Topic: Mentality of Gamblers Before and After Winning - page 2. (Read 1875 times)

It's not just gambling alone; what you said is true. When someone is excited, they can make huge promises to anyone. In this life, we should just learn not to put interest in the promises of someone if not we will get disappointed. What you can do is not say a word to him about the money, just let everything be and be his friend as usual.

If your friend had lost in his bet. You will notice he would stick to you for you to show compassion for him. Funny enough money won in gambling does not last forever, he will spend it all someday and then come back to you.

I have shared with the community before how I stopped gambling and am currently healing from that addiction. However, recently I had an interesting experience with a friend who was just getting started with sports betting (football). He placed small bets on several football matches, and to his excitement he won 10 out of 11 in a combined bet. He was excited and waiting the final match, knowing it would bring him a huge gain. I supported him telling him he would win and he even promised to give me 10% of his earnings if he won that combined bet with around @1400 odds in total.

The match ended with a win and we were both happy. Personally, I wasn't concerned about receiving any money from him as I was more focused on my recovery to not set a bet or deposit ever again. However, the next day my friend avoided me and didn't follow through on his promise even though I wouldn’t have minded if he didn’t.

What I took away from this experience is how the mentality of gamblers can change after a win. The thrill of success often leaves us wanting more and in this case it seemed like my friend was caught in that cycle, as I was feeling before too and he was unable to honor his word probably because he wanted to keep increasing his gains and bet more. It's a reminder that the brain is never truly satisfied when gambling, there's always the desire for more. I believe that friend deserves an advice, but I don’t want to embarrass him myself, is there a good way to talk to him without making him feel that Im indirectly asking him for the money he promised me?

You  wouldn't blame your friend though,  because I myself has made a lot of unfulfilled promise. People get overly excited and make silly promise and failed after making such promise. so in such case I see it as normal. but in some case it reduces a person personality because your words or promise  may not be much valuable or respected by your friends.

Ludomania, as far as I know, is much more difficult to treat than drug addiction and alcoholism. Therefore, you should be extremely careful with this process. At one time, I got caught in these nets and could not get out of them for too long. It was very difficult to give up this habit of playing constantly. I thought that it was simply impossible, but there came a moment when I myself realized that this could not continue. I went through a difficult path of recovery. I still cannot understand how this happened to me.

More precisely the victory that we get that always tempts us to play longer and bigger. We may initially be able to limit ourselves to betting small consistently. But when we get some wins, there is a possibility that the thought grows "If only we bet bigger, the victory that we get would be bigger." you must also often encounter words like that from a gambler.
If we follow the changes that occur, we are trapped by the temptation of the victory that has been obtained.

I don't take seriously the promise of anyone made to me when they are extremely happy, angry or sad. At that point they are not thinking straight their only being emotional and not logical. So it is with the gambler who you are just describe in your story. You shouldn't take it personal and you should just forget about it. Your friend is experiencing the thrills which you once did. But in my estimation, this is not even about your friend but you. You recovering from gambling addiction, you should stay away from triggers if not you risk relapsing which is worse because it will take you a while to become sober again.

Yes, that will depend on how we can limit ourselves to our gambling activities. But people seems not think about that and still breaking their limitation just to chase more winning. They think that playing gambling more can help them to win more money but that will not always happen. They should manage their mental and not follow their greediness because that can makes them lose too much money. Someone can change easily when he wins the money and forget his rules in gambling where he will think that he can win for more. That is why we must always control ourselves and be careful because gambling can tempts us easily.

They don't realize that they will difficult to make them rich because gambling is not the right way. They don't see the loss even if they already lost their money in gambling but they will keep playing gambling without stop. Their mentality change following what happen to them so it is difficult to stop them and make them realize what happen to them. Playing gambling can change everything in our life and when we getting addicted to gambling, that will be worst for us and we will lose everything we have. So we can only be careful when playing gambling and always use the things that we needed so we don't get a problem from gambling.

What I took away from this experience is how the mentality of gamblers can change after a win. The thrill of success often leaves us wanting more and in this case it seemed like my friend was caught in that cycle, as I was feeling before too and he was unable to honor his word probably because he wanted to keep increasing his gains and bet more. It's a reminder that the brain is never truly satisfied when gambling, there's always the desire for more. I believe that friend deserves an advice, but I don’t want to embarrass him myself, is there a good way to talk to him without making him feel that Im indirectly asking him for the money he promised me?

