Topic: Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ? (Read 1900 times)

Well, I am one of the people who , if a person supports himself with money from gambling, from these sports, or something like that, well, I just respect him, I don't know, but there are people who make a living doing things that others can't and I think that A person who does what very few do can deserve to earn a lot of money, so if it is Something simple that Everyone can do , then the Payment should not be high, it should be low, but if the money comes from something like gambling, sports betting, yes it is within the range of legality for me it is fine , it is not bad , I think that is Something I respect, because it has agreed to obtain profits and money from activities that are highly risky, I personally would not do it Because for Me , Earning income from the casino or from sports betting would leave it in the background , because I know that it is very difficult to win and also you can lose everything instead of winning.

So when we are in full action, Being able to be in a casino to win or lose , well , we must accept what is not given at that moment, then I say that the husband of a woman who does that and does well, I don't see that there is problem, with such, the duty as a man is to be able to bring money to the house so that they can have the comforts, and now it is clear to the woman if she wants to work then welcome, but the duty is that the one who wants to have her things must have money Because you don't live on love alone, you have to have knowledge, and if it is something that you do well , then it is something that should be respected and if you have money from it, then you have to repeat it and encourage the man, because he In most cases the people who are in this what they have are losses and losses, but if they got the hang of winning, we have to support them, not just do this type of things, that's why when we see that there are people who win life in a different way and without harming anyone, well, you are welcome, right? co ta is not taking Anaide's money ,  she is playing and she is Lucky.

Usually people who do consider out gambling to be a substitute for a job are those people who are just that too lazy or really just that delusional that they've been thinking that gambling could really make their lives
sustainable which its really just that a dumb idea to have and you would really be putting yourself at great trouble on which there's no way that you could really be able to make yourself that successful into this field since we know that gambling is really just that for fun and not for money making or having that income. People do usually end up miserable because they are really that believing on something which cant really be that possible. Getting into the point that your wife or husband tells you to quit up then its up to you whether you would really be that following those things or not.
They would really be saying up those things if they have seen that it is really that greatly affecting out your finances.

Once finances been affected then we do know on what are the things that would come up next. There's no good on speaking about financial expenses and this is via gambling which
it would really be having that toll on which it would be normal that they would be having that kind of approach.

It's not easy to give up gambling, but he should be able to think clearly and start reducing his gambling activities, especially since the person asking him to stop gambling is his future wife. He must be able to convince himself to stop gambling, especially if his future wife can convey her concerns if her future husband still frequently gambles so that her future husband can know the exact reason. It would be even better if his future wife could support him in starting to reduce his gambling activities until he completely stops gambling because it is all for the future of his household. There must be a discussion for both of them so that they can understand each other's goals of marriage so that they can run their household well.

This is the thing which everyone should know that from gambling you will earn only one or two time but not for the whole life like a job. I don't know why people are more interested in gambling than job even they know the risk and harmful effect but they wants to enter into such a field which has no future. There are numerous jobs if you cannot get a government job then try to be a part of at least private job because job is much better than to gamble and loss your money and career.

Leaving gambling is not easy but if one think with deep knowledge about the negative effects of gambling then he can do it therefore one should not gamble as gambling is not only creating an alarming situations for him but also his family is suffering from it. A wise man in always trying to make his family happy but those who have no intellectual ability will not change even after getting married.

That's lame, and you don't sound like a responsible man who can take care of a family, so the first thing that comes to my mind after reading your post is who would marry you in the first place if that is your mindset? Who in their right senses would ask their wife to supply all their needs if she is asking him to stop gambling? Are you out of your mind? Gambling is not a source of income, and if you take it that way, you should know that you are going to suffer in your life in the future.

You can't just sit at home and gamble while having no other work or business or a proper source of income after you get married. When you get into that relationship, you are expected to provide for them and if you fail to do that, they have every right to ask you to stop doing something which is taking a lot of your time and money while they are living a miserable life with you.

Making money in gambling is not guaranteed. Basically, the purpose of your gambling is to make it your source of income, maybe it's better if you find a stable job if you're after a way to provide your needs. Let's state the fact that you can really make a huge amount of money in gambling if you're lucky enough. However, in gambling, no one can always win.

