Topic: Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ? - page 6. (Read 1900 times)

I think it's easy to share gambling with a girlfriend but it can be difficult to share with a life partner. Because girlfriends can give me some concessions for various reasons but life partners or wives most of the time will not want to do that. I have met many friends who gamble but they never want to share gambling with their wives. Because they think that if their wives come to know about gambling, they can prevent them from gambling. Moreover, since gambling is not viewed in a good side everywhere, everyone tries to hide it as much as possible. The main point here is that everyone who gambles wants to continue gambling because of which they are not willing to share with anyone. If someone advice to leave gambling after knowing the fact, I think most of the gamblers will not follow that advice.

Not everyone can share their gambling feelings with their wives. Many are afraid that this could become a trigger for immediate separation. But in general, I agree with you, because it is better to talk about it, because if this is not done, it may be revealed when we may have large debts or problems. Although if a person loves another, he will go through these problems with him. This is, to some extent, a test of the strength of marriage and stresstest. As for me, I don't tell my wife about my little gambling games.

I always think that its best to start sharing how you feel, what habits you have to your partner even when in your proper relationship. Marriages are obviously lot more important. I personally observe people hide their gambling habits mainly to avoid getting shamed by their partners and even parents. I always tell my girlfriend that I sometimes do sports betting, I find it very fun, and I like to make money through gambling. I even describe how I feel. She likes it.

This is why it is good to share your likes and dislikes, your hubby and everything that makes you happy with your spouse to be, before entering into marriage. If you have habits that are hard to stop like gambling, smoking, alcoholic, die hard fan of a particular sport, it's good to be sincere and tell your partner before saying "i do". If the partner doesn't like what you do or share in what really makes you happy, then it's best to reconsider entering the marriage. Because little details that one might  overlook will became a big problem tomorrow in the marriage. So if your partner is OK with your gambling before entering into marriage, then that is an agreement that should be honoured, but if a spouse suddenly starts hating the gambling after entering marriage, then it'll have to come down to dialogue and making compromises. If the spouse presents reasonable facts to leave  gambling, then it's best to consider and leave it, so that peace can reign in the home. But the partner that doesn't want gambling has to exercise patience and have tolerance,, because it's not easy to just leave a habit overnight.

It should be like that, but to be able to eliminate 90% of greed requires very strong assertiveness, while in gambling almost everything there is filled with temptation, so it is indeed a pretty tough task to do. Therefore, I honestly don't really believe that there are some people who are already addicted who will be able to eliminate their greed by applying very strict self-control, some of them succeed too but usually they fail. But on the other hand it's the only way to prevent bigger negative impacts from happening. In my opinion, only stupid and lazy people work who are determined to support their children and wives from gambling, of course it will never work because they only rely on luck there, so maybe the term if they are unlucky in gambling then they will not be able to eat at home haha. While on the other hand luck will only come once in a while from many trials, just try to imagine. So indeed back again buddy, nothing is better unless you stop doing this harmful activity, remember you have a family which means you already have a lot of responsibilities, so instead of being busy with gambling you better think about how to stop. Consider a lot of advice from other people and it's better to find another job that is more reasonable and promising.

That's true, in every marriage listing to the wife is very important because that's one of things that fuels every marital home and in a situation were a man doesn't value the opinion of his wife that's when there ban to be misunderstanding and could lead to a serious arguments.

So just like you said if my wife ask me to leave gambling there must be a reason why she said so, although I no that women are known to be people who doesn't have passion for gambling or even like most persons who gamble because most of them believe that gambling are only meant for irresponsible people that's one of the mindset they normally have, so perhaps if that would be the reason why my wife will ask me to stop gambling, I will first consider what gambling meant for me and if perhaps gambling has done me more good than harm, if so I will have to decline her request because gambling has been of a great help but if however you have been losing instead of wining it will be better listening to our wife that says we should stop.

They must be able to eliminate their greed from within themselves, which means suppressing that feeling of greed so that it doesn't get bigger so that they won't lose a lot of money while gambling. But whatever it is, they better think about supporting their children and wives in other ways and not through gambling because they won't always be able to bring money home. But if they can try other ways, they can make money for their children and wives, which is better than using gambling. Financial management for the family must be a priority in their lives after they get married because they will be together all their lives and spend their time together. And if they use their money to gamble where they can lose money, it will disrupt their financial position and later, they will find it difficult to support their families.

Agreement between husband and wife after living their domestic life is very necessary so that there is unity between them in living their days in their household. They can also support each other and work together well in running their household to avoid serious problems. But if a husband or wife still gambles and even spends money on their family, sooner or later, problem after problem will arise and they will find it difficult to solve these problems. Family is more important than gambling, so a husband or wife who still gambles must think more about the interests of their family than just gambling because that is their family's life.

Even though it is private, if they are married, their partner might know what they are doing in terms of gambling. They could tell us to stop gambling because gambling can cause us to lose large amounts of money and we don't realize it and that is true. And even though we reason that we can take good care of ourselves and always limit our gambling, they may not be able to accept it, especially if they have seen the bad consequences of gambling. They don't want their partner to be like that because they are now married and living together. For this reason, it would be better for partners who are still gambling to think that family is the most important thing in their lives now that they are married. They must prioritize their family over gambling, which is only for entertainment, even though they can do many other entertainments.

