Topic: Will you leave gambling if your future wife/husband tells you to do this ? - page 4. (Read 1932 times)

Well, once you're committed or you have your own family, You should prioritize them rather than your leisures in life. Even if your partner knows that you are into gambling, it's better to minimize or stop it already even if they didn't ask you to do it. Nobody wants a broken family so Dont wait the time that gambling will be the reason for being in that situation. If you knoa that you're going to be addicted into gambling, talk to your partner or seek an advice to the professionals.

You don't need for that to happen if you know yourself and you know that your habit is a problematic one that can be detrimental to your relationship, you should make a move to break that habit from the start of the relationship, that is if that relationship is a serious one because there are other types of relationship that's not that serious so you can probably work with just limiting your time on that habit rather than breaking it. I think that if you're to start a family and you're in too deep in the relationship and then that's the only time that you're planning to break the gambling habit, you will probably have a hard time or you're going to fail.

Of course good and bad habits can change a lot if one's life partner influences there. As everyone strives to lead a normal life, bad habits must be avoided. If gambling is a source of one's entertainment and the spouse is not bothered by gambling and the gambler does not allow the negative effects of gambling in the family then I do not think that gambling is bad for him. Since gambling is viewed in a negative light at every level, if I can manage my gambling under control, I will certainly not allow others to interfere with my pleaser. .

Yes, I also know that family is more important, but we personally certainly want our own pleasure, one of which is gambling if we have been used to gambling from before marriage, but with a note that we must be able to limit ourselves, because there is a more important family, so we don't gamble by desperately sacrificing everything for gambling because there is a family that we must be responsible for. Don't get me wrong, I would also prefer my family because I also think family is the most valuable treasure. Gambling by considering it entertainment and to relieve boredom, I think it's okay as long as we can limit it.

As you said, being open to your partner, that must also be done because it will cause problems when we look different from the attitude, of course, if you hide it, it will bring conflict later. So it's true that you said it's better to be open by telling them what you usually do, it might be difficult for them to accept it because basically gambling is not a good thing, they know there are other things that are better for relieving boredom or for entertainment.

Of course, family is more important than gambling, gambling is just a game that doesn't have any benefits other than losing money, but there nothing wrong if it's just gambling that can relieve boredom or become an entertainment activity. Talking about it to your partner is important. We have to be open with our wives/husbands if we want to do these activities so that our wives/husbands can understand, and continue to convince our partners not to have bad and excessive prejudices, show that we can control ourselves well and not disturb the family financial condition.

If you truly value your significant other in your life, you’ll definitely want to listen and learn from their ideas and thoughts. And that also means keeping aside some habits in your life.
As we are the ones indulging ourselves in our various habits, it would be difficult to actually know and later drop such habit when it’s starting to be detrimental to our financial and mental wellbeing. And if our partner can notice it earlier, it’s best to heed to their advice and better quit before we get ourselves and our family ruined.

Absolutely Im gonna leave gambling tho probably im still gonna play slot from play store with no money involved and do it just for fun only. I heard this also a popular among the slot user. Hahaha

I would like to hear her / his arguments on why first. But i don't think i would end up marrying in that kind of relationship in the first place. But let's assume i did.

I would probably want to talk about it, as everything (or most cases in relationship) are a discussion, as there are 2 of you or more if not in monogamy. In every partnership it's important to listen to everyone involved. One member of family can't just set up rules without discussing it with others. There will be compromises and emphatic listening of others.

You can't change what your partner likes or dislikes. It isn't wise to try to control hobbies and friends either. So throwing ultimatums about gambling of all things should be explained and justified in reasonable way. At least to me. Just someone getting discomfort of me playing 5 bucks per week (if we could afford it) for example wouldn't be something i would accept as a reason. People sometimes can feel uncomfortable because someone's actions, but it doesn't always mean they should try to change others behavior.

Sometimes we need to accept each others weird hobbies we don't understand, or we don't like. If it doesn't directly affect on my daily routines, but i would feel discomfort, i would see that as a my problem. Not my partner's problem.

The gambler should take responsibility need to keep som money in local gambling was the successful gambling.Some of the gambler friend  had good gambling knowledge fact in the gambling sites.The gambler wise among their involvement to the gambling site need more experience to that particular gambling site.The leaving and the involment to the game must be your wish,because you are going the correct the gambling sites which gives you enough money for the rest of the life.