If this is your viewpoint, you're just making it hard not only for yourself but also for your wife. You should realize that gambling will not provide your needs, the earlier you realize this, the better.

Because in my own opinion it is also unethical to support a family or wife with money from gambling,  maybe there are also wives who support their husbands to continue gambling, but if they don't have a large income like that it will make it difficult for them someday, it's better to find a job or start a business even with small capital is not a problem, because if done correctly it will definitely develop over time.
Not to mention that if they are addicted, which of course will be difficult to get rid of the addiction that has been attached to their brains, and of course if they continue to gamble until old this is not a good thing, because it can bring problems every time because with a high desire to gamble it can have a bad impact on other people, wives, or their own families.

Maybe you need to find a job that can make money so that you don't wait for money from gambling because you already know that gambling is not a place to make money. Gambling is a place to have fun and spend money and after that, we must immediately leave gambling before our money is completely gone. If you instead want your wife to provide money for gambling, it depends on mutual agreement but usually, a wife doesn't want to do that because providing money is her husband's obligation. A wife will manage the money given to her by her husband so that she can meet her daily needs. But everything will come back to each gambler because they will determine what the decision is.

The way you feel about gambling and your wife's financial help seems selfish. Gambling is risky, and most of the time you lose more than you win. Depending on it for most of your income is uncertain and puts stress on your relationship. You can't expect your wife to pay off all your gambling bills. If you're not one of the top 0.1% players, gambling should never be your main source of income. It's just fun with risks and benefits; it's not a good way to make money. There are a lot of people who have lost a lot for every person who has won.

Why not focus on more stable and profitable ways to make money? You listed other business hobbies. Why not take those paths seriously? Businesses can give more stable and predictable results than gambling if they are run well.You and your partner need to talk to each other and help each other out. Instead of asking your wife for money to support a risky habit, why not work with her to make a plan for your money? Part of this plan could be to save money, trade it, and find other ways to make money. Working together to reach financial goals can make your relationship stronger and help you plan for the future.

This can only be possible if the person happens to have other business being established that are giving them enough money to take finance the family, there are other people who solely depends on gambling to feeds and earn a living, and there are people who took it as full time jobs their function is to constantly predicts games and sales to people who wants to gamble. This types of people do not regularly gamble but maybe with how often their games are played if the sold to people who keeps playing their games then they will decides to gamble in few of their prediction but that doesn't mean their spouse would entirely stops them from what is putting food in their table.

Let me draw our attention and renew our mindset concerning gambling, naturally gambling is not a bad thing what makes gambling looks very bad is when you starts going against the gambling ethics, like becoming an addicts in a way you can no long control yourself toward it or people who don't play's it responsible are the people giving out this impression that gambling is bad. For instance, when you are hungry you go get yourself food to eat and after eaten to your satisfaction you don't keep eating otherwise it would cause another sickness to yourself because of excessive feeding which would either leads you to constantly vomiting that need a cur for it, so is everything in life.

There's no way a woman should supply all your needs for a man that you are except for an irresponsible that will sit comfortable while a woman be supplying all his needs. Dwelling in the mirage ambition of stopping gambling only when you get a huge sum win the result will be that you will never stop gambling base on how there's no assurance of getting a lump sum win in a game of luck.

Don't hang your dreams of opening your own business through money you are to win from gambling you can be disappointed in the waiting. Fine tone other means to make money as there are plenty of means you can make the kind of money you're looking forward to come from gambling.  The build up is that you can eventually get into addiction relying on gambling as a source to achieve your dream.

Thank you for saying it clearly what I've just said, people are still on the fence on this one issue when there's already a clear answer to all of this which is quitting gambling for good, that's not really a difficult question to be pondering on so I don't know why it's hard for many of these people to quit it. Broken family due to gambling is probably the worst case scenario but most of the time, if the gambling habit isn't that bad then we can probably see just major problems in the household but will escalate if no resolution is reached.

