Topic: Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ? - page 5. (Read 1624 times)

That means gamblers must try to change their mindset to avoid gambling so that they can stop gambling and not be dependent on gambling. This is suitable for people who are getting married and really want to stop their gambling activities because they are afraid that their gambling activities could disrupt their family's finances later if they are married. But they should get help from the people closest to them so that they don't get into any problems when they want to start giving up gambling. With the gambler's strong desire to end his gambling and help from his family, the gambler can cure or reduce his gambling activities until he can really leave gambling forever because he wants to build a good family. Maybe this gambler needs to talk to his partner about what they should do so that there are no misunderstandings between them.


Yes, while all of them can still provide support to the gambler, they should not just give up because there will be a way for all of them to really help the gambler to cure his gambling addiction or reduce his gambling activities. The gambler must also realize that he has a family who really cares about him so that they can work together to heal the gambler. The gambler can also start undergoing healing without any burden because he really wants to cure his gambling addiction. This requires awareness from all parties, especially from the gambler, because he will be the one who will undergo the healing process so that he can live it well.

Openness to the people around him can provide an opportunity for the people around him to find out the real problem and they can find ways or solutions that the gambler can use to reduce his gambling activities or even cure his gambling addiction. If he continues to get support from his family, especially from his husband/wife, that they will stay by his side to help him cure his gambling, he will not feel that going through the healing process is tiring because they all have one goal. With this openness, they can feel that they trust each other and support each other so that the gambler can undergo the healing process well and has a goal to change himself for the better.

You need to be able to give up habits. And if you can't give up some occupation, and it takes away your strength and time - most likely you are dependent. Therefore, if a spouse asks to stop playing slots, for example, then if a Non-Problematic player re, he will easily refuse.

But sometimes there are cases when there is no addiction, gambling is given a small part of the time and money, which means it is a controlled activity, and it serves as an anti-stress and benefits. In this case, it would be foolish to refuse it.

This is definitely true, if you have a great communication as well as the comprehension with your partner, it would be a great way to avoid misunderstandings which may cause anger, confusion and resentment.
I agree that your family should be your priority rather than your wants in life just like the gambling, so it's better to talk with each other and decide what should you do, it's important to hear you partner's concern so that you will know if it's okay that you're into gambling or not.

- If I were in this situation, I'd definitely have to consider it. First and foremost, I'd have an open conversation with her about what I'm involved in, whether it's gambling or trading. If I'm consistently making profits, I'd provide a clear explanation to help her understand.
- I understand it won't be an easy conversation, but I believe that if I'm transparent and let her track my progress, she'll come to understand.
- Conversely, if my gambling is purely for entertainment, giving up a hobby like this for the person I love isn't a big sacrifice. If possible, I might discuss setting aside a small budget for gambling with her.
- Ultimately, I believe family and loved ones should come first in all decisions.

The key is mutual understanding between both parties, both from ourselves and also from our own girlfriend or wife. Because whatever can be controlled better by not paying attention to other people's words and also not making more unnecessary publications, I think any relationship will still be fine and there will be no commotion that is detrimental to each other. I also agree with what you say because when we can understand each other in any case, there will never be chaos in any relationship even though we also don't need to be so addicted to gambling if we don't really need it.

And the core problem experienced by gambling addicts is in terms of their disturbed minds, like humans in general where the mind will move our bodies to move, I mean the mindset that will be the first driver for us to do everything in our lives, therefore when their mindset always thinks of gambling then some advice that comes in to prevent it they will not hear and they will only focus on the encouragement of their minds that they always think is true, even though it is not at all. It is very difficult to stop gambling if in fact their mindset is completely disturbed, gambling addiction can come without us realizing it and usually that's what they experience, they don't realize that they are already addicted so far. Some help from the closest person might help, but I wouldn't be too hopeful that it will work, and certainly in my opinion they will be able to stop when they have experienced a very significant downturn in gambling such as for example running out of all ways to gamble, in the sense that all the assets they have are gone, and from a distance the casino will smile to see it haha.

If indeed some advice and help from his family can not help at all then honestly I do not know what else to do, because it is very difficult and quite confusing. But well while the family is still excited then keep trying because the process will never betray the results, hopefully with all the experiments they have done they can improve the situation of the person who has been addicted, although it is quite small chances but that does not mean it is impossible.