Actually when we can limit ourselves to our gambling activities, everything will be fine. Those who finally have a change of character and become more ambitious about gambling will usually soon experience bad luck in their gambling.
A person's character can change when they get some wins from gambling. Likewise, when they lose in a row, there will be a change from the gambler too. Gamblers who are unable to control themselves are likely to be trapped in the future.

for people who are not prepared for the losses that will occur are people whose mentality will change, the defeats that occur to them can make their mentality become chaotic such as a sense of wanting to recover the losses that previously occurred and this only leads them to become an addict by not being able to stop gambling like you said that, just like when they win, if they still have the thought that they can get a bigger win then gambling will be difficult to stop.
The mentality of gamblers that usually occurs is that they are not ready to lose and that makes them experience stress, with the many cases that have occurred when they cannot accept defeat their mentality will be destroyed and affect their common sense so it is not strange that there are people who become stressed or crazy because of excessive gambling.

Most friends are like that all talk but no Doings, just friends should be followed with wisdom. But still if he didn't promise anything I wouldn't have blame him or anything because he where the one that took the risk there are chances if for instance he endup loss there won't be anyone that will compensate him , but the fact still remains that he promise to share some wins with his friends or may be he made that statement just to light up the moment he didn't actually mean what he said .

Most friends are like that all talk but no Doings, just friends should be followed with wisdom. But still if he didn't promise anything I wouldn't have blame him or anything because he where the one that took the risk there are chances if for instance he endup loss there won't be anyone that will compensate him , but the fact still remains that he promise to share some wins with his friends or may be he made that statement just to light up the moment he didn't actually mean what he said .

That's the way I see it as well and it should not be limited to gambling, it's just the nature of the friend. If it is in another aspect of life too, the same might happen. I can only warn the OP not to trust that kind of a friend with any financial dealings, such can cheat you or even do the worse, we see and hear of ugly cases all around. I don't know why people are so stinging when it comes to money, especially the money you've already promised the person. I wonder if he will never finish spending it.

Promises could really be happening on the moment that you are on extreme joy or on the moment that you are on a good situation specially when you do make money or having those winnings. You will really be able to say up such thing into other people and promising out whether on giving out some part of the winnings or will really be that giving some bonuses at the time that it is really that currently happening. We are just humans and there are really those moments or times that you will be that skeptical on trying out to believe if there are those people who do make out some promises on the moment that they are at drunk or in the influence of alcohol or liqour.

When we are on such state then we cant be able to think up well on what we are saying up into our words on which at the time that you will be going back to normal then you will be able to realize that you have said such thing but not all will really be running into their promises and there are ones who do stood their ground and do follow on what they had promised. It be just that depending into someones principle because not all will be having that the same mindset and behavior into various things.If you are a friend whose been saying about a part % of profits be given then better not to take it seriously.

They don't realize that they will difficult to make them rich because gambling is not the right way. They don't see the loss even if they already lost their money in gambling but they will keep playing gambling without stop. Their mentality change following what happen to them so it is difficult to stop them and make them realize what happen to them. Playing gambling can change everything in our life and when we getting addicted to gambling, that will be worst for us and we will lose everything we have. So we can only be careful when playing gambling and always use the things that we needed so we don't get a problem from gambling.

Op, The promise your friend gave you before winning i.e. 10% profit is most likely kidding you and making false promises. Because of big profit ie made false promises to you and later cut off contact with you. Such constant incidents like yours happen very often and not only in gambling but in all profitable events such false promises and in reality after receiving the profit or benefit do not act as promised.

The sad reality is that most people expect gambling to make them rich. Losing is not even in their minds, as they are focused solely on winning. That is why we see so many gamblers drowning in debt because they can’t accept defeat and constantly chase after a win. Unfortunately, instead of reaching their goal, they end up losing even more. This is the wrong mindset because we all know that gambling can never be a reliable source of income.
Putting pressure on ourselves leads nowhere other than frustration. Many people don’t become addicted to gambling because they are always winning instead, they become addicted because they keep losing and are desperate to win back their money.

It happens even when the person is not excited that promises get tougher to fulfill as the day creeps by. His friend may have all he said in mind, and also tells himself that the money would get to Op someday, maybe when next he wins. Sometimes, it's better to be happy for the assurance, regardless of the delay in making it happen.

Unfortunately, many gamblers are not masters of their word, and they sincerely want to quit gambling and switch their attention to something more useful, but they can’t. And I feel sorry for such people. Unfortunately, the words of an inveterate gambler, like an alcoholic, cannot be trusted. They are ready to swear by anything, threaten or beg, and this will be an unpleasant sight. Often, their loved ones who are codependent or simply forced to live with them because of the impossibility of changing their place of residence suffer from this. And only an experienced specialist can help here, which is now very difficult to find, and they are very expensive.