Everyone should respect the other people privacy,So both get respected in the equal way.If your future wife doesn’t like the gambling means,You can do the convince of playing for the less time period.If she still strict at their option,you can say he you quit the game and play the gambling in the secret way.Because playing is your right,So your friend or wife can’t force you to stop the game.If she again find the secret play by you and fight on you means,it will spoil your smooth relationship between you and your wife.It is not easy to quit the gambling immediately after playing over certain period of time.

Well everything will come back to the caution and vigilance they have prepared and of course it will be very useful if they are firm in applying it every time they gamble, not tempted by any temptation there and also with a little getting rid of their greed, it would be better so that they end up with a normal feeling without any regret or disappointment due to bad conditions there. Management will be a very necessary thing in terms of balancing in any condition, including when we are married and have a big responsibility to provide for our children and wife, of course all expenses must be really considered and not let us buy something that is not necessary, because obviously in such conditions there will be many other more important needs. Therefore it is very appropriate to say that if you are a gambler then as much as possible you should try to get out of the zone, not gambling if it does not require a capital budget while on the other hand you have other interests, namely a family that must be prioritized, then yes it is better to change our mindset in gambling by slightly reducing or still considering that this is just an activity for entertainment only so that you will not overdo it in gambling.

It is true, therefore from both spouses they must be able to establish an agreement and not to hide anything from their gambling to one of the spouses because in the household they will live together and that means they will need each other and exchange solutions to any problems. So it's better to just be honest with each other, especially if it's a financial problem which is very likely the impact of gambling will worsen your finances with your family and you will live in shortages there. Indeed, family is more important than anything, you or they must be able to defeat your sense of ego and greed to remain firm to avoid gambling or just reduce it is okay buddy. It's okay if you want to gamble but it must be with strong self-control so that you stay under control.

If they can be alert or control themselves while gambling, it will not negatively influence them, especially for newly married couples because they are committed to always being careful with their spending. Someone who gambles just for fun will always try to use gambling as entertainment and will not try to chase winnings because they know they are using money that will be used for their family. They will try to limit themselves in gambling so that nothing bad will happen after they finish gambling. They will not allow themselves to become addicted to gambling because they can take good care of themselves with these restrictions.

If their partner sees what they are doing is wrong, they will remind their partner that this is starting to be wrong and must stop immediately. And people who only gamble for entertainment will soon realize this so they will start trying to reduce their gambling activities. They will prioritize their family over their desire for pleasure because they know they can get pleasure from other things.

I think there are two assumptions from them or their intentions when they just came to gambling, first maybe it's still reasonable as you said they came just for fun and to fill spare time, and secondly there are also those who deliberately come to look for income from winning, no other than they can assume like that because they have seen some wins from other people or even from their own close friends. But in my opinion, even if they come just for fun, it will not always be able to rule out the possibility that one day they will become addicted, maybe you also know that gambling really involves a great sensation when winning and that means that if they are too serious in responding to that pleasure then they want to keep playing and over time it is very likely that they will enter into addiction without realizing it, and also may not care too much about the money they spend as long as they can feel that kind of pleasure again, and eventually they will enter into a cycle of addiction that usually does not accept defeat and continues to seek victory.

But well that's just a possibility that is worried about, if indeed they can keep their limits well then maybe it will not enter the addiction stage, depending on the person too. Basically, the impact of gambling is great so it's better to reduce it from now on, it's better friends.

Even myself would definitely do the same thing on which making those sacrifices wont really be that much of an issue or a big deal as long you do make your partner in life to be happy.
There are really things which you wont really be able to get along specially if you have entered that marriage life on which there are really things which you would really be needing to get rid of
if you do want to have a happy life on which we know that it isnt something that could really be an issue but if you are that someone who cant resist on playing gambling then it would really be your choice and dont really wait up for the situation that you would really be needing to make out such choice which its really that hard.

If you cant really be able to quit  gambling then prepare on losing your loved ones or your wife to be. You do have the choice because you know that once women is fed up
then she would definitely be leaving you on which this had been the case for those couple who do have that misunderstanding or argument about things.

When I got married, I signed up for peace in my home and I would under the right circumstances, reason, and logic give up gambling if it makes my partner uncomfortable and if it is threatening the stability of my marital life. It is a small sacrifice that I would make without thinking twice bout it.

On the other hand, of their purpose of telling me to quit gambling doesn't come from a place of purpose, logic, and not under the right circumstances, then I will resist it.

There are some gamblers who become overly addicted. They may be addicted to either gambling or alcohol. But some say gambling can be even more deadly than alcohol. Be it male or female, once he becomes addicted, it is very difficult to get him back. I cannot agree with the statement that gambling is in people's blood because I have seen many people who do not have gambling in their family but one member has become such a gambler that he cannot be controlled. But in some sense gambler's family is more likely to be a gambler. It is very easy to get involved in gambling but it is definitely a difficult task to quit. No one can quit gambling easily.

