Topic: Gambler avoiding friends after a big win. - page 7. (Read 3111 times)

For example, we lie to them. If they knew the truth from other people, it would definitely make them disappointed and hurt because they found out we had lied, and maybe they wouldn't want to accept us as their friends anymore even if we later explained why. Yes, we should be honest by telling them the truth because honesty can provide trust between all of us. By telling them the truth and giving a little money to celebrate the victory can make them happy, and we can also maintain our friendly relations with them. They will also understand the situation we are experiencing, and they may provide support to us.

That's why if we already have close friends who really understand us and vice versa, we have to really maintain our friendly relationship with them. And if someone or several friends are truly our close friends, they will not change just because of money because they understand that friendly relationships are more important than money. We will all maintain those friendly relationships.

Of course it's obvious and as I've said before, the logical question is who would give them money for free? You should not be fooled by the system in the casino, the winnings are nothing more than a temptation to keep you coming back to play there, that is a true fact and only a few gamblers understand and know this, therefore as we know that there are still very many people who suffer from losing large amounts of money, for no other reason than as I said above that they do not know and do not understand the real casino rules. Yes gambling is not a place for anyone to make money, casinos will not allow that, because obviously this is a business with huge profits for them and gamblers have misunderstood what the opportunities are there. The logic and fact is that casinos will only give away maybe 20% of their 100% turnover at any given time, so it's clear that the real winner is the casino itself, so there's really no reason for anyone to go overboard just to win. Therefore, if you want to get rich from gambling, the only way is to create your own casino, not begging for consistent winnings because that's impossible in my opinion.

I think gambling will only be dangerous for those who come with the wrong assumptions and mindset, such as for example looking for income, it is really not recommended. And for those who gamble just for entertainment and spare time, I think things that are not wanted are very small chances to happen because on the other hand they are not too serious in gambling and also usually will only put a small budget amount. They already know the level of risk that can occur so I think they will definitely not do things out of control. So the point is only they themselves know whether the activity is dangerous for themselves or not, gambling will only have a fairly positive impact on those who come for entertainment, and vice versa if they come to earn then I think everyone already knows what will happen to him. So the bottom line is the decision on your judgment alone will be able to determine the impact of gambling.

The entire story is a dilemma to apprehend that the friends he (the winner) has been with for an expanded period of time now emerge to be fake friends just immediately as he won the huge sum of money, something he never realized when he hasn't won the money. Or am I the only one thinking in this direction!

It could be that he is the real fake friend that was pretending to be in the company of  those other friends and his true nature got ignited by the money he won. No amount of money I win as a gambler will make me draw away from my friends correlating with them doesn't mean an going to carelessly spend my money or lend them by compulsion.

That's right, that's what I saw and noticed, and I think most people here on this forum also know that. It's just sad that, because of money, he rejected or distanced himself from people who might consider you a friend.

That's why this is a reality that happens in real life. That's why there are only two types of people: those who control the money and those who are controlled by the money. We know that when we control the money, the end result will always be a bad one.

Simple thing, the person who had won big doesn't want to share or give little to his friends. If he keeps distance the friends also won't get an opportunity to request him for financial help. Money changes the minds of people and what we had seen is just an example. Someday he'll realise there is much more things that are more important than money.

The gambler who want to quit the addiction from the gambling can do this way of the quit from the gambling sites with the big win to the gambling site.The most of the gambler who had sufficient knowledge in the gambling will know the exact time of quitting the addiction.The gambler who ready to undrstand the winning possibility in the gambling will also understand the losing possibilities in the gambling sites.Most of the time the gambler was forced to stop the gambling with zero dollars.The reason for this was the over confidence of the gambler after their continuous win to the gambling site.But he forgot to learn the fact the coin had two sides and the game had two way of win and loss in the gambling site.

This is a simple logic we have to understand if we do it with a pure mindset not for greed. There are many people who had won big bets and end up spending the money carelessly without using the fund to do something better. There are many reasons that can make a person which is potential gamblers to stay out from friends after winning big amount of money. Sometimes when we noice that we are fake friends all around us, it is better for us to stay away from bad influence that would make us look like they care about us but it's not so.

