Topic: Gambler avoiding friends after a big win. - page 4. (Read 3099 times)

He can ignoring his friends by avoids from blocking their numbers or don't wants to meet them. He doesn't wants to see his friends used him for their purposes so he trying to avoids them. His friends can't jealous with him because he can wins the money from gambling and if he avoids them, he can do that easily and will not trying to explain his reasons about that. Regardless of what happens to them, it's better his friends accept the change that he do and don't think much about that. Let's him do whatever he do and his friends can do what they wants without interfere of his lives because when someone change, no one can gets close to him, especially if that person now have a lot of money from gambling. He will thinks about his lives and don't care about other people.

It depends on each individual, if they can't control themselves, I mean they might be jealous of their friend who has won at gambling. Of course there is a possibility that their friend could harm their friend who won, but if they are not jealous of course this won't happen, but Indeed, when it comes to money, everyone is sensitive, even family relationships can be destroyed because of financial problems. Also, those who win and then stay away from their friends may have their own reasons, because I'm sure not everyone is like that.

Of course they have their own reasons, whether they win or their friends who want to ask for the results of their winnings, myself, if I get a win, I don't distance myself from my friends, in fact what I do is share it with them and I don't care what I want to use it for, just don't asked again after I shared the winnings I got.

I think this really happens in friendships especially when they are gamblers who when they manage to get a big win in one of their sessions it is not uncommon or maybe even common that they will avoid their closest friends especially those who are also gamblers, and the reason is that they don't want their friends to ask for a share of the winnings so they hide information about their success and pretend not to have money.

This scenario also happened in my circle of friends where at first I did not know why one of my friends suddenly avoided me and after that I heard from one of my other friends who told me that the friend who avoided me had just won a big win in the type of slot game and this happened several times which made me really did not expect that he would act like that even though I had no intention at all to ask for a share of his winnings.

In my life, I came across the fact that my friend, with whom I was on the same financial level, suddenly won a big jackpot and got rich. After that, we talked for a while, but he changed a lot.
Unfortunately, rich people do not understand the problems of the poor, they very quickly forget that they were the same. While they are getting interested in talking about their fancy purchases, the poor man is not interested. He has completely different problems.
It is correct to people say: "a well-fed person is not a friend to a hungry person."

i understand that this is just a precautionary measure, because there are many cases nowadays where the people closest to them are the ones trying to harm them just because they earn a lot of money at one time. so because of this, many gamblers now prefer to stay away from their friends when they win gambling because they are worried that these friends of theirs will try to ask for money from them because they won a large amount of money or try to harm them. so we can't blame a gambler who stays away from his circle when he wins a lot, because there must be a reason behind it all.

In good times we forget about friends who stand by us in danger actually it sounds very bad because friends who stand by us in danger are true friends. If he did not help from his side it would not have been possible to bring so many changes in life in terms of money. It is often seen that in good times people have many friends but in bad times their shadow is not seen. If it is not possible to help with money sit next to him and listen to him give courage in this the friend can regain the confidence lost in danger.

That is definitely without a doubt the main reason is my suspicion that he doesn't want to have his friends ask him for money. Now the question is to what extent is he ignoring his friends? Did he block his number or get a new number altogether? Maybe he saw this as a chance for a new life, a chance to start over with a clean slate and make a new life with new friends for himself. Regardless of what his decision is and what his reasons where its rightfully his money and his winnings, & his luck! Lucky man he is for sure. Hopefully some of that luck rubs off on us for participating in this discussion ;P

We never knows what is his reason avoids his friends after his winning. Many reasons can makes someone change and avoids or left his friends after he had a big money. One of the reasons is because he doesn't wants his friends comes to him and asks for the money as their part because they are his friends. That one popular reason that happens in many place so someone who had the money will avoids his friends. But there will be other reasons why he did that but he doesn't wants to explain his reasons. Maybe he will tells the reason to other friends or family because they don't related to his friends so they can accept his reason. Maybe his friends will jealous with his winning or else but his friends should accept what his decision and lets him do what he wants with his money.

For those who hold winning parties, I think it depends on their environment, if their environment has a bad view of gambling then even if they get a profitable win it doesn't change the perspective of their environment, the winnings obtained at gambling will still be seen as bad. However, perhaps there are also some who don't want to accept the winnings they have obtained from gambling because they only think about winning and they put aside gambling which is actually not good. I myself, if I really get a big enough win, will just enjoy it myself in my own way.

It's not recommended to leave friends, especially friends who are used to hanging out together, but for friends who don't really know themselves, I would stay away from them, because I think no one wants to have friends who only think about themselves. I also think they have their own reasons for distancing themselves from their friends, but what is clear is that we shouldn't have feelings of revenge. If you really don't like it, it's better to just stay away from it, I'm like that myself because I don't want the hassle.

Normally majority of gamblers show some kind of generosity when they have a huge win as some can go to the length of organizing a party to celebrate their winnings with friends and families but for me all this things are not necessary at all because the money you will use to organize this parties with friends and families is enough to use for some other productive things.
But it is not good to completely abstain oneself from friends who you were struggling to succeed in life together with simply because you have won big and you feel the are no longer your class and all that. For the fact that you made it in life doesn't mean you should despise your little beginning after all they are your friends that you guys were pushing on together to make a head way even if you can't assist them at that material time but celebrating your success with them is important. The table may turn tomorrow and they find their selves in better life than you then what will you say? No matter the level you reach in life those that started the journey with you should not be forgotten.