That's right, I hope they can be more open to the people around them in the case of their addiction, because obviously with them being open then some of the closest people will help them according to what they need there, and yes definitely the healing process will be faster and easier. But it will really come back to the addicted person, if they really want to stop then they will definitely be more open, different from people who are just talking nonsense, talking but their little hearts actually refuse to stop, there are those who turn out to be like that, they talk about wanting to stop because they are in a defeat phase, not that they really want to stop.

That shows you have a happy relationship with your boyfriend.

The easier things are for each other to understand, the stronger the relationship. Whether gambling is bad or not depends on the player's perception. Just like using any tool, if you can control it, you don't have to worry about social prejudices. Even if a couple has the same gambling addiction but still doesn't leave each other, we all understand the power of love that makes us accept all the strengths and weaknesses of the other person, especially that harmony in each other's level of cognitive bias, the relationship still maintains.

well, this is very correct and I fully support your opinion when we have a partner who tries to openly tell each other about honesty, it is much better than having to carry out gambling activities in secret which will have a bad effect in the long term on our relationship. I also often say that in some places it is better to say everything and I am sure that as a partner you will definitely understand and provide opportunities to gamble even though you are always supervised, but your partner has good intentions so that you are not addicted because that is very normal and we should be grateful to our partner. we want to give ourselves the freedom to gamble, but still with the condition that we are responsible for the bets and we have to respect our partner when we lose control and he says we have to stop betting, at least we have to respect and stop for a moment.

If gambling has a bad impact on household harmony then it is better for us to stop doing this activity, but if gambling is still done within reasonable limits and does not really disturb the family's financial condition then talk to your partner carefully and convince your partner so that they trust us to continue doing it in a reasonable amount, don't let it happen that just because you want to gamble, household harmony becomes a mess, of course we want to gamble in peace without any pressure from anyone and in my opinion, gambling that doesn't disturb your finances certainly won't be a big problem for your partner.

When addiction hits you then it would really be that hard to get out with it and this is why you should really be that careful when it comes on engaging on it because on the time comes that you have been hooked up by addiction then getting out will really be that pain in the ass or something that you cant really get easily rid of it. On the time that you are on a situation on which you would really be needing to obey your wife  or future because if you wont then for sure you would really be ending up on getting being left behind or divorced if ever you have been caught even you have been warned or
told on doing so.

If you could be able to risks your marriage or relation then its your choice but if not then it would really be just that wise that you should really be that
obeying or just simply stop gambling for the sake of better things or good life. If not, then you would experience the opposite side of things.

Addiction is really bad if gambling is causing problems in the family then it is better to stay away from the game gambling addiction can have a profound effect on individuals causing significant problems in various areas of their lives. Whether it's online casino sports betting or card games the urge to gamble can quickly turn into a compulsion that's hard to control. The negative impact extends beyond the individual to affect their family friends and community. Abstention is best by noting the potential risks to prevent recreational gambling from progressing into a harmful addiction.

Those who are addicted to gambling will find it difficult to control themselves because their minds will always think about gambling so they will not easily be able to give up gambling. Even when they don't gamble, they may still think about gambling and it is at a painful level because they can no longer think clearly that they have a serious gambling addiction. He must immediately get treatment either from his family members or from professionals so that he can cure his gambling addiction.

It is very difficult because they cannot receive advice from important people in their lives so this still requires a different approach from the one they have used. But if family members can see that there is an opportunity for the gambling addict to change, they should still try because maybe it will be successful in making the gambling addict aware so that the healing process can go well.

If a gambling addict is willing to open himself up to people who want to help him, the healing process may be easier because of the desire to cure himself of his gambling addiction. Those who help can also find a more viable way for the gambling addict and can start the process immediately. And even though it takes time, it will not prevent gambling addicts from being able to heal themselves.

It is very important. Me and my wife share the same sport that we like. Basketball. She is a Golden State Warriors fan and if you are one of our neighbors you will know because she is screaming her lungs out whenever the game is a close one.
I told her I had been making a bet on those basketball games and she didn't mind. Simply because she knew I would not squander our budget for it and I would not bet on a price that I could not afford to lose.
But she does ask how much I win after a game which is kind of funny for me because I would just say it is in Bitcoin and she won't ask anymore.
Relationships are very meticulous. We have to be careful with what we say so that the other party would understand us. Gambling can be fun when it is shared with your partner. It doesn't always have to be a secret unless we are spending way too much that it might ruin our relationship with them.

