Topic: Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ? - page 3. (Read 1900 times)

Surely will.

What's there to be a gambler and displease family in exchange for peace and togetherness.

As a man, if your spouse tells you to give up gambling and you don't, you just singed up for a great deal of subtle trouble. I personally appreciate peace more than my ego and other stuff, if leaving gamble will ensure a lasting peace at home, so be it

If your spouse and in general, your family is important to you, you’ll definitely listen to their complaints and make some adjustments to make those complaints go away.
You may not initially perceive that your doing anything wrong but the spouse must have noticed something that would damage the reputation of the family.

If you hide the fact that you gamble from your spouse for fear of getting rebuked, your spouse is certainly bound to find out and when you’re found out, the rebuke feared then would still come and it would be a lot worse.

Being the gambler,I will choose my wife who allow to play the gambling or if my wife is gambler.This may allow me to choose the wife,after the marriage life should be more pleasant in the gambling sites.Choosing the life partner was in your hand,So choose like I said and play the gambling along with your wife.If your marriage was the arrange marriage made by the gambler parents,then you need to convince your wife or husband to playing the gambling site with some good strategy in the gambling.If this fail,it’s better to play outside without the knowledge of your wife and family members by keep this as the secret to them.

Yep. But she has to find me some other hobbies that I may like or else I'll just go back to gambling after showing her the affection that she needs from me. Honestly, if you like to get married and settle with the person you really love, you'll do whatever it takes to be with her/him and give up what they think is going to affect your relationship.

If you can do that, that's one way of gaining their trust and you shouldn't break that trust because that will stain to your relationship. So, it's going to life and death decision for you if you can't let go of gambling. But for most of us here, this is an easy answer and we can just give it up and let things forgotten when we get to that point, right?

If your family is essential to you, you will, of course, obey your husband/wife more, especially if you perceive that there is nothing wrong with what he/she is asking you to do. Because your family is important to you, you might sometimes lie to your husband/wife because you know he/she doesn't like you gambling.

Is it correct that if you or I, as gamblers, are able to lie because we can't stop ourselves from gambling, we hide it and do it secretly so that no one else knows so that we don't get in trouble in the end?

I would really be doing the same and there's no other important thing on this world but rather on your soon to be your partner in life on which you cant really afford on losing her.
Its not that you can totally be leaving out gambling which you could really be still be able to play secretly but of course dont make yourself get caught because once you do then
for sure it would really be that a severe argument which might cause some divorce if things gets worst but if you do want to have some worry free kind of situation
then quitting wont really be that hard if you meant it but if you cant really that able to leave gambling since this is the only thing on where you could really enjoy
on then you could be still be able to engage but just as been said that you should not make yourself get caught.

If im on that situation then i would really just simply tell my wife to be that this is the only thing that i do make myself entertained when i do get bored or when in stress or in vacant.
Just let her know about on the amount which you would be using with gambling which it wont really be able to compromise your finances. Make some promise and
assurance then for sure she wont really be making some argument but if not then you dont have no other choice.

Gambling to a lot of people especially gambling addicts is something that very important engagement that they'll never want to leave for anything but no matter how important gambling can be, I don't think it's valuable enough to be compared to the request of one's lifetime partner. If my spouse forbids gambling and asks me not to engage in it, I'll definitely adhere to her instruction at the moment but I'd I still want to gamble  in secret when she's not around and wouldn't leave any traces that  even know that I still do what she forbids

Only fools who would really be having that kind of mindset on trying out to spend up the money which is more than that they could be able to earn.Getting beyond with those things
then you are really just making the bad decision of your life.If your future wife do tells about on quitting gambling then she probably see that you are really that spending too much
or she do prefer on trying out to get rid of potential problems that might exist into your marriage life. She cant really just that can afford to see that his partner
is really that involved into something which do really involves money spending. Yes, if everything would really be in moderation it is really just that fine but thats what if
they would really be making those considerations but if not then you dont have no choice but to quit for good.

Well, the truth is, I had seen it that way as you say, but I believe that they make sense of that , but of Course I also agree with what you say , a girlfriend can be replaced, what is difficult to replace is a good wife, who supports you in everything but if it is for something like this, then it is debatable, if she is a responsible person you have to talk to resolve things in the best way, so when we go to this level a couple must understand each other and have a way that both parties sanlagan agnando, 'because if it is a husband on Whom all the money in the home is spent, then it is obvious that the woman will get married and even leave, because something that women do not like is a man without money and Drunks, there are very few who think Something like that, because a Person who causes problems is clearly ugly, that is something that no woman should allow either, so we have to be very fair with things, even though the The game is my best and many Measures can be taken Because when it is Harmful it should be Stopped.

Every time you have Someone, a family, or the Strong Representative of the Family , you have to Respect that, you should not do anything else but set an Eexample and the Only way you can leave the game is if it is harming you. one of the family or the family Completely , also when you fall into addiction it is difficult because what goes the most is the money, and if you neglect the family, in some cases things can be quite significant when This is because you have to do things properly so that you don't lose more than you should. It's very sad for those who lose everything just because they don't know how to take care of their priorities. In my case , what Stops me from Everything is Thinking about my family, my Children, for them I think that is the Motivation that moves me for Everything, that is the most important thing for me, and I think that one fights more than ever for them.