If she can supply all my needs, I will stop gambling because am doing it for money purpose which I know that if I make some money from my gambling, I will definitely stop it one day and focus with other business activities like the way some people in my area that made huge amount of money from their betting and established a big business that is bringing income daily. The only way my wife can stop me from gambling is to promise that she will be there for me with any amount of money I want, because I know that she will not be capable of doing that and I will continue with my gambling, and start looking for way to win something that will make her not to disturb me another day. Never you be addicted to gambling, because there is no way your wife can stop you not to be gamble because it has enter your brain and it can cause you so many things that will make you to regret why you are addicted to gambling.

You are correct. When the person who is gambling has self control, he will not be a problem for family at all.

There are two cases here, when someone is gambling and control himself and rhe other case when someone is addicted to gambling and that act is really harming his family financially or even emotionally where he get to a point of throwing the anger on his partner or even kids.
Both cases should be treated carefully and both sides find a solution,. In my own perspective, the first case where the gambler is controlling his acts and only gambling for fun like most of us here, if my wife ask me to stop gambling I will explain to her what I'm actually doing is only having fun and if the wife agreed it's great, if not I would probably just stop gambling and do something else to have fun.

While in the case of addiction, the gambler should really accept the fact that he is harming himself first and also his partne, thinking wisely that person should seek for help from a professional or an expert. The only solution IMO is to stop otherwise the partner has full right to end the relationship to avoid a lot of harming.

Yes I agree with you. About the different points of view of each person, but it seems unethical to make gambling the main income in life, because this will affect our lives in the future, even though there is a lot of parental wealth so that we can continue to gamble in my opinion it is shameful, if gambling with endless parental wealth they should be ashamed. And they should think about finding a permanent job instead of gambling, this habit must be abandoned when they are going to marry their partner, because this habit can have a harmful impact that will destroy their relationship with their partner. Because in my opinion, it is also wrong to make gambling the main income in life, it is better to find a permanent job that has activities that will certainly make us happy with the job rather than gambling that can spend all the money they have.

Well if gambling cause a lot of financial damage to your family then this activity must be stop since this can cause a lot of trouble which can possibly the main reason why husband and wife separates. But if you are fine doing this activity for fun only well that's good but we also need to consider our priorities and we need to think that gambling is not forever so we need to know on when to quit so that we can priorities those important happening in our life.

Our kids would provably need us so there might be no timeline for us to quit but for sure one day we will just decide that enough is enough since we need to change our priority and we need to step up for the betterment of our future. Family would be the main reason why gamblers quit so its just each of us here just have different timeline.

Rightly said it depends on the situation and if gambling is leading to bad financial loss and thinking about your family, it is a good option to quit. Here it becomes very difficult to find source of income, if luck is good it is possible to win once but it will not happen again and again. There is no real alternative to making money in gambling so it is better to find other ways to make money other than gambling where the risk is much lower. You can get rid of negative influences easily.

This seems as a very important factor in relationship, to talk openly about what we like and what we want to do for fun. Money shouldn't be the main concern when talking about what we like to do for fun, because almost anything costs money these days. Going out for drinks or a movie or visiting a museum, all cost money and time. As long as we are not addicted to gambling and it's not our main focus in life there shouldn't be any issues. It's one thing for our wife or girlfriend to have the same interest as us, and something complete different to accept that everybody is unique and has his own interest. In a good relationship the wife should be understanding and accept our gambling instead of trying to change us. This includes of course that our life is in order and we are not struggling with an addiction or have financial issues because of gambling. It should be something we do for fun in the evening after work and as long as there is no other important things to do before. When kids are involved it might be more difficult to find the free time as we don't want to gamble in front of our kids. I would recommend to not keep gambling a secret and talk openly about it with friends and family. They will support you if things are getting worse and can give also some outside advice that we might not see ourselves.

Congratulations on viewing gambling as fun rather than addiction. Balance is critical in everything, including gambling and relationships. You enjoy gambling, but involving your wife may not be a good idea. We all have distinct interests, so respect them in relationships. While sharing hobbies is fun, its important to keep your own. Making gambling a choice, not an expectation, will let your wife enjoy it. Communicating is crucial. Discuss your gambling pastime with her, but respect her feelings and boundaries.

Remember, relationships require mutual support. Be willing to support her interests, even if they differ from yours, as you would hers. To understand and respect each other. Consider how long-term family secrets affect you. Secrets regarding gambling might cause trust concerns.