Maybe it was strategic, since he won big he wanted to quit gambling. There is a verse in the bible that reads something along the lines ' If your hand causes you to sin cut it off' of course I am paraphrasing here and i'm not exactly sure of the verse at the top of my head but perhaps this friend of their's didn't want to be tempted. I for one respect his decision. Also, those friends of his may get jealous or expect him to give them some money because they are friends and he fell into a small fortune. Who knows, but at the end of the day you show me your friends and i'll show you your future is also a true saying, one you should live by. Truly.

From my opinion, people will always judge you regardless and what if they just have this feeling the friend in question don’t want them without wanting to understand what’s wrong and my second thought, people nowadays feel the need to stay alone when they have money to avoid unnecessary spending and party although friends differs so I don’t expect everyone to behave in such manner. Some people I have seen and observed, whenever there’s money that’s the time they suggest different ideas about club, party and etc, I’m speaking from my personal experience and this is not even a new thing cause they’ll always come but I’m not saying spending with friends is wrong and bad but spend wisely when you’re around them mostly with gambling win cause the problem we get nowadays about gambling win, people win and fail to buy valuable property just because of excess spending like what I just mentioned, friends like this should be avoided after winning a bet cause it’s obvious most people spend more money when they’re around people

Every action would really be having a corresponding effect on which it would really be that understandable that there's nothing that you could be able to back specially with your friends on whom you had left them on the time that you do have the money. We should really be putting up into our minds that not all people would really be just that aiming for the money but rather on the relationship or the friendship that you do have. It is really just that sad that there are people who can be definitely be changed up by money just because they were really that believing that they could do everything once they do have the money without even trying out to realize that there's no such thing about assurance into this world.

If you dont able to handle up those winnings well then it would really be something that will really be ending up for you to go back into being poor or average gambler and
since you have done something shit then you would really be able to taste shit situation. 

That's one way to lose your true friends, they stay with you when you have nothing now you abandoned them when you have money.
I wonder how he will react after his life change back to how he is before he won the big amount of money, some says that people changed because of the money, but in reality it only reveal them, how they are or how they act when they have the power.

Their colleague who won the huge amount acted wisely , maybe he left them because he has something tangible that he has planned with the money And If he stays with his Friends they might end up spending the money carelessly ,However,the idea of keeping distance is quite nice So he can plan him self on the meaningful things that he wants To do with the money. Op To be sincere with you So many friends can be misleading And they might Succeed in giving him wrong advice which might surely lead To careless spending , he knows his friends And that Was why he distanced himself So i support him for that.

Morestill,there is this Notion people have that the money won from gambling cannot be used for something meaningful ,And this is the exact scenario that can lead To that because his friends might help him To spend the money without making any meaningful thing from the money. If i were To be the guy i will do more than him because i will avoid them till i have achieved something reasonable To Show Off.

if you read OP's statement carefully and other users comment, they are not sure what level of friendship the winner has with the circles of friends he plays with. If that happens to me, of course I will somehow not avoid and forget my friend just because I won the gamble, but I will choose who are the people who will be by my side from the beginning, the friends that I will be approach when a problem comes to me.

All of this is your own decision because when we say they are friends we have been around for quite long time with ups and downs, but we still have to prioritize people in our own home or family before deciding to share with friends.
But some people do have the idea that they will never use the proceeds from gambling or give them to family members at home and prefer to have fun or share with other people, including friends, because of different suggestions.
The belief that money from gambling is not good to give to the family has been instilled in the mindset of many gamblers, especially those who also have certain beliefs about things that cannot be explained logically.

Personally, it depends on how many wins I get, if the win is big enough then I will tell friend who I can really trust and give them small share.
But I will not tell all my friends about the victory because it is not certain that they will be able to accept it and there will always be different mindset or mindset of envy regarding the achievements we can get.

I wouldn't do that. My friends has been with me through thick and thin. We are close knit and my win is theirs likewise my loss and vice versa. Knowing that my friends would not allow spend more that what is necessary, I will stick with them.

The person in the story has friends who are not his friends.

Gamblers avoid friends  after  big win, yes I strongly  agree because  70% of human are  doe's  kind of people, money  in gambling money is really one the thing that ends  relationship  that causes problem between  two friends.   
But  how  every come to think  of it, a gambler  will  always  remember  times of loses, and how he took the risk to predict.

So when he wins he finds it difficult  to share  the money with anyone, so that why I said gambler  avoid  friends  after  big win.

Yes, and we don't need friends who only come when they need them but are not there when we need them. It's not a good friend but just an ordinary friend. We all have friends like that, so we can do something to make them uncomfortable when they are in our house. The reciprocity of this friendly relationship can last a long time and even reach old age. Even though they are in different cities, they may look for him and come to his house to reminisce and remember the past so that their children and grandchildren can know their friendly relationship. They will teach you how to make friends so that your children and grandchildren can also make good friends. What we do with other people will definitely come back to us, so if we do good to people, we will definitely get good deeds from other people.

There is no doubt that a person's true attitude and character will be seen when it comes to money and the benefits he can get from other friends. He will not look at the friendship they have built over the years but will only look at the benefits, so he will take advantage of these benefits for himself without thinking about his other friends. And yes, you are right that even families can change easily when it comes to money because each person will definitely think about the benefits. But if someone really respects other people, he will not do things like that but will give what he can and will support his friends because he knows that friendship or family relationships are more than anything. There are even those who are not actually related but can consider their friends to be more than their siblings because they and their friends no longer look at wealth or anything and only think about their relationship with each other. In this day, it is very difficult to find friends who can truly share, especially if they already have a family, because their partner might not be happy to see that they can still share with their best friend. That's humans with all their uniqueness, and we can only try to choose friends who we can make as our friends.