Topic: Gambler avoiding friends after a big win. - page 11. (Read 3111 times)

Sometimes for security reasons gamblers do behave like this so they can possibly stay safe because winning big amounts especially in offline gambling house attract so much attention because the news of such will definitely go viral and people will know you won such amount.

It's way private with online casinos and gambling sites as they will pay the money straight in to your bank account and except you let others know they wouldn't know you won such huge amounts of money. So that's basically why most of these gamblers avoid their friends when they have such big wins, except for families and probably very closely friends they don't keep up with others so they can be sure they remain safe even with their big money.

Not only gambling winners, but even people who won a lottery ticket I heard about the fact that they were switching off their mobile and not contacting anyone. Some people even have to hide or never say anything about their winnings. The majority of the winners say that if they tell them or try to help them, they will never pay them back, and many friends are asking for help.

It's not that they can't help, but many people are approaching them, like friends, relatives, and even the poor, who have never met them before. It's helpless, and then they have their own problems and dreams. Apart from that, they have to pay taxes. People are afraid to tell everyone that they won the prize because many people are trying to hurt or rob them; it's even from their own relatives as well.
 

On a normal, it is not everything one should be telling their friends. These days things happens even in the family too. Friends should not every time be in the know of your updates as these days friends are not what you think they are. So he has a reason why he did what he did. Only him is liable to his actions and owe no explanations to anyone why he took that steps to relocate and refused to tell his friends about hi is success. Like I said initially in other posts that " their is no smoke without a fire".

I agree because that is something we don't need to say to our friends, especially if we are in a public place. Perhaps we can tell him after we are in a quiet place. I once told some of my friends in a quiet place, and they congratulated me. They also said not to tell it to people who are not in our friendly relationship. But if he also avoids his friends because he is afraid that his friends will ask him for something. After all he has won, he should re-examine his friendships.

We won't be able to blame our friends if they do something like that because we are just friends. I sometimes experience things like that, and I never ask where they are or contact them. I think time will give us answers and show which ones really deserve to be our friends and which ones are just ordinary friends.

That's the easiest way to avoid it so we don't feel bad for anyone when we win big or vice versa, when a friend wins big, sometimes I also feel bad about being given a tip, even though I didn't ask for it and expected it too, but there are also friends. The other me often avoids his friends when he wins big just because he doesn't want his friends to owe him money. The point is that feeling awkward when you win big in front of your friends really makes you uncomfortable.

I also enjoy playing casinos alone in online casinos, rarely in offline casinos because of course it's a bit of a hassle if you have to avoid friends or friends avoid us, at least each other gambles better in online casinos because it's better to keep friendships intact and not split up just because of money. , it really hurts

This very often happens when playing offline gambling when they start together but when they win it seems like they don't know each other. There were many reasons why he avoided them, maybe they didn't seem to know each other but the reality behind them was that they shared the results of the victory. There is also avoidance because they don't want to share their winnings or don't want to be close because they are afraid of getting into debt, because debt can be an indication of destroying friendships. The point is that they are different, only they know why they avoid each other.

That's why I don't like gambling offline, I prefer to gamble online. Win or lose only we know.

Of a truth not everyone's intentions are clear and you do not know who is who but the best way to protect yourself is to take precautionary measures as no one wants to be taken off guard by any unforseen circumstances likewise nobody wants to be held responsible for any reasons unknown to them.  So if he felt such decisions could be of a good help to keep him safe that was the best he could do for himself and he owes no one an explanation for that.

No doubt he was worried about his safety, which is why the gambler never met his friends again. We cannot take it negatively. Because the gambler was normal before winning gambling but when he won big money this became clear in his behavior. Keep in mind that no one wants to be held responsible if any harm is done. So you must take your own safety. There is nothing wrong with taking precautions before an accident occurs. And if other friends can't judge this matter well then it is normal for them to say negative words. However, not everyone's intentions may be the same.

It is not virtually everything we need to talk about to our friends. There are some times things we need to keep to ourselves for our own safety because these days nobody can tell what is in the heart of the next person so one needs be careful. He did what he could do to safeguard himself and relocated to another place. Possibly he was looking at the security situations for his own personal safety and maybe that was what prompted him to leave the location coupled with the possibility of his experience with his friends.

These days in my country, friends do not tell each other anything again about their international travels they just keep it to themselves after they had travelled out of the country and have arrived their destination that is when they would call you to inform you if at all they really want to do so. I would not blame him to have taken such drastic measures of not telling his friends his success and relocation.

You are right. Therefore, we must be careful in establishing friendships and avoid getting too close to people who only want something when we have it but will not be with us when we experience difficulties. We may have experienced this in friendships, so we have to choose who can be our close friends so that we can share with people who are really close to us. And we also don't need to tell people who are not very close to us even though, in the end, they will find out from other people, but we can deny it by not admitting that it was because of our victory. We also don't need praise from people who are not sincere in building friendly relationships because we are not looking for something like that, and we only want people who can be our friends in all situations and conditions, where we share our joys and sorrows.

But in my opinion, when it comes to the issue of money, it is sensitive, I think it is possible for everyone to change because of a lot of money, and that is also related to the matter of someone who suddenly gets a big win so that he can change his life to be more decent and versatile, of course, people who get a big win will definitely have friends who are deliberately forgotten and friends who are still remembered even to finance their lives, because basically everyone has friends.