There are things we need to talk about in details with our future wife or partner before going into marriage fully, she needs to know the things you do to avoid regret in the marriage, gambling is an activity that you can learn from friends, and you can also make it a habit, sincerely if my future wife tells me to quit gambling, I will tell her to devise a means that will help me quit totally, let's see if the means will be effective, gambling habit is not what someone will just tell you to stop and you stop immediately, this advise will take much time for you to put it into practice, gambling habit is a situation that requires much time to solve and this is done through a gradual process, both partners should be aware and workout modalities to solve this addiction once and for all if possible.

Before someone decides to get married, he must think about what habits he should start reducing or even eliminating so that they do not interfere with his home life. If he often gambles, he should be able to start reducing his gambling activities so that he doesn't use the money for his family because we know that if someone gambles often, there is a possibility that he will use the money for his family so that it will make it difficult for him to buy his daily needs. If his partner asks him to stop, he should listen to him and start reducing his gambling activities because his partner wants to live his married life without any serious problems. If he already has a gambling addiction, he should start talking to his partner to help him cure his gambling addiction so that when they get married, they won't have any gambling problems.

When married, we don't want to encounter serious problems that could disrupt our domestic life. Therefore, we must be able to decide to start reducing gambling activities. If we are already experiencing gambling addiction, we can ask for help from the people around us to help us cure gambling addiction. Gambling addiction is very risky for our domestic life so we must really pay serious attention to this problem. For our new family, we must be able to overcome the problems that exist within us before we get married so that after we get married, we will not encounter any serious problems. With a strong desire, we can do it, especially if our partner is really serious about helping us solve the problem.

Of course, also why do we need to stop when we are told to? Gambling is a past time that's not really benefiting anyone in the relationship so why not stop it even before being asked to? Unless you know that you're making money from gambling and your significant other knows that you're making money from gambling and that person approves of you gambling then you don't have any other choice besides stopping gambling altogether. If you really love your partner, wouldn't you try and keep him or her happy by granting what they're asking and you know that your relationship is going to benefit from it? Me? I wouldn't just try, I would do it.

I'd agree with your points there and I am recommending that too if ever my friends will ask the same thing.
A good conversation will probably do the trick. We are the ones who will be on the hot seat but answering honestly will be the key to making it a successful conversation.
Tell her everything. Hiding something even just a little will make things worse especially with women who have good instincts. If we are not hiding anything then we also prevent future problems.
But when it comes to the ending of the conversation where the woman doesn't really like it even if it's just a small amount of bets then just let it go. Give her what she wants and find a new hobby. It's not worth it to force the issue. A healthy relationship is two-way, not one-way, and it's just give and take. A good comeback will probably be for her to buy you a new toy. A console game will be a good idea. 

I'll try.

But I don't hide things so she basically knows that I am already on it and if I try to avoid it, she'll for sure going to recognize and appreciate it. You can do things for your love but she can also understand it and give way.

Marriage is a give-take thing.

If you can't help yourself then she needs to help you with how you will do the best approach on it like a tandem with a team work.

Yes, I agree with you, even though you already have your own family and responsibilities, gambling is not wrong if you can limit the game and can prioritize family over gambling, because people's pleasures are different, for example there are people who have no friends or shy people who don't like to talk, people like this tend to have their fun in games, whether it's gambling or other online games. Judging from the differences in each person, they have their own portion.

There is even the opposite of people who gamble but can limit their gambling so as not to damage the harmony of their family, but on the other hand there are people who do not gamble but always ignore their family. So it is only natural that people gamble even though they already have a family as long as they can limit their gambling so that it does not have a negative impact on their family. So I myself agree with what you said, if they do gambling with reasonable limits it's okay. as long as it doesn't damage the happiness of his family.

You think theres no strong reason to stop gaming if it doesnt bring bad things into someone's life. Personally, I agree, as long as the person isnt addicted and their gambling doesnt get in the way of their interactions with other people. The subtle difference between a fun hobby and an unhealthy passion is very important.

When children are introduced to these kinds of behaviors, though, no matter what the situation is, it gets worse. One person in a couple who doesnt likes the other person gambling can really cause problems. Finding a good balance takes thoughtful communication and smart compromise, making sure that everyone's feelings are heard and respected.

You should be surprised of how religious and anti-gambling some people can be in certain communities in some specific countries. Here there are very evangelist communities which completely avoid alcohol and also anything related to randomness for the sake of amusement, does bot matter whether there is money involved or not.
So there is a chance one gets engaged with a person who has a lot in common with you but cannot accept you gamble, neither in a dedicated way or casually, because in their minds and due to the education they received, it would be matter of time for one to fall in financial ruin, which is not true for the most of the responsible gamblers out there who happen to be as well heads of their respective households.

