Topic: Gambler avoiding friends after a big win. - page 12. (Read 3099 times)

It is a personal decision he took and that is non of anybody's business. Possibly maybe he must down that for his own personal reasons or security situations because lost people are just funny you know. What if his friends are the type of that nature what do you think they could do to him. I believe he did that for his own safety and another thing you should think is how his friends treated him.while they were all together because people tend to respond to the same manners as they were treated when they had nothing in their name.
So it is not a thing of judging him for his actions but to find out the reasons behind his actions as that could tell why he acted that way.

I believe there is truth in the saying "Money reveals people", not only about people who have the money, but also the people around the people who have the money. sometimes people have intention towards the people who have the money, and sometimes people avoid other's intensions towards themself because they feel people only want to benefit from their money.

it also reveals that there are people who dont get affected by having big money. but this situation needs to go both ways, the ones who have it and the ones around them. if not, there will still be the affection. and this affection is revealed in the attitude of those people.
yeah.. expectation plays the big part.

There is different personalities person in everyone's friend circle. Some are selfish and some want to do something with their friends. Those type of people who make friends for benefits. This type of people ignore his friends after do something good in life. They ignore those friends who don't do something good in life and want help from him. This is not all are same those who want to do something together never avoid there friend after a big win. Those who make friends for benefits that type of person avoid.

What he did I think is what he feels is the best for him to have done. I believe he must have seeked the opinion of well meaningful individuals before he took that step because I know on a normal he could have just let his friends know that he would be traveling or changing environment and possibly might not tell them about his wins but they would have found out wether he told them or not but what matters most is his safety with respect to the amount of his wins.  Many people have that friend who only wants to benefit and not contribute and when it is time for merriment, you would always see them at the front singing and shouting your praises when they are not the reflection of what they do at the time of your reimbursement. These has made people to take such decisions of running away when ever they make it big avoiding their friends and most times relatives as well. So OP took such decisions based on his experience with his friends.

There's always a reasn behind and we can't conclude if they are close friends or just a gambling buddies but if it's happen that they are close friends it's better to give that decent reason on why you needed to avoid them, else, the one who win that big amount was been eaten by the money that he acquired, we can't remove that fact, people change either because of power or because of money.

Probably these guys were about to demand money for hair transplant from the winner and that's why he was avoiding them Okay, I'm kidding.

Imagine you won 1 million dollar. Then there are your friends, you have to give 10K or whatever it is to your close friends, to your family members, you have to do this, do that, everyone expects financial help from you, many even ask you for a big loan to start a business and so on. Finally, your 1 million dollar slowly fades away because of people who are around you. It's also fair to mention that there is a very high chance, so called friends will abandon you if you lose a lot of money and ask them for financial help.

If any of our friends are not happy with our actions of hiding the winnings we get, we don't need to think about it because it is the winning money that we got. They can't accuse us of being stingy or anything else just because we hide our winnings from them. It is our choice because we already know the disposition and character of the friends around us, so we decide to act like that. If they can be better when they hang out with us and don't just look at it from a material perspective, we won't hide our victory. We will tell him about our victory,, and we will also invite him to celebrate the victory. All of that is from what they do to us. If they are good to us, we can be more than them, and vice versa.

If we have made really good friends, we must maintain friendly relations with them because they will always be there with us in all situations, and so will we. And yes, we also definitely want to share that victory with those who are truly our friends.

It depends on their attitude towards us because if their attitude towards us is good, we will not hide or even avoid them and instead invite them to celebrate our victory. But there must be another reason why he avoids his friends we don't know about. Therefore, his friends could come to his house and ask the cause to clear up the misunderstanding between them. But usually, they don't want to do it because they feel uncomfortable.

Yes, there are indeed many people like that who avoid their friends when they get lucky. We don't need to imitate this, especially if we have more good friends around us. Instead, we have to tell them about the good luck we have had and invite them to join in celebrating with us.

I think if they are close friends and not close because of gambling involvement I don't think they should avoid their friends when they get a win, a win in gambling doesn't have a strong enough reason for them to avoid one of their friends, although maybe I can't say that's entirely true because it depends on their personality too, and if they are a stingy person then no matter whether it's a close or distant friend they will still behave stingy by hiding their winnings.