But I myself do not assume to forget friends when I get a big win that can change my life, but I myself do not fully expect gambling to change my life, maybe those out there have spent a lot of money gambling and when they are struggling financially they will borrow from their friends, and when they play gambling again and then get a big win that can change their lives they will not forget the friends who have loaned them capital to gamble, but the reality is the opposite most people when asked for help in terms of finance will not help them either because they don't have money or they don't want to lend it. So as I said at the beginning, money is a sensitive subject.

Because we have friends that we know if they are real or not, the friends that we only hang out with because we just know each other but we are not really close to you, we only know you by name. You know what that means.

So, it is possible that those with him are just friends in name and not real friends, so he avoids them as soon as he knows that he has won a large amount of money. Because if it were me, I would do the same, but I wouldn't make it obvious, of course.

There's no any advantage in making friends than the harm it offers for those that had witnessed this should be able to tell more, friends will only be there when things are going well, but immediately they discover that things aren't well as before again then they left on their way, if you're a gambler that have no friends and make win, then you may not have this as a challenge, but when yiu also have participated in eating up others big win in the past then expect for your own turn to come.

Money is power, if you want to have a revelation of what is in the heart of a poor man give him money a lump amount he has never had in his possession as rightfully belonging to him before. That's when you'll be sure if that man was definitely meek, humble and friendly with you or it was just poverty that humbled his ego and real nature.

Majority of us are hanging around people we call friends who deep inside they don't see us as friends but mere companions. For the very fact that we receipt them as friends based on how we have been together doing things together for a long periods of time doesn't mean they in same vein mirror us in same manner.
 Many friendships and acquaintance that is still intact today is because money hasn't come into the center of things to test that supposed union. We got to be careful the type of people we quickly call friends for the sake of  our own sanity.

These are the reasons why most times I do not be in a rush to judge and I do not side anybody but i remain neutral on possible solutions to further strengthen ties because no one knows the next phase or steps of their life. I strongly believe for him to have taken such steps by running away from his friends after a big win, then there must be more to his actions than one could imagine.  His friends would have offended him in many ways best known to him and he might have had no option than staying glued to to hem hoping and praying for a day or f victory for him to come and fortunately, he got his big wins and left his friends to their fate which is what he thinks he could have done best to pay them back for what the had done to him.

I also believe in listening to the two sources and hearing from both sides of the story and if it were possible to meet with them one after the other, I would have done it to get a clearer picture of what transpired amongst them while they were together and upon the big win because I believe there is no smoke without a fire.

I don't think the duration of a friendship between someone and another is a big factor to determine the how any of them can behave after winning big in gambling.
There are some set of friends that are good in squandering any sum of funds that they come in contact with and these kind of friends will never advice you to invest your money wisely rather they'll encourage to spend it with any form carefulness. So if a gambler wins and happens to find out that that his group of friends majorly consists of people of this kind of attributes, he's very likely to avoid them no matter how long they've been friends because he would want to invest his winning wisely since he doesn't know when to win again

There are many types of friends in question, so they cannot be equated with just one view, if they are only friends when gambling I don't think they are real friends, maybe there are things that allow someone to forget their friends when they get a big win from gambling, usually maybe friends like that often borrow money but never pay back the borrowed money and it is difficult to be charged for that, so avoiding it is the right way to win big. 

It is true that in a circle of friends each has their own personality which perhaps we cannot know if we are just friends and have only been introduced for a year or two, which is different from having been friends since childhood because the personalities are more different, so if you ask why you should avoid it when your friend wins, that is their right as well so There is no need to think of him as a stingy person. There is a reason why we should think positively about him, don't think anything negative.

We need to hear both sides of the story! kidding aside, It's quite difficult to judge since we don't know the possible issues prior the winning break of that person. maybe there's a misunderstanding between them or maybe they are not that close and those friends assume that they are. I don't think a person will avoid you without having any valid reason and for me, if I won a big prize, there's a tendency that I will treat my friends since they are my company during the gambling session.

While some may consider this to be a bad attitude to have towards their friends we do not know what could have pushed this person to take that decision.

As for all we know they could have been justified on their actions and what they did is what any other rational person would have done, as it is easy to take the side of their friends as this is the only information the OP received, but as we know there are always two versions of the same story, and maybe if the OP heard it they will understand why this happened.

Sometimes we have to be people who should not get attached in some way to others, get attached to the fact of considering friends to people who in reality are not just, but are companions, who mainly noticed that what there was was a companion where there was no He had no type of connection with others, merely as playmates, where each one shared a meeting or something like that, because a friend does not really forget the people who have helped him, in part the people who are from this style they have to clarify to others what they are, because if they are like that then you must be very clear so as not to have false expectations, in a casino in anything that is going to be done by risking money, you have to be very clear, obviously They were 3 friends, colleagues, they should have agreed on something first of all, so that any of the 3 when they have a high income of money, then in some way give some percentage and in this way many things are avoided, that is why everything has to be balanced .

What I can conclude from this type of case is that, in addition, they are not family or something that can make them like a connection or a link, this is what you have to see, now, once things are settled in a casino clear because it has to be taken into consideration that whoever of the group wins, since he takes a higher percentage than the others, that is what has to be done when working in a team, group or whatever, although to be However, I would not recommend working as a team, because that is like working in a partnership and that when there is even the slightest incident or misunderstanding, the parties come out torn, if they are friends, or whatever they have, then the money is not worth it. It's a shame that things are going that way, but whenever you are going to deal with what you want, which is money, everything must be discussed, including signing to avoid problems. It is better to sign because only then the word of all parties is preserved. .