Sometimes this lends itself to things being directed through many aspects and among these are those that if either of the two people are Having a bad time, then they should leave it for the good of both, that is, if the person who is If you think about being in a casino, you're late, you arrive drunk, or you arrive very badly, that's something very Unpleasant, because girls when it comes to this topic can be very delicate, especially if there are children involved and they see that example that they see. Well, because it is something very bad, that example should never be given, now well, if the person who plays casino games is normal, legal without problems, is not Addicted and sees that the game does not interfere in any way. negative energy in his life, so why does he have to leave ? There is no reason, one thing that can always be done is when it directly affects the person because it is something very common that can happen , so if that is the case, then you have to leave it so that the other person does not feel bad and you Can build something good.

Always when it comes to doing things in the best way and knowing how to say them, especially in advance, the other party can do it well and do things as they are asked, but if you can do the rest in a good way, no, because it is Obviously, when you know how to ask for things, you reach your goal faster, but yes, and only if you know how to lose, but if the person doesn't like the game in any kind of things, and the other person wants you to stop Playing just because it seems to you. , it doesn't seem fair to me, because first of all the casino is a means of fun , it is used to make Disasters and it doesn't take away the option of being able to have a lot of money if you have a stroke of luck, so in this order of ideas things can go on the right path when they are done as they are , but Always in a couple understanding must come first, then I would Agree to leave the game if it has a negative effect on some of the two, but in the case it doesn't, and that Be a whim of one of your two ,because the recommendation is that you don't give up the game.

Addiction is something that is very difficult, it is one of the things through which people can lose families, friends, whatever, it is not just about losing some money, or all the money you have, or anything else. What can be done, then in a Relationship when a person, whether the man or the woman, is in that danger, then things must be Attacked Quickly , that problem , because addiction is a problem that is very strong and the best of opinions must be Taken that can be taken as one of the things that can even take the life of a person , I have seen some cases where addiction has made people commit suicide, because they cannot pay their debts and cause many problems to family members, friends of Everything, this is Something that can be taken as Examples of Things that should be avoided in the game , I am not the one, because I have never been in that situation, but I know that here in the forum there are Many cases of Addiction to the Game.

We must always seek to ensure that every Relationship is never affected by gambling addiction, although there are many people who have a gambling addiction and are also forced to drink alcohol to stop the gambling addiction and that is the but decisions they can make, because the additions are mixed with only one addiction the person has to be Bad , now with a double addiction the person does, I have seen how people become nobody, in one case they take a lot of Talk, and their  They lose a lot of money and this is something that they can avoid as much as possible, I am a person who when they see that someone smokes and eats it with a cigarette they go crazy, then the addiction of playing with alcohol is Undoubtedly the worst of the Combinations where the person becomes more susceptible to losing any control, this distances him from any person in a relationship or from anything he can do to improve, then what can be done Quickly in any relationship and not be lost is that act quickly when Symptoms of addiction Occur.

That means gamblers must try to change their mindset to avoid gambling so that they can stop gambling and not be dependent on gambling. This is suitable for people who are getting married and really want to stop their gambling activities because they are afraid that their gambling activities could disrupt their family's finances later if they are married. But they should get help from the people closest to them so that they don't get into any problems when they want to start giving up gambling. With the gambler's strong desire to end his gambling and help from his family, the gambler can cure or reduce his gambling activities until he can really leave gambling forever because he wants to build a good family. Maybe this gambler needs to talk to his partner about what they should do so that there are no misunderstandings between them.


Yes, while all of them can still provide support to the gambler, they should not just give up because there will be a way for all of them to really help the gambler to cure his gambling addiction or reduce his gambling activities. The gambler must also realize that he has a family who really cares about him so that they can work together to heal the gambler. The gambler can also start undergoing healing without any burden because he really wants to cure his gambling addiction. This requires awareness from all parties, especially from the gambler, because he will be the one who will undergo the healing process so that he can live it well.

Openness to the people around him can provide an opportunity for the people around him to find out the real problem and they can find ways or solutions that the gambler can use to reduce his gambling activities or even cure his gambling addiction. If he continues to get support from his family, especially from his husband/wife, that they will stay by his side to help him cure his gambling, he will not feel that going through the healing process is tiring because they all have one goal. With this openness, they can feel that they trust each other and support each other so that the gambler can undergo the healing process well and has a goal to change himself for the better.