So I think it depends on the friendship between the two people and also depends on the personal nature of the person who gets the winnings, and also on the other hand actually the person who wins has the freedom to whatever they want to do with the money, there is no other person's right to your luck, and maybe if you are generous then you can share a small portion of the winnings with others. Of course, while on the other hand enjoying the winnings with friends is fun, I always do that because there is a thrill and enjoyment in itself, honestly I don't care whether or not people are jealous of my luck but what is certain is that I have increased solidarity by doing good to them, and as for whether or not they will be happy with my luck is up to them.

I think he had a personal reason for his actions, but if they were truly close friends and not just gambling buddies, he wouldn't behave that way. Sometimes, celebrating victories with friends is great, but it's not necessary every time. In life, not everyone is genuinely happy for your success some might be envious and pretend to join your celebrations. Personally, I usually bring all my close friends along whenever I have a victory.

It is the habit of humans that they always share their losses with others but they don't tell about their victory to anyone because they think as they share losses so money will also be divided among them. Its a bad habit of gamblers that they don't thinks about friendship and money is everything for them. Even if they need money then they threaten their family members to provide them money so how we think that they will share their profit with friends. Simple is that stay away from gambling and gamblers if you want a happy life. In every field you have to keep your money with yourself and also don't share your loss with anyone because those who are dependents on others always have worries in their lives.

To me, the only weird thing is that you avoid your friends just because you won, if you don't tell them that you won big in gambling that's normal but if you avoid your friends just because you won big in gambling I think that is not normal. Yes, that's his right, but I don't think that's normal.

I think their friend's head has grown up, there are many people like this that when they make a lot of money they forget, they become arrogant. It's not bad to be picky if you need it, the bad thing is that you avoid your friends just because you won a lot of money in gambling even though they don't do anything to you. They will understand if you can't give them because they are your friends.

Basically money is very sensitive in any case, with money you will be able to find out how the original character of the person, not only in gambling but in real life also problems that originate from the involvement of money often occur. In gambling, everyone has the freedom to whatever they want to do with the money from their winnings, whether they will use it for their own needs or choose to share a small portion of their winnings with one of their good friends. And also yes quite agree with your statement, sometimes hiding the winnings will not always be a bad thing even though on the other hand if one of your friends finds out there will definitely be less favorable talk behind your back, but I think if you hide the winnings from people who also always do that to you or are stingy to you in any way then I think there is nothing wrong with doing it, it's like a lesson for them indirectly, don't let them come when there is a need, but when you experience difficult conditions they never participate in helping you.

So I think it depends more on the background of you and your friend in terms of friendship, if indeed you always participate in anything and have a good relationship then there is nothing wrong if you want to share a little of that victory.

Probably because the situation can be a bit harder for that winner. Of course there's a thought that his gambling colleagues would ask for money since he won a big amount of money. And I think that's a very common thing, and he probably just don't want to share it with them that's why he's hiding from them.
I can't really tell whether it's a good thing or not cause I don't want to be biased. If that circle of friends are just purely about gambling, it can be toxic since he might end up overspending his winning on gambling as well, if he continues to hang out with other gamblers. Being surrounded with gamblers can influence your gambling habits, and it's a big deal especially he just won a huge amount of money. But if it's a case where they're really friends for a long time, and their friendship isn't just only about gambling, then I don't think that friend was a good friend. Cause why wouldn't you want to at least treat your friends if you win a jackpot?

But to be honest, if you win such a huge prize on gambling, for me it's best to distance yourself in gambling for a while since if you continue gambling, you might just end up losing all that winnings. Winning a huge amount isn't something we can all experience nor something a person can experience a lot of times throughout our lives. So it's really better to spend it smartly.

A very straight point you have made as to why the rich commune with the rich, for they are not a parasite to the other as they do discuss about business and investments on how to grow each other which is something you hardly find around the poor, they are at every moment with one demand after another.
What they forget is that the rich man is a human like them that has personal problems too to solve but because he's rich they every poor persons around him is consumed with the thinking that his money will solve his problems for him but there are issues in life that doesn't need money for solution but acquittance.

