Topic: Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ? - page 7. (Read 1900 times)

Those who are addicted to gambling will not be able to see gambling as entertainment but rather as a way to make money or a way to get pleasure. And even though they have had that pleasure, they don't stop and instead use more money to gamble. Many gamblers face this when they have difficulty deciding when to stop gambling because they have no other activities to do so they feel that by gambling, they can spend their time well even though that is not the case. When they lose at gambling, they will become emotional and not be able to think clearly so that will cause them to be even more eager to play and winning may not be their ultimate goal. Maybe they just want to get longer pleasure by gambling but can experience huge losses if they don't realize it.

But it will be difficult if they continue to gamble because of the need for their family because it will only waste all the money for their family. And when the money runs out, they cannot meet their family's needs and maybe they will borrow money from friends even though if they didn't gamble, they wouldn't need to borrow money. They really need to change their mindset not to use gambling to make money and look for jobs that can pay them.


If parents can still supervise their children well, their children can live well and won't cause any problems so their lives will also be fine. And when we are married, our focus should be on our family because they are a source of entertainment for us and we don't need to gamble. We can spend time with them and enjoy anything so we will never think about gambling. But the reality is that there are still people who hide their gambling activities to the point where they cannot control themselves. If they can control themselves while gambling, even if they gamble secretly, it will not be a problem because they will gamble moderately and not exceed their limits. But it would be better if they could stop gambling because after all, we can lose self-control one day so it can trigger excessive use of money and ultimately disrupt our financial position.

I don't think gambling addiction is in the blood and can be inherent to your kids. Though they are in a state of addiction, still we remember that they are still human beings and have feelings which means that they can still feel love.

In fact, I have a friend of mine where also addicted to gambling but when he became married, all of his addiction was gone just because he loved his wife and family. So I believe that someone can be changed depending on their approach and of course, on how they see their future when having a family already.

This is a matter of understanding, i believe if you're in a relationship with your partner, both of you were expected to know each other well and better right before getting married because you will both liveroge with each other for life, there's no how you will then both court together, then later get married and yet you're claiming you didn't know somethings about your partner being a gambler, except if you're both not sincere with each other, these are the occasions ad a single example that can led to someone close to you demands you to quit gambling without explanation.

Yes, there's no such thing about being perfect and even lets say that you are really that getting in line with your own principle and following strictly to it then it would really be your choice but you should really be knowing on how to project things in your mind on what are the potential effects or whatsoever things that might happen if you do really push through, whether it would really be worth it or not. We do know that there are really decisions that cant really be taken back and this is why it would really be always that recommended that you should really know to balance things whether its worth or not. In this case on which we are pertaining about
your wife telling on quitting or husband even its just that tentative then it would be your choice to follow or not but if you have decided to stick with your own preference and liking then you do know on whats next.

There are really that indeed things that needs to be sacrificed or needs to be leaved behind if you do want to be together that on someone that you do love. Ego and principles arent that bad
to be that set aside for sometimes because once you do miss out that one important thing then you might really be ending up on having that forever regret of your life on which
you would really be wishing the time could turn back on trying out to correct the things that you do have done.

Marriage is a mutual understanding between two parties mainly a man and a woman who have agreed to live together happily as husband and wife. By this definition you can see that when two people agrees to live together, their thoughts for each other are meant to be respected as it requires the opinion of each other to grow and achieve positive results.

Inasmuch as addictive gambling is not advisable, it is important that if one's partner suggest that you should quit gambling for some cogent reasons I think their opinion should be regarded. Gambling isn't bad but ones approach towards gambling is what is bad.

Gambling is what gives me joy, and if my partner asks me to leave it, I am sure she will have a reason for that, and if it’s understandable, then I can just stop gambling and get another thing that gives me joy, or I can just tell her that I am going to reduce the way I gamble. I will make sure we come to a conclusion. I know some people will say their girlfriend or wife can’t stop them from gambling, but it’s just bad. You should always give your partner a listening ear. She has her own reason for asking you to stop gambling, so you have to listen to her and hear what she is going to say.


Maybe those people haven’t fallen in love before, when you are in love, you can do everything for your partner. I have seen people stop drinking alcohol just because their girlfriend is against it, the only way that can make the relationship work is for the guy to stop drinking. And gradually, the guy stopped drinking. There are things you just have to sacrifice just because you don’t want to lose your partner, but if you are not really in love with the person, then you might not listen to them.