That's obvious, because usually those who are addicted to gambling don't want to do anything in their gambling except continue gambling to realize their false hopes. Any control will be very difficult to do, because their mindset has been severely disturbed, their consciousness seems to have been closed by all hopes that always pursue opportunities even though on the other hand there is no guarantee whatsoever to get a victory there. Usually some other factors also in my opinion can greatly influence and can lead them to addiction, such as for example they have a character that is easily provoked and also easily emotional then surely when experiencing one defeat then they will not accept the results and will continue to pursue the defeat. 

Of course, as you said instead of stopping but they are even crazier in gambling. people who are already in such a position in my opinion are very difficult to recover and need a lot of help from others such as for example some advice from important people in his life between wife / husband or his closest family such as parents.

Basically for those who are already addicted whatever results they get in the final session will not always be able to make them stop because if they lose they will continue to play and if they win they will apply their greed with higher assumptions and expectations. It's confusing and I hope they come to their senses soon.

Two-way communication with your partner is very important, don't let it happen that because we hide our gambling behavior our relationship with our partner is destroyed. my partner knows that I gamble quite often, but he still keeps an eye on me, even when I want to bet on a football match, he often helps me choose which team to choose, he is an open man and always controls my habits. he always checks on me so that I don't miss out on using money in gambling. When you decide to live with someone else, there are no more secrets between the two of you, accept all the advantages and disadvantages and correct what you both think is wrong.

That's what everyone thinks and would say unless someone is too ignorant and doesn't understand how relationships and marriages work and they don't care about moral values and ethics and the level of trust that should be there between life partners. As long as there is valid reasoning from your partner asking you to leave gambling and you see that the reason isn't based on personal agendas or anything and it's actually affecting the relationship or the overall well-being of the household, you can't resist it and you shouldn't.

One can only resist such a request if they know it's nothing more than an exaggeration of the matter when it's basically not coming in the way of anything, not the relationship, not the family time, not even the finances, then there is obviously no reason for them to actually leave it and they should ask them that if it's not creating any problems, it should stay as it is.

There are many different reasons and ways to respond to each person's behavior on this issue. Obviously, if gambling were simply entertainment, I would not quit and try to convince my partner otherwise to experience these things together. But if you are overwhelmed with debt and negativity or are about to get bogged down in addiction, then I think you definitely have to give up, although this is easier said than done and the actual actions are very different. Anyway, if family life is happier, don't let small problems dominate the relationship. If we want to maintain harmony and have others understand us, we should also put ourselves back in their thoughts to feel.

If someone has a gambling addiction, he will find it difficult to get rid of his greed because when he gambles, he will have a stronger urge to continue gambling. Even though he has lost a few dollars, it doesn't make him stop but maybe he will become even more eager to continue gambling because he wants to keep playing. And if he wins, it also can't stop him from continuing to gamble so the winnings will probably be used as capital to continue gambling. But if that happens to most gamblers, they can still control their greed, especially those who have learned good self-control so they won't be tempted to continue gambling. They know that continuing to gamble will only result in bigger losses and they don't want that to happen to them so they will decide to stop gambling. And whatever money we have used to gamble, that is the amount of money we can afford, so if we continue gambling, we have to be prepared for everything that could happen.

Their is some certain things that what listening to, if your future don't like gambling and you are the kind of person who takes gambling very serious and most at times you gamble very well, I think that you will have a limit of participating I a gambling, and secondly we need to understand that you make sure you pleased your wife because your wife is your part of body and you have to listen to her, myself if my partner ask me to stop gambling it doesn't necessarily mean that I will stop gambling but I will limit it, because it maybe that gambling is something that gives me joy.

Yes, you're right on the money. When things get out of hand, especially in enjoyable gambling, you must brake. Hard. Also fast. It's about life, family, and never-ending duties, not simply the game

A father, a mother, anyone with a family, they've got commitments. Lifelong commitments. When you lose sight of your budget or boundaries while playing or gambling, things get dicey. Very risky. As you said, the Afmlai is the emergency brake. You don't cross the line or jump the border. Because, honestly, playing with your family's health? That's no game. Absolutely not

Those that gamble irresponsibly without considering family? Irresponsible. Totally irresponsible. I agree - apologies can't fix that. Having pleasure is different from endangering your family's future. When you're betting at that table, consider the stakes. Assess your risk tolerance. Can't afford to lose it? Walk away. Walk away. Because money isn't everything. It's about respect, trust, and being one your family can trust. Always