I guess we're too used with the idea or concept of social contracts that we tend to think that what that person should've done is the right thing and the norm and that the thing that he's done was decided by some to be the wrong thing to do, that never should've been the thing in the first place but as I've said, we used to think that there's only one right action to a certain event that any other action will be deemed by the society as wrong thing, maybe that's why these people didn't get these much treat from their friend, they probably were too pressuring on the fact that their friend has won and that they're in a way part of the reason why that person won, pretty impressive of that guy to not treat his friends during that win and as you've said, the man probably got problems that need solving with the money he's won.

He should do it like that because he already knows who his friends are, rather than later having trouble having to comply with his friends' requests. Hiding our winnings from friends who would only ask for something from us is sometimes necessary so that they don't come to us just because there is something they want. We don't need friends like that because they are only there when we are happy, but they won't be there when we are experiencing difficulties. We already know who our good and bad friends are, and we choose which ones we will invite to celebrate the win and which ones we will leave alone. They also can't force their will on us to celebrate their win if we don't want to.

What lotteries usually do to convince people they are being honest when drawing the lucky numbers is implementing some measures and have third parties to certify their results, so no one would easily doubt of their honesty. Here in my country it is specially popular for lotteries to draw those winners numbers on live television, instead of being a recorded program, they also use a neumatic machine to move the numbers around in a very unpredictable way, before choosing one at random. Finally, they also invite some engineer or scientist each week so they can verify by their own eyes there is nothing fishy going on during the drawing of the numbers. That is what one of the biggest lotteries used to do here, I don't know what other smaller ones managed to keep their trustworthiness, without all those measures.

The idea that lottery organizers and crime might be exchanging information in secret is interesting. This "under the table" conversation would badly hurt the ideas of fairness and privacy. Unsettling to think that lottery winners might be thrust into the spotlight for more than just proving that the lottery is real. How do you tell the difference between being honest and having a secret agenda?

One's life changes irreversibly when they go from being poor to having a lot of money very quickly. The innocence of a new millionaire is very different from the learned caution of someone who is always rich. Going through this huge change is a Herculean job that requires more than just financial knowledge. People who are about to get a huge gain might need to get some training in how to handle their money and keep themselves safe.

Truth be told, not only in gambling even in other aspects of life if people becomes rich, dey run from there colique reason being that if you are reach every body will start bringing up there problem to you.  Naturally human has that mentality of  complaining anytime they see a rich person. That's why you see rich people always do that.
Rich people always want to discus matters with people of there class, because those that don't belong to there class has nothing to add to there life rather than cooking up story that will always make you to spend more.

What I think about this is that when we are people who can share sessions in a cafe or anywhere, it can happen that When at least I Know that I can help someone , I do it without further ado, because I like that people people are Fine , who have taken Advantage of me in real life ? Yes , many times it is like that , because when things are given in favor of someone it is understood, what I don't like is when one of those people starts doing bad things for you , because it is another bear, it is a betrayal, and that It's something that at least I'm not a co-descendant with that , because when that's the case, Well , I cut off all friendship at once, and I don't want to know Anything and I don't Even want to have contact with that person , that's why I say, that one can look like a fool, others think that one is a fool, but one is not, in part friends will Always be beings that we do not know if they are real or No t, they can spend 10 years being friends, or even more, But if they betray you , it's because they Were never your friend.

There are many People in the World who can take Advantage of others , the World is full of that, but what are you going to do about it? If the majority are like that, we can't fight against it, what we can do is that with a lot of decency we can Choose and tell people the thing to Their face , Which is what made that promise of not Going with each other anymore. because he only has money, it is obvious that some people, not all, Change money , but the money runs out, and when it Runs out he Remains at the same level as Everyone, obviously if that person does not take a legal course towards a process financial at the top, that is, looking for the best Investment so that that money goes much higher, if you do nothing, at some point you Spend Everything you have , then these things , Money does not buy friendships, many can You can be Anywhere with a lot of money, but friendships Cannot be bought , true friends are known When you are in Bad Times.