myself what could the colleague act that way avoiding his close friends they all gambling together and just because luck shines on him first he decides to create a distance and class. I couldn't actually annex a good reason why anyone should do that.

Yes, that's a very good saying, basically it's true as you say in that saying, actually there will be no problems that cannot be overcome, all problems must have a way out and maybe it will take enough time to find that way and also with different processes. In my opinion, the problem of gambling addiction will not be too difficult to overcome if indeed the person has a strong will to get out of such activities. By having full awareness that the activity is indeed useless and also encouraged by several actions that I think he will take as a prevention not to overdo it and also as one of the actions to stay away from gambling. Basically yes they will not be easy to stop completely right away and it is clear that on the way to stopping they will definitely have enough difficulty in resisting some of the temptations that tell them to gamble, but I think it doesn't matter because it's only natural that they are still in the adaptation stage.

Yes, usually everyone has people closest to them such as friends or one of their family members as a place where they tell stories for whatever problems they are experiencing, I also have friends like that and it is very useful to help each other in any case. I think if they really have a true friend like that then it will be very likely that their friend will help them.

Yes, it is clear because the general perspective of society on gambling is like that where they consider gambling to be a negative activity that should be avoided, none other than because the impact of gambling is very bad, therefore as proof a gambler will always hide his gambling activities including from his family, and also as another impact we can see many who are down and experiencing many problems in their lives, especially in their finances. People care about you that's why they forbid you to gamble, and yes it may be true that there are some casinos that restrict some countries from engaging in the activity. The point is you have to know what is best for yourself, don't gamble if you don't want to experience a lot of problems with your finances, look at the many examples of people who have fallen victim to this activity, so all your decisions are your own and I'm sure you know what you should do.