Well said. When a gambler goes to extreme limits of his gambling addiction. And his family will suffer from that, then it is natural that the gambler's family, whether it is his husband's wife or someone else, will agree to gamble. Moreover, I don't think there is any reason to prohibit someone from gambling if he is gambling only for entertaining purposes.And In this case it will also be only family member stopping is not enough for an addicted gambler. In order to get rid of addiction,  should get  appointment with a  psychologist on this related problem and follow their instruction with the help of family.

Professional help is good for quitting gambling. As soon as the addiction reaches the point where the person loses control the family has a role to play along with the professionals. A professional gives the right instructions but the family member helps to adapt. If a close person is getting addicted to gambling then first of all he should understand his problem and encourage him to get away from this addiction. Positive thinking should be done at the right time and the past should not be discussed. It is important to look only at the present problem and think about how gambling is endangering a person's life.

But most people who come to gambling initially just want to have fun and can't control their emotions, which causes many of them to go deeper into gambling because we know that the temptation of gambling is very big and can make a person lose the self-control he has built since At first he gambled. But if they can take good care of themselves and always renew their desire to use gambling as entertainment, they will not be tempted and can gamble comfortably. Those who are addicted to gambling will have many reasons that often don't make sense to us because they keep denying whatever we say and that happens to gamblers who cannot realize that they have a gambling addiction. And imagine if that person had a family and started using his family's money to gamble. It would disrupt his family's financial position and he would not be able to meet his family's daily needs.

Only a strong desire to stop his gambling habit can help him to cure his gambling addiction. To cure his gambling addiction, he must also get support from his family so that it is not too difficult for him to heal his gambling addiction.

Exactly. Those who are married should never think about using gambling to make money and prefer to look for other ways that have more potential to make money. If they could think about it and try to find a job that could pay them, they would never resort to gambling but would be serious about their work. They will not gamble because they know that gambling is not a place to make money, especially if they have seen the impact that can be received by someone who often gambles. They will stay away from gambling because gambling can make them play endlessly until their money runs out so they cannot buy their daily needs.

Exactly, as usual and as we know that it is impossible for them to be addicted to gambling if they come with a reasonable purpose and in accordance with the perspective of gambling where the activity is only to fill spare time when bored and nothing but just to find a little entertainment from the remaining empty time you have. Honestly, I don't care what excuse they bring for a defense of their addiction, what is certain is that if they are too excessive in playing and are completely undisciplined and also without self-control then I clearly say they are in the addiction phase. Usually it's not just fun that makes them continue to play and increase the amount of the budget but the presence of victory even with a large enough amount but that's where they apply their greed, basically for those who are already addicted will never feel satisfied with any victory they get, even though it's big for us but for them it's not necessarily and they will always want more than that, none other than that because they assume that "I will be able to get a much bigger win than this", and finally yes the final result is the opposite, losing.

It is indeed difficult if you have entered into addiction, the self-control that they initially prepared will not be useful if they have played, the expectations are too high, usually they will only stop when the money runs out.

Yes, it's not difficult anymore but it's almost impossible because obviously this is not the right way that they can make a solution to meet the needs of their family, instead of getting money like their goal at the beginning but what happens is that the family's economy and finances actually get worse as a result of this wrong mindset. It's simple and they need to think with logic, which is that if you or they want to get money then you have to work, of course also with certain rewards, not from gambling which guarantees absolutely nothing except defeat, the house will always design a system so that profits are always on their side, so you have to be a little smart in this case, and if you are still like that then don't be upset if later there is one person who says that you are "stupid".

                                                   wife/husband is half of our life , when we decide to marry them meaning we entrusted our life
                          to them , because they are the one who will provide either service or financial in our daily living , so they knew
                          what is good for us, If my wife decided to tell me stopping gambling? I will definitely stop because I trust her that
                          there are already problem in my gambling activities.


                                                    for how many years that we are married , She keeps supporting my decisions and even letting
                           me to gamble anytime I wanted because she knew my limitation and my capacity, she even let me spend my weekly
                           bonuses in my sideline if I wanted to gamble more.why Am i telling this? because that is what Married couple do.
 
 
                                                     Now lets talk another side of the story and that is what if our Husband/Wife is just dominant that
                           they don't want us to act depending on what we love to? meaning they are just considering to stop us because that
                           is what they wanted and not because that is what good for us.

It's gambling not a job, so yes I will leave gambling if my partner tell me to do so, I will only have problem with my partner if they tell me to quit my job when it's a paying job and not illegal, it's not as if I keep winning in gambling anyways so for me it will be easier to quit gambling.

Those who will have problem with this question are gambling addicts, they choose gambling first over every other things, and it takes a long time for them to learn, I choose to be happy and always smiling, so my gambling activities is based on me enjoying myself, since many gamblers are into gambling for constant money we aren't on the same path.

If you are addicted to gambling you will never be in fun mood when gambling, because you aren't there to have some fun, you are into gambling to make life changing money, and there are millions of people chasing the same goal, it's never going to happen with ease.