Such factor counts, as there are people who will come around and will try not just to barrow but to ask for money as a gift, there are types of people even we are calling them a friend but the intention is to gain from us, not sure if what's the real reason behind but your assessment got that valid point,

avoiding or keeping away from people who will try to seek money, whatever the reason they will use just to get some share from that winning rewards.

On a good stand casinos do not easily give Victory neither do they give wins that easy to gamblers. They too try every possible best to retain funds from gamblers through any means because they are a business venture and at all cost would want to have it all themselves so they could make much profit and run their casino.

Considering the risk involved too can make a gambler cautious of his or her gambling activities. The probability of winning or losing is just a scale to be weighed by the gambler before they engage but it seems they are hell bent on gambling without checking the modalities and chances of their gambling outcome as they are possibly addicted to the course.

None other than because the impact of gambling is very bad which can really make a person lose balance in terms of his economy, especially his finances, and also on the other hand there are very many examples of those who experience such a downturn, on the other hand that is what makes people's perspective on gambling activities very bad, the point is that there are many impacts that will be suffered by people who are too serious and excessive in their gambling involvement, and also yes you have said one of the reasons why people's views are very bad on this activity.

In my opinion, the person you told me about who was one of the suspects in the misuse of donation money for gambling, I think he was very severe in his gambling involvement, it seems that he has entered a fairly high level of addiction, so he is very brave to take actions that are out of control like that. As we know that someone who is already addicted they will do anything as long as they can get money just to realize their gambling desires, one example of a case like the one you told. Therefore we must be more careful in gambling activities, the first thing to pay attention to is in terms of risk not victory, yes I understand that there is a chance of winning but it is not entirely and you must be able to consider logically because the casino will not be that easy to give victory.

How exactly is a friend asking you to borrow him some money a big problem when you have the money? Or how is your friends asking you to take them out for a big meal as a celebration for your big winning a problem?

I honest do not get it, it is better to keep quiet and not announce your big winning to your friends, than do so and later on start avoiding them for no just cause, this simply means that you  were never a friend to those you call your friends, for friends are supposed to stick with each other, help each other, when one become a millionaire and his friend is still struggling to each, he that became a millionaires helps the one struggling to eat to also become a millionaire, this is what true friend do, not avoid his friends when he has made money.

don't want to blame the person, i might be like that too if i win big. maybe people will see it as quite strange and think that this is unacceptable, but i think differently, because usually people do that to avoid other problems, for example a friend suddenly comes and wants to borrow money from him or his friends want to ask for a big meal, and other problems. so to avoid such problems, he prefers to avoid his friends and that's not wrong because that's his choice.

Hmm yes it seems that it is the best that can be done when we are in such conditions, it is better for us to tell the truth about the truth to them, than we lie and on the other hand later surely at least they will harbor jealousy towards us, and of course it will definitely interfere or become a problem in our friendship. So yes, as I said, maybe the middle way that can be taken is just to tell them honestly about our needs, and as a remedy so that they are not too disappointed, we can give them a little money from our winnings, I'm sure it won't be a big problem if we want to be honest and they also I think they will definitely be able to understand about our condition.

Yes, it is quite difficult to be able to get friends who are truly sincere, sometimes there are also friends who are friends but only need it or just want to benefit from us, and there are also friends who are truly sincere with no strings attached. And on the other hand with money we will usually know human nature, but yes I hope one of your friends is a good and sincere friend who does not ask for anything or in the sense of a true friend as you said.

sometimes mature thinking is really needed when it comes to dealing with all this and after all he is still your friend who used to gamble with you and dont instill hatred in yourself for him because he is still your friend even though at this time maybe he prefers to avoid you and other friends maybe he have thoughts that you dont know so we have to think positively about your separation from your friend, its not because of money but something better.

and related to what you said in the bottom line, that what I mean because money is everything, you can even lose your family just because of money.

more precisely, we all have different thoughts and plans so that whatever happens, he remains a friend who we cannot judge just because of the money from gambling winnings.