Your phrasing is very difficult to understand. It took me a while to understand what you mean, because I was expecting at least an additional verb or something in your post. What you mean is: Would you leave gambling if your future wife/husband asked it of you? And honestly? Yeah I would. A wife/husband is something completely different than simply a boyfriend and a girlfriend. You can find a million girlfriends but you can only ever find one wife. So yeah, I would leave gambling if she asked me to do that.

Well you have a good wife then, but gambling with a budget is necessary  . We dont want to lose all of our hard work money for nothing right.

I actually installed the playstore version but currently, they banned  From Play Store I made a jackpot last time but made a small deposit around 1$ I think playstore gonna banned this game for a long period of time

I completely agree with you love is a powerful he can do anything but in my opinion I was referring to those individuals who have a strong affection for gambling and their wives who find it difficult to leave them despite the challenges they face. This situation can be incredibly challenging
Sometimes Gambling addiction can strain relationships

Exactly! I know that some of us needs a privacy that's why some people is having a reason to keep it as a secret but that's not a good idea especially if you're dating now and both of you see each other as your future husband/wife, It's better to be more open to discuss this kind of topic so that you can prevent things that might happen in the future. I know there's a word "compromise" once you get married, but be fair and try to place yourself in your partner’s shoes.

Not only about gambling, but a couple which expects to get married eventually is supposed to share that kind of opinions and disclose their habits to each other, for the sake of their relationship and the future family they want to build together. Perhaps, it is one of the reason so my marriages end up failing and broking apart, they keep secrets from each other which in the end will always surface and create disturbances between both of them

If your girlfriend is a very religious kind of person and you keep to gamble secretly, you cannot expect not to have problems in marriage, specially if she finds out by other people or by checking on your finances or the family finances.
Though, I am sure there will be cases where a husband loved his religious woman so much and actually gave up on gambling forever, for the sake of love.
There is a little bit of everything in this world.

Yes, commitment is what both parties must do to look after each other. If one of them is still gambling before marriage, they should discuss finding a solution, and perhaps quitting gambling will be better for him because he will not use the money he earns to gamble. He will also focus more on taking care of his household and completely abandon gambling for his household. He knows that he can control himself in gambling. He is also aware that he can lose control of himself easily in gambling because gambling can provide greater temptation to continue gambling, so if he stops, it will be better for him and his household. Marrying someone means he has to live out his days with her, and perhaps there are no more secrets between them, so a commitment not to gamble anymore needs to be maintained in building a household.

If the husband still hides his gambling activities after they are married, there is a possibility that his wife will find out, and this could cause arguments between them and vice versa. This requires honesty between both of them, anyone who is still gambling should start learning to reduce their gambling activities until they finally completely abandon gambling after they get married.

It is a positive attitude to realize that gambling can have a negative impact on their household, especially if they do not have responsibility and self-control. Many people get married, but one of them still gambles without self-control and divorces. This also requires awareness that they really have to stop gambling for the sake of their household so they don't experience difficulties.

I believe it's important to have a serious conversation with her about the world of gambling emphasizing personal choices and responsibility.
 It's advisable to discuss this before getting married. If she's raising this concern because you might have a gambling addiction you should work on finding a balance between family interests and your enjoyment.
But leaving gambling in my opinion I don't think that

The OP is talking about the future husband. This makes it even more difficult to be transparent because the husband may fear that if he tell his future wife that he is a gambler, he may leave her and may not marry her. There is one probability that she may ask him to stop or quit the gamble but there is no surety. (because they are not married yet).

That is the reason the husband may hide from their future wife that he is involved in gambling and the same goes for the wife as well. If the girl is a gambler, she will not feel comfortable telling her husband before her marriage about her marriage habits.

If you are committing to a relationship especially if the two partners are married, most likely you would have to adjust for both parties likes and dislikes, some would take time to know each other first by livign in the same roof, but if you love each other some would literally go straight to marriage. The day you married someone is the day you'll to change your bad habits that can impact to your partner or family, not only that the finances might affect from your gambling habits, imagine losing too much money in gambling and then when you got home you can't even control your emotions and starting acting cold, rude verbal words, violence and etc. I think if you can't even quit gambling for your wife or family, then I think you are not still ready to be committed in building a family because that's not a good example for your kids soon, if we compare it to alcohol addiction to gambling addiction it's like similar cause its still addiction. If opening up doesn't work at home, try to seek help in therapy.

Yes, you have chosen the right choice just like me, because of course we also don't want to lose people we love, for example a future wife or already a wife, I think there are still many ways to gamble with fake money where we can play with a demo account at several casinos. or applications, sometimes I still play poker on my cellphone using the application in the Play Store and it's still fun even though I don't use real money.

But luckily I have a wife who doesn't forbid me from gambling and she only limits my budget to gambling, but not a lot every weekend, so there's no problem as long as she manages it because she's good at managing my finances and can be a financial advisor apart from being a wife. . The point is, whatever it is, be honest with your future wife or wife so that there are no lies in the relationship we are in and end up losing our wife, as much as possible, take care of her feelings. 

It still requires openness from each partner because we know that there are people who still hide their gambling activities from their partners and are still fine. His partner will not know that all this time, he is still gambling, and if he loses control and starts spending money on his family, that's where problems will arise and disrupt his family's finances. Perhaps this needs to be treated immediately so that it doesn't escalate and worsen his gambling addiction, so he really has to open up and tell his partner the truth so they can find a solution and make him stop gambling forever.