We already know it within our selves if we have been over gambling or not, so we should stop it ASAP and it shouldn't get to a point that our partner or any other people will noticed it. Though most of the times, that is the case that happens. They need encouragement from others because they can't control their own selves. Totally quitting gambling is hard so I think we can try to lessen our gambling activity first.

This should give us less stress and we can remain this way because at least we can still play gambling even if not at all the time. No good partner will let them see their partner struggling. So as long as you already have one, I'm sure you will be assisted.

This is true is more like a lady who was trained by a father who smokes or drinks and she never had a relationship in that direction, so if she involves herself with a man who does that in marriage then it is a problem because people can pretend on that but at the end they start showing their real character.

This is how marriage and gambling is. I know of a guy who gamble but the wife never knew before she married him so that guy do gambling in secret and hid it from the wife because if she catches him on it, that will amount to big problem in the home.

This is the reason why sometimes it is important to take other people opinion also before making any section. There perspective can be different as they might  be seeing something that we have ignored.

Just for the record,  I am already married and I was cool with everything about my wife before I married her,  and she is cool with me too which is why we never had any problems all the years-long and up until now we have left and accepted each other the way we are and tried to manage ourselves around it, sometimes it may sound wired to others the kinds of things our spouse take as long as it does not interfere with our family life and responsibilities,  most times the reason why there may be a crisis in the home is when one allows his or her pleasure to affect the other spouse then you may have problems within the family I gamble and my wife knows about it and sometimes when I place a bet on a club,  I also inform her so that we can watch the games together.

Gambling I understand is a very important engagement of people and that I don't have any issues with but comparing gambling to the demands of one's spouse I think is somehow insensitive.
Different people were raised from different families and there are families whereby kids are raised to eschew gambling and everything that has to do gambling because they believe that gambling is vice that has rendered many useless and stopped them from achieving their life potentials. You don't expect anyone who's raised in such kind of home to accept gambling as their spouse's primary or secondary life engagement. So it's either you accept not to continue with gambling or never even try to get married to such people.

It's not just about the wagers; it's also about the excitement, the entertainment, the lights, and the noises. However, the truth is that your future wife is probably expressing anxiety for a reason. She might have observed something you haven't, or she might simply be concerned about the future. She's worth listening to in either case.

The question you must ask yourself is "Do I love gambling more than I love her?" if she is urging you to stop. Even if it's a challenging question, you must provide an answer. Some people are able to successfully juggle their love of amusing online gambling with their interpersonal connections, but not everyone can. Priorities, priorities, priorities are the key. It's your decision whether you want to put your relationship at jeopardy for the thrill of the game. But keep in mind that love is also a gamble, and there are moments when stepping away from the cards to concentrate on what really matters is worthwhile.

People often say that people addicted to gambling and alcohol never know how to love and care for anyone in their hearts. No matter how many explanations they have, they only justify their wrong actions. Gambling addiction is in the blood. Do you believe that? Once the blood of gambling appears in any man or woman, it will take root, germinate, and overwhelm reason, conscience, and humanity. Especially for female gamblers, only brainwashing or blood transfusion can change. I say it's so severe that their ability to quit gambling is a challenge, even if their spouse advises them. If a person is truly addicted, it will be tough to stop.

People on the outside might think its just about quitting cold turkey, but its never that simple, is it? The mind of someone who's addicted isnt thinking logically. To them, gambling is oxygen, and advice becomes mere background noise. The saddest part? The denial. Oh, the denial! They're wrapped up in this bubble thinking everything's okay, but its not. Its really not.

However, its not just the personal cost; relationships deteriorate, trust vanishes. Its like a domino effect! And you nailed it: professional help becomes vital. This isnt just about willpower; its a systematic restructuring of one's psyche. Addiction blinds you, but with the right guidance, one might see the light. Professionals can tear down that wall of denial and help them see the real cost of their actions. Its not easy, but its necessary.

It is true. When gambling already becomes a part of our life, it is difficult to stop it forever. That's why only few people who want to consider quitting gambling. For the gamblers who can get entertainment or fun from gambling, it seems like it has become a necessity. So, they can't be separated easily, they need a strong effort and intention to leave it. I assume, many people do gambling is like they smoke cigarettes.