You havent experience because you havent been able to win up bigtime but on the situation on which you are already that making that huge win then for sure you would really be having that kind of situation and thinking that your friends would really be asking some bonus or would really be taking up some loan just because of the situation you are in on which winning up a huge amount?
This would really be the nearest reason on why someone would really be doing their best on trying to hide from their friends or even into their family just on having that fear with those
winnings to be that reduced. lol. That kind of thinking is really that a selfish one but well its our money then you do have the rights on what you should gonna do but of course
once you do dump your friends then there's no way for you to go back yet they would really be having that bad impression of you for the rest of their lives.

We are people who have been on different occasions living Experiences that have to do with friends, with money and many other things, so in this order of ideas we Are people who must Accept that there are others who are not like us, that there are people who Only They seek the benefit of themselves through us, in fact, the world is full of those people who have those characteristics, we cannot do Anything about that, because we are the ones who have to put everything of us not to be like that, to make a Difference , money, money is one of the things for which many friendships no longer exist, and it is as you say, there are people who stop talking to each other Because of money , When they They lend money, or when they do business in partnership, it is something that I do not like to accept, because I know that it is for Problems , so when we Accept someone's friendship we have to see what the person is like, try to meet people to see until point we can trust.

My friends are very few, because I know that they are real Friends, Loyal that one costs with them for whatever, wherever they are, they are Going to Arrive and that is what we are going to see , and the best thing is that they will not care money, because there are values that are above money, where they will obviously have the option of having things in their favor, sometimes smiaogs are much more valuable than money itself, because they are People who can help in an unexpected way , and that It is what should be valued, I am one of those who think that a friend is difficult to find, and when we are in a casino we can get friends, yes, but they are more Focused on that , because the Activity we are generating is what that we can share in common with it, it's like work ,Coworkers are usually friends, but some tend to be more Treacherous than others, we must take care of that.

When someone wins a large amount in gambling he hides it from his friends because everyone knows that it is very easy to earn in gambling without any hard work if one is lucky and that is why if a friend hears that another friend has won a large amount in gambling then that  He may ask for money as a loan or for any other reason. Everyone tries to hide this fear. I don't know this more clearly because I have never been in such a situation and my friends have never done anything like that to me.

That’s not an excuse to avoid friends after winning a big amount of money. If the winner is really a good friend, what he should do after winning that amount of money is to call his friends and give them some certain amount of money. I'm sure if he settles with them, they won’t be disturbing him for money or asking him for a loan. Maybe the winner was collecting money from his friends even before winning, and then after winning, his friends are no longer useful to him, some people just do crazy things just because of money.
 
You said his friends might ask him to gamble with the win so that it can be increased, but I hope you know nobody can ask the winner to gamble if he doesn’t want to gamble. No matter how his friends force him, he will never gamble, and if his friends are really reasonable, they won’t even ask the winner to keep on gambling to increase his win.


You don’t have any reason to avoid your friends after winning a large amount of money, what I believe you should do is just give them some money for them to take care of themselves, and you will be free. If you are avoiding them when you have money, who will you go back to after finishing the money? How will you avoid them when you are rich, and you will want to go back to them when you are broke, they won’t even accept you back because they will see you as an irresponsible person.

I also prefer to tell my friends the truth so they know that I have interests to fulfill with that money. I know they will definitely be disappointed, but as good friends, they will also definitely support me at times like that because they also have needs that must be met, like mine. And the solution you gave by sharing a few percent of the winnings with friends to celebrate their victory is good enough because we have told them about our problems, but we also give a little to our friends so they can celebrate. I think they might feel uncomfortable accepting our gift because we have been honest with them. Honesty will provide a solution to what we are experiencing so that our friends understand the situation.

Good friends are hard to find, and therefore, we should always be honest with them whatever we are facing so that they can understand the situation and will provide support to us. This also won't be a burden on us because we have explained it to them, and we even gave them a little of the winnings so they can share in the excitement and celebrate together. This is where we can feel the closeness of our friendship with them, and that is difficult to find nowadays.

That's why it's good we all have to be mindful of the kind of friends we keep, because a true friend can never abandon you no matter how rich he gets, but yet try his position best to ensure he support his friends to become successful in life, because there is a parable we always say in our local language "Na one hand dey wash another" which means the people who you assist today while you are rich, are likely to be the same people that will assist you tomorrow when you are no more financially buoyant. As this thing called Money revolves from one person to another in due time. Hence, we should never neglect people when we are given the opportunity to assist them in times of need.