Well, for the gamblers who stop gambling because of their family, it is a big challenge. I appreciate the people who can succeed in that way. We can't blame them, gambling isn't something a must. When you can't gamble in a proper way, quitting is surely the wright decision. But when we can gamble in the proper way, I assume it won't be a problem to keep gambling.

Tell it to your wife when you cross the bridge already.

To be honest, your decision at the moment might probably change in the future especially if your relationship is at stake. Your future wife might not be against with gambling if she sees nothing to worry about but if she can sense that your gambling habit might be heading into addiction, for sure she will really stop you as much as she can. Do not underestimate the instincts of women as they can really see things ahead more than us men.

However, the final decision is still yours. Do not leave gambling if you think there is nothing wrong with what you are doing. But I suggest, if you value your wife more than your gambling habit, then you should try to talk with her about it. Make her understand your case. In the end, both of you should come up with a mutual decision, and it's not like your decision will always dominate over hers. Because if that will be your mindset, your wife will never stay by your side in the end.

Once your partner is asking you to stop and leave the gambling, it shows that there's something wrong in your behavior and attitude or it depends on your partner's perspective when it comes to gambling. If you're not addicted to gambling, I think you can easily quit without any hesitation and you don't have to ask this because you can stop it even if your partner is not asking and complaining. the effect of gambling on a marriage can be devastating, it can destroy your partner's trust and can also ruin your finances, and put your family in harm's way.

Maybe in their minds gambling is an activity that is not good to do, so they ask you about it. And what they actually think is that gambling will bring a life full of misery, especially if they are addicted, it is very difficult for them to just accept it. And this must be discussed carefully with your partner, if you then continue to gamble, but with the condition that you must be under control when gambling and I don't think that will be a problem in the future.

Yes because its easy to answer that if you are not addicted since you can easily quiet without any hesitation, unlike if you are really in worst situation where you can beat all the odds just to gamble for sure quitting is really a big problem since you would provably not listen to any advice given to you since what you always think is to gamble. We are surely get affected in all aspect with that condition including the relationship to our love ones since denial stage might come up and we always think about we are fine and they should not worry about on what we are doing. At this stage I think we need professional help since for sure a addicted person cannot cut off easily his activity even if her wife ask him to leave gambling and by the help of professionals he can be totally get aided then understand that what he is doing is totally excessive and destructive to any person near him.

If indeed they are still in their addiction and have not been able to stop or just reduce then yes, they will definitely do as you said, when the money runs out or the gambling at that time ends in defeat then they will get emotional and after the impact of emotions then they will look for ways to be able to deposit again even though for example they have run out of money but as we know those who are addicted have many ways and will even justify all means just to be able to gamble. Borrowing from the closest people? yes it is very possible and also sell their valuables. The point is for those who are already addicted, almost all of their mindsets have been dominated by lust and selfish feelings, even though on the other hand other people are the same, I mean anyone can never escape defeat and that is gambling where the system has been set up so that defeat always dominates them. So the only way for you not to get emotional is to become a responsible gambler by accepting all the risks, and you have to apply that mindset from the start.

Well the push of necessity is also very likely to be the reason for them to keep gambling, when they have a family then the needs will increase and they will think of looking for victory in gambling in order to fulfill everything, it's not wrong because the intention is good but I say they are misplaced.

Therefore, maybe you also know that every parent always instills good habits from childhood, such as telling us to start saving and saving, none other than money is also to realize our wishes someday, and it is a very good way of financial management. And it will be very useful when we are adults, whether it's for our own financial management or when we are married. Especially when we are married then as much as possible we should be able to manage our financial allocation by not buying something that is not really needed as I said at the beginning. What is quite concerning is when our finances are below average but there are many responsibilities that we must fulfill, such as those who are married and also on the other hand they are still gambling, honestly I can't imagine how your economy will be there. Difficulties will continue to attack you in that position and even I think you will also be confused to think about what to eat tomorrow, there is probably they will just leave a lot of debt there. So there really is no other way, you better stop doing this harmful activity, it's useless and it will only cause a lot of problems for your own family, I'm sure you can